Respect boundaries and try to be a little gracious
So this post originally had a different tone, but I have changed it, because I think I was not really being fair to Hudson and his reaction.
So I went to bed last night completly high on hudcon content and how literally everyone and their cousin was clocking them and I joked that we we are just one second away from Connor turning up with an engagement ring lol😉😅.
And then I woke up to absolute chaos because Hudson told people to stop rpfing.
I am not gonna lie, my immediate reaction was being annoyed and thinking, Huddy what are you doing? YOU are the one who cannot control yourself around Connor. YOU are the one who is doing and saying all these things that are not platonic in any way. YOU are the one who is not even trying in the slightest to make your " relationship " to your " girlfriend " look believable. So why are the fans now the villains here?
BUT I think my reaction was like this because I was having major war flashbacks to other fandoms where exactly this happened as well and from that moment on, it became toxic as fuck. ( And I was cranky, because I am sleep deprived like half of the fandom after the last days, but I digress 😉)
So now I had breakfast and a shower, went for some grocery shopping, had a little walk and getting some fresh air, had a phone call with a good friend and now my thoughts are a little clearer:
DISCLAIMER: I believe that H and C are a couple and that K is not the girlfriend, so my thoughts are based on that.
So as a lot of people, I asked myself, why did he react this way?
Since I myself believe that H and C are dating, I personally don't think rpfing is wrong in general, as long as it is kept in fandom spaces. I love to make little headcanons with my mutuals and discuss theories, BUT the moment you bring it outside fandom spaces and start to harass Connor, Hudson, Connors sister, Bailey and K with all of this , you are crossing a line that should never be crossed. And it is absolutely wrong to do that.
My lovely mutuals @lifelovelaughterlarry and @afro-star always remind us that context is important, so I try to explain my thoughts with context.
So I think we all have had the feeling that something was somehow off with Hudson since he arrived in New York.
He looked exhausted, tired and stressed. He even said that in the interviews. Which is actually no surprise, because he has been working non stop.
But then there is Connor. The person he loves the most and the person who makes him feel at peace. They have a wonderful night together, being in love, partying,just being happy.
And then the next morning he wakes up and sees all the posts and articles about them. He sees that everyone is clocking them and that the thing, their relationship, that he wants to protect the most, is getting exposed to some extent. He also sees the pics and videos of himself coming back to the hotel and looking absolutely fucked( no pun intended) and he begins to panick. His team is probably also on his ass and giving him a lesson. Don't get me wrong, I also had a good laugh about his " walk of shame " and it is still quite funny, but from his perspective it is probably a little different.
So all of this is happening, plus him still being stressed, tired and exhausted, so we all know when we are constantly stressed, there comes a moment when you snap. And I think thats exactly what happened. He was completly overwhelmed by everything and then this post was one thing too much.
And yes I also think that he was not having it, that people were attacking K. Even though I don't think he is dating her, she is someone important for him.
My friend, who I just talked to this morning also said something very good, and some of my mutuals here said it too: Hudson has ADHD( as my friend herself as well)and therefore his impulse control is already different from other people. And now add the fact that he has to pretend to have a girlfriend ( at least from my POV) to all that. Sooner or later something like this was inevitable.
And even though I give Hudson some grace about this comment, I also think it is absolutely revolting that the girl on whose post he commented it, is now getting death threats and is harassed and I despise that with my heart and soul.
So I know some of you are upset, angry or confused and I completly understand that,but let me tell you one thing:
Rpfing is not wrong and don't let other people tell you that( I am not meaning Hudson, just for the record). BUT please keep it in fandom spaces and between you and your friends/ mutuals. Thats where it belongs.
I am absolutely looking forward to keep on sharing my little headcanons and theories with my mutuals ♥️.
And since I always like to end my posts with some joy and positivity, I just want to post my favorite new hudcon pic:( love feels like peace ❤️🩹)
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