Hero In The Mirror

I utilize my unique view on the world and life in general to teach others (as I learn myself) how to become their own type of super hero. I have learned that in this life, you can't count on anybody else to save you from your circumstances, so my job is to get people to focus on self worth and self evaluation to lead an INTENTIONAL life where you can become the victor of circumstance as opposed to the victim of it.... Become the Hero In The Mirror!

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Lookin silky! (at Upland, California) https://www.instagram.com/p/CURBWoxpyCd/?utm_medium=tumblr

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In the bluffs with my gorgeous ladies! (at Carmel by the Sea) https://www.instagram.com/p/CUMHj1RLl-p/?utm_medium=tumblr

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One of my students got to see the Papa Bear cry this past Saturday when we had to put my dog Kai down, but when we got in my truck afterward he told me he was able to see something WAY more than that. Let me backtrack about a week; Kai had vomited and was walking like he was dizzy so I rushed him back to the emergency hospital for the third time in 2 weeks and picked my student up on the way. While we were on the freeway he asked me how I felt, and I explained that I didn’t feel anything. Right now my job is to get my dog to the hospital, and any feelings I had would be from a place of assuming the worst and that wasn’t helpful at the time. My dog needed help so my focus is there. Same thing when I got a call from my Fiancé this past Saturday while at a friend’s mastermind that she was rushing him back to the hospital. It was pouring down rain and my client was following me speeding down the freeway. Too much leaning into my emotion at that time would have possibly made me crash. When we got to the hospital we sat in a room while my fiancé was in the car feeding the baby and the doctor came in to tell us the status of my dog and I could tell from the look on her face that it wasn’t good. I turned to Nick and told him, “This is when the emotions start.” I just sat there and listened with tears streaming down my face knowing I was going to lose my boy right then. In the back room where they were going to put him down I was just sitting on the floor with Amanda behind me and Nick on the chair closest while I hugged my boy, ugly cried and thought about the last 5 1/2 years he’s been right with me. https://www.instagram.com/p/CUJMsEHJw3W/?utm_medium=tumblr

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Having to put my dog down in about 5 minutes here… I literally had a post drafted to post this evening about it being exactly a year since our boy Baloo passed away. We took Kai to the vet this morning for a problem with his eye, and no more than 10 minutes after I finish my post about Baloo, Amanda calls me that she’s rushing Kai to the hospital and they’re worried about internal bleeding somewhere. Turns out he’s had a tumor or mass on his spleen that ruptured and is bleeding into his abdomen. They said the cancer looked to be really aggressive and he wouldn’t make it through the night, so we decided to put him down rather than having a third dog die in massive pain. This was my first dog ever and my best friend since 2 months after I moved here to Arizona. He’s been with me through moves, ups and downs in business and life, everything the past 5 1/2 years he’s been right there. I’m not 100% certain how to process losing 3 dogs in EXACTLY one year but this one definitely cuts the deepest because of how much he’s been with me through. https://www.instagram.com/p/CT-3XM8JNrD/?utm_medium=tumblr

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Dancin with my ladies! https://www.instagram.com/p/CT50YX9JdQm/?utm_medium=tumblr

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Powerful women: Neutered men like the one here are doing you NO favors… The response to being hurt by “masculine” men should be finding a MORE masculine man. One that’s matured past the drama, fights, cheating, violence of some of these shitboi wanna-be alphas our here. Unfortunately the response is usually to find a less masculine and safer man to be with. He may not light your soul on fire but at least you don’t have to worry about him hurting you or cheating on you. Some of you are with this guy right now and you wonder why you secretly despise him. He does and says all of the right things but the fact that you could crush him on a whim makes you hate him for some reason where it used to provide you comfort; The answer is to find a man who can encompass the masculine walls you’ve put up that have protected you from the immature masculine that hurt you in the past. It will feel threatening at first and you WILL have tension as your masculine struggles to keep hold and keep those walls up. A man who is masculine enough will break down those walls gently but powerfully. He won’t need to yell and scream for you to recognize him as a man. I’m around a LOT of amazing, powerful women in my life and business. Many of them the same hardcore feminists people don’t like online. Around me, that all goes away because they know and FEEL that their feminine is supported. They have no need to be masculine because masculinity in a powerful woman is nothing more than a defense. Defenses are only up when it’s necessary. So men, if she’s too masculine for you it really means you’re not masculine enough for her. Women, if he’s not masculine enough for you, it means you’re not feminine enough for him to be that. YOU have to find the person/energy that complements YOU. This exists all across the spectrum of masculine/feminine. https://www.instagram.com/p/CT3Uwf9pusD/?utm_medium=tumblr

