Divorce in the time of social media
Social media has helped people connect and stay connected with their loved ones. We can all share our triumphs and struggles in real time. Its incredible. But it is also so painful. Time and perspective give us a different view of our past. What was once a beautiful moment we couldn’t wait to share with everyone, is now a haunting reminder of the life we no longer have. The dreams that ended. The joys that didn’t last.
I have now been separated from my Wasband for 3.5years. We have both moved on and are quite happy in our new lives. Our kids are doing amazing. This new life is good. Really good, even if really hard. But logging into my social media accounts some days is harder than others. Today would have been my 11th wedding anniversary. As happy as I am in my new life, it hits a nerve to be reminded of the life I will never have again.
Divorce isn’t a bad thing. As they say, no good marriage ends in divorce. So its always a blessing. But just because its not bad, doesn’t mean it isn’t HARD. Wasband and I were never a good match for each other. We struggled a lot. We tried very hard. But we just weren’t meant to be together. But we had kids together. So on some level, we will always be together. How we see that involvement is drastically different however, and that is the part that is hardest for me. But thats a different post.
I think with social media how it is, we almost need to process our trauma faster than ever before. We need to become more efficient at dealing with our Big Bads. Thats not a bad thing, and Im excited to continue my journey of healing and growing through this. But damn, its not easy. Take care friends, we got this.