Perfect collection of moments, memories and memoir

..Life and Love through the eyes of an urban mother of three boys

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By the time the kids go back to school, I will have made them all their favourite foods 🤔😌 #lovegrowsbiginsmallhouses #momtalk #younglove https://www.instagram.com/p/BofYBPqlYZiNaYTSaCEx-hS0V9LDhpHZOSA5jg0/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=17as7s6zh9qbr

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Being school holidays and spending most of the day on activities with the boys, the last thing I need is to spend hours on end preparing dinner. Plus I'm a natural sucker for easy cooking: Regular Egg Noddles, Vegetables, Pork... Plus I managed to get these really cute chopsticks for kids which are really easy to use 💃🏾 #lovegrowsbiginsmallhouses #momtalk #younglove https://www.instagram.com/p/BofV--klVZsHd7e06TXbgCkGBsf_tB2hrFiEzI0/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=gwqniqzcqb4e

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Mommy eavesdropping

In a conversation I overheard last night from my two older boys aged 7 and 5

Luzuko: What do you want to be when you grow up?

Azania: I don't know I'll see when I grow up

Luzuko: You must know. When you grow up you will have children and when you have children you must work

Azania: But I must have a wife first

Luzuko: You will meet your wife university 🤣

Azania: Will you be there with me at university?

Luzuko: You'll still be small when I'm at university. And I'll have a wife and children first before you. And I'll be picking you up from school in my car then take you home

Azania: Will I be living with you?

Luzuko: No. I can't live with you when I'm living with my wife and children 🤣

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My relationship with food is an emotional one... ❤️ ...Here I have slow-cooked beef short ribs, rice and green beans 💚 #lovegrowsbiginsmallhouses #momofboys #momtalk #perfectcollectionbylee #mommyjournal #adayinourlives #mommybluesblog #younglove

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My own version of the classic cobb salad served last dinner with a homemade creamy dressing. Quick and easy meals that the kids can have fun with ❤️ #lovegrowsbiginsmallhouses #momofboys #momtalk #perfectcollectionbylee #mommyjournal #adayinourlives #mommybluesblog #younglove

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My favorite time of the day, when the boys are down for their nap ✌🏿 1. I switch everything off and sit by the light coming in through the biggest window in the house ☀️ 2. I take deep breathes and close my eyes and take some time cultivating my own discernment, awareness and self regulation 💆🏾 3. Have a cup of coffee/green tea. Today I'm having green tea and honey ☕ 4. In a few minutes I'll go soak myself in a rose flavoured bath 🛀🏿 #lovegrowsbiginsmallhouses #momofboys #momtalk #perfectcollectionbylee #mommyjournal #adayinourlives #mommybluesblog #younglove

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When the kids are hungry and they are hungry now 🙆🏾🙆🏾🙆🏾 Breathe. Don't panic. Rice, lean mince with sweet potato chunks & sweet corn, cucumber and celery salad Quick and easy meals are the truth 😍 #momofboys #momtalk #perfectcollectionsbylee #mommyjournal #adayinourlives #mommybluesblog

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What a sad way to have started our morning, the memorial of Sir James, our son's soccer coach. The school choir sang for him so beautifully 😢😢😢

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Dinner is served. With love. By mom. Un-mashed potatoes with butter and parsley, baby marrows, beetroot and grilled pork chops... #momofboys #momtalk #perfectcollectionbylee #mommyjournal #adayinourlives #cookingformykings #quickandeasydining

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Mondays are not a good day either to spend in the kitchen... I'm a sucker for quick and easy meals #Rice #CrispyFishBites #ChunkyVegetables #GarlicSauceToDieFor #momofboys #momtalk #amothersjournal

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Talking to my child about death

Today my 7 year old son came back from school torn at the news that his soccer coach passed away over the weekend. I had no intention to blog about it, but his sadness really awakened me to the loud silence I've avoided talking about with my children.

Sir James was my son's first soccer coach ever and he was really nice. I had gone to talk to him about my son's progress three weeks ago following the interest my son was showing in soccer. We officially met and he had said he'd keep a close eye on my son because he had spotted potential.

That was one of the most exciting things I had witnessed my child go through. For the first time this year he had been selected to play in his grade. Such a big deal it became to all of us. So you can only imagine what he is going through 😢

Death is a part of all our lives we cannot ignore. And today I am reminded as a mother of my responsibility to ensure that my kids know about it and they know that it's okay to talk about it, and know that crying for the ones we've lost does not mean we're weak.

I'm hoping that by talking to my child about death, I can be able to prepare him for crisis and be able to help in the future when they are upset. I'm also hoping to make it easy for him to talk to me by being open, sympathetic, truthful and at ease with my own emotions because children respond beautifully to honesty and feel connected to our openness towards them.

Condolences to the family of Sir James Chigwada of Carissa School. We keep you in our prayers tonight.

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