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Sugar Baby Guide w/ 200+ tips!

So I recently ran into a sugar “master post” on here but noticed a lot of the links were broken. Since there are so many aspiring sugar babies with a ton of questions I thought I’d make a new one! Here it is: a very long compilation of my favorite tips and tricks from sugar babies all over tumblr. Enjoy! Xoxo

Safety

Deleting yourself from the internet

Sending pictures via google voice texting 

Square cash warning 

Amazon gifts safety

COP or POT?

Tips to remaining safe as a sugar baby

Phone safety

What information should you give your SD?

Verify him

Safety links for sugar babies

All about screening

How SD’s can track where you live

The Miranda warning

Internet safety tips

Receiving packages

Staying safe as a sugar baby

Sugar baby safety 

Sugar baby safety tip

Sugar baby safety & catfishing

Free background check website

Is he the real deal?

Tricking him to keep your privacy

Keeping your privacy

Very important hoe safety tip

Free-styling

Free-stying guide

Eye-contact

Turning vanilla to sugar

How to approach men while free styling

Free-styling and where to meet sugar daddies

Where to freestyle

All about free-styling

Free-styling and how to trigger a mans generosity from the start

Free-styling tips

Top three places to freestyle

Free-styling & staff

What NOT to ask him

Meeting SD’s online

Craigslist title tip

Ashley Madison

Sugar dating and craigslist

List of sugar dating sites

Sugaring using tinder

Tindering tip

How to tinder

Craigslist masterpost

Craigslist sugar

Writing/writing back to messages

The perfect message

How to message men on sugar sites

Sugaring: Tinder and OkCupid

Perfecting your message

More messaging advice

Sugar sites to check out

Weeding through messages on sugar sites

Allowance, financials, and budgeting

How to get the allowance you want

How to ask your sugar daddy for an allowance

Allowance or pay per meet?

All about money

Cash/gifts on a POT date

What form should I take my allowance in?

How to make real money

Sugar baby banking tips

Spending your sugar money

Asking for money on a POT date

Getting him to buy you something

Financial advice

Drain his bank account

When he says he doesn’t feel comfortable with allowance…

Saving money

How much can he really pay you?

Budgeting tips for sugar babes

Tips on spending your sugar money

Allowance and AmEx cards

Let’s talk budgeting

5 questions to ask before agreeing to allowance offer

What to say to get the allowance you want

Sugar banking

Allowance and bank laws

Random cash tips

He pays for what he wants

Investing 101

Allowance negotiation tactics

The art of sugar dating

How to handle a first date with a POT

What NOT to talk about on a POT date

Organizing your POTs

How to: manipulate the conversation 

How to create a positive impression

6 ways to make your sugar date the best date he’s ever had

What the hell am I going to talk to him about?!

50 unusual date ideas

Checklist the night before your date

What you need to do before your POT date

Your first POT date

Dining etiquette

Dining etiquette pt. 2

How to fake confidence

Conversation tips

Confidence

Classy conversation topics

First date conversations with your SD

What to bring in your purse on a sugar date

Bullshit to spit on dates

Things to know about wine

First date advice

How to handle a first date

100 “non allowance” questions to ask a POT on a date

How cheat your way through small talk

Conversation topics

Developing your personality

The psychology of persuasion

Seduction, manipulation & negotiation

Remember: You are an actress/actor

The art of seduction

Strategies to try on your SD

Sugar negotiation

Bullshitting 101

Make him take you seriously

How to make him want to say yes

Body language 

Master guide: Body language linguistics 

Manipulation tips

How to manipulate people into liking you more

Sugar manipulation

How to keep wealthy men coming back to you to give you more

Emotion, seduction and manipulation

Marketing yourself

How to attract a man

Perks of sugaring - power

Being your SD’s fantasy

Manipulation success

The girlfriend experience

Keeping your SD

Treat your SD right… Or someone else will

Keeping him hooked

Don’t become familiar or ordinary

Become his fantasy

Don’t forget the details

Keeping your sugar daddy

 Bedroom tips

Treating your SD right

How to keep an SD interested

Showcase yourself to yourself to your SD

Blowjob tips (for uncircumcised penises as well)

Blowjob tips

Appearance

How to make yourself more attractive

Fashion tips and dress codes

How to dress “sugar”

Hoe products

Fuck-proof makeup list

How to be a kept woman

Looking elegant

Sex prep

Lingerie masterpost

20 beauty tips

Charming cash out of your sugar daddy

Vaginal hygiene 

Invest in yourself

Sugar tote essentials

Contouring cheat sheet

A hoes guide to body care

Sugar baby check list

Platonic Sugar

A tip for aspiring sugar babes

Being a platonic SB

Being a pure sugar baby

Sugar Travel

Traveling with your SD

Travel etiquette for sugar babies

Sugar baby travel tip

Traveling sugar

General tips/info on sugaring

The rules of sugaring

Sugar baby manifesto

Sugar baby academy

How to find a sugar daddy in 6 simple steps

This lifestyle isn’t for everyone

The secrets to being a successful sugar baby

Random sugar baby tip

Great sugar tip

“Thing’s I’ve learned from living with sugar babies”

25 tips to make you better sugar

Being a successful sugar baby

10 golden rules of sugar dating

General sugar baby tips

Sugar baby general guide

Apps every sugar baby needs

Sugar baby mentality

Sugar baby survival tips

Sugar baby wisdom

Sugar baby resources

What being a SB is all about

6 common sugar baby mistakes

Remain calm, cool and collected

Things you need to remember when you start sugaring:

What SB’s often forget

You are not asking for too much!

Beginning advice for newbies

Tips for new sugar babies

Always have a plan B

Tip to new sugars

So you want to be a sugar baby…

What would you tell your newbie SB self if you could go back?

5 newbie mistakes and how to avoid them

Patience

Remember this when you become a sugar baby

4 things every aspiring SB should know

“How do I become a sugar baby?”

How to stand out as a sugar baby

“Learn from my sugar mistakes”

“When is right to start sugaring?”

Tips from a successful sugar baby

6 tips for aspiring SBs

All about him

How to know if he’s the right sponsor

Sugar daddy check list 

Don’t believe what he says

How to get him to raise your allowance

POTs

Filtering the POTs

How to spot a fake POT

Things POT’s say when they’re trying not to pay

Distinguishing sugar from salt

10 questions to ask a POT before a relationship

Figuring out if they’re salt without going on a date

“What should I say?” And personality

Don’t be mundane and predictable

When he asks “What are you willing to do sexually?”

When he complains about paying you

When he asks if you’ve had an arrangement before 

Communicating your standards

How to say “no” to your SD

How to insist on a condom

What to say when he asks “What are you looking for?”

When he says “I’ll pay you later”

Your sugar profile

Writing tips

Make your profile work for you

Face shot or no face shot? 

Random tips/things/misc.

P.O. boxes and why you should have one

“Advice I received from a whale SD”

Long distance sugar

How to be a boss ass bitch

Why love is poison for a heartless gold-digger and a guide to the antidote

How to organize your hustle 

Sugaring from scratch

“Sex is sex, but money is money”

Mandatory sugar tool

No luck finding a sugar daddy?

The official sex worker reading list

Getting your sugar daddy back

Sugar baby texting

Suggested sugar reading list

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Can’t believe this has 3k notes!

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how does this sound "Hey, I've viewed your profile and I see that we have similar interests and needs, if you're interested message me back." i really appreciate your help btw ;;

It sounds really boring. So boring in fact that your message is only a word or two different from the generic statement that SA attaches to “winks.” Since joining SA I’ve easily sent over 300 spam messages to POTs yet I’ve only been called out with “Is this a collect message?” or “Nice generic message” twice. If I ever sent out your version, I think that number would increase tenfold, or I’d simply be outright ignored. Likewise, whenever POTs send me messages like this, I know that they’re merely sending me an ounce more effort than a wink and are messaging 40 other women that same note.

