Sideblog

He/him. 28. TME. White. Temporary sideblog.

[logieblog]

So I created this sideblog for the sole reason that I don't want to post about it on my main. I don't even care if people work out what my main is. It's just that my lovely mutuals don't need to be triggered by constant talk about CSA and pedophilia etc etc but I'm really fucking bothered by the ISFF situation and the people who seem to be weighing in the most are transandrobros who ARE actually being wilfully transmisogynistic. But there are things we really need to talk about that aren't getting talked about so. This blog probably won't be around for long I just need to get some shit off my chest.

Just so we're on the same page

- Trans women deserve love and respect and to be listened to. The Tumblr staff have shown significant evidence of transmisogyny against innocent women. And no, being kinky doesn't automatically make this deserved. But there's a difference between wanting to be vored by a dragon and pedophilia.

- Transandrophobia isn't real. Trans men (such as yours truly) DO face oppression but it's not tied specifically to our masculinity, and there are unique struggles that come with being a transgender woman.

- Being TMA does not absolve you from all criticism. It doesn't stop you from being racist, ableist, or, yaknow, a pedophile apologist.

- I literally don't care how horrible any trans woman is. Don't misgender her.

[logieblog]

I'm a white TME trans man. When it comes to relative safety on this website I'm pretty much near the top, I won't deny this.

But the mass the exodus of Black bloggers and then the mass ban of a lot of innocent trans women changed the culture and something went really wrong. In the past few years the culture has changed, it's becoming more and more accepting of abuse, usually disguised as kink.

I'm honestly too tired right now to fully examine this change and how it happened, I have my thoughts but this bullshit has disrupted my sleep and I'm not really articulate.

But around the same time as this culture started to shift I gathered a quite small following on my main with my extremely niche special interest. And it was fun being on here for awhile as the "guy with an insanely hyperfocused obsession that some people recognise based solely on that interest". It was my safe place where my strange brand of autism was loved and appreciated. But ideas that were once fringe have crept further and further into Tumblr's mainstream.

Aside from my weird special interest I was blogging about old movies and silly memes and wanting to fuck Bruce Springsteen. And then it just seemed like more and more of the people who I followed for the Old People Shit that I enjoy were just openly and willingly talking about non consensual kink, incest apologism, laughing and joking about how edgy they were and acting like this was progressive.

And it hasn't felt safe here in awhile. Even on the corner of the internet I've been inhabiting, former cinephile and classic rock bloggers are now making dead dove jokes. I don't know who to trust anymore.

And it's really sad. Now with the ISFF pedophilia apologism I've blocked so many former mutuals I once thought of as almost friends for uncritical defense of her. My safe space as a weird autistic bloke with a funny special interest is now just like. Walking on hot coals. As a CSA survivor I no longer feel safe but I also don't know where else I'm gonna go as an autistic person who has found so much community on here.

It's sad. I probably need to delete the app for awhile but I'm not sure if I'll come back to something safer.

Idk I'm sorry this is just a vent post but I'm hoping other people understand.

[logieblog]

Sorry to do this but I'm going to doxx myself just because I don't really care and also I've decided to delete the app at the same time as I've been actively ebegging. Yes, for those familiar, I am tumblr user grahamkennedy.

Your money should go to the most disenfranchised first, but also this all went down while I've been quite sick with pneumonia and all of this has honestly been taking a toll on my physical and mental health. So if people wanna share I'd really appreciate it. Don't feel obliged to though.

[logieblog]

I'm a white TME trans man. When it comes to relative safety on this website I'm pretty much near the top, I won't deny this.

But the mass the exodus of Black bloggers and then the mass ban of a lot of innocent trans women changed the culture and something went really wrong. In the past few years the culture has changed, it's becoming more and more accepting of abuse, usually disguised as kink.

I'm honestly too tired right now to fully examine this change and how it happened, I have my thoughts but this bullshit has disrupted my sleep and I'm not really articulate.

But around the same time as this culture started to shift I gathered a quite small following on my main with my extremely niche special interest. And it was fun being on here for awhile as the "guy with an insanely hyperfocused obsession that some people recognise based solely on that interest". It was my safe place where my strange brand of autism was loved and appreciated. But ideas that were once fringe have crept further and further into Tumblr's mainstream.

