suggestrogen archive

was so mad about this i made a whole side blog / 21 / he-she / csa victim

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Anyway, stream

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The last thing I will say is this: Someone in my post made the claim that, much like how cnc can be a symbolic thing, so can pedophilia because both are paraphilias at the end of the day. A lot of people were upset by me saying kink and pedophilia were different psychological experiences.

Here are a few points.

I dislike the paraphilia framework. I think paraphilia as a word is incredibly outdated and frankly useless. Paraphilia just means "unusual sexual desire" which can mean so much depending on the culture, and I dont find that a helpful psychological framework. So already I dont agree with this. I think spanking, a foot fetish, a piss kink, lingerie and pedophilia can definitely be different experiences.

Yeah, i think being sexually attracted to a fictitious scenario is obviously more open to symbolism than being attracted to someone's real life body. Come on. Lol

Theres a fair amount of research on cnc kinks and their symbolic aspects, but there is no research that im aware of that indicates this about pedophilia. Interestingly, you can definitely see how things like cnc and pedophilia are both about power, except one is about simulated power while in the other the power is a very real entity.

Admittedly, research on pedophilia is lacking. But we know many self proclaimed pedophiles abuse. We know their desires align with the power structures that exist in our society. We know pedophile activism has historically been inseperable from advocacy for "consensual relationships with children." So yeah, of course pedophilia is considered predatory. I dont care about the imaginary pedophilia in your head where no one is hurt.

Truly, i think its ridiculous to pretend pedophilia is unrelated from the power structures that enable it. Desire is as socially constructed as anything else, and considering all we know, its absolutely important to acknowledge pedophilia as a desire rooted in power. Many pedophile advocates insist child abuse is about power, as if sexual desire cant be. To these people power and sex are completely unrelated entities that never intersect. No abuser ever desired their victims. Abusers are vague entities without feelings, clearly. Where there's power, there can't sexual desire, because sexual desire is always good and innocent. You want us to pretend we dont see how they talk about children, about victims, and how power is at the core of everything. I do think the desire for vulnerable individuals you have control over is rooted in abuse. I have no reason not to.

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okay im gonna leave this blog inactive and close the ask box. some final thoughts.

-i found it rlly important to include my personal thoughts on the situation as someone who was both a victim and who has a history with "problematic" fetishes. i know what its like to have those kinds of fantasies, which is why i know they're not real life urges. i have never in my entire life wanted to put anyone in a place that could hurt them. but the reality is that some people do end up with nonconsent fetishes as an alternative to their urges. i think people struggle with this nuance, which is very frustrating for me personally. especially because i think this is part of the radicalization process. some people are gullible. and if you tell them "well wanting to rape children is actually not different from ageplay!" they'll believe it, because they've never thought critically about these subjects in their life. and i find that frustrating. i find that sad. because i know this leads to grooming inevitably, but then its also used to accuse normal people of predatory behavior because they happened to share a fetish with someone who was a creep, so clearly theyre ALSO a creep. both of these groups of people have the same issue: theyve never engaged with genuine analysis of taboo fantasies, predatory behavior and the way they can intersect. instead they believe both are equal. only one group views it as good while the other views it as bad. i feel frustrated when conversations about these topics happen and people like me who are both victims and who have cnc fetishes are always thrown under the bus, so i felt it kind of important to add my own two cents, since i feel a lot of others in my position wouldnt be comfortable with it. it is intimidating to admit to those things about yourself. so i do hope my perspective helps people see the nuance of things, and that it doesnt have to be all or nothing. i know some other blogs have jumped to immediately saying "see?? this is why everyone with these kinks is a bad person" and i do want to make it very clear thats not what i believe.

-stay vigilant, but not paranoid. watch for the signs, but dont accuse people of things you have no evidence of. and keep in mind transfems are overwhelmingly accused of these things without evidence. double check claims you see. unfortunately, people do target others unfairly.

-as for the video essay i mentioned i wanted to make on pedophile activism: i'll come back once that's done, but it's in a long list of personal projects sooo... probably wont see me for the entire year.

so. please take care everypony! i really appreciate the support :)

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This whole situation was so insane to me, but it did open my eyes that we still gotta remain vigilant in the trans community. Either way, she will come back and instantly get banned, I will laugh at her ass, and then we shall move on and hopefully help those harassed by her

It was also very wild to me, i didnt expect so many people to go mask off so excitedly. Shes been making new accs from what i hear, so def report her over and over until she finally knows to back down. I think she has to eventually tire out.