Why I message

Realistically, everyone on these sites is talking with multiple people at once, but as humans we love to feel uniquely noticed. So the two key things I try to remember for an initial spam message are to stroke the ego and elicit interest. You’re doing a really great job with taking initiative but now it’s time to crank up your messages and get the responses you want and deserve, girl!

Think of an initial message like a voicemail. If you get a voicemail saying, “Hey it’s Andy. Call me back.” You’ll be like what does this bitch want? If you get a voicemail saying, “Hey, gorgeous. It’s Andy! Haven’t heard from you in a while. I have the FUNNIEST story to tell you. You’re gonna die. Call me back some time tonight before 10pm or else I’ll be asleep. Can’t wait to hear from you. Bye!” What are the key differences here? The first one lacks motive or reason and has no sense of urgency. You have no idea why Andy called or what he wants. Consequently, it’s not enticing and it’ll either take you hours/days to call Andy back or you’ll text him and say “Hey got your voicemail. What’s up?” You never want a POT to have to ‘What’s Up’ (aka wtf do you want) you! When people write on their profiles “Not a fan of endless emails/texting” THIS IS WHY. Make your point and make sure your point is a good one! The second voicemail not only makes the point but it leaves the receiver begging for more. What’s Andy’s story? I’ve got to hear it! I might even walk out in the middle of class just to call Andy back and hear what he has to say. This is the difference between a green check next to ‘sent messages’ and an inbox full of responses.

When I Message

On SA, there’s a daily quota of how many messages you can send so choose wisely! Winks are unlimited per day, but as I mentioned above, they are the crutch of the lazy and unimaginative. Your words carry much more clout! Rather than wasting messages on men who are too cheap/indecisive to pay for a premium membership, always make sure that the yellow “Premium” is highlighted on the banner on his profile. This way he can actually see, read, and respond to your messages!

How I Message

This might go without saying, but don’t waste your time reaching out to splenda, salt, and meatsuits. Just because BigDickDaddy69 lives 10 minutes away from you and has a million dollar income doesn’t mean meeting with him will be worth your time (but if you want a free dinner, go for it girl!). READ THEIR PROFILES. Ctrl + F for “sex”, “kinky”, “stamina”, and other TRIGGER WARNING: TACKY AS FUCK words. If he’s in the clear, move on to extracting tidbits about him that you find interesting – his career, places he’s visited, sports he’s into, activities he loves, etc. Ctrl + T his profile in a tab right next to the message you’re writing for him so that you can refer back to it quickly if need be (I say this because Doctor is technologically challenged and idk you might be too lol). While spamming out your daily email quota should not take more than 30-60 minutes and you are not here to write each individual man an ode, you do want to have some specifics.

 Who I message

Assuming I’ve found a premium member who is not a meatsuit, there are two categories that he’ll fall in: Silent Sam and Fun Freddy.

Silent Sam is the standard SA user who, for reasons of extreme discretion, novice sugar profile experience, weak self-selling game, or all three, lacks a well-defined profile. His About Me and About You are brief and vague with phrases like “let’s talk”, “message me for more”, “Handsome, fit, gentleman seeks SB”, “looking for a mutually beneficial arrangement” or other NO DUH type shit. He may have little to no photos, or, worse, have several tailored-suit or beach bod selfie shots thinking that his looks speak for him. He is probably using a vague username like “NYCbanker” or a fake name like “Mike.” Although his hazy wants and needs are frustrating, he is not to be discounted for reasons such as his high income/net worth, high allowance (or it may be open/negotiable but his income is high enough), handsome photos, or ideal location. Thus, I conclude that Silent Sam has the potential to be a good SD and simply needs me to extract this from him.

Fun Freddy, unlike Silent Sam, details his love of Russian ballet and need for an SB who shares it at length on his profile. Indeed, his wants, needs, hobbies, etc. are described explicitly on his About Me and About You which are each a solid one or two paragraphs at least. He may have several photos, or still have little to none for needs of discretion or otherwise. Like Silent Sam, his income/net worth, allowance, and location work well for you but he has a leg up on Sam in that his personality and ideal arrangement align with yours as well.

What I message

(I’ve italicized the template and the rest is just content I scraped from his profile)

Subject: Hey there, (Sam/handsome/nothing if he has no name or photos)! :)

Body: SO jealous that you live in Neptune! It’s a mere four planets away from me so I drive out often for the amazing rock climbing scene. Do you dabble in that at all? Unfortunately there’s not much of that on Earth where I’m from but it’s probably my favorite hobby. Have you ever been to Earth before? As a Management Consultant, I’m sure that you travel to several fun planets and I can tell there’s a ton I’d love to pick your brain about as I too enjoy sight-seeing in various corners of our galaxy. I’ve enjoyed your profile thus far and would love to hear a bit more about you and your ideal arrangement sometime soon.

Cheers,

Kelly Clarkson

^ Silent Sam is more time-consuming to message because you have to pull teeth to fatten up your template. You can’t spew generic compliments like “You’re so handsome!” or “You seem like a fun, active guy” when you have no idea about either. You must rely a bit more on speculation. But this message does a great job of inserting yourself into the narrative of his life. Now he knows that you’re available to meet for coffee in Neptune often. He knows you love to travel and he doesn’t have to feel shy about asking you to join him on his bi-weekly business trips to Pluto. You also shoot him a few questions highlighting your interest in his life and give him action-steps (tell me more about yourself and your arrangement) to steer the conversation where you want to go and to give HIM a template for how to respond. Nothing worse than a message from a guy that says “How are you?” right? Ugh! This makes YOU have to do all of the guesswork. Don’t be that guy. Save your busy CEO the trouble and give him three or four key points to come back at you with, which will be helpful as you’re trying to learn more about him in spite of his blank ass profile. Ultimately, this message shows that you’re impressed with him all off of a few words that he wrote down – what an incentive to divulge more!

 Subject: Hey there, (Fred/handsome/nothing if he has no name or photos)! :)

I couldn’t help but gush over your profile! Not only are your photos absolutely scrumptious, but you write so eloquently! It’s evident that you are an intelligent, successful, well-traveled gentleman who knows how to have a lot of fun. We definitely share a lot of values and passions in common. I LOVE that you’re a veterinarian – I have two puppies myself. What made you want to study that line of medicine?Your photo line-dancing was very handsome! Have you ever tried salsa before? If not, I’ll simply have to teach you as it is my favorite form of dance :) You seem like you’d be an absolute blast to spend time with and I’d love the chance to find that out for myself. Can’t wait to hear more about you and your ideal arrangement soon!

 Xoxo,

Beyonce

^ This dude could be the most boring guy in the world but I’m still gonna what? Stroke that ego! I act like his profile blew me away. Best I’ve read since I joined the site. He worked really hard to craft those paragraphs so I reward him accordingly. As Drake says, “I’m telling every girl she’s the one for me, when I ain’t even planning to call.” Make him think that you think that he is the shit! You might be wary of doing so because then he’ll think you’re puddy in his hands, but it really has the opposite effect. These men get dozens of messages that commit the below-mentioned offenses (or are boring like yours lol) and to read from someone passionate, exciting, and lively is a breath of fresh air. Remember the voicemail thing. If you have ten “Hey call me back” voicemails and one enthusiastic, inquiring, fun voicemail, who are you going to call back first? The more interest I show in him, the happier and more inclined to learn about me he will be. Moreover, just like your message to Silent Sam, you’re seeking to insert yourself in the narrative of his life by allowing him to envision you two salsa dancing together. Once you plant this image in his mind, he’ll simply have to make it a reality!

AN INITIAL MESSAGE IS NOT THE TIME FOR:

Rapid-fire interrogation into his merits as an SD OR to bring up how much allowance I want.

“Hey there, John! I’ve loved your profile. So tell me, what brings you to SA rather than a more traditional site such as eHarmony? Have you ever been a sugar daddy before? If so how much allowance did she get? And why did it end? Can’t wait to hear back from you!”