Aside from my weird special interest I was blogging about old movies and silly memes and wanting to fuck Bruce Springsteen. And then it just seemed like more and more of the people who I followed for the Old People Shit that I enjoy were just openly and willingly talking about non consensual kink, incest apologism, laughing and joking about how edgy they were and acting like this was progressive.

And it hasn't felt safe here in awhile. Even on the corner of the internet I've been inhabiting, former cinephile and classic rock bloggers are now making dead dove jokes. I don't know who to trust anymore.

And it's really sad. Now with the ISFF pedophilia apologism I've blocked so many former mutuals I once thought of as almost friends for uncritical defense of her. My safe space as a weird autistic bloke with a funny special interest is now just like. Walking on hot coals. As a CSA survivor I no longer feel safe but I also don't know where else I'm gonna go as an autistic person who has found so much community on here.

It's sad. I probably need to delete the app for awhile but I'm not sure if I'll come back to something safer.

Idk I'm sorry this is just a vent post but I'm hoping other people understand.

[deergirlsrituals]

no trans boy mutual don't rb the transandrophobia post

[misanthropattern]

noooo trans boy mutual there are so many less reactionary frameworks with which to understand your experiences

[grubgender]

Something kind of disgusting and vile about everybody and their mother over on Twitter calling the blue lady "transmascphobic" because she talked openly about how she doesnt like the way transmen/mascs talk about/treat her♡♡♡

Maybe im crazy but she's not in the wrong!!! Does Twitter just not know about a large amount of transmen becoming violently transmisogynistic in the name of calling out "transmisandry"?

[dhamphir]

Your "thought crimes" become action when you decide to log in and write a public dissertation on how it's Okay To Be a Pedophile. Btw.

[suggestrogen]

One thing ISFF and her defenders fail to recognize is that supporting/uplifting the voices of pedophiles DIRECTLY silences and undermines the voices of victims. Trans women are already fetishized and treated like sex objects, that doesnt change just because they're children.

"She was thrown to the wolves because of what she said" hate to break it to you, but you threw every csa survivor to the wolves when you prioritized making pedophiles feel safe.

-a transfem csa survivor

"she was thrown to the wolves" bitch she WAS the wolf!

[wonderbringer]

as much as I Do Not Like isff/suggestrogen and will block her staunch supporters, I will also block anyone using her as an excuse to be transphobic and the like by using her as an example of “the evil trans person”. I do not tolerate that shit. as much as she is a terrible person, misgendering her and using this against the ENTIRE tfem community is not the right path to go on.

[i-suggest-therapy]

I really want to keep this blog focused on her predatory behavior but I really wanted to talk more about this post.

She didn't just have horrible takes on pedophilia, she also just completely lacks respect for any group of women she wasn't personally attracted to. Loooove trans women! Unless they don't fit my idea of feminity and womanhood of course.

[logieblog]

One more post before I get ready to face the day ahead and I'd like to preface what I'm about to say in the next paragraph with the fact that (obviously) I do not condone pedophilia.

Technically speaking, suggestrogen was right. Pedophiles are a part of our community. Not in a "pedophilia makes you queer" way but in so far as there are queer people who are pedophiles, whether we like it or not.

And I bring this up because I volunteer for my country's queer archive. We actually have numerous articles and stuff, actual primary sources, documenting problems with pedophilia in the queer community. And these are useful resources for some people. Anyone studying infiltration in our community by pedophile activists will find these resources really useful.

BUT we also vet anyone who comes into the archive and I can tell you right the fuck now that anyone trying to make the arguments these people are making would be kicked out before they even walked through the door. The existence of pedophiles who are LGBT+ does not mean you should ally with them, and the fact is people who are working in the field of queer history don't consider this useful or accurate documentation of the queer struggle.

The fact that your "argument" for pedophile liberation would get you kicked out of a queer archive should be cause for reflection. But I don't think you're willing to reflect at all.

[logieblog]

Literally all my love right now to trans women who have been victims of CSA and who've had to see all of this shit go down with ISFF and her ilk. This must be such a horrible time and my thoughts are with you. I love you all so much, please take care of yourselves ❤️

[logieblog]

Can't remember which of the pedophile apologists compared pedo rights to the plight of Paul Robeson and I can't find it anywhere, does anybody have a screenshot of this? Because I definitely remember seeing it and I really feel like we should point that out on its own because it's DISGUSTINGLY racist and I really don't think we should let it slide.