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The boy recovered a LOT last night! Just got off the phone with the hospital! They’ve diagnosed him with Addison’s Disease, which isn’t curable but definitely treatable so we’re happy campers over here! https://www.instagram.com/p/CTpOe2hl6UK/?utm_medium=tumblr

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I swear we just can’t catch a break with these dogs! 2 of our sweet boys dying within the last year at 15 months and 9 months old, now my first boy Kai (Husky) in the hospital in borderline critical condition from some unknown disease. Any and all thoughts and prayers are so very welcome right now! Heading over to the emergency vet so they can monitor him overnight. https://www.instagram.com/p/CTnvPKDLCFZ/?utm_medium=tumblr

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Baby got a beautiful hand-knit Afghan from my Great-Aunt this week! The little green square in the middle is a piece from an original blanket stitched by Layla’s Great-Great-Great Grandmother Amanda Jackson. She’s the 6th generation to get one of these https://www.instagram.com/p/CTL5YjsrrUc/?utm_medium=tumblr

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The first Facebook Ads I ever ran were for an NBA team spending $25,000 a day. I learned from a guy for 3 hours how to run them, then he went completely MIA for the next 2 weeks and I was stuck running these ads, spending more money in a day than I had made the whole year prior. Over that 2 weeks we spent almost $500,000 and grossed over $3.3 million specifically from my campaigns. The first coaching session I ever gave was while I was on a jog at 2am through my neighborhood; I ran into a guy who graduated high school a few years before me and we ended up walking around and talking for about 2 1/2 hours. He text me the next morning to thank me, saying that he went out on that jog with the plan of going back home and killing himself with his father’s gun and that our conversation completely changed his mind. I didn’t choose to step into either of those scenarios but they were MASSIVELY impactful with where I am today. If I had been given the choice, I would have eased into both professions like most people do, but the absence of choice and my response to it created what I have and who I am now. Look out for the beautiful accidents that happen in your life, because almost everything beautiful that’s ever happened to me has happened when I wasn’t ready for it. You become ready AFTER the chain reaction starts, not before. Everybody waiting for “ready” is going to completely miss the train. https://www.instagram.com/p/CS-rVO4lAgv/?utm_medium=tumblr

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When I want to get in my flow, whether it’s writing or hearing up for a client coaching session, I watch one of three things; - Patrice O’neal’s standup - Shaquille O’Neal’s highlights - Ray Lewis’s highlights. All three men exhibited a level of domination at their craft that their peers unanimously feared, loved, revered, and envied them. The way they approached their craft made it clear that they knew they were the shit and nothing you did was going to change that. All of them seemed completely unbothered by what anybody else was doing; they were going to get their job done regardless of how anybody felt about it or what they tried to do to stop it. I balance these three personas with three men I view as being deeply insightful, loving, caring, compassionate and still manage to have the same level of dominance and dedication to their crafts: - Nelson Mandela - Steve Harvey - Will Smith I pull pieces of all six of these men to help inform the way I approach my life and businesses. https://www.instagram.com/p/CS8Fc-JFfRf/?utm_medium=tumblr

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“It is better to raise strong children, than to repair broken men.” - Frederick Douglas I work with young men so they don’t have to become broken older men in the first place. We build you up now so there’s nothing to fix later. The young men I work with come to me because they see these broken men out in the world. The society we live in today was GIVEN to us by these broken men and it’s our job to fix it for our children and their children. We see the men who are stressed out, hating their jobs, resenting their wives, not having time for their children, killing themselves at increasingly younger and younger rates and we decide to do the work now because we’ve seen what the future looks like for us if we don’t. We often start off striving not to become like our fathers but along the way we learn what we’re actually searching for is the becoming of our own selves, regardless of who our fathers were. The enemy was not the other man because they were only a reflection of who we were afraid we would become. https://www.instagram.com/p/CS2zm5tpz7Y/?utm_medium=tumblr