^Hey there, SB, you’re hot. Why are you on SA? Do you like older men a lot? The harrier the better? How many older men have you been with? Did you let them do anal? How deep? ………………..Are you uncomfortable yet? This neither strokes the ego nor elicits interest. Instead, I pocket these key questions for the next message or two. Like real dating, sugar dating is about a personality match initially so I start off seeing what we have in common and then (soon, don’t wait forever) move on to see if our arrangement expectations align. As so many SBs say, treat him like a person, not an ATM.

Regurgitation my entire profile.

“Hey there, John! I’m a fun, sexy, college student at University of Tampa who is majoring in psychology. I love to dance, travel, and play with my cats. I keep in shape by running four miles a day and I’m training for my first marathon coming up this summer. Blah. Blah. Blah. Copy and paste from my profile.”

^After a guy reads my message, he will immediately go to your profile to learn more about me. So let’s give him more to learn! Don’t just say everything you’ve already said before. Your profile should do the telling and your message should do the showing. If you say you’re fun, flexible and like to travel – show it! This probably won’t elicit interest since it’s not anything he couldn’t find from just reading your profile. And it certainly doesn’t do anything to stroke the ego since it’s all about you.

Ultimatums.

“Hey there, John! I’m a fun, sexy, college student who is looking for a man to spend time with two to three times a month for wining & dining, enriching experiences, and a mutual beneficial arrangement with, on my part, a monthly allowance of $5000. Is that YOU? :)” ^ It can be tempting to send the latter message because it seemingly weeds out guys who aren’t what I’m looking for, right? Especially since guys send us these messages all the time a la, “I’m not looking to waste either of our time so here’s what I want yada yada yada.” Well these type of gun to the head messages are a big turn-off to a lot of people (especially shy newbies like Silent Sam); it’s better to start light and then delve into what you’re looking for a message or two later. While this message may elicit some interest, if anything, it hurts the ego by measuring this man against my standards right off the bat. Don’t be a salt baby. Don’t make it “Are you good enough for me? Why should I choose you?” But instead “are we good enough for eachother?” (at least not to his face)

SA winks and literal winks “;)” as they are universally tacky and creepy lol.

RECAP, AN INITIAL MESSAGE IS THE TIME TO:

Reveal specifically what I find appealing about a man.

Reveal my fun personality to this man.

Enable him to envision the exponential surge in his quality of life with me as his SB.

 If you found these tips helpful, draft a few responses taking my personal experiences into consideration and send me your own ideas again off anon! I’d be happy to tell you if I’m now more enchanted and interested in having you as my SB lol

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This is fan-fucking-tastic!

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Been silent for a while because it’s been so much up and down the last few days. Had a dinner date with my favorite client/SD, ‘Hedge Fund’ on Monday (3k), and I wasn’t feeling well so we ended up just talking and I guess things got too personal and he told me basically he couldn’t see me anymore, he didn’t want to get too close. I really cried that night in front of him, because he’s always been there for me and it felt weird that he wasn’t going to be in my life anymore. It just was a terrible night, I was so upset and he looked so devastated that I was so sad it just made things worse. I was really depressed Monday and Tuesday, I literally went to this park/patch of grass by the Hudson and laid there all afternoon.

So my doorman calls me last night and says I had a flower delivery. Usually you’re supposed to go down and pick it up yourself at the valet but I was so depressed I told him to just toss them out, I didn’t want to leave my place. The doorman is a sweetheart and he knew I was sad so he brought them up to me and gave me a hug. He told me ‘Hedge Fund’ had called 6 times that day to ask if I had gotten them. The picture doesn’t do it justice it’s so beautiful and bigger in person… I was so happy and touched that he was thinking of me so I texted him thank you, we’re talking again and trying to figure things out. He’s married and actually a bit younger than you’d expect so it’s a risk for him to do anything about his feelings. I think for now, we’ll just keep talking and we decided to see in a month if we feel the same.

The lines just got crossed and I’d depended so much on him that it was unfathomable that I’d lose him. But I’ll do me this month and he’ll do him, we’re still talking and we’re going to see how things go.

I made 20k last month with indie work and the agency, my goal for October is 20k without the agency. But money aside, I’m focused on making an exit plan, especially after recent events. I really wanted to just kill off my escort persona yesterday afternoon. Lying on the grass, I realized I couldn’t. I’d already built all this momentum with networking with other girls, building my rep, so I knew I’d have to keep going forward or if I stopped, I’d just have to stop forever. I felt so helpless yesterday, that I’d have to continue pretending to be happy and bubbly for my upcoming clients, but I knew however shitty I felt I wouldn’t turn down the money. I feel better now, but I never want to put myself in that position again.

But selling time for money, no matter what you do, is pointless. There’s only a certain amount of time you can work, and after you’re done the money you earned has no potential. The time you invested is dead. I need to build something that’ll eventually make me money without requiring my labor. I’m not interested in doing this for years and I know I’m capable of figuring out a way to leverage myself into a better position.

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im back

im back well because I'm not rich yet. 

Any LA or San Diego sugar sisters thats really all i need in my life someone that can relate to me. 

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Ultimate Guide to Get Started in Stripping

So, you’ve thought it through, given yourself a good once over, and you’ve decided you’re ready to make money getting naked on stage. And somehow all of you then find me. And ask me for advice. 

I’ve considered writing a big long advice guide for this and finally, here it is!

Buy a pair of Pleasers . Pleasers is the brand of high heel every credible stripper in the world wears. They’re made for strippers/to be danced in while still looking sexy af. Don’t get the off brand shit, get the real thing. It’s cheapest on amazon, but some sex shops sell them and give discounts if you mention you’re a stripper, especially in strip-friendly cities.

Work Out. More than that. You’re going to be working, and that means dancing, for 8 hour shifts. You need to prepare your body for that kind of lifestyle.Stripping *will change your body*, so change your attitude now to make that transition easier. Squats are your friend.

Call around. Google clubs in your area and find out who’s hiring, and how to audition there. Visit if you can for a night (and tip the dancers!), watch a few sets, maybe buy a private dance, and ask the girls what it’s like to work there. Tip them for their time though, don’t be a mooch. If you’re in a strip club, and you’re not working, you should be tipping. 

Watch Tutorials. Look up lapdance how-tos, basic pole dance, stripping guides, and floor routines . Learn some tricks that you can do that flatter you. If you can, practice on a pole in a studio or at a friends. The first time I ever touched a pole was my audition though, and I did just fine, so don’t stress if you can’t get stage practice. Just relax, work out, stretch every day, and practice the moves you see on youtube.

Ask questions at your audition. Do girls here get lockers? Do you have to rent them or are they free? What are the costume requirements? Can you finger yourself onstage? Can you use anal plugs, whips, or props during your sets? Can you negotiate dance prices or are they set in stone? How much is tip out?

Be careful who you befriend. Not all the girls in strip clubs are nice. Some of them will be very mean, manipulative, partake in illegal activities, will try to steal from you, will try to scam you , will pressure you or put you in danger, or will put you, for any number of other reasons, at risk. Be cautious and trust your gut.

Don’t Get Drunk at Work. A shot to calm the nerves is fine, but drunk = sloppy = loosing money = loosing business . Plus, men will notice and try to take advantage. Drink water instead! You’re dancing, after all. Hydration is important. Your muscles and skin will thank you.

Don’t blow all your hard-earned money on clothes and shoes for work. After a while, you’ll learn men will buy these things for you anyway. Once you have the basics - a couple of g-strings, a pair of heels, a top (Even a t-shirt cut off will do) , and maybe some stockings or booty shorts will do you just fine. Replace things as needed, and occasionally splurge or stock up, but don’t be tempted. So many girls spend half their money every night for the first week on new clothes. It’s a waste. You’re going to only wear your favorites anyway.

“What’s tip out?” Tip out is how much you give to the DJ, bouncers, bartender, etc at the end of every shift. Sometimes it’s a flat rate, sometimes it’s a percentage of what you make over all. BE SURE TO ASK, it’s different regionally and in every club.

Also, be sure to bring a small bag or purse to carry around with you to collect money in throughout the night. Some girls just carry in their garters and wrap it up with a rubber band to keep it secure, but I don’t think that seems secure tbh.

Finally, remember: Never, ever let the opinions of men define you. They mean nothing. You are a queen. 

