Daily Dose of Purpose: Crucial Conversations
Chapter 1: What's a Crucial Conversation? And Who Cares?
When I started reading this book, It was election season here in the Philippines. I was forced to deactivate my socials because of the number of crucial conversations that were mishandled. Reading this book during the election season really helped me. According to the book, a conversation becomes crucial when the "stakes are high, opinions vary and emotions are strong". As I was scrolling my Facebook feed and reading influencer and ordinary people's opinions, I proved that "we're designed wrong", and emotions don't help us converse effectively. We are starting to call people names, we start to label people bobo, stupid, or tanga. What people don't understand, even if they are making sense or basing what they are saying on facts, is our body, organs, and adrenaline react when someone disagrees with us.
I know someone, who was willing to vote for the candidate that was the most qualified but shifted to another candidate due to the "toxicity" according to him.
Sarcastic remarks/tones are being thrown everywhere, and people are starting to cut off long-time friends because of the difference in opinion and it just ends up in an unhealthy, self-defeating loop. No one listens anymore. It's really true, the more you push people, the more you create behaviors that you both despise. It makes me realize if only people knew how to handle crucial conversations better, would the results end differently?
The election season was just a recent example of how flawed we are in handling crucial conversations, the way we talk to our loved ones, how we address problems at our home, or even how we talk at work are also a few relevant examples. We always have crucial conversations in our daily life and we fail to see the importance of these micro-moments. These conversations affect our career, health, love life, and social life, do we not care about these things?
I know you do. In the following chapters, I hope we can handle crucial conversations better. Are we going to handle these conversations or are we just going to ignore this and move on with our lives? Whatever your decision is, it does not reflect you entirely, you just made a choice.
A special takeaway in this chapter is "everyone has differences, not everyone splits up, It's how you argue that matters".
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