ā secret side blog for (horny) lesbian yearning: follows and likes from a different blog (see below)
ā flirt with me i'm pretty<3
ā lesbian | 27 (1999) | she/her | call me sof
ā nsft but not only
ā healthily obsessed with my girlfriend + polyam/open
follows and likes from a blog with a misspelled plant name with one letter replaced by an x (sorry for being vague i'm irrationally worried about specific people finding me ugh)
more to know if we interact
ā zi0nists and transphobes can eat a lightbulb and swallow hard, can't believe i have to announce that when interacting with queers
ā might not follow back before chatting more to keep my main hidden but doesn't mean i'm not down to interact (this is a sideblog so i'm cursed)
ā asks are welcome, i like attention and excuses to post more
what i might post about
ā mostly how desperately in love and down bad i am for this woman
ā lesbian yearning in general
ā the nsft thoughts baby they're numerous
ā other topics that make up my life: art, community, activism, work, pains
more about me
ā since i talk about my girlfriend a lot: we've been together long distance for +6 years, she's been with her other partner for 5, so we're a little family of dykes and all technically open to other people but constantly overwhelmed with life. i love them so dearly
ā i'm a big crafting, diy, recycling, reusing type of creative so if you want to chat about projects i looooove that. i write and make zines as well. i sew, do lino and draw, bunch of things really
ā currently reading the locked tomb (with girlfriend, of course) and not being normal about it
ā since that comes up in everyone's pinned on lesbian tumblr: not butch or femme but the secret third thing (a hot rat)
ā covid cautious and masking, and if you're not, i'm willing to explain to you why and help you figure out how. if you don't care, i'm definitely judging you. protect each other or rot, don't be a selfish queer fuck, community doesn't just mean throwing parties at the gay bar
tags that do exist but aren't all sorted yet :
#asks
#sof = my own posts
#polyam stuff = self explanatory
#gf posting = about my girlfriend
#h posting = horny posting you get it
#lesbian yearning = self explanatory
#pumpkin posting = about my crush hehe
might add stuff later, feel free to ask questions, let's hang
I seem to have recently become the type of girl who will, in actual fact, kick her feet in excitement if she happens to be texting a charming young lady while in bed
iām possessive but also a big lover of bodily autonomy. so itās like. wear what i tell you but also you donāt have to and you can do whatever you want. and youāre mine but also youāre a person and donāt belong to anyone. show me your tits but also only if you want you donāt owe me anything.
just a reminder that calling covid cautious people "paranoid" or saying we must have "undiagnosed OCD" or "severe anxiety" for spreading truth about the dangers of covid is not only incredibly condescending and literally (i do not use this word lightly) gaslighting, it corroborates fascist and eugenicist rhetoric. covid IS NOT "just a cold." covid reinfections DO increase your likelihood of long COVID and death, including immune system deficit that is not something that can be felt, here's 85+ studies on how covid deteriorates the body. rapid tests DO often and in fact most times give false negatives (taking 3 spaced out helps bridge this gap, and NAAT tests such as the metrix and pluslife have much higher accuracy, those two over 97% each), and masks DO work, particularly well-fitted respirators (kn95/n95/ffp2/3 depending on country; two-way masking is much safer than one-way masking which is why everyone who can needs to mask to protect their community, but one-way masking is still MUCH safer than no masking). masking resources
don't panic or assume your life is over if you have an infection, get as much rest as you can for 6-8 weeks post infection to aid recovery and lower long covid risk (especially do your best to avoid raising your heart rate; this includes watching your heart rate during masturbation and sex!), and do practice harm reduction rather than demanding perfection from yourselves, absolutely.
but do not use "perfect safety is impossible" as an excuse not to care for your community and yourself by masking, do not encourage antimasking by calling covid cautious people paranoid or OCD or mentally ill for putting forth basic truths on our and your reality. there is a conversation to be had about caring for mental health of activists, but gaslighting us and denying the reality we live in is going to make it worse, not better. you are playing into eugenicist rhetoric whether you intend to or not.
this post is a fantastic guide to staying covid safer in your sex life! w more information on safety measures including NAAT tests and how to start re-incorporating exercise and heart rate raising including masturbation after covid infections
to everyone still masking, sending love ā¤ļø to anyone who stopped, it's never too late to start again!
Also, as someone who's struggling with OCD and has for most of my life, including germophobia, it's not even remotely the same thing. My OCD is irrational and illogical and controlling and disordered and destructive. It offers nothing positive to my life. Being COVID conscious and still taking precautions comes from logic, science, and facts. It comes from my disabilities getting worse after both of my infections and still being worse almost a full year after my second one and needing to take science based steps to reduce my risk of reinfection. It comes from not wanting to risk infecting others, with COVID and every other contagious, airborne illness; especially my significant other who's really immunocompromised. Yes, still taking precautions makes life harder to navigate, but that's because most people have given up any semblance of doing the same; it's not because I'm letting the illogical, disordered part of my brain control me. I didn't see anyone else comment on this yet, so I figured I'd chime in.
the heat makes me feel miserable but the upside is that i know a topless grumpy dyke constantly dripping with mysterious water (did i just wet my hair to cool off? have i been spraying water? is it sweat? who knows) is hot to a lot of you queers
tested positive for covid. well wishes appreciated (nobody freak out though please. immunocompromised so this is scary but trying to stay calm for best recovery) and if you want to help us afford more covid tests (can't get Metrix tests for free that we know of unfortunately), "sick supplies," warm pajamas bc i don't actually have those, and groceries/rent support as usual, would be a huge help. anyone covid knowledgeable w info on how to avoid long covid in case we don't know it yet please feel free to add in comments/a reblog/etc
wear your masks y'all. we mask everywhere in a very high quality n95 and still caught it being around unmasked strangers. don't get vulnerable people like us sick
if you've enjoyed or benefited from my covid safety info please consider helping me out here. could use some spirit lifting as symptoms kick in and also importantly material support for recovery
describing something to my doctor that i would only know by having penetrative sex and then saying i don't have any pregnancy risk and not being met with further questioning or surprise is cool. im not sure i vibe with her and two of my friends had bad experiences but queer sexual experiences being normal and not new to her mind is nice