j random things idk

I write poetry and post some memes or things I like.

[folieassdeux]

i mean same

[staceyshere]

Big same

[zipadeea]

People either vibe with The Catcher in the Rye or they don’t, and I’m probs not going to discuss my true feelings or mental health with you if you don’t

[transvampirerights]

[thecooler]

[whaleinwhite]

[beeefy]

[artistic-prince]

Branded by Love

They say Icarus flew too close to the sun,

But how can you blame someone blinded by light,

Especially when things seemed so sweet and fun,

Or when it just felt right?

To be draped in your light was an honor,

So, why did it burn my love?
So painful I had believed I was a goner,

The pain I had hoped to get rid of,

Yet, to do so would have meant smothering the flame,

So I was content for the time being to watch my skin blister,

For that I only have myself to blame,

Meaning I let the feelings inside become bitter.

[mentalhealth]

how much of ur online presence is performative and how much is it u being u

[soil-boy]

baby every me is me, we are the mask and the wearer

[novemberfae]

vampirecore — a sweet, silken kiss like a last grasp on life, the dark lips of your lover, the petals of a black orchid, the blood pulsing in your veins

[artistic-prince]

Isolation

Always seemed daunting and haunting,

Like eery creak of floorboards when no one is there,

Or maybe the soft sheets consoling a heart filled with wanting,

Maybe isolation isn’t as lonely as we were aware…

Maybe isolation is freedom,

Even more so healing and refreshing,

Not even out of an angry “I don’t need ‘em”,

Rather an epiphany in a disguised blessing.

That’s how I thought people felt without me,

And maybe it still is, no, that is how it still is.

But the freedom in knowing everyone else is free,

Yes, that freedom the eery creek says.

That freedom the soft sheets embrace!

That healthy freedom I’ve never had to face!

[muhyul]

Me realising I’m now an adult with actual responsibilities

[silenthill2bornfromawish4k]

i just wanna feel something ❤️ no, not that ❤️

[green-is-the-garden]

[toastedpumpkin]

Herbal Correspondences for Vegan Witches (Or any Witches really)

Activated Charcoal- cleansing, purification, grief, health (banishing serious illness)

Allspice- determination, money, luck, healing

Almond- fertility, Goddess energy, beauty, self-love, prosperity, addiction, abundance

Anise- protection, warding against evil, preventing nightmares, psychic ability, happiness

Basil- money, beauty, protection, love, warding

Bay Leaf- money, motivation, protection, psychic powers, wish fulfillment, success, purification

Black Pepper- banishing, protection, exorcism, healing (from a serious illness/banishing said illness)

Brewer’s Yeast- motherhood, femininity, warding against illness

Cashew- money, creativity

Cardamom- lust/libido, love, fidelity

Cayenne Pepper- catalyst, lust/ libido, confidence

Celery- fertility, psychic powers, healing (especially of the bladder, kidneys, and urinary tract), weight loss

Chamomile- sleep, stress relief, love, beauty, friendship, meditation, luck, libido (mostly women)

Chia Seed- protection, health

Chili Powder- protection, hex breaking, love, fidelity

Chives- protection, weight loss

Chlorella- purification, cleansing, health

Cilantro- money, protection, peace

Cinnamon- catalyst, spirituality, beauty, love, lust, romance, healing, strength, protection, psychic ability

Clove- catalyst, beauty, love, protection (especially for children)

Cocoa Powder- beauty, health, love, self-love, grounding, romance, sex, powder, enhances hot herbs

Coconut- strength, love, beauty, protection

Coffee- grounding, protection, spirituality, energy (if caffeinated), dispelling negativity

Coriander- love, health, protection, easing pain of a broken heart,

Cumin- energy, protection, exorcism, protection from theft, love, fidelity, masculine energy

Dandelion- communicating with the dead, health, weight loss, wish fulfillment, divination, luck

Dill- money, prosperity, luck, lust, protection (especially the home)

Dulse- lust, harmony, sea magick

Fennel- health (especially digestion), protection, money, banishing, strength, vitality, libido

Fenugreek- health (women’s issues), friendship, happiness, calming, feminine energy, libido, money

