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Yes, I was the other woman for those who asked years ago. Here is what really happened. I know this site is dead but I need to get my story out. Please feel free to reblog and boost.
Feeding tube struggles
So. Here’s my list of annoying things about feeding tubes.
1. Angry pumps that wake you up at goddamn 3am
2. Feeding tube explosions. Y'all know what I’m talking about.
3. Granulation tissue/angry stoma
4.When the pump beeps loudly in public in a line at the cash register for grocery shopping.
5. Boxes/cases of formula is just SO GODDAMN HEAVY. Like for real.
6. When the gauze/tubie pad just wasn’t enough and it soaks through.
7. The boxes that the formula/other supplies comes in literally take up one entire room or you know… the entire house.
8. When the tube clogs and you can’t get it unclogged. Hospital trip at 4am anybody?
9. When your tube line gets wrapped up around the IV pole and then you have to spin like 5 times to get it unwrapped.
10. But despite the annoyances we are still extremely thankful and fortunate to have our feeding tubes as for pretty much all of us it has saved our lives. Feel free to add some more of your own!
For people getting nasal feeding tubes (personal experience)
Here’s everything I wish I’d been told prior to my tube placement:
First of all - everything will be okay. People get these tubes placed every day across the world and have done for many many years. The risk of complication is very minimal especially at placement stage.
Secondly. I won’t lie, my tube placement was excessively painful. It took 6 attempts over a two day stretch and we only got the tube in after numbing the area. I recommend asking for numbing, such as lidocaine, in your nose and throat. After that, you will not feel a thing.
I had a super sore throat for weeks afterwards while it adjusted to its new friend! Make sure you’ve got some good throat sweets ready.
Liquid. Paracetamol.
You will spend the next 3 weeks terrified of your tube falling out. Just remember how far in your body it is and how far it would have to fall out. And, stop worrying! It it happens, it happens. Nip to the clinic and have another reinserted. Not the end of the world babe.
There will be times you can feel it in the back of your throat. It will feel strange.
I also found it very strange when the nurses flushed my tube.. Like my brain sent so many signals to swallow.
Follow. Your. Medical. Professionals. Instructions.
While risks are minimal with nasal tubes, you have to be aware of the risks such as aspiration pneumonia and nasal bridge collapse. Following all instructions will minimise the chances. If you’re unsure, just ask.
Make sure you have a good wind settler, while your gi tract gets used to the new foods. I had crippling trapped wind - no shame!
Be prepared for the stares.
Be prepared for strangers to ask you very personal questions about your need for said tube.
Be prepared to tell them to fuck off.
You don’t owe them anything.
Tubie tidies.
Tubie backpacks are great, also expensive. I made my own. I sew a hook in the top of the main pocket to hang my bottle on, and cut a hole in the back to thread my wire through when I’m hooked up. It’s been a life saver for me.
If anything like me, you begin on 20 hour feeds, be prepared for showering at very stupid intervals.
Remember, your tube is a life saving piece of medical equipment. Never be ashamed to flaunt it. You’re beautiful
Shoutout to disabled witches who can’t go for walks in nature because it’s inaccessible.
Shoutout to disabled witches who can’t ingest the food they make as offerings.
Shoutout to disabled witches who can’t garden and buy their herbs
Shoutout to disabled witches who can’t speak spells.
Shoutout to disabled witches who are on bedrest and can’t practice.
Shoutout to disabled witches who can’t make their own tools.
Shoutout to the witches in wheelchairs, with crutches, with walkers, canes, feeding tubes, central lines, ports, nonverbal, in the hospital, in bed, blind witches, Deaf witches, HoH witches, Shoutout to disabled witches.
No matter how you practice, you are valid, you are still a witch.
Yes I’m in a wheelchair. Yes I have a tube up my nose. Yes I am beautiful. Yes I am sexy. Yes I am fashionable.
These things are not mutually exclusive. I am not sexy for someone in a wheelchair. I’m not beautiful for someone with a feeding tube. I am sexy and I am beautiful. Just like that.
(Okay to reblog)
been through so much these last two years.
I know atleast one person that needs to listen to this. It may be long but definitely worth the read!! 💖
How to safely plan to leave an abusive relationship;
Banking;
- Open a new bank account with a new bank, ensure that statements are online only and to a new email address that isn’t linked to your phone.
- Pick up the card from the bank and hide it well. Amongst the abusers things is usually safe, as they won’t go looking there. Otherwise under the sole insert in a shoe, unused board game, at work, there are many places. But if you live with an abuser, I am sure you have a good hiding spot already.
- Do not download the banking app to your phone!
Start putting what you can in that account. Any birthday money from friends or family, an unnoticeable amount from your wage (talk to work/centrelink), don’t transfer to this account yourself. And any change you find around the house - a 600ml bottle of coke full of 2 dollar coins will save $1000
- Cba will give you 1k to escape dv, but only if you are a customer. If you are not already, set up your account there.
