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AMBER AND HARLEY ARE CURRENTLY TAKING A BREAK AND WILL BE BACK AS SOON AS POSSIBLE Disclaimer: We're not professionals, we are a support blog and can only offer advice. We don't promote harmful behavior or glorify disorders and are pro-recovery. Talking to professionals/authorities is always advised when appropriate KiK: Amber_ltd Harley_ltd LexxyLtD secretseverlasting Please read the FAQ's/Rules in the About Us section.

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But I mean from someone online. Have you ever?

I have yes. A couple of times when I was younger and I guess in a way talking on here and telling my story. Harley xxxx

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As someone whose not opened up to many have you ever been able to?

I have been able to open up to a very select few. It is very hard for me I'm not going to lie. Sometimes I feel like my own worst enemy when it comes to talking to people. I put a block up before I even start. But I'm learning. Harley xxxx

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Hey there guys

Hey everyone. I'm really sorry but I will be coming off of the blog for a while I'm not sure how long for. Things are not good for me at the minute and I'm having a lot of trouble health and mental health wise. I'm in counselling and going through a lot with that and I don't feel like I'm stable or in a good place to fully support or give you all the best advice that you need. I am so sorry. Things have gotten really bad and it's knocked me down and regressed my mental health a lot which is making a massive impact on my functional neurological disorder and I'm not handling things very well right now. Counselling is in early progress and im being referred to several outlets by them as they are worried about the state of my mental health. I'm not at harm to myself physically but I am mentally. Again I'm very sorry. Keep smiling and be strong remember we can all fight our demons. Harley Xxx

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Amber

Hey lovelies,

I'm just writing a quick post, to once again apologize for my absence, and to explain everything a little.

Like I said previously, I'm having a lot of trouble at the moment, and I've come to the decision that it's best for me to take a break from the blog at the moment, and concentrate on getting myself to where I should be.

At the minute, I'm finding a lot of things very difficult, and am unable to help people as much as they need and deserve, and it's unfair to everyone if I'm not giving them 100% of my attention and advice.

Please remember, I'm not abandoning any of you, I care about each and every single one of you, however, for my own sanity and safety, I need to take some time to sort out my life, and my head.

Stay strong, my lovely beautiful followers, and I'll be back as soon as I can. hopefully it won't be so long before I'm back to myself, and am feeling okay.

Amber

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Harley, do you think it's possible to open up to people met online?

I do hunni. It can sometimes be easier. As you don't have the person face to face and sometimes can majestic you feel self concious and closed off. But be careful who you are speaking to and always take precautions to keep you safe. Know who you are speaking to and don't give out personal eg address, full name bank details to anyone. Be safe.Harley xxxx

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My dad paid over half a grand for a professional nutritionist to make a plan for me. Point being, I'm so miserable. Hungry and miserable. I just miss eating delicious food. Yeah I am overweight, but not obese. I really want to get a stomach band when I'm older so I can just eat less, but still eat delicious food. I just don't think I'm mentally stable right now for a plan.

Hey sweetie.Speak to your doctor dad and nutritionist and see if you can come to some arrangement that will help you feel good as well as help you loose the weight. A gastric band is a dangerous and drastic procedure that is the last resort when your health and life is in danger of your weight. If you are able to come to an arrangement and are able to have small treats within your plan and keep up the excersise I don't see why you would ever need to go down the surgery route.All the bestHarley Xxxxx

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i have trouble opening up, like talking about my feelings. i've just been so used to people leaving me and getting tired of me that i dont want to open up to anyone. how do i solve this?

Hey sweetie, I can understand this very well. I'm the same. The best advice is start small. Build the trust and build the friendships little at a time don't push or rush yourself take things at your pace and start out small. Things are hard to start with. I have 2-3 people that I can fully open up too and I'm 27. You just have to have a little faith in the people close and let the wall down a little at a time. It'll come. All the best hunniHarley Xxxxx

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I think im anorexic. i dont eat breakfast or lunch. I only eat dinner and when I do eat dinner, I try to throw it up(but only like salivia comes out) I also think my face is turning pale because when i laugh my face starts turning red and thats never happened before

hey sweet,

the best advice I can give you is to speak to your doctor or a counselor about how you're feeling.

As you know, eating disorders can have some pretty drastic consequences, and although I'm not a doctor, it sounds to me like you're developing something along the lines of anorexia binge type.

Please, speak to someone as soon as you can, so you can get tve help that you need and deserve.