Now go make that cash. Wiggle that ass, and make me proud.

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thank you for this post! Is there any colour/type of pleaser recommended for beginners? I like the look of the black ones and the clear ones, but don’t want to get the wrong ones ♥

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The Full Potential Challenge

Ever wonder what your life would be like if you lived up to your full potential? Would your body be healthier? Your skin clearer? Bank account bigger? I think about these things all the time, and, judging my a previous post, you guys do to. Below is a chart designed to help all of us live up to our full potential. I’ve broken it down into time frames to help keep you from getting overwhelmed. Write the chart down and hang it someplace where you can see it all the time. I will be starting this challenge tomorrow, 9/8. I’ll check in with you guys every Sunday to track my progress. I have specific goals in mind for myself, and you guys should make some too! I really want to know how you guys are doing. Tag your progress posts with #sbfpc so I can track it and take a look. Let’s get to it!

EVERY MORNING

Stretch. First thing. Really give your body enough time to wake up. Touch your toes. Roll out your shoulders. Do not hit snooze!

Do your full skincare routine. I have mine detailed here, but do whatever works for you and your complexion. Be gentle and consistent. 

Brush your teeth and floss. I used to be a big floss-skipper too, but you’d be amazed at how dig of a difference it makes. Rinse with a whitening mouthwash. I use one by Crest, and I notice a major difference in my teeth’s overall whiteness in just a few days.

Give yourself enough time to get ready. Whether you’re a wash-and-go kind of girl, or someone who spends an hour doing a full contouring routine before class (and either one is fine!), make sure you aren’t rushing. If you need to wake up a few minutes earlier than normal, so be it. Rushing sets an awful, stressed-out tone for the rest of the day. Allow yourself to be relaxed before taking on the day.

Eat something. I’m not going to say eat a big breakfast, because some people (myself included) just can’t eat in the morning. But you should eat, or at least bring a little something with you to work or school. If you can’t eat a full breakfast, grab a fruit! You won’t be as hungry come lunch time, making you less likely to gorge yourself.

Shower. You can do this at night, in the morning, whatever. Again, this is something you should allow some time for. I don’t wash my hair every day, but I do condition it every day (from the ears down). Scrub yourself with a delicious-smelling body wash. If you shave, make yourself as smooth as a dolphin, dude. If you don’t, then don’t and don’t ever ever ever let anyone make you feel bad or weird about it. When you get out of the shower, wrap yourself in a fluffy towel and totally slather your sexy self with lotion. Top to bottom. Do it as soon as you can post-shower so it can really sink in. 

Put leave-in condition throughout your damp hair and comb it through.

Put on an outfit that makes you feel good! So important!

Drink water. Drink water. Drink water. Drink water!!!!!

Take a look at your daily to-do list. Knock out the most pressing stuff first. Take pride when you cross things off your list.

Make your bed! Oh my god, make your bed. Do it. Do it. Do it. 

EVERY AFTERNOON 

Follow the “touch it once” approach. This is a truly life-changing thing. When a task is in front of you, no matter how big or small, just do it right then and there. How many times have you gotten a work email or homework assignment and thought, “Eh, I’ll do it later”? And then later never comes? Once something pops up, do it once. Squash it and be done. Cross things off your list and feel like a badass.

Try to go for a walk at lunch. Even one little lap around the block or campus will reenergize you like nobody’s business. 

Drink water. Drink water. Drink water. Drink water!!!!!

Be present. This is so hard for me too, but you have to make a major effort to be present in whatever you’re doing. Be engaged and plugged-in and just exist in the moment. Give 100 percent.

Be friendly to friends and strangers. A smile goes a long way.

Eat something. Eat what you packed for lunch (see below) and take a break from working while you do it. You need “you time”!

EVERY EVENING

Take your makeup off as soon as you’re in for the night. Wash your face with your full routine and let your skin have a break. 

Workout. You can also do this in the morning. Whatever works for you. Make a great playlist and go hard af. Get your cardio in. Get your strength training in. Earn every freaking sweat bead forming on your forehead. Earn your shower!

Knock out your homework. Life is infinitely better you don’t have anything hanging over your head. Half the time, the energy and emotion you spent dreading/putting off your work is ten times worse than the work itself.

Make a list of what needs to be done tomorrow. It’ll set you up for success the next day, and you won’t forget anything!

Drink water. Drink water. Drink water. Drink water!!!!!

Lay out your clothes for tomorrow. This will save you SO MUCH TIME in the morning omg I can’t even tell you how important this is.

Eat something great. And once you’ve decided to be done eating for the night, be done. Brush your teeth so you can’t eat again.

After brushing, do a whitening treatment. Whether it’s classic baking soda, a Crest white strip, or a laser. Do something. And floss! Retainers in too, ladies 0:)

Relax! Take a few hours to do what YOU want to do. Scroll through Tumblr, binge on some Netflix, FaceTime gossip with your friends, anything. Do whatever makes you happiest. 

Shut the electronics off an hour before you want to go to bed. Put your phone on sleep mode. If you stare at the screen, it will keep you awake and alert and you won’t be able to fall asleep. A good night’s sleep is crucial for weightless and general happiness lol

Do a quick sweep of your room and see if there’s anything you can put away real quick. A clean space is a happy space.

Crawl into your bed (aren’t you happy you took the time to make it?!) and read a book by lamplight for a while. When you start to feel sleepy, go to sleep. Don’t push it. You kicked ass today and you deserve rest. 

EVERY WEEKEND

Do something with your friends. It just has to be one thing. Even if you’re just hanging out at the coffee shop, spending time with your squad will make you a better, happier person.

Drink water. Drink water. Drink water. Drink water!!!!!

Do something just for you. Set your laptop up in the bathroom and watch a Netflix marathon while you take a bubble bath. Buy an old school bottle of Mr. Bubbles ($3 at Target!) and really just soak. Relax. Light a candle.

Do something creative. You can read a book, write, blog, draw, code, anything. It just has to be something that speaks to your passion.

Track your progress. Just do this once a week so it doesn’t become all-consuming. And remember that non-scale victories are just as important as shedding pounds.

Take the time to be grateful. Tell your friend how much you admire her taste in music. Mention to your mom how much you love her cooking and how happy you are that she takes care of you. Thank your teaching after an especially interesting lecture. When you do something awesome, take a moment to admire yourself. Be grateful for even the little things.

Anything I missed? Reblog + add yours! Don’t forget to tag your progress!

[mermaidstripperhoe]

starting this Monday!

[sugarluxuriabr-blog]

I’ll just reblog and fav cause I need to read this in the morning!

[pinksherry]

Get on that grind!!! 💃🏼💃🏼💃🏼

[highertheheelstheclosertogod]

Need. To. Do. This

[shrinkingblonde]

The Full Potential Challenge

Ever wonder what your life would be like if you lived up to your full potential? Would your body be healthier? Your skin clearer? Bank account bigger? I think about these things all the time, and, judging my a previous post, you guys do to. Below is a chart designed to help all of us live up to our full potential. I’ve broken it down into time frames to help keep you from getting overwhelmed. Write the chart down and hang it someplace where you can see it all the time. I will be starting this challenge tomorrow, 9/8. I’ll check in with you guys every Sunday to track my progress. I have specific goals in mind for myself, and you guys should make some too! I really want to know how you guys are doing. Tag your progress posts with #sbfpc so I can track it and take a look. Let’s get to it!

EVERY MORNING

Stretch. First thing. Really give your body enough time to wake up. Touch your toes. Roll out your shoulders. Do not hit snooze!

Do your full skincare routine. I have mine detailed here, but do whatever works for you and your complexion. Be gentle and consistent. 

Brush your teeth and floss. I used to be a big floss-skipper too, but you’d be amazed at how dig of a difference it makes. Rinse with a whitening mouthwash. I use one by Crest, and I notice a major difference in my teeth’s overall whiteness in just a few days.