Flax Seed- fertility, health, protection (especially from sickness), divination, money

Garlic- health, banishing, protection, purification, warding, willpower,

Ginger- catalyst, energy, adventure, health, confidence, lust/libido, prosperity, success, protection

Hemp- fertility, intuition, motivation, peace, harmony, stress relief

Hibiscus- health, love, beauty, heart

Holy Basil- opens heart to love, stress relief, healing, balance, grounding

Jalapeno- energy, catalyst, money, abundance

Kelp- health, money, weight loss, sea magick

Lavender- stress relief, sleep, anti-anxiety, meditation, love, depression, peace, harmony

Lemon- health, beauty, love, lust, cleansing, purification, sun magick, removing negativity,

Lemon grass- psychic cleansing, opening the Third Eye, focus, mental clarity

Licorice- love, lust, fidelity, communicating with the dead, health (digestive system)

Lime- purification, protection, harmony, calmness, tranquility, strengthening love

Maca- fertility, vitality, energy, balance, love

Maple- love, friendship, luck, happiness, wealth

Marjoram- beauty, luck, wealth, grief, cleansing, purification, warding, strengthening love, protection

Mint, Pepper- health, protection, ward off migraines, wealth, bringing about change, love, abundance

Mint, Spear- health, protection, happiness, wealth, communicating with spirits

Miso- health, prosperity, communicating with the dead, friendship

Mustard- courage, faith, endurance, success, luck, happiness

Nettle- grouding, health (especially allergies), banishing negativity, cleansing

Nori- health, harmony

Nutmeg- beauty, prosperity, money, luck, hex breaking, mental acuity

Nutritional Yeast- health, happiness, love, addiction

Oat- fertility, health, earth magick, sacred to Brighid

Onion- protection, health, banishing, warding, bad habits, prosperity

Orange- energy, emotional healing, beauty, health, love, friendship

Oregano- health, beauty, joy, energy, strength

Paprika- catalyst, energy, hexing (I don’t hex, but you do you)

Paprika, smoked- power, see Paprika

Parsley- money, luck, success, health, weight loss

Pecan- employment and career, success, security,

Red Pepper- catalyst, love, lust, confidence

Rice- rain, fertility, money, protection

Rose- beauty, love, honoring the dead, friendship, happiness, healing

Rosemary- mental clarity, focus, memory, health, love, lust, purification

Saffron- happiness, mental health, love, lust, psychic ability, addiction, weight loss

Sage- cleansing, purification, grief, wisdom, spirituality, mental clarity, protection, grounding

Salt- cleansing, purification, grounding, protection, banishing, earth magick

Sesame Seed- money, lust, passion

Soy- spirituality, psychic ability, fertility, intuition, grounding

Spirulina- health, wealth, energy

Sugar- beauty, sweeten attitudes, love, sex, drawing spells

Tamarind- love, health, happiness, family, protection (from illness)

Tea, black- energy, strength, courage, confidence

Tea, green- energy, health, weight loss, beauty, confidence

Tea, white- beauty, harmony, peace, health, tranquility

Thyme- money, protection, luck, grief, honoring the dead, grounding, glamours, confidence, loyalty

Turmeric- health (especially dealing with serious illness), happiness,

Vanilla- beauty, love, friendship, passion

Vinegar- protection, warding, weight loss, hexing, banishing illness

Walnut- connection with the divine, spirituality, mental strength, divination

Watercress- health, sex, lunar magick

[randomreasonstolive]

Reason to Live #3064

 When your cat curls up next to you and purrs without you even petting them, they just like your company.  – Guest Submission

(Please don’t add negative comments to these posts.)

[ashylily-deactivated20240506]

im really just in the mood to rot into a forest floor somewhere

[cg--archive-deactivated20220308]

Steps to Fighting Fairly with your Partner

Choose your battles. You don’t need to address every single little problem. Some things can just be minor annoyances that you let go. Dealing with conflict takes energy and might be taxing on you, so don’t waste that energy over little things that don’t matter. 