Amber

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@geminipunk is in a bad place she's really stressed out. if people have cute little happy animal pictures and want to tag her in them that helps her relax/calm down usually

also I'm pretty sure that geminipunk prefers dogs especially Bulldogs so like little cute bulldog pics would be great

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send some love guys.

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My bmi is 12.4 I weigh 77 pounds and this is possibly the heaviest I've been in two years. I feel disgusting :(

hey sweet,

the best advice I can give you is to speak to someone about how you're feeling. If you speak to your doctor, they can refer you to a nutritionist and a counselor to help you to work through things and ensure that you're healthy and happy.

Amber

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(1)There is this person who is one of my best friends who I also really really like, a lot. Like I would almost be willing to say I love them. Well a few days ago they texted me and told me they like someone else who is also one of our friends. Of course I told them I'm happy for them you'd be so cute together blah blah. But I was heartbroken. I've been crying about it for days. Well today they told me them and that person are now dating. And I love them and I'm thrilled for them, I really am.

And I feel silly but it hurts so much because my feelings for them are so strong and I just want to be with them. This girl they are now dating is amazing, she's so pretty and so skinny and funny and I feel like she's everything I'm not. The person I like discovered today that I like them, they sort of guessed, and of course they were very gentle about it and were just a fantastic friend as they always are to me. But I just don't know how to get through this pain, my friends tell me it will fade but it hurts so much right now. This person is so amazing and I'm so lucky and happy to have them as a friend but I just want more, and it'll never happen and I don't know how to deal with how bad it hurts

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hey honey.

first of all, I'm so sorry that this is happening. It can be awful to realise that someone doesn't feel the same way that we do. however, it's wonderful that you're taking it the way you are, and that you're happy for this person, regardless of how you're feeling.

Your friends are right, I know it doesn't seem like it now, but in time, it gets easier, and the best thin that you can do is to focus on yourself. Take a long bat, pamper yourself, marathon your favourite show, and spend time with your friends. Stay strong, and things will get better.

Amber

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I think I might be bi. Idk why I think this. But I just feel like If I say Im bi. I would lose friends. I know its not wrong to be bi, but idek why i feel this way

hey honey.

It's perfectly normal to feel this way, even if you're not 100% certain right now. The best thin you can do is to not label yourself, unless you feel comfortable in doing so. Whether you define yourself it a label is totally up to you.

It's also totally normal to be worried about "coming out" so to speak, but if and when you do so, is totally up to you.

Remember, your sexuality doesn't define you as a person, and those who love you for who you are, will love you no matter who you love.

Amber

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There's no point to my life...

hey sweet.

have you spoken to anyone about why you're feeling like this? It might help you to speak to a counselor or therapist, even online like these here, to help you work through how you're feeling.

What you're feeling is common, but I promise that thins can and do et better with time and a little work. It may not be easy, but it's definitely worth the journey.

Stay strong honey.

Amber

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I understand that there's a lot of sexualitys but I don't understand how there's more then 2 sexualities

hey honey.

Sexuality is a very fluid thing, and some people choose not to define themselves with a certain label.

Some people are attracted to just men, some just women, some both male and female, and some to men, women, trans and other genders.

Personally, I'm pan-sexual, which means that I'm attracted to a person regardless of their gender.

This link here may be of some use to you :)

Amber

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I feel like killing myself. I have no purpose im only a burden to the people around me. I feel and look zombie. My life has no meaning.

hey sweet,

have you spoken to anyone about how you're feeling? It might help you to speak to a counselor or therapist about everything, so that they can help you to work things.

There are plenty of online resources available here, as well as helplines if you feel as though you're in immediate danger.

It might not seem like it now, but there are plenty of reasons to carry on, stay strong, and things will get better.

Amber

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I don't want to tell my boyfriend that I, scared of him because I used to be abused, I don't want him to know how weak I am, I don't know what to do :(

hey sweet,

it's totally up to you if and when you tell your boyfriend about your past, but remember, what happened then doesn't define who you are, nor was it your fault. It doesn't mean you're weak, it means that you were hurt by someone that you trusted. If you feel as though you can trust your boyfriend, then it's up to you whether to tell him or not, no one else can make that decision for you.

It might help to speak to someone like a counselor about this, so that they can help you work through things.

Amber

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I just want all this pain to go away

hey sweet,

have you spoken to anyone about how you're feeling and why? It might help you to speak to a counselor or therapist about everything so that they can help you to work through everything and find a way to resolve what's happening. You can even speak to your doctor about medication to help you in the short term, and there's always online counseling or helplines if you feel as though you're in immediate danger.

Stay strong honey, I know it doesn't feel it, but I promise it gets easier in time.

Amber

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