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genderoftheday

Today’s Gender of the Day is: Estrogen Burger

kitabuni

Reblog for 18 million times more estrogen in 2020.

stimman4000

kitabuni

America’s fixation on Authenticity™ is ableist (especially in the working world.)

Nine times out of ten Authenticity™ just means:

Makes me feel comfy

Challenges none of my preconceptions

Extrovert

The fact Authenticity™ would look different for everyone isn’t lost on people, they just don’t want to know anything about it unless it ticks these three boxes.

PSA

You don’t hate yourself. You hate your job.

You don’t hate your “lack of productivity.” You hate the fact that “productivity” rules your life and society tells you it determines your worth.

#self #text

xiaoguiwang

david tennant is such a talented actor and yet, with his sheer skill, depth, and range, he’s never managed to play a top

kitabuni

lioness--hart

I’m crying y'all look at this cat that just entered our foster program

He beans too many for he gotdamn him!!!

le-sad-demiurge

Motherfucker will be unlocking doors n shit

kaijuno

bajoran

here are my thoughts

thatadhdfeel

“WOW IM SO GLAD MY DOCTOR TOLD ME ABOUT THIS” SAID NONE OF US EVER

bisexualbaker

[Image: Screencap from the above website; you can click through to read the whole thing, but I’m going to copy-paste this same bit because it answers so many questions in my life - mostly related to “Why am I crying about this?”]

Rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD) is an extreme emotional sensitivity and emotional pain triggered by the perception – not necessarily the reality – that a person has been rejected, teased, or criticized by important people in their life. RSD may also be triggered by a sense of failure, or falling short – failing to meet either their own high standards or others’ expectations.

Dysphoria is Greek for “difficult to bear.” It’s not that people with ADHD are wimps, or weak; it’s that the emotional response hurts them much more than it does people without the condition.

When this emotional response is internalized, it can imitate full, major depression complete with suicidal ideation. The sudden change from feeling perfectly fine to feeling depressed that results from RSD is often misdiagnosed as rapid cycling bipolar disorder.

It can take a long time for physicians to recognize that these symptoms are caused by the sudden emotional changes associated with ADHD and rejection sensitivity, while all other object relations are totally normal.

When this emotional response is externalized, it looks like an impressive, instantaneous rage at the person or situation responsible for causing the pain. 50% of people who are assigned court-mandated anger-management treatment have previously unrecognized ADHD.

Capslock translation from above: “Wow Im so glad my doctor told me about this” said none of us ever

bisexualbaker

One more reblog for the road. I’ve seen at least eight people go “There’s a name for this?” as a result of sharing this link, and I want to try and reach even more. It’s so meaningful to me to know that there’s something going on, and that it’s not just me being inadequate at dealing with my emotions. When you consider the level of horror I feel over even minor screwups, my reactions are completely understandable. My feelings are valid.

For anyone else out there who cries over spilled milk, or at the drop of a hat? This might be worth a read.

bisexualbaker

This is your irregular reminder that Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria Is A (terrible, horrible, no good, very bad) Thing.

Alternately, this is your notice that There’s A Name For That Horrible Experience.

Support to all of my fellow ADHD-ers out there; RSD is made of terrible.

stilesisbiles

Oh look, it me.

sandersstudies

If you and your partner practice frequent, non-sexual consent, your relationship will be healthier and easier.

“Are you comfortable with me ranting about my day for a few minutes?”

“Oh, this is your poetry? Would it be okay if I read it?”

“Do you mind if I use your phone for a few minutes?”

“Wow, your meal looks awesome. Could I try some?”

It will save a lot of grief, especially in a developing relationship. Eventually, with consistent “yes’s” and “no’s” you can figure out more permanent boundaries and guidelines.

“I need to ask before ranting about my day or taking their food, but my partner is okay with me using their phone whenever. However, my partner does not like me reading their poetry unless they offer first.”

sandersstudies

And this goes for friendships too! Even just stuff like “do you mind if I leave this door open?”

doomhamster

…I never fully realized it before but this is a big part of why my relationship with my husband is so conflict-free. Both because him doing this all the time made it easy to trust him, back when we were a new item, and because it helped ME break out of the toxic idea that you should never ask about a partner’s preferences because if you Really Loved Them you should be able to intuit what they want, all the time, about anything.

gondwana

God I love Ohio this gas pump has a teeny tiny little screen on it and all it does is show teeny tiny little bible verses on it and boy they’re the ominous ones

gondwana

A gas station pump telling you you’re a tresspasser in gods territory is like. American Gothic Satire.

kitabuni

oh god OP please get us pictures