Give yourself enough time to get ready. Whether you’re a wash-and-go kind of girl, or someone who spends an hour doing a full contouring routine before class (and either one is fine!), make sure you aren’t rushing. If you need to wake up a few minutes earlier than normal, so be it. Rushing sets an awful, stressed-out tone for the rest of the day. Allow yourself to be relaxed before taking on the day.

Eat something. I’m not going to say eat a big breakfast, because some people (myself included) just can’t eat in the morning. But you should eat, or at least bring a little something with you to work or school. If you can’t eat a full breakfast, grab a fruit! You won’t be as hungry come lunch time, making you less likely to gorge yourself.

Shower. You can do this at night, in the morning, whatever. Again, this is something you should allow some time for. I don’t wash my hair every day, but I do condition it every day (from the ears down). Scrub yourself with a delicious-smelling body wash. If you shave, make yourself as smooth as a dolphin, dude. If you don’t, then don’t and don’t ever ever ever let anyone make you feel bad or weird about it. When you get out of the shower, wrap yourself in a fluffy towel and totally slather your sexy self with lotion. Top to bottom. Do it as soon as you can post-shower so it can really sink in. 

Put leave-in condition throughout your damp hair and comb it through.

Put on an outfit that makes you feel good! So important!

Drink water. Drink water. Drink water. Drink water!!!!!

Take a look at your daily to-do list. Knock out the most pressing stuff first. Take pride when you cross things off your list.

Make your bed! Oh my god, make your bed. Do it. Do it. Do it. 

EVERY AFTERNOON 

Follow the “touch it once” approach. This is a truly life-changing thing. When a task is in front of you, no matter how big or small, just do it right then and there. How many times have you gotten a work email or homework assignment and thought, “Eh, I’ll do it later”? And then later never comes? Once something pops up, do it once. Squash it and be done. Cross things off your list and feel like a badass.

Try to go for a walk at lunch. Even one little lap around the block or campus will reenergize you like nobody’s business. 

Drink water. Drink water. Drink water. Drink water!!!!!

Be present. This is so hard for me too, but you have to make a major effort to be present in whatever you’re doing. Be engaged and plugged-in and just exist in the moment. Give 100 percent.

Be friendly to friends and strangers. A smile goes a long way.

Eat something. Eat what you packed for lunch (see below) and take a break from working while you do it. You need “you time”!

EVERY EVENING

Take your makeup off as soon as you’re in for the night. Wash your face with your full routine and let your skin have a break. 

Workout. You can also do this in the morning. Whatever works for you. Make a great playlist and go hard af. Get your cardio in. Get your strength training in. Earn every freaking sweat bead forming on your forehead. Earn your shower!

Knock out your homework. Life is infinitely better you don’t have anything hanging over your head. Half the time, the energy and emotion you spent dreading/putting off your work is ten times worse than the work itself.

Make a list of what needs to be done tomorrow. It’ll set you up for success the next day, and you won’t forget anything!

Drink water. Drink water. Drink water. Drink water!!!!!

Lay out your clothes for tomorrow. This will save you SO MUCH TIME in the morning omg I can’t even tell you how important this is.

Eat something great. And once you’ve decided to be done eating for the night, be done. Brush your teeth so you can’t eat again.

After brushing, do a whitening treatment. Whether it’s classic baking soda, a Crest white strip, or a laser. Do something. And floss! Retainers in too, ladies 0:)

Relax! Take a few hours to do what YOU want to do. Scroll through Tumblr, binge on some Netflix, FaceTime gossip with your friends, anything. Do whatever makes you happiest. 

Shut the electronics off an hour before you want to go to bed. Put your phone on sleep mode. If you stare at the screen, it will keep you awake and alert and you won’t be able to fall asleep. A good night’s sleep is crucial for weightless and general happiness lol

Do a quick sweep of your room and see if there’s anything you can put away real quick. A clean space is a happy space.

Crawl into your bed (aren’t you happy you took the time to make it?!) and read a book by lamplight for a while. When you start to feel sleepy, go to sleep. Don’t push it. You kicked ass today and you deserve rest. 

EVERY WEEKEND

Do something with your friends. It just has to be one thing. Even if you’re just hanging out at the coffee shop, spending time with your squad will make you a better, happier person.

Drink water. Drink water. Drink water. Drink water!!!!!

Do something just for you. Set your laptop up in the bathroom and watch a Netflix marathon while you take a bubble bath. Buy an old school bottle of Mr. Bubbles ($3 at Target!) and really just soak. Relax. Light a candle.

Do something creative. You can read a book, write, blog, draw, code, anything. It just has to be something that speaks to your passion.

Track your progress. Just do this once a week so it doesn’t become all-consuming. And remember that non-scale victories are just as important as shedding pounds.

Take the time to be grateful. Tell your friend how much you admire her taste in music. Mention to your mom how much you love her cooking and how happy you are that she takes care of you. Thank your teaching after an especially interesting lecture. When you do something awesome, take a moment to admire yourself. Be grateful for even the little things.

Anything I missed? Reblog + add yours! Don’t forget to tag your progress!

[mermaidstripperhoe]

starting this Monday!

[sugarluxuriabr-blog]

I’ll just reblog and fav cause I need to read this in the morning!

[pinksherry]

Get on that grind!!! 💃🏼💃🏼💃🏼

[highertheheelstheclosertogod]

Need. To. Do. This

[barbieprive]

Allowance use

Alright my dolls, you locked that SD and started getting that money, what y'all gonna do with it?

-don’t even think about spending the whole amount. I mean NO. No matter if you are sure that’s a steel deal you got yourself, remember your daddy can leave you any time. So -

-always take some of your allowance and stack it like it doesn’t exist, literally, DEAD, burnt. Have your own little rainy day trust fund, it can be your childhood piggy bank, I don’t care as long as those paper bills aren’t spent. Why? You are in a great position now yet how you gonna know what tomorrow can bring you? Maybe you will be in drought for weeks sometimes a month or more. Always be prepared.

-don’t get into that terminator spending mode as soon as those hands feel the paper. Do you really need them Chanel bags and Loubies? If you are really craving for it make your SD get em for you. But honestly, shoe/bag/clothes shopping will make you happy for a while, a car or a house/apartment shopping would make you a bit more permanently happy ? These are big goals I know however aren’t unreasonable and aren’t something so not possible to reach.

-first take care of your bills/rent/tuition/food supply, COVER your basic needs for the month, SAVE the rest. You would be amazed by the sum if you counted all of them bills spent on cute little things you bought yourself from sugaring.

-Keep the receipts and sum it up in the end of a month, if you aren’t going to keep track of your money who will? God? No.

-set up some bigger goals that you plan on reaching from sugaring. It’s maybe paying off that student loan, signing up for masters degree, saving up for your own place, investing in stocks or a small start up of your own. You name it. But I’m sure there must be something more valuable to you than the shopping sprees. Tend to be more friendly to your future.

-I saw a movie few months back, and there was this scene where a bodyguard of a rich guy asks these SBs hanging in the mansion how are they investing their money? What they all said-shoes and bags. And then he spilled the basic truth, What y'all gonna do with them shoes and bags in few years? Mr X will replace you all with them younger bitches and then what? You gonna live in ya shoes? Damn. Opened my eyes. You ain’t gonna be sugaring forever.

-if you HAVE a vanilla job, don’t even dream about leaving/quitting! NO. No matter what or how good your SD is. No matter what he promises to you no matter how much money he gives you. THAT is NOT your PERMANENT INCOME. Allowance is your little/big lottery ticket you are getting every month/week. Treat it like one. It CAN be a losing one just from next time.

-be a HOE but a smart HOE. Always mention to these SDs your actual goals for your future, he is more likely to spend and help ya out with that education/business venture for example than he’ll be interested in spending on some flashy superficial stuff. I’ve learned that hard way.

-think about the way you get your allowance (wire transfer, pay pal, cheque etc) this does vary on a country you live in but CASH will always be the good old almighty cash.

-if he gives you a card, don’t buy everything you see! Take cash from ATMs and stack it. If that card is really at your disposal use it SMART. Pay your groceries with it, bills if possible, replace a thing in your home, help out your family if you are able. But don’t go on a crazy mall tour. Your SD won’t really give a damn how you used it, moreover you can earn bonus points if he notices you are spending it smart.