Stick to the subject. Don’t bring up other random things or complaints about other things. Focus on one problem at a time and be thoughtful about it. make sure you both know what’s being discussed. 

Don’t limit potential. Past behavior does not inherently define future behaviors. don’t label your partner with things such as “you won’t” or “you can’t.” The point of conflict resolution is to make a change, so it’ll only make things worse if you believe nothing will when you bring it up. 

Don’t use the silent treatment. Ignoring someone will not make things better. All it will do is frustrate your partner and it is a manipulation tactic. This behavior can even be considered abusive in some cases. It’s a pointless punishment and will achieve nothing (except making your partner feel less safe in the relationship). 

Attack the problem, not the person. Focus on “I feel”, “I think”, “I see” statements. Don’t call names, don’t label, don’t attack your partner. Again, that’s just going to make things worse and solve nothing. And of course, don’t yell.

Focus on objective fact. Don’t say “you never” and don’t say “you always.” Don’t exaggerate things or assume you know everything from your partner’s perspective. Give specific, concrete examples of behavior.  

Offer solutions along with criticisms. Point your partner in the direction you want them to go rather than just assuming they can read your mind and will do what you need without you telling them. Don’t just tell them what they’ve done wrong: express your expectations. 

Accept that you could be wrong. You cannot possibly know everything and it’s possible that your partner might not be in the wrong. Your perceptions do not inherently reflect reality. Be okay with apologizing and owning up to your own mistakes. 

When the fight is over, let it be over. you don’t need to have the last word. All that matters is that the issue is resolved. If the issue is not resolved after you’ve let things rest for a while, assert your needs later on.

[dumbassborderline-deactivated20]

someone: *mentions anything about the future*

me, immediately:

[blueannawriting]

I’m just gonna make this a separate post because people who claim holden caulfield is a bad or pretentious guy clearly have not read the book

1. first of all, his dream is to be The Catcher In The Rye which really just means he wants to catch kids who are falling off cliffs. weird yes, for him to think like that, but remember that his younger brother died and now all he wants is to save other small children.

2. he’s a pretty good brother to phoebe. obviously during the books he’s not the best, but his actions are pretty understandable. calling his baby sister in the middle of the night because he needs someone to talk to and can’t face his parents,but he’s super supportive and loving of his sister, whom he deems one of the only good dancers and he is a person that she revered. bad brothers don’t get idolized the way phoebe idolizes Holden

3. Holden does nice things all the time without prompting or acknowledging that he is doing something nice. He doesn’t kick out the annoying guy that rooms in the adjoining suite (ackley), despite the fact that this dude is super rude and is totally mean to Holden. Also Holden visits his sick teacher and gives a good sum of his money to some passing nuns because he felt like he had to help them??? nihilistic assholes don’t do kind things like that

4. he was a really good and respectful friend to Jane, the one girl he really likes, and he never pushed her further than she was comfortable going??? and he was really aware of that other girl’s reaction when he took her to the movies?? like Holden treated women with respect. and this is in the goddamn forties, so it’s especially notable

5. Holden has some really serious emotional trauma that he’s dealing with. his little brother ally, whom Holden said was his favorite person and whose baseball glove he wrote about, died too young. his parents aren’t helping Holden process that grief; they just keep shipping him off to boarding school despite his obvious cries for attention

6. The lack of emotional support is causing Holden to withdraw and become increasingly depressed. he talks about wanting to just disappear and dialing out of school and not caring about his future…. that’s not being an asshole, that’s struggling with the death of a loved one and not being able to get the right resources to let him heal until he starts talking to a psychiatrist at the end of the book

7. Holden is super insecure and super upfront about that insecurity. pretentious assholes have huge egos; Holden doesn’t have an ego and rolls over when his schoolmates attack or ridicule him. He’s dependent on the approval of others (deerstalker hat becomes a lot less of a fun purchase once it’s made fun of) and obviously does not think that much of himself

so yeah he does some annoying things, like forgetting the fencing gear on the subway and then struggling to take responsibility for it, but the reality is it comes from a place of severe emotional issues and the lack of a healthy supportive environment rather than him just being a regular old asshole

[thegoodvybe]