Learning to Wait for that Man
Okay, I thought I would write on my most recent lesson. You see, I thought that I had all my anxieties about this all patted out. Done. Dusted. I mean, I also haven’t men a man who I would really seriously consider dating... for a very long time. You know what it’s like, for a small moment you think that love will change him and all will be well if you could at least seal the deal and become official.
Nah, just wait. Watch, wait and pray. God knows what is best for us and He will provide a husband even if we don’t believe it. Some days, I really don’t believe it. But, I have noticed that the more I trust in Him and on Him, the more my activities about finding a husband subsides. Even when I stumble and become worried, anxious and act on those fears, I bounce back faster because of His testimony. God is good, always.
Meanwhile, new lesson added. I met someone, or rather -- as it seemed at first glance, he met me. I got introduced through a friend and we got to chatting. Now, I thought -- OK, this guy is interested. Ergo, I got his number from my friend and just said hi. What followed was what I thought was a lovely myriad of conversations, man leading. Questions, jokes, innocent mischief and most importantly, a good rapport. That was the first 3 days. Soon after, what I found was very disappointing. No messages, no contact. Now, the old me would have 100 percent taken that personally, where as I probably took it 30 percent to heart. Such a small amount still hurt. What I am quickly realising though, is that I have waited for so long for a good man and someone who will love me, that I am willing to wait that little longer and would rather have no one than act on desperation. That, and everything is an opportunity to learn something new for the next time around.
Rapport does not mean there will be a relationship and is not the man’s way of committing to getting to know you. That needs to be said in words so that clarity and openness can be your measuring rod. I am not one of these; “All men are the same” kind of women, I think we are all sinners and all have the potential to act or not act in certain ways. So, without judging the male in question, what he has taught me is how to learn to have a respectful relationship with someone.
That takes time, waiting and living your life. That takes allowing the man to lead and being honest with him. In turn-taking and mirroring the man, a woman will find opportunity to still act on her own conscience without compromise. If two people are compatible and attracted to one another, no one has to try harder than what they can nor be someone other than who they are.
Things will happen as they will, regardless because the things we try and do to control situations and people is just an illusion. We are never in control and that is something we try to deceive ourselves with to try and overcome our fear.
He will cause us to overcome all those fears.
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PS: To that guy,
Without you even knowing it, God has caused our minimal interactions to even work for good. Thank you, although you were not very Mr. Darcy like about the whole thing and my Lizzy is still going strong too.