-I’m not saying that you should not go shopping eventually but be smart about it. Keep inventory of your wardrobe, do supply/demand chart. Do your supply renewal every 3 or 6 months. PLANNING is the mother of SPENDING. If you take care of your wardrobe it will always look fresh and new. Respect it. Remember- your bomb pussy earned that!

-you have stuff in your closet you haven’t worn a year? Great. Sell it online. It will clear up your space and get you some extra $$$.

-another tip on saving- don’t necessarily go all the time to beauty salons (if it’s not something mandatory you can’t do yourself), take some time and do your own mani/pedi, if you can style your hair (there’s some new brushes that literally do the straightening for you while using it, if I find a link I’ll post it) learn to do your own makeup. Don’t buy all the most expensive beauty products all the time, there are cheaper ones which are also good. Take note: BRAND sells the product. So don’t be a victim of someone’s successful advertising. Just because it’s a Dior cream it’s why you need to own it?

-stack as many SDs as possible, short time ones, regular ones, it means MORE money for your wallet.

-don’t show off, don’t bring that negativity out from people. It’s still bad energy and why would you possibly want to make yourself a problem or an unpleasant situation? E.g. Outing you to your friends family coworkers etc, list has no end. You DO NOT have to impress anyone! You live in your OWN skin NOT in other peoples EYES!

-if you can’t keep track of your finances/spendings hire an accountant, it will help you big time!

-take advantage of the sales when you are getting your food/wardrobe or whatever

-don’t be lazy and go to the restaurants all the time! LEARN how to cook if you don’t already know. I’m aware how delicious that home delivery is but the price of a single order could maybe cover more meals if you went to the supermarket. It’s ok occasionally ordering food/going out to eat but think how much you can save up just by cooking yourself.

-be bills and environmental friendly, which means that you don’t need to have all of your lights in the home ON all the time, take your charger out when finished charging your phone/computer, don’t leave your desktop running all day/night or on sleep mode. Same applies to your tv. Take showers instead of filling up the tub. You will be amazed how much all of that can reduce your monthly expenses! Now sum that up for a year! Oh, yes.

-instead of paying for a crazy expensive gym, go out for a run, work out at home/in nature, don’t be lazy and look up YouTube tutorials for different workouts that don’t include gym.

-use public transport whenever you can instead of taxis/uber/your own car (if you own one), take a bicycle if you can, it will do magic to your body and your bank account.

-learn the difference between your NEEDS and DESIRES. Your desire can be your worst enemy if you can’t control it.

-don’t hoard food! Do your supply AD HOC (when necessary).

-make list of all monthly expenses you have, write PROs and CONs for each. Ask yourself do you really need it every month? Cut all unnecessary things off that list.

-get a vanilla job if you already don’t have one!

Combine some of these tips and do good for yourself, doesn’t necessarily mean you have to follow up to the point rather customize it to your own convenience!

Be a smart Hoe with your money.

[brownsugarcinnamonbun]

Once upon I time I was on a POT date, and ended up comparing myself to a high end gym

It makes sense, hear me out

I was on a date with this god awful POT who was dead set on low balling me and claimed he didn’t see the “reason” behind a monthly allowance and would much rather pay per date, and here’s where it got interesting;

“Would you happen to have a gym membership?”

“Yes, I do”

“And is the gym you go to a nice gym?”

“Of course”

“Okay then, think of it like this. I am your gym, you come in and partake in your gym activities, use all the amenities provided to you by said gym. The hot tub, sauna, weight room, eliptical, treadmill, showers, locker: you use all of that. Why are you able to do that? Because you are a member and you pay a certain amount every month to do so; does your membership rate change if you go 4 times a month VS you going once a month? No it doesn’t, why you ask? Because regardless of whether or not you’re there, the gym needs to keep running, the electricity, water, and rental space all need to be paid for in order for that gym to run properly. Now, you say your gym is pretty nice? Which means you are willing to pay more for it because it’s nicer, the same rule applies to me. The more money that comes in, the nicer the gym is; better machines, it’s clean, and you end up getting more perks, why? Because since you pay extra you get extra. Don’t wanna pay that hearty membership fee? No worries! You can go to a cheaper gym! Will you get the same service? Will it look as nice? Absolutely not. Now say you don’t feel like working out in the same place as other people, and much rather have the place to yourself? That’s cool too! Now you’ve just built your own home gym AND hired a personal trainer who is there for you and you only! And you know what? That’s even more expensive, why? Because now you have exclusivity, and that gym is for you and you only. Does it make sense now? If you want a gorgeous, poised, clean cut, elegant sugar baby; you will have to pay a larger amount than if you just want your average Susie Q, and don’t get me wrong; there’s probably nothing wrong with Susie, but is she anything special? Is she a luxury? Does she fit seamlessly into your high rise lifestyle? Absolutely not. Therefore you should not demand YSL product at Walmart prices, you cheap piece of shit" Needless to say it didn’t work out and he ended up going back home to his Susie Q wife

[bilyeubabe]

how do you start off as a sugar baby I'm trying to start off and idk how

Do lots and lots of research! Google and following other sugar babes on here taught me everything I know honestly. I honestly don’t even know where to begin with telling you how to get started other than doing every ounce of research you possibly can and don’t be afraid to ask questions. Know what you are getting yourself into because being a sugar baby is glamorized but it takes A LOT to find a decent sugar daddy. I’m going to try to give you as many tips as I can as to how to start out.

I have to say it again, DO YOUR RESEARCH. Google is helpful but I’ve found that following people in the bowl on here is much more informative.

Before you sign up for any sugar baby/sugar daddy websites, make a list of things you’re willing to do and things you are not willing to do. Do not let any amount of money change that for you, unless you are truly open to and okay with it. I had a friend who had a sugar daddy who was super dominant and overpowering in bed and he gave her an incredible monthly allowance but it destroyed her mental health. Do not be that person. Stick to your guns.

Come up with a monthly allowance that you want, be reasonable but do not low ball yourself. Come up with the minimum allowance you’ll be okay with receiving and do not let any of these POTs talk you down from it. That’s the biggest mistake I see new sugar babes making. But do not and I repeat, DO not compare your allowance to other sugar babes. A lot of girls fabricate their allowance and others had to go through many sugar daddies to get that high allowance or have been in the bowl for awhile. Do not let comparison be the thief.

Come up with a sugaring name, do not use your real name. Also create a separate email with said sugaring name and use that to communicate with POTs. Never text from your real number. Use a burner app. I use Pinger and TextNow.

I recommend starting off with SeekingArrangement to search for a sugar daddy. Do not use any photos of yourself on there that link back to your personal accounts (Facebook and Instagram). Take new photos just for sugaring and don’t upload those to your personal accounts. You don’t want them to be able to reverse image search and trace back to you. My public photos on there are of my body in form fitting clothing and photos of my face from the nose down. My private photos are more body pictures and full face photos. Some girls put full face photos as their public photo but I choose not to as I have 20k+ followers on Instagram and Twitter on my personal accounts. I’m super cautious and don’t want just anyone knowing about my sugar life.

This is my rule and not every sugar baby agrees but do not ever send nudes to a POT. I think there’s no reason to do so until after you’re in an arrangement IF you choose to do so. But be smart about it. Never send nudes with your face in them because you don’t want that popping up later in life.

Anytime you meet up with a POT, make sure it is in a public place. NEVER get into a POT’s car or go to a POTs house on a first date. I don’t care if he says he has a check written for you for 50 million dollars there, don’t do it. Always make sure someone who knows about your sugar life knows where you’re going and who you’re with, in case things go south. I have a few close friends and my sister who know that I sugar. Anytime I meet up with a POT, they know who what when and where. If you don’t feel comfortable letting anyone know in your personal life, please message me and let me know.

Do not EVER sleep with a sugar daddy until after you’ve received your allowance. Don’t fall for that test drive bull. You are not a Ferrari dealership.

