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Hoy move on December 5, 2013 at 12:08am My first blog yey! Hoy! Move on na
Move on na daw. Well there's a lot of us been through to this. Maybe meron nga sigurong iba jan na still on this process. I think this is one of the hardest thing to do for some, don't you think? Ibig ko lang sabihin diyan may iilan pa ring tao na parang pagkain lang ng mani ang pag-momove on. Kung baga sila yung mga taong ang bilis matanggap yung mga bagay bagay. But then before we go to much deeper about the topic. Lets define kung ano ba talaga ang meaning ng move on or moving on. Well according to the information I gathered moving on or move on is an action word which means to pass from one place or position to another. So there, from the word itself moving on. Siguro naman na gets niyo na yun. I know you have your own understanding with that words. So now why am I even wasting my time doing this? Hahaha! Seriously, I really don't know. Maybe it's because those words keep popping on my mind.
Anyway, my own perspective, sa sarili kong pananaw. Moving on is a process that you need to do when you think you're not growing or happy to where you at. In other words yang salitang move on hindi lang siya para sa lovelife which I know most of you thinking like that, the moment you read the title of this blog. Sa madaling salita moving on is ginagamit at pwedeng gamitin sa pang araw araw na buhay. Yun yung pananaw ko ha! Yun Lang naman yung sa tingin ko, well if don't agree with me and if you had your own opinion. I advised you to stop reading this and made your own blog. And if you really wanna know what I'm trying to explain here and if your curious kung may kabuluhan at sense ba 'tong pinagsasabi ko you are free to read it.
So Ayon na nga. So moving on is a process nga, kasasabi ko lang di ba? When we say move on or moving on, we do this when we know things are not working or we feel that there's no point of staying to that situation. So how can you know if you need to move on. What are those things ba na need to know if we need to move on.
Here are some few things that I think might help you. It's a five easy step. I don't know if this is accurate. I just come up to this through my own instrospection. And it's up to you if wanna try this. You can add an additional if you want.
1. First step, you should know exactly where you are. What I mean here Let's talk about lovelife, which I know most of you wanna know. Eto yung part na dapat alam mo kung saan ka nakalugar. O kung ano ba yung position mo sa buhay na taong mahal mo. ( Kung asawa ka ba?, girlfriend/ boyfriend, best friend/ close friends, kung friends ka lang ba? O kaya classmate lang or baka naman your just the other woman or what so ever) kung wala ka sa nabanggit move on! Hanap
2. After knowing that. You should know your responsibility in response to that position you have. You might know as well yung scope and limitations nun. Taray! Parang thesis lang. Para naman malaman mo talaga yung position mo at kung hanggang saan ka lang. If yun lang maoofer ng tao but you want or need more than that. Yun na. Move on! Find someone new. Siguro naman I don't have to enumerate pa yung mga bagay na you want and you need coz you should know that to yourself. And if you don't know go research for it. Tanong mo si pareng google baka alam niya.
3. Third, When you have your responsibility, siyempre dapat you should or must know if you're doing your job right and correctly. Maybe you think you're doing your best pero the big question is satisfied ba siya O masaya ba siya sa performance mo. Eto na yung time para malaman kung masaya ba siya or same kayo ng disposition. Try mong kamustahin yung performance level mo as partner if you're in a relationship or an your employee if you're in your career. If he/she say YES, his satisfied or happy then go to the next step. And if he/she answered NO move on na dude! At paano mo naman malalaman mga sagot jan? I don't know. Haha! Assignment mo na yan. Pero try niyong magpaevaluate. Ask someone if you're doing your job right or not.