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Let's protect the two year old head mate. With mama

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Hi there, wanted to thank you for how you’ve written this blog. As a trans woman and csa victim it has been rough seeing how the general ISFF stuff has played out across tumblr. I really appreciate how level headed you are and just the general vibe of your blog

Stay safe out there and I hope you’re holding up ok with the some of the awful asks you’ve got

thank you so much! i really appreciate all the kind words and the concern for my well being. this blog is not connected to my main so i can easily log off and not think about this. at the very least, i think its so lovely that ive had a positive impact on people here. i really appreciate all the people who have felt validated by my words or who felt like my posts helped them understand something. its a topic im very passionate about. ive been so enraged for a long time over pedophile apologism on tumblr, had many posts on my main discussing it. this was the most dangerous example i had seen yet, so it felt so important to say something and articulate my thoughts, especially because breaking down these people's words helps others avoid the indoctrination. i hope you take care too!

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So ISFF and her friends will escalate the dramatics and spiral together about how criticism is murder because it makes it easier to make young impressionable fans isolate themselves from those outside the cult, it's a control tactic.

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So like, im not screenshotting the adult diaper picture, but this is what shes reblogging onto her page.

Her page that totally isn't a fetish blog that she wants to reach out to kids on.

She is a liar. She is an unsafe kinkster. She is a predator. I want her fans to stop and think why this woman, who lies like she breathes, wants them to feel unsafe around people who dont agree with her.

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have flashbacks tonight theyfab

Awww are you sad your favorite pedophile deactivated?

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#whoremembers

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not getting into anything here i just wanted to say i stared at this for the longest time trying to sort out what "whore members" meant

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Tumblr for the past month

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i'll be closing the ask box for the rest of the month so. speak now or forever hold your peace

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...Well yes. Many pedophiles do, in fact, end up harming children. And before anyone says "but she specifically said raping!!11!" rape isn't the only type of sexual assault, and it shouldn't be treated as such, ESPECIALLY in the context of grooming and the like.

Being attracted to minors IS inherently predatory, and people with those urges need to get help instead of pretending that wanting to fuck a child is completely normal.

[leonkennedysprostate]

updated: for those wanting to help venezuelans these are the best general ways to go about it

cruz roja (red cross venezuela)

doctors without borders & world central kitchen

save the children (general campaign focused on venezuela)

+ the AFSC call to action (US)

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have flashbacks tonight theyfab

Awww are you sad your favorite pedophile deactivated?

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#whoremembers

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Reminds me of when i-suggest-vore just straight up advocated for incest. Like not a fauxcest kink, actual "consensual" incest.

ok so i cant see if this is true or not, so big disclaimer for people to research on their own.

but STOPPPPP i hate consensual incest believers, they make my blood boil, and these people are sooooo common in these radqueer type spaces. i see them all the time when i happen to come across them. its kind of insane how we have all been seeing this for the last years, and it just wasnt talked about because it was either all subtext, so you felt insane pointing it out, or it was only in specific niches so no one else saw it. but its so prevalent.

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surprising people are suddenly so angry at ISFF considering they’ve been weird and sexually harassing random men for their kink for years. I mean their whole blog wasn’t just kink posting for themselves, it was literally about reblogging other people and suggesting they should transition because they got off to forced feminisation on unwilling people.

also this whole thing is just proship discourse and why that community sucks ass. It’s okay to have weird kinks, a community romanticising incest and pedophilia still isn’t okay

i think ppl gave her the benefit of the doubt, so no one really commented on it.

its definitely an adjacent aspect of shipping discourse. i dont really mind proshippers, not inherently. i think some of them are normal, but ive also met some who are completely ghoulish. i try not to let that color my view of every individual in the community i meet, because a lot of them use the word in veryyy different ways. i just think the pro/anti framework is inherently reductive and unhelpful but i dont believe either side is inherently bad.

if anything i think both the suggestrogen discussion and shipping discourse are an example of kink discourse + discussions about censorship, and the variety of beliefs that can form around it. ive seen some insane proshippers who are blatant creeps, but i know some have more nuanced views on the matter. the issue here is that "proship" as a label is treated as some kind of political ideology when it doesnt even have an agreed upon belief system. this is how you get some who are just doing basic media literacy discussions, and some who are going #legalizeincest. its a meaningless term that gets used for a variety of different belief systems and it makes discussions on the subject impossible. it also sort of requires you to use simplistic language for complicated discussions. its how simple statements like "the things you like in fiction are not inherent reflections of what you want in reality, even sexually" (true) can get turned into "well pedophilia isnt that bad" through a bizarre game of tumblr telephone.

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i saw all of your anons, and thought wft. So here I am, a nice anon.

Head pats incoming, do not resist

pat pat pat

Enjoy the pointless nice ask among a sea of insanity. Thank you for everything you are doing, and please keep an eye on your mental health <3

thank youuuuu. i def need to take a break from this blog soon because its not a fun topic at all.