[bisforbutch]

Hi hi.

[logieblog]

Can't remember which of the pedophile apologists compared pedo rights to the plight of Paul Robeson and I can't find it anywhere, does anybody have a screenshot of this? Because I definitely remember seeing it and I really feel like we should point that out on its own because it's DISGUSTINGLY racist and I really don't think we should let it slide.

[ridafi14]

For real, everybody taking ISFF's shit as a reason to misgender and transvestigate her: I see you.

You are not a trans ally.

Someone's gender identity isn't a privilege to be stripped once they make a transgression, and all youre doing is signaling to me and other trans people that your respect for who we are is conditional.

Respecting her transness isn't gonna hide or excuse what she's done wrong, a big part of my gripe with her is the way she cries "transmisogyny!" any time she faces even a little criticism, and you're actually not helping by actually being transphobic.

Knock it off.

[logieblog]

The biggest problem I have PDB is his tying fat liberation and fat appreciation to more harmful ideas. Like why is he defending zoophiles and pedophiles and then using that same blog to champion fat people rights. I'm sorry but the optics are horrible. It tells people that having a kink or fetish for fat people (I could talk all about how we misinterpret fat fetishism but that's a whole other post) is the same thing as wanting to fuck a child or an animal.

Fat adults can consent! People with a preference for or exclusive attraction to fat people are demonised as being inherently dehumanising to said fat people when that's not true, people will act like feederism or weight gain kinks are like. Morally repugnant. To achieve proper fat liberation we need to get past the ick of someone sexually desiring fat people or wanting to be fat themselves.

When your blog is half "yay fat people are hot!" (an objectively correct opinion) and half "why are we being mean to the zoos and pedos :(" you're equating, whether you mean to or not, a completely safe attraction that can be not only explored but celebrated with enthusiastic consent from all parties with, yaknow. Actual abuse.

[capacity2]

This website used to care about victims and scrutinizing rape culture but now they want the rape culture liberated and the victims gaslit and retraumatized. We’ve gone backwards and there’s never going to be enough bloviating on the dignity and freedoms of sex criminals that can hide that from me. If I’m ever wrongfully convicted of a crime fight for me of course. But don’t use the injustice I face to endanger people that can’t protect themselves. Some laws can be changed and modified this shit is dysfunctional for sure but those aren’t the intentions these people have when they display a flagrant flippancy towards the harm victims of sexual assault experience. To them it’s just this thing that happens get over it who care you’ll be fine. In whose best interest is it for us to think like that? They use one argument to push another the manipulation isn’t even hidden well.

[capacity2]

Fuck there was one post I needed to screen shot to complete the post I’m making connecting the dots on how exactly those pedo posts are trying to communicate with the children on here but after I made that last post suggestrogen blocked me 🥴 but it was a really succinct post she reblogged about how it’s important to name parent child abuse as the biggest threat to children and not pedophiles. Bc I’ve been struggling with why it’s such an important distinction for people to remove pedophiles from the picture of who harms kids. I’ve been having this debate for a few days on here and the reasonings always don’t really add up. Separating pedophiles from people that actually molest children and clearing up that molesters usually aren’t pedophiles. So they say…. But as I said the attraction to act on it is the same attraction to desire it. Power. I stand by my opinion that they are the same and every molester is a pedophile. There is no benefit in separating the two unless you want to communicate to children who are abused by their parents or feel controlled by their parents that escaping online to communicate with pedophiles is safe. “The parents are the enemy” is always what these people say bc they are predators that understand the weakness of a child that comes from an abusive house hold. These are children that feel ostracized controlled and need to feel understood and who is better to do that with than a fellow outcast freak the cartoon loving pedophile on tumblr dot com?

This is part of the playbook. They want to make children feel like they are the only people that will actually treat them like free young adults. The best way to manipulate someone is to make them think they made the choice to climb into the jaws on the beast. This is the blog of someone who identifies as a pedophile that suggestrogen reblogs and says needs to be defended or we’re all bigots. I see the type of person that u are bitch FUCK YOU. No amount of pain youve felt for being trans measures up to what a sexually abused child experiences these people deserve nothing but lead to the brain