Lilith in the 10th or conjunct MC - When people dislike you for no reason
This is a tough placement and definitely not one for the weak. I have it in the 10th house cusp conjunct my Pisces MC. So society’s projections towards me manifest in a passive aggressive, patronising, suspicious, subconscious manner. It compares to participating in constant spiritual warfare. I am grateful that my upbringing prepared me for this because it wasn’t any different at home. We are meant to trigger insecure masculine and unhealed feminine figures.
What is it like?
You are unknowingly placed on a pedestal and will be burnt at the stake if you don’t meet people’s preconceived expectations of you. It is like being placed in ‘I’m not like other girls’ when you didn’t ‘other girl’ yourself - society did. You walk into a room and people are either burning with fury at you unprovoked, or giving you EYES 👀 like they have never seen your species before…I’m happy with my appearance but I don’t consider myself that attractive or better than anyone else.
It is the fact that you are ‘happy’ or ‘self sufficient’ that gets under people’s skin. What they don’t understand is the journey it takes to get to that place. People with prominent Lilith placements have constantly been isolated or persecuted throughout their lives, so you have no choice but to accept yourself in your most authentic form.
Others don’t want or have the willpower to do this work on themselves. They take out their frustration when they see that you have what they lack. This could be independence, abundance, beauty, boundaries, quiet confidence, personal power, eloquence, a multifaceted nature, benevolence, grace, favour, creativity, natural gifts and abilities, and so on. What they don’t realise is that they can also tap into their unique innate characteristics, instead of trying to be someone else.
However, the irony is that YOU will be called fake for being a human with faults, and not acting like the robot they think you are.
You also can’t win. When you speak up you’re too domineering or a bully, and when you keep quiet you’re arrogant or sneaky LOL 😂. The main difference between this placement and Lilith in the 1st / conjunct ascendant is that asc Liliths are more aware of their nature from an early age and identify with it. I never identified or was aware of my Lilith nature until later in age. I still don’t see it as my ultimate personality but I’m aware that I subconsciously give off the Lilith essence, and have grown to embrace her using it to my advantage. This is what I believe the Midheaven or the 10th house is about, your star image, destiny, legacy or higher self.
For example, an asc Lilith like Marilyn Monroe was probably aware of her appeal, power and the effect she had on others. However, her image doesn’t come off as that of Lilith, she was known on a societal level to be Venusian as her Taurus MC shows; sweet and sexy, not powerful mysterious rebellious or dominant (even though she probably was on a personal level). This is not to say that Lilith prominent people will not experience these themes, but the house position will indicate where.
With Lilith in the 10th house or conjunct MC, your career or purpose will be all over the place at first. What I’ve learnt is that you need to embrace this inconsistency and divine blessings will come your way. You find opportunities through unconventional means, that is the skill Lilith in the 10th possesses. It is also another reason why people hate…because they are not able to get away with doing the same thing. Trust me, my career and instability have been a great cause of anxiety but the more I have let go of control the easier life has become. This does not mean you should live life on the complete edge but it is all about finding that balance. Sometimes using your physical senses (in your environment) to make a decision instead of being in your head all the time.
Overall, this placement triggers shadow work in yourself and others. It can be a huge cause for transformation if accepted. Your presence is meant to affect people on a large scale in order facilitate global change. You are essentially a catalyst, and will find in time that your substance will bind with like minded individuals and separate those with dark intentions. When you understand the power you hold, it is truly a blessing and you are divinely protected.