I'm moving to the US and I'm slighty terrified
I'm moving to the US and I'm slighty terrified
Okay so to start off, I'm 25(F) from a western country that is in a better state than the US currently. My fiancé (25M) wants me to move to the US and live there since he believes it's the better option. I have a bachelors degree and have been working in my chosen industry for the past 1.5 years. I'm really hoping finding similar work in the states won't be too difficult. My partner has already locked down a decent job with good pay and purchased a house. I'm not opposed to moving, but the more research I do, the more I worry. The number of mass shootings I see in the news terrifies me and make me worry. Since I want kids, that makes me even more worried and want to raise them in an environment where they don't have to do drills in case of a school shooting.
Roe v Wade worries me for my future as a woman in the US. I do want kids, but also want a choice of when we have them. I don't want the government deciding that I have to carry a baby to full term, especially if it puts my life at risk. While my fiancé is a centre, right leaning Christian, he isn't against abortion and said he'd pay to fly me to a state that legalises them if we do need one.
I plan on moving to the US within the next year. I won't be working for the first six months and will be in charge of the chores, essentially a housewife. It's due to the process but I'm not sure how I feel about that dynamic.
I guess I just have a lot of concerns and I'm not sure if they're justified or I'm overthinking. Am I making a mistake by moving to the US?
Edit: I'm going to sleep now but I appreciate all of your comments and advice. I'm reading each one and will continue tomorrow. It is truly helpful for me to learn and hear from your own experiences/perspectives. Sorry if I haven't responded to you yet.
Also to clarify, my fiance is an American already living in Arizona when we met & I have been to Arizona (albeit not in summer)
Edit 2: I woke up not expecting this to blow up this much. I'm sure there are many valid concerns here but I'm also feeling like there are many assumptions about my partner and our relationship being made. Just a few clarifications + additional info I'd like to add:
The house purchase was made before we even began dating
Regarding the abortion issue, fiance is the one that brought it up initially and WANTED an abortion if we get pregnant between now and during the first 2 years of marriage
He's lived in the states for many years, with family in blue states on the west coast. We met and have been in a LDR for a few years now.
He's also not white
I have my own savings and fiance makes 4x my salary
