RECONCILING DIFFERENCES
Reconciliation is one of the virtue ethics we are learning about in class - but what exactly does it mean to reconcile? If we look at the dictionary definition, reconciliation is the act of restoring friendship or harmony (Merriam-Webster). However, I think the word means much more than this. I think the act of reconciling one's differences is often one of the hardest virtues for someone to live up to and learn. It is difficult for one to overcome their own stubbornness to forgive someone for their wrongdoings and misdeeds. Especially when the wrongful acts inflicted pain and suffering onto an individual or group one cares deeply about. Nevertheless, this virtue is necessary to live a fulfilling life in order to move past the wrongs of the past and continue to push forward into a better future. In order to cultivate this virtue, one must truly learn to forgive and recognize the imperfections in human actions.
An example of an individual who expresses this virtue is Daryl Davis. I first heard about this man in my YouTube feed a few years back and have come across him a few other times on my podcasts and news. He is a black musician-activist who befriended members of the Ku Klux Klan and broke down stereotypes of black people. Through Davis's friendship and heart-to-heart conversations, many of these individuals left the KKK and their longheld ideals of white supremacy.
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I think Davis is a great example of someone who has been able to forgive others for their hatred toward people who look like him. I cannot imagine that it would be easy to talk with, more or less befriend these individuals who historically have caused much terror and hatred towards his community. This is why he is a great example of someone who is able to reconcile and change people for the better.
Reconciliation relates to Maslow and Seligman's model of well-being, specifically through the need for positive relationships and love and belonging. In order to build positive relationships, it is necessary to love those around you and forgive them for any errors they caused in the past. This is one of the ways in which we bring about change in our society - by not giving up on relationships with individuals or groups with whom we do not see eye to eye to start.
Where does one begin to look when learning about this virtue? Looking to history for answers is always a great stepping stone and through our class, studying the individuals who impacted Korea's democratic movement is a start. One of these figures we can look to is Namgang, who faced many hardships but never gave up on the Korean people.
"Namgang was imprisoned many times for laboring to free the spirits of the people of Korea, but these hardships only strengthened his determination and resolve to work for the Korean people. By the time of the March 1st Movement in 1919, he was well prepared to lead the people through Strength of Love" (Forward Into Memory).
Learning these stories of the Korean democratic movement gives us exemplars of reconciliation which may help us implement these ideals into our own lives.












