[happilyy]

that image that goes i want to do this. do it. but im scared. do it scared. changed my life

[happilyy]

[maureen2musings]

Foggy Gelderland, Netherlands

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[samijen]

Pierce

[2ear-tr9p]

Angel of Thursday I need u in my life so badly

[mads-schubert]

Part 5 in my weekly poster series for 2026.

[whtbout2ndbrkfst]

What Asexual People Can Teach Us About Attraction

We’ve Been Measuring Attraction Wrong

"Asexual people are often assumed to “lack” attraction. But in reality, many report rich and varied forms of attraction that don’t map neatly onto sexual desire.

So instead of asking “how does attraction work?,” we asked:

What do people actually mean when they say they feel attracted to someone?" "Drawing on both qualitative and quantitative data, we identified and validates seven different forms of attraction:

intellectual

aesthetic

emotional

platonic

sensual

romantic

sexual

These aren’t just theoretical distinctions. Statistically, they show up as separate but related dimensions—meaning people really do experience attraction in multiple, distinguishable ways." "Our findings demonstrate that both asexual and non-asexual experience multifaceted forms of attraction.

Put differently, the seven forms of attraction our study identifies are not “ace-specific” categories—they’re general features of human attraction. But starting from an asexual lens helped us see those features more clearly."

"If you only measure sexual attraction, you miss a huge part of how people relate to each other. And that’s true whether you’re working with asexual people or not."

[twinkprison]

you have to come play barbies online bro. you have to.

[iwillnever-beyourfriend]

COVEY GIRLS!!! COVEY GIRLS!!! COVEY GIRLS!!!

[quietwingsinthesky]

it's wild how once you decide that actually someone being fat isn't the scariest, worst possible scenario thing in the world. how so much fearmongering just becomes so absurd and so obvious. from how every conservative comic artist draws their leftist caricatures as fat people to that one family member who won't stop whispering about how complete strangers must be terrible people when all they're using to justify that assumption is their weight to a billion weight loss ads on tv that show you a completely normal looking person and then insist that they're unacceptable to live in society without this miracle drug that'll completely fuck up their body to maybe lose a few pounds. this is crazytown. this is the bad place. what the fuck are you all talking about. it's just being fat.

[cinturon-cadena]

Crazy story actually but my health actually improved after I got fat.

I have chondromalacia petella, which is med speak for my knees (and my hips, and my shoulders, and my elbows, and my ankles - but especially my knees and hips) hurt really fucking bad. Like, my joint bones grind against each other bad. Even sitting still was an exercise in pain tolerance. I used crutches and canes to get anywhere, and leaving the house took vacation-overseas-levels of planning.

It sucked.

Then, I got in with roommates who loved to