4. Then, after knowing his side. Now try to look on yourself. Introspection kung baga. In other words parang soul-searching. Sa madaling salita self-analysis. See if this helping you grow as a person. Kung nabago ba nito yung sarili mo. And I'm talking here is a good things ha! Dapat look for someone who can loves your worst and can bring the best of you. Not loves you because your the best and making you the worst person you could be. If that's the case matik na, move on and find someone better. Tignan mo din kung may napapala ka ba sa pinagagagawa mong yan. Kung nakikinabang ka ba, in a way na you know to yourself that your doing that responsibility because you get something from it, " tangible or intangible " man ito. For example sa work hindi ka naman magpapakahirap sa pagtrtrabaho ng walang bayad right? Naniniwala ako when it comes to any relationship. Mapa ano pa man connection niyo. There should always be law of give and take. It could be anything that you may give or offer to her/him or vice versa. Ganun din naman when we're talking about love. Hindi pwede na your doing your responsibility or your in a relationship without getting anything. Dapat nag kawang gawa ka na lang. And to make it clear I'm not talking about monetary. Pero pwede na rin. There are some chance that it happens. Aminin niyo! But that's not what I'm meant here. I'm pointing about is the feelings. Yung feelings na sinasabi ko is one thing that pushes us to do the responsibility and stay on the relationship. That's what you need to have from what your doing. Nagegets niyo? NO! Then move on hahaha! Parang ganito yan. Those feelings kasi it helps you to grow in a good way or bad way. It helping us to learn in something that we don't know yet. And that feelings includes its good side and bad side. Kasama na jan yung hatred, anger, sadness etc. bale package na yan,e. kasi diba you won't feel those negative emotions if you don't feel the positive side of it like being loved and being happy. So yang feelings na yan at some point it gives us fufillments. Siguro naman Nafeel ninyo na yun. Ano naiintindihan nyu na ba? Hindi pa din? Then it's complicated. Di ba dun yun nagsisimula? Pero eto take note. I said normal yung negative emotions but make sure in the end of the day you will have the positive feelings ha! Yun kasi yung "something" na sinasabi ko na you should get from it. At kung puro negative lang try to work on it pa rin. Pag-usapan kung maaari pero Kung puro pasakit na lang talaga. Move on na te! Lipat bahay ka na. That person not worth for you. Pareho Lang kayo magsasayang ng oras at pagod. Kasi it's not working na talaga at pag na sabi niyo na sa isa't isa na there's no point for these. Wala ng sense. You need to let go no matter how hard pa. Masakit talaga yan. Pero I assure sa una Lang yan. And remember this. To make things work for both of you, you need to make sure that both of you had mutuals feeling about it. Maybe there's an instance it medyo opposite kayo pero in the end of the story you feel and think the same like what the Banana in pajamas. ( B1: B2 naiisip mo ba yung naiisip ko? B2: oo naiisip ko yung naiisip mo B1)
5. And last but not the least. I think this is the most important part in this step. Hahaha! It's so important that you may ignore what I said on first to fourth step. Honestly I'm not really sure about these. Anyway here's the last part. You should be happy on where you at and what you're doing. I do believe in saying that " stay if you're happy and leave if you're not". These means lang na as long as you are happy on what ever it is. Stay! In relationship kong tingin mo masaya kahit na they're taking you for granted, they're using you, niloloko ka na, nagmumukha ka ng tanga, tawag na sayo banal at kahit na kulang na Lang pagawan ka ng statwa sa pagiging martyr mo. Kung jan ka masaya gawin mo, as long as you know to your self that your not hurting anyone, then it's fine. Naniniwala naman ako ng may turning point din yang kahibangan mo. Gaano man katibay yang helmet mo sa ulo Kung paulit-ulit ka ding mauuntog masisira at masisira din yan. At once na nasira na yan yun na yung time na matatauhan ka na. Matatanong mo na sa sarili mo masaya pa ba ako? Masaya ba ako pag nasasaktan? On that point malamang sagad sagad na yang pasensya at naabot na yung sukdulan at gumana na yung ibang nerves para makapag-isip ka ng matino. Yan na yung time na you need to let go and move on.
Kaya minsan there are some individuals na kahit sinaktan na sila physically and emotionally hindi nila binibitawan kasi sa Kabila nun masaya sila at Hindi naten sila masisisi. Marahil malakas siguro magsecrete ng emotional hormones si pituitary gland so there are some people cannot think logically or hey maybe they're attached to that person or you know they used to that and they think they're happy even though they are not. They may not know it now but eventually they will. There are a lot of possibilities why it happens. Pero in the end you will find someone something o kahit na ano pa yan that will make you happy. Tapos let go of things that cause you hurt and pain then move on. It's okay to get hurt as long as you learned from it. When you got hurt it only means that you loved. The deeper you get hurt the deeper you fall in loved. You will love then you get hurt and when you get hurt it heals then you fall in love again. It's a cycle you just need to be careful and wise. Never forget your self. There's a lot of happiness in this world. You just need to determine what makes you happy.
I know some people think there is no true happiness, well I don't think so. I think there is. And you know where you can find it? True happiness is hiding behind the word "CONTENTMENT". And for you to find that you need to MOVE ON until you feel contended. Then you'll see the true beauty and the perfect happiness in life.
