You might have noticed I talk a lot about England. How wonderful it was. How happy I was. How much my writing improved. How I made the best friends ever. How I fell in love.
Well, all of that is true. It was a wonderful, amazing, life-changing experience. But that doesn't mean it didn't come without the down times.
I found this old Diary Entry from January 24th 2014 (in which I just returned to England from visiting home over Christmas break) reminding me it wasn't all fun and games:
Right, so I’m back in my apt. In England. And it’s startingto feel like I’ve never left. Memories of home are starting to fade while memories from here before are returning. Like I knew would happen. But I fought it. It’s a loosing battle: fighting against memories. Our mind protects us: it erases that which gives us pain, even if it was most pleasurable once.
I had a hard time on the flight over. I cried. I could hardly breath. I kept turning towards the wall and balling my eyes out. My throat hurt. My eyes burned. Everything seemed distant and hazy, as if I weren’t really there. I couldn’t eat. I had no appetite. Everything tasted greasy and felt heavy on my tongue. I could eat the fruit in the morning, just the fruit. And my head ached so much. It hurt all day. Somehow I stumbled off the plane and through customs. It felt like it was 3 am, though it was 7 here and 1 back home. I was miserable.
From the moment I said goodbye to my mom I was miserable. Even before.
Before I left, I started crying. Every time I thought of Midnight, I started crying. Mommy hugged me. Or I hugged her. Then April flopped up on my back. I’m getting teary-eyed thinking about it. Teary-eyed I can handle.
But what was on the plane was pure torture. I thought I’d never get over it. I was supposed to call Grandpa, but my voice was too shaky to talk. When I finally managed it, every word seemed ominous. I was worried it was the last conversation I would ever have with him.
I didn’t want to go back. I didn’t understand why I was going back. It seemed like nothing I did would ever make life any better than it had already been. Nothing is worth it. Every step I take takes me farther and farther from the family I love. And by the time I retire, reach success, have a name and a fortune, there will be no one to share it with. That is what I fear most of all. Gaining success, but sacrificing everything for it.
Is that what happened to Frodo? Yes. But he saved the world along the way. What am I saving?
Why can’t I move back home, fall in love, get married and start a simple normal life? Because that’s not me. I'm not normal. I'm not sure who I am or what I want. All I know is that I'm a writer, nothing more, nothing less. Sometimes I want to be more. Sometimes I feel I am less.
But life only makes sense when I am writing, or occasionally when I am reading. Does it make sense to you, whoever you are?
And 13 months later, I'm home having the same feelings about England. Except, now I know what I want. I know who I am as much as anyone can know themselves. I've come to accept the fact that no matter where I am, I won't be with everyone I care about most. I'm never going to have all my friends and family together in a small town. And that's fine. I'll appreciate the moments we do have together, and all the great sights and travels in between. But I will always have myself. And if I can't make me happy, no one else can.