I honestly can’t think of anything else and I hope this helped but just be safe! And if you have any questions, do not hesitate to ask. 💖

Also read through:http://bilyeubabe.tumblr.com/tagged/sugar+baby+tips

[ehhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhd-blog]

When a man asks you about an ideal arrangement:

Well, good question. My ideal arrangement is where we are both comfortable with each other. You get a bit of what you want  and I get a bit of what I want. You get to be with a sexy, romantic, vibrant, mature, and (sexual girl) who’s also charismatic, and intelligent, etc and I get to be with a man who is willing to provide financial need in my life. I want to feel like a queen and a man who can invest in me is a keeper in my book. I am open to intimacy eventually. I am happy with per meet or monthly allowances. I do like cash though. I am happy per meet when we are platonic, and then when intimacy is involve and you see my sexual side, I am happy for a monthly allowance (of course money raised). I have been doing this for a good amount of time to know what I want. Per meet, I am totally comfortable of minimum _____. I would like to know if you are willing to let me see other men because if so, then monthly will just be doubled but if not monthly will be around ____. (Remember the more you invest in me, the more luxurious I can be for you and the more “prettier” I can be ;).

[cantncantnana]

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[slave4blkdaddy]

Meee

[angelsugarb-deactivated20180603]

Yall will not believe the last few weeks I’ve had.....

Warning, this might be a hella long story. 

So anyway, a few weeks ago I get a booking request for an overnight in a big city about four hours away. I’m like yes bitch gonna go make this moooneyyy. He’s 47, puts down a deposit, his references check out, we’re good to go (not, I honestly only checked his references bc I was lazy). Well the guy texts me like literally everyday to confirm his appointment. Not only that but he messages me on Eccie and P411 to confirm as well. Each time I’m like, YES OUR APPOINTMENT IS STILL ON YOU DO NOT NEED TO CONFIRM. But he does anyway, repeatedly, so I don’t respond to any of them until two days before the appointment. He seems excited. I’m excited to get money.

The hotel was really nice but in a super shady part of town. I arrived and went up to the room and this man is NOT 47!! He is, at most, 30. I’m confused because obviously his reference would have said something when I confirmed with her that he was 47. And he’s like “Okay so I may have fibbed a bit about my age, but your website said you only see men over 35 and i really wanted to see you. I’m even going to pay you $800 extra, check the envelope”. 

I’m fuming out of my ears I’m so mad at this point. But I get out my counterfeit pen and check all the bills anyway. And he did pay me extra. I figured I was already four hours away from my home town and he wasn’t terrible looking, might as well make some money. BIG MISTAKE.

The date went well. We actually were only intimate once the rest of the time was spent watching stand up comedy and eating room service. He was really fucking awkward. Supposedly he was a tech-geek that had sold his start up for millions, thus allowing him the freedom of paying so much for escorts. 

We parted ways and as soon as I leave I get a lengthy “it was so nice to meet you i had an amazing time” text. And then I get another one the day after, and the day after that. He tries to start conversations with me, everyday!!!!! I finally tell him that I would prefer for our interactions to be professional and to limit the conversation. He loses his shit and calls me a whore, a cunt, a ton of names. I block his number. 

A week later I get an evelope in my PO box with a letter written in dark red marker “CUNT thanks for blocking my number, as if that would stop me from contacting you dumb bitch”. Literally the most cinematically dramatic shit ever. Then I start getting texts from him, but different phone numbers. Emails too. Some are apologies and pleads for me to respond. Others are fits of rage.

I finally get in contact with the girl that gave him a reference. She admitted to being paid to give him a good rec and deeply apologized lmfao. 

I change my number, my email address, my URL for my website. I don’t hear from him, everything is okay. Then I get another fucking envelope but to my home. I can not tell you the fear that I felt when I opened that envelope. I had no idea how he found out where I lived. The letter said “Hope you don’t mind that everyone knows you’re a whore”. I checked myself into a hotel far as fuck away from my apartment and called my aunt and spilled everything to her and asked her what I should do. She was shocked but totally cool with it and told me exactly what to do. 

I hired an “independent detective” (a PI lmao) to find this guy and find out anything he could about him. The fee for this dude took half of my savings, along with the hotel I had been in for two weeks. He found out that this guy is actually 21, in school at a prestigious university, and did not sell his company just has very rich parents. He found out where I lived by emailing my clients and threatening them until one of them eventually caved (obv not seeing that client ever again). I compiled a bunch of stuff I could use to “ruin” him and then paid an additional fee to the PI to basically scare him off. It has worked because I haven’t heard a thing. 

But to be safe, I deactivated all accounts, I broke my lease and moved to a better, more secure apartment, I got a new personal phone/phone number (just in case) and got a burner phone specifically for clients. I just started working for the first time yesterday and its been hard getting back in to the swing of things and more or less having to start over. When he emailed every client that had ever left a review he fucked my reputation and some of my of clients are afraid to see me. SO I had to literally create a whole new escorting persona. 

I’m hiring a booking agent/assistant to manage my appointments and to properly/vigorously screen new clients. I’m almost terrified to even see new clients but the woman I’ve been in touch with has access to softwares that can check out a man for EVERYTHING. So I trust her. I’m also raising my rates because I lost close to all of my savings dealing with this. Moral of the story, screen your clients. Check everything, require multiple references. Screen like your life depends on it. 

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You must screen and DO NOT BE AFRAID TO SCREEN HEAVILY!!! AND GIRLS DONT GIVE FAKE REFERENCES EVEN IF HE PAYS YOU!; ITS NOT WORTH IT TO PUT PEOPLE’S LIVES ON THE LINE

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My Hustle

You girls know that I tried so many different hustles and nothing worked like this one. I want to share the tips. I mix escorting and sugaring approach but in my mind the lines are never crossed and very clear. Why this approach works is that men are usually reluctant to use escort services because it’s too square for them with agencies and with indie escorts they don’t like the unattached feeling. I present myself as the girl next door, sexy and whoaa?? willing to talk to them! It drives them insane and they are already looking for ways to fuck me. So I introduce my terms right at that moment and if they are in that mindset they go for it. In escorting business, conditions are presented at first stage before they can bond with the product and have some sense of comfort around you. So it puts some men off. 

My understanding of sugaring evolved. To me it’s escorting with subscription. Don’t tell me that you have poise, intelligence, conversational skills. So does escort girls. They’re given gifts, taken out on dinners and some guys book just for conversation.

Our target audience’s behavior changed. In the last couple of days I’ve seen girls complaining how sugar bowl isn’t what it used to be anymore. I understand the frustration but as business owners we either adjust or wither.

At the end of the day it boils down to arbitrary of whether to fuck same guy 50 times or fuck 50 guys once. However you’re comfortable.

I will try to explain how I handle a couple of points.

My Persona: Especially in where I live, rich people more and more move to other countries and they usually prefer to date celebrities. Plus, men here are mean to local girls but they put foreigners on pedestals. So for a local guy my persona is a foreigner with some family ties here, she’s visiting them, working as freelance PA and studying. For travelers I’m local and exotic. So I only communicate in English. Because my voice sounds sexy and soft only in English, lol.

Timing: Back to subscriptions. In my experience, sex has an expiration date or it gets better the longer it waits. For example, if you contact someone and arrange to meet in a week, it won’t happen. But if you arrange to meet someone and it somehow fails, don’t contact them next week. Wait at least 3 months. So I try to move as fast as possible with my appointments. Hi how are you? 20:00. Screening. Pay. Fuck. Thank you, Sir. I’ve seen so many posts about sugars keeping him wait for as long as possible. It may work for some type of men but in here if the guy would wanted to hear the answer no, he would have gone to his wife. These men are out there looking to get laid.

