Slow to Speak
Disclaimer: I did not write this with the recent world events in mind, it just surprisingly lines up pretty well. God is good at putting things on people’s minds, I guess.
Second Disclaimer: I got another fountain pen and I wanted to test it out. I wouldn’t call it a success but it wasn’t a complete flop either.
I heard a piece advice (not given directly to me) a couple of months ago and I wish I could remember who told me, but the advice was something like,
“try and let someone finish their entire thought before you try and speak”
I immediately took that as an obvious piece of advice… “don’t interrupt people, duh”. Well, I was totally wrong. I had a group conversation happen really soon after that moment, and that’s where my eyes (ears?) were opened.
Everyone cuts each other off ALL the time.
It’s crazy how often someone will start saying something, and then another person will jump in before the first person is finished. I don’t think anyone got a full sentence in on that conversation before another person jumped in with their opinion. No one was really interrupting each other, more like quickly filling pauses. Now, you might be thinking, “man that was a terrible conversation”, but NO ONE was mean, upset, or even really disagreeing with each other. It was a normal conversation about an upcoming event, and if you asked anyone they would probably say that it was completely normal and went well.
The more I paid attention to this advice, the more I realized how terrible of a listener I am. There were SO many times I wanted to jump in and finish a thought before someone else was finished speaking. In my next conversation, I had to consciously think about that piece of advice so that the person I was talking to could finish what they were saying.
“Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God.” ~ James 1:19-20
Slow to speak. Turns out that wisdom is from the bible. I don’t believe the phrase “slow to speak” in this verse means “speak slowly”, because right before that it says “quick to hear” (other translations say “listen”). When Jesus walked the earth, while I’m not 100% positive, based on what I’ve read so far, Jesus didn’t interrupt people very often. In the past year I’ve read Mark a couple of times all the way through now, and many times Pharisees would come to Jesus and tell him whatever they thought he was doing wrong, and every instance we usually get the Pharisees’ full perspective. Even Jesus, having the full right and infinite wisdom to interrupt the Pharisees at any moment because they were wrong (and, being God, Jesus even knew what they were going to say), was quick to listen. If you look back into the Old Testament and read Job (I also read through this book recently), it’s almost agonizing how long God lets Job and his friends speak before he confronts Job.
**Add new, present day ending because I didn’t finish this thought until now. The ending includes knowledge of all the crazy world events that are happening**
I could be delusional (it’s possible, you never know), but I don’t think many people would have called me a bad listener before I thought about all of this, but now I’m trying to make a concerted effort to be quicker to listen and slower to speak. Especially in times like this, where there are multiple world crises, pandemics and so many hot opinions on more sides than I can count. The general sentiment/world view is to try and scream as loud as we can, and while I definitely have a stance (in a nutshell - I have mixed views on the pandemic, and I’m totally against racism) and I’m not judging any of the posts or anything recently, I’m praying that being quicker to listen will help me respond with kindness more often than not.
(But like I said, I could be delusional, you never know)