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We are SO excited about being 2 months old! https://www.instagram.com/p/CSvH9dVlLbh/?utm_medium=tumblr

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Submission Vs. Obedience: (this is a pic I took of her after putting me through a shit test the first time I went to visit her in Austin ) I believe that in order to submit to something, you must have had the capacity to do it and are making an active choice to relinquish power in service to your polarity with the person you are submitting to. Obeying and being obedient does not come from a place of power. It comes from a place of lack and inability and being “less than”. Obeying is usually demanded or forced by the man, while submission is earned through a series of tests that women will put a man through (or the feminine will put the masculine through) to qualify him as a person to be submitted to or not. These tests, I call “Shit Tests” serve two purposes: 1. They solidify to the woman how you will and can lead her in certain situations; she will test to see how you perform when you are frustrated, upset, stressed out, and not all of the shit tests will she even be aware she’s putting you through. 2. They show you these tests so you can learn to trust YOURSELF in these different scenarios; she’s kicking the tires to test the structure and sturdiness of your masculine presence to make sure you are worthy of being submitted to. And you’re confirming to yourself (or miserably failing) at confirming that you have built the right structure to accommodate a partner. Obedient women don’t feel they have the right to test you or qualify you, which is why weak men take those long trips to Japan and Thailand to seek out obedient women 😂 (yes mail-order brides are still a thing) The masculine doesn’t need to test anything because we create the world around us, including the choice of a romantic partner. I wouldn’t have chosen you if I felt the need to test you. Because I am the structure and she enhances and brings life to that structure, I don’t need to ask my woman what she brings to the table. (Example: I pay for our house and everything that goes into it. She makes my house into my home.) So men who ask what women bring to the table, obviously haven’t figured this out or been around a quality woman before. (at Austin, Texas) https://www.instagram.com/p/CSshPmMnkb0/?utm_medium=tumblr

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Coaches vs. Consultants, and why most “coaches” are actually consulting their clients instead. (From a great and needed clarifying conversation I had with a client this past week) First, let’s cover the main difference: A consultant’s job is for you to ask them a question and they give you the answer. It’s tactics, strategies, operations, systems, very straight-line. A coach’s job is to ask you the right questions for YOU to find your own answer. And the best coaches can do this without you always even noticing. I say that we provide bumpers and course correction but largely the journey is yours. The sessions: If you buy 12 weeks of consulting from me, you are going to get pretty much the same structure and value for each session all the way through, which is great for logical progression in your business and helping you tackle strategic and tactical problems. I always say that coaching is supposed to compound. The level of conversation we have at week 4 is NOT the same level of conversation we have at week 8 because as I’m coaching. I’m also earning your trust and respect and planting seeds that we won’t be able to see the fruit of until later on down the road. So while session 2 might be worth $250, session 10 we may hit something worth $15,000 and you wouldn’t expect me to charge you based on session 12 for every session, so it’s also unfair to judge session 2 like the value needs to feel equal across each session. What most people don’t realize is the massive breakthrough we may hit on session 10 was EARNED because of the conversations from sessions 1-9. Your job as the client is to trust the container your coach has created for you and judge it as a whole. The coach’s job is to understand the scope of what they are walking you through, build the relationship as they’re taking you to your destination, and learn to plant seeds along the way that you’ll dig up in later sessions to close loops and drive home the most impactful parts of your work with that client. This is where most coaches and clients come with misaligned expectations on what this “work” looks like. https://www.instagram.com/p/CSk14buF5ci/?utm_medium=tumblr

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In happier news, babygirl had her first growth chart entry the other day! https://www.instagram.com/p/CSYLP1BrgyN/?utm_medium=tumblr

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We lost our Baggyboy in the middle of the night last night. He’s had a heart murmur since he was a baby and we believe it turned into heart failure. This boy was such a damn gift for the 9 months we had him after our first Corso drowned last September, but for some reason was taken way too early from us. Rest In Peace to the baggy boy. https://www.instagram.com/p/CSU9XWQBrsH/?utm_medium=tumblr