Pricing and Market Segmentation: My clients are either nouveau riche or rich people who aren’t really generous. They bring their hard earned money to me. Some can’t afford to be regulars. They just want to have fun every once in a while. They don’t take me out on fancy dates. They don’t do anything fancy. My selections are based on them being kind, no negotiation and willingness to share info for screening. I haven’t met anyone gross so far. They treated me really nice. And they love my body. I seriously haven’t met anyone who wants to have sugar relationship so far. Unless they are using it to scam young girls like my chocolate POT. They want no bs sex and that’s what you need to use to your advantage. You can still use hoe tactics and get yourself taken out if you want to tolerate to be begged for sex and some sexual tension from his end everyday but I just realized I didn’t have time for that and I would very much like to have my money.

Behavior: Two things are important here; 1. High threshold for bullshit. 2. Sweetness. You have to be VERY good at detecting bullshit and stopping it before it happens in a very kind and sweet manner. Because they’ll give you bullshit 24/7. That’s in the job description. You need to turn it around and refuse it without making them feel rejected and embarrassed. Whenever they ask me nudes I explain them that I’m a student at a top tier school and I’m only escorting to pay that so I can have a career some day and I don’t want these pics to haunt me. The other day, after I turned down that guy who asked my nudes while I was sick saying I will contact him later and that it’s my turn at doctor’s office and never hit him up. I have tried no bullshit approach but really, the real no bs approach that works is doing it without letting him know. Often times when you refuse something, you’re the bad cop. Always be the good cop and deflect the blame on something else. 

“I would love to entertain you but my career doesn’t allow me to spread my nudes.“ 

"Aww, sweetie.. That’s such a generous offer but I am on a mission to be able to cover my college debt so I’m afraid I will have to look for more generous offers.”

“I would love to spend the whole night with you but my room mates doesn’t know that I’m in this line of work so I wouldn’t want them questioning anything.” (if you can’t stay even for extra money)

Other two things you need to be is quick and direct. Men have short attention span. If you keep talking to them for hours with no plans they’ll get bored. Also in my experience whenever I sent one of my long proses about what I’m looking for etc, they felt like I was trying to scam them. Even most men on SA don’t understand sugaring and it feels like a scam for them. I keep things short and sweet and move quickly. I’ll demonstrate at the end of my writing.

Your time’s worth: I’ve seen ladies thinking that their time is the most precious thing on earth and money should rain down on them just for existing. I make myself approachable for these men if they want to get to know me. I know escorts hate when their clients hit them up 2557976321580 times a day but I try my best to keep the communication for as long as it’s not too invasive. This is where escorting and sugaring approach blends. They want you approachable and they want the kitty asap. You should work that ego because it’s 90% stroking the ego and 10% stroking the cock. This is where the whole scam is. Fill the void get the money. Another scam trick I use is that, I don’t charge by the hour. My flat rate is 1k and that’s the worth of a date with me. They get to choose what they want to do. Of course there’s a mental limit in my mind and always an excuse available if they are taking too long. But I never needed to use it. My first booking got tired after 2 hours. Second booking cuddled the whole time and was done by the end of an hour. Third, also lasted 1,5h with 30mins of horrendous sex and 1h chilling on couch. 4th, 15 minutes for whole appointment. They always want to push for an overnight but I love my solitude so much for that. I kindly tell them that my room mates would get worried and they don’t know that I escort. Always does the trick. I know this part is an unpopular opinion and it’s open for exploitation but you need to make sure you hold the reigns and keep things sweet and short.

Here’s a demonstration of how my tinder conversations go.

-Hi hello you’re so hot

-Aww thanks babe, so are you. [insert some small talk

-How can I meet you? Omg your curves!!!

-I’d love that!! We could have some fun/nice evening/great time. so, are you interested in spoiling me then?

-How would you like to be spoiled?/YES!! I AM!!

-I’m used to get 1k for my time for a nice evening with a gentleman. 

-That’s fine, are you available tonight?

Easy peasy, my queens

PS: The ones that says “fair enough”, “that’s alright” etc will go straight to set up a time for booking. They rarely flake. It is safe to ask them for gifts.If they keep asking you questions or haggle, beware. If questions come after agreeing to your rate then it means they are curious about you which isn’t bad. Stroke that ego. I try to spare 5 minutes every day until we meet and it becomes less and less frequent after the booking but it’s never completely over unless they cut the communication. 

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Going from low-end to luxury, my story.

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You know what you guys? The reason it bothers me so much that I’m being attacked so much from lower end level girls, is because I worked so fucking hard to be where I am today. I was one of those girls. I had no experience. I was terrified of every call. I had one outfit and one set of lingerie from fucking Ross. My figure wasn’t the best. I had a weird hair color because I had gotten it stripped. I didn’t know what anything meant. I was helpless. I hated every single client. I remember the trauma of the perverts you see when your cheap and new. They would be fucking me saying some nasty shit and in my head I would be thinking “I hate you, I hate you, I hate you, it’s almost over, I hate you so much”. My first day I cried for an hour on the way home. I worked with three popular girls who were booked regularly. And I sat in the hotel, or the car, helping them apply makeup, cheering them on for their next client. (Today I have surpassed all of them in notoriety, looks, income, bookings, and rates, and I’m the only one to escape the agency.) What set me apart from these girls, and from the girls who attack me on tumblr etc. is I had ambition. I knew my time would come because I was going to make sure it did. I had drive. I began brainstorming on how to make myself as successful as possible. I worked out religiously. I made my agent take new pictures constantly. I had the idea to take group pictures, with the other girls. We did shower pictures, sex poses, everything. After that things changed. I started getting clients. I begged every person who saw me to write a review and I built a reputation. People knew I was beautiful, smart, kind, had a great body, and was great in bed. They knew I was worth the money. So I plotted my next move. I went to the next city over. I was the only one from the agency to work there. It was the right move. My phone was off the hook. I would wake up to 10 text message requests. I took everything. EVERYTHING. I said no to nobody. I did BNGs, I said yes to every offer that came in. If someone had $100 for a half hour, and I had no one else coming, I fucking let them come. I stacked up those extra small money appointments. I kept my whole day filled. I wasn’t snooty. During this time the money started rolling in. My rates went up. My reputation preceded me. Moderators booked me. Big time hobbyist booked me. Those reviews brought lots of attention. I was kind. I was gracious. I was thankful. I kept going. During this time I put away everything I made. I knew I needed a breast and nose job to jump to high end. I saved everything. I didn’t buy clothes. I bought lingerie at Ross every couple of months. I literally owned like five pieces I would rotate. Jealousy started amongst the other girls. They were jealous of my money. I had $10,000 in a safe and they didn’t have their rent. But the difference between us was desire. They didn’t want to be available all the time. They didn’t accept low ball offers. They wasted money on their boyfriends. They were not like me. We were heading in different directions. After my surgery I was busier easily. All the time. I had double DS. I was hot. I was established. But things were going south for me and the agency. Fighting was constant. I recognized the sexism. I didn’t trust them to advertise aggressively, to update constantly. I didn’t think they deserved 30% of my income. When I quit it was a bang of gunfire. I had never been so alone. My friends were gone. My job was gone. I was broke and confused. And you know what I did??? I worked. I emailed all the websites I was posted in for weeks until I got control of all my old profiles. When I did I changed everything. Updated all my ads. Thought everything out. Took new pictures. Advertised like a mother fucker. When I started making money I raised my prices again. I worked. I started tanning. I upped my workouts. Dieted. Took new photos religiously. Purchased the best advertising options.

Even today I fucking slave away. I search photographers, website designers, I am thinking constantly of ways to get an edge. I advertise everywhere. I post new ads take new photos. I fucking work. I travel every other week. I treat every client as a potential regular. And I will be an international, travel ready, 1000 an hour escort. And it won’t be long. Every dollar I make gets reinvested back into my brand. I have a legacy, a brand, I think every move through. Yes I’m beautiful. But more importantly I’m smart and hardworking. You can be like me but be ready to fucking slave away. And before you hate on me. Realize your opinion is irrelevant because I’ve already became everything I wanted to be.

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Aw

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SA SCAM

Is is just me or is a lot of guys asking for account number and banking login information. I had 3 different people ask me for it and it’s super weird. Of course i didn’t give them neither just wanna know if I’m the only one coming across this. Also right after I can’t get access to their profiles 🤔🤔🤔