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If you misidentified as asexual due to internalized homophobia, thatâs straight peopleâs fault. Straight people caused your internalized homophobia, not the asexual community.
If you misidentified as bisexual due to heteronormativity, thatâs straight peopleâs fault. Straight people caused your heteronormativity/internalized homophobia, not bisexuals.
If you used to identify as asexual but you were really just a âlate bloomerâ or a teen who latched on to labels too quickly, that means you misidentified. That doesnât mean asexuality is a phase. That doesnât mean aphobes are right about asexuals.
If you used to identify a bisexual, but you were really just âconfusedâ or relying on hypothetical relationships, that means you misidentified. That does not mean bisexuality is a phase. That doesnât mean Biphobes are right about bisexuals.
Asexual means lack of (sexual) attraction. It says nothing about sexual history or behavior. Therefore you can be asexual WITHOUT being sex repulsed. To some, asexual does mean ânot interested in sex/relationshipsâ, but that is their PERSONAL definition and does not apply to the whole community. âDoesnât like sexâ is how The Hets⢠define it.
Bisexual means attraction to two or more genders. It says nothing about being attracted to your own gender. Therefore you can be bisexual WITHOUT being attracted to your own gender (there are more than two genders, hoo hoo). To some, bisexual does mean âattracted to your own and opposite genderâ but that is their PERSONAL definition and does not apply to the whole community. âLikes men and womenâ is how The Hets⢠define it.
If you want to spread awareness of misidentification, make a list of how you figured it out, rather than saying âThis community trapped me with my internalized homophobia. This label was forced on me and now I hate all of them.â Talking trash about the community without explaining how you solved the problem does nothing but paint the community as inherently harmful.
EDIT: you know how lesbians make posts listing behaviors about coercive heteronormativity/âcomp hetâ and DONâT blame bi women? Be like that.
Thank you and good night.
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