Okay so, we all know how our little’s can be insecure about.. well, being little. Being a CG means it’s our job to help them make sure they know that they are loved and wanted.
For the Caregivers (LDR version):
First off, work out a system. If you are sleeping and never wake up to text notifications, make sure your little knows that they can call your phone to wake you up. If phone calls are stressful for either parties, don’t pick up. Decline the call then look at your messages, they most likely have been messaging you because they need your help. Do not answer with any hints of irritation. Give yourself a moment to wake up before replying. If you don’t have any texts to reply to, then your go to message is “What’s wrong?” Your little is probably panicking, so be gentle and caring!
Listen! Listen to what’s bothering your little. Maybe they haven’t slept yet because their mind wouldn’t shut up, or they had a nightmare and they need your help to calm down so they can go back to sleep. Regardless of the situation, reassurance is needed! Let them know that you’re proud of them for reaching out for help.
Communicate! They need your help, do not give them short answers. It will make them feel like they bothered you and start to regret asking you for help. Ask them questions: “Why do you feel this way?” “What can I do to help you?” “What do you need?” “What happened in the nightmare?”
Reassurance! Let them know that you’re not going anywhere until they are okay. Use their favorite pet names, ie, baby, princess/prince, kitten.. Explain why you’re their Daddy/Mommy! Even if you do this 3 times a day, and they’ve heard it a million times, do it again. They are loved. Tell them. Most Little’s think they are too much to handle. Shut down that thought ASAP.
Praise! They woke you up, asked for help, needed/wanted you. Again: most Little’s think they are too much. Tell them how proud you are of them for reaching out, waking you up. Reassure them they are always allowed to ask for help.
No excuses. You have no reason to be nasty with your Little. Even if you work all day, have mental issues, or you’re just plain exhausted. This does not give you the excuse to be harsh and unloving/uncaring to your Little. They are our little treasures; treat them as such!
Please tell us what’s wrong! We care about you so much. Even if you don’t know what’s wrong, you need to work with us and help us find out what’s making you upset. We want to help.
Breathe! You are safe. Try to calm down. We understand that it isn’t always easy for you to calm down on the spot, but it’s important that you try.
Speak up! We don’t like it when our Angels are upset. If you think you’re being silly or overreacting, do not keep what’s bothering you all bottled up. That’s what we’re here for, we all want to know what’s going on in your head. You are clearly upset, it is not silly to us.
Listen! Understand that we are not upset with you. We are trying to help. Listen to what we have to say and focus on us. Cuddle up with your stuffies and listen to Mommy/Daddy!
Communicate! This is not like Speak up! If we say something and it just makes you more upset, please tell us. We may have worded it wrong and that wasn’t our intention to make it worse. Ask us questions, too! We want to know everything that you’re afraid of. No question is a silly question.
Relax. Have you been listening? You must be calmed down by now, if you aren’t, let us know that you still have worries. We always want to be there, we love and care about you.
Relationships aren’t always easy! They take a lot of patience and communication for them to work. Not all relationships are the same. This is pretty much the baseline. Work together. Remember that it’s okay to need help.
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