LGBT+ help and advice

If you have any LGBT related questions, this is the place to ask. Submissions of pictures and stories welcome. Current mods are mod Oliver.

[lgbthelp]

Hi. I'm a lesbian but I don't want to come out to my family. They aren't homophobic or anything but they just ask weird questions about being gay and sex between gay people (I know this because I have a gay cousin) I just don't know what to do and can I just not come out to them? Thank you

You don't have to come out to them if you don't want to! Nobody is entitled to know! Your parents seem to ask questions because they're curious and don't know a lot about it so try to be patient with them! - Oliver

[lgbthelp]

yo, my name is Oliver, too! But i tend to go by Oli

I also go by Oli! It just depends on who I'm talking to! I have a lot of nicknames given by my friends! You guys can feel free to call me any nicknames you want!- Oliver

[lgbthelp]

I have a confusing question, I'm pretty sure I'm a Trans boy and I really like girls but I like girls from a female perspective? Like, if I see a girl I'm attracted to I'm like, "holy fuck im so gay for her" even though I'm a guy and Idk what is even going on

You're probably just not use to yourself as a boy yet. It sounds weird since you know who you are, but it actually does take time to adjust. You're used to being called the opposite gender all the time. You'll get used to it, I'm sure! Plus, I say I'm gay for somebody despite their gender- Oliver

[lgbthelp]

help me i think im gay, im not homophobic or anything i just know how difficult it is and im afraid, what if my parents hate me?

I'm sure they won't hate you! It is pretty scary at first but it gets easier! Just surround yourself with accepting people!- Oliver

[lgbthelp]

I think I might be genderfluid, how can I know for sure?

The best way to know for sure is to give it time!- Oliver

[lgbthelp]

Why do I feel broken. I feel like a messed up and wrong. I wanna be proud of who I am but there is so many hateful people what do I do

Unfortunately this is a common feeling. You are not broken, though. None of you are. Once you realize that it's easier to be proud. Being proud is a wonderful feeling! - Oliver

[lgbthelp]

i feel kind of invalid bc i'm a girl who likes girls and boys, but i lean more towards boys. am i valid? what if i end up with a boy? what if my family thinks it's just a phase?

You're completely valid! It's normal to have more attraction to one gender over the other! Just explain it's not a phase, you just happened to fall in love with someone of the opposite gender!- Oliver

[lgbthelp]

i identify as a bisexual male and have a preference towards guys but i rarely experience sexual attraction towards females. am i really gay or still bi?

You can be bi with a preference, or more attraction, towards one gender!- Oliver

[lgbthelp]

Hey, I was wondering if it was still considered being Bi if you like guys and nonbinary? Or is Bi just for girls and guys? Thank you!!

Nope, it's not only girls and guys!- Oliver

[lgbthelp]

most of my close friends just came out as pansexual and i think they are trying to find out my sexuality (lesbian?) but im still on the fence about everything and i don't think i'm ready yet, i havent told anyone. should i tell them??

You don't have to tell anybody if you don't want to and nobody should force you!- Oliver

[lgbthelp]

I've decided not to "come out' by making any announcement or sitting people down, simply by just dating/marrying my SO and mentioning them in conversation like het people do. My friends say that not having an announcement is selfish and the people around me deserve to know. Do you think I'm wrong by not wanting to?

You're not wrong at all! You do not have to come out to anybody. It's not a requirement!- Oliver

[lgbthelp]

If I'm biromantic/panromantic homosexual, is it ok that i sometimes enjoyed having sex with a men in a long relationship? I've experienced penis repulsion, but sometimes when I was so focused on the feelings that i forgot about him being a men, I enjoyed it. Can i still identify as homosexual ?

I suppose you could! Sometimes sex isn't always necessarily sexual. It can be romantic as like if you wanted to feel closer to them and whatnot.- Oliver

[lgbthelp]

does demiromantic bisexual make sense? like that's what i think I am, but i'm confused if there's a different term or it doesn't make sense idk

That makes sense to me!- Oliver

[lgbthelp]

Can I be asexual heterosexual? Also, what is heteroromantic?

I believe you'd be asexual heteroromantic which is being romantically attracted to the opposite gender as in dating them and stuff!-Oliver

[lgbthelp]

Are people who are asexual hetero part of the lgbtqia+ community?

Yes! -Oliver

[lgbthelp]

Can demisexuals not want to have sex, even if they form attraction towards someone? Can demisexuals be sex-repulsed?

Absolutely! People of any sexuality can be sex repulsed!-Oliver

[lgbthelp]

I want to go to the pride thing in anchorage but I'm not out yet and I need to ask my dad for permission and I don't know how any ideas?

If you're going with someone just say you're going to support them- Oliver