- If you have debit/credit cards, report them stolen so the abuser can’t access them once new numbers are provided.
- Finances to rely on are a must to ensure you don’t break and run back to fake promises.
Phone;
Buy a cheap phone for under $50 and a spare sim, set that up and hide it, fully charged. You will need this when you turn your main one off to ensure he can’t contact or track you.
Possessions;
- Start sending important things that won’t be noticed missing to loved ones, work or storage. Things like photos, jewellery, ID, passport etc and not all at once, this is over time.
- For any clothes you can’t carry in a bag, but you want to keep. Do a “clean out”, say you are donating them and get them somewhere safe.
- If you can, start selling things worth value that you don’t need and will not be noticed as missing, put that money in your new account.
Work;
- If you work, tell your boss what is happening so that they can be understanding for when the time comes, and also so the abuser can’t sweet talk information out of your colleagues.
- Some workplaces provide DV leave, or you could take it under compassionate leave.
- If you work for a corporation, ask for a transfer.
- If not, have your working hours randomized for a while to ensure you don’t have a continuous or steady work schedule.
Centrelink;
Let centrelink know of your plans and fill out any necessary paperwork required for your future change of circumstances. If you are moving to single parent payments, get the ball rolling as it can take a few weeks to finalise on their end. And make sure all correspondence is sent to your new secret email address.
Family and friends;
You may have lost some by this point, but that doesn’t mean that they won’t try and help you. Reach out, help is necessary, especially if kids are involved.
Housing;
- If you are currently on a lease, talk to the agent privately as they can help you getting off it.
- Start looking for somewhere once you know you are almost ready, the first agent may be able to help with this.
- Find donation groups to help you set up. If you put it out to Facebook, have someone else act for you, otherwise it will be an easy way for the abuser to track you.
- Talk to churches, salvos, anyone that helps in this instance. If you have children, you will be fast tracked.
- Move in with family or friends
- Talk to a refuge if the above options won’t work
DO NOT LOSE FOCUS, you are much closer to freedom than you think.
Police;
Let the police know of your plan in case something goes wrong. They can also help you get the remainder of your things at a later date.
Also file for a dvo but don’t have it put in place until you are out and safe!
Kids;
- If you have kids, you either take them with you at the time, or have someone you trust to do it.
- If they are at school, you need to let the school know in advance so that the abuser can’t collect them from there, ever.
- You also need to get them out of that school early and not keep to your normal routine.
- Change schools if you need to.
- This advice includes preschool
Animals;
If you have pets talk to your local RSPCA or Re homing group as they will find a free foster carer to care for you animals until you are settled.
Planning your escape date;
Find a day that the abuser will be away for a few hours. Be nice leading up to the event, plan the weekend, dinner etc. This will keep the abusers paranoia low, they will think they have you right where they want you.
Packing;
Don’t pack unnecessary crap!
You don’t need more than one brush, you don’t need your toiletries - they can all be replaced.
ESSENTIALS ONLY! Bags are heavy.
You want to be hours ahead before the abuser realises what’s happened.
Do not linger, that home is not your happy place GTFO.
Leaving;
By now you should have money in your accounts and a new phone. Your kids and pets organised, your irreplaceable belongings should be safe elsewhere, and you should know exactly where you are headed once you close the door on this chapter of your life.
Once you are out;
- Change all internet banking passwords
- Change all social passwords
- Change all the email addresses linked to your social accounts to the secret one you set up
- Change PayPal passwords etc
- Block on all social media
- Block the abusers number
- Turn that phone off and turn on the spare phone
- Contact anyone you need to from the new phone and keep your number on private
- Change your name on social media along with your profile picture (something generic)
- Block anyone who is friends with both of you
- Get a PO Box and get your mail redirected
The abuser is the most dangerous when they realise they have lost control of their possession (you).
Changing all of your social media settings and names is a must, as it is too easy to find anyone these days. If the abuser still finds you, close down all accounts (even temporarily), you can start fresh ones.
The abuser will try anything and everything, even suicide threats to get your attention. Do not fall for the games as the abuser is just craving any information on your whereabouts to feel like they are gaining some control back.
It is vital that you cease all contact until you are strong enough to not believe the bullshit that the abuser will use to lure you back. And you know it is bullshit, do not sprinkle glitter on your feelings. You are worth more than that!
Feel free to copy and paste, this information could help someone you know or love one day ✨
YOU SHOULDN’T BE AFRAID OF YOUR PARTNER.
as a survivor of child abuse i really hate the idea that in order to heal we have to understand and be empathetic with our abusers life story. lmao sorry bud but no, i was the child, regardless of what you went through you should have done better. i should not have to carry your guilt and regret so you can feel better.
*Hears footsteps towards my room* Please dont
