Filling my Cup

Self-Help Guru, Yogi, Problem Solver and Thinker.

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You’ve read the books, attended the seminars, done the chanting and burned the incense, but you’re still waiting for your fucking unicorn.

Michelle Gordon, “Where’s my F***ing Unicorn?” A guide to life, your unicorn and everything. 

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Don’t Ever Read a Diet Book Again

At least until you make up your mind about your “Go-to Diet”. Every diet book has this format: it starts off by telling you how all diets don’t work. It will tell you that it is not your fault, and will then use some scientific research to back up their point of view of all these diets so you feel validated. Then they suggest the ultimate diet and tell you why it is better than everything else. We live in a time where the only way to sell a self-help book is by passing it off as the ultimate be-all solution. Have you bought this before? do you find yourself going back to these? 

When I say you need to make up your mind about your go to diet. Yes definitely look into different things and pick something that works for you. Know that all diets work in the short term (which means that non would fail. POSITIVE!), but that only healthy lifelong habits will sustain your lifestyle. In other words all diets will ultimately fail. Don’t let anyone take your hard earned money to tell you differently.

My goal is to end the cycle of dieting. To also be healthy and still achieve goals when it comes to fitness. Using the Science behind diets and also the psychology of habits. I have developed a strategy to make this happen. And will be making more blog posts about this in the future. 

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The Books that end all books.

I recently picked up a book titled “Where’s my f***ing Unicorn?” with the intention of gifting it to someone who has a hard time finding motivation to read but loves Unicorns. The author proclaims that this book is one that can end the cycle of self help books. Not to stop reading them or learning from them, but to end the part of the cycle where you put the book down thinking it might actually change your life and then going back to old habits. The book is basically a very achievable list of concepts and ideas to follow in order to achieve this. Thoroughly enjoyed reading it and there was a list of recommended books in the end I will be happy to get through as well. 

So although in this case the title was a little bit misleading, it belongs in that revolutionary self help era, where concepts are explained simply and bluntly. We can put them to action right away!

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Courage is a heart word. The root of the word courage is cor - the Latin word for heart. In one of its earliest forms, the word courage meant "To speak one's mind by telling all one's heart." Over time, this definition has changed, and today, we typically associate courage with heroic and brave deeds. But in my opinion, this definition fails to recognize the inner strength and level of commitment required for us to actually speak honestly and openly about who we are and about our experiences -- good and bad. Speaking from our hearts is what I think of as 'ordinary courage'.

Brené Brown, I Thought It Was Just Me: Women Reclaiming Power and Courage in a Culture of Shame

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Giving Advice

To a younger coworker about to start college. Worry less and treat yourself better. I look back at my twenties and wish only that I had been less responsible and had more fun. That is what they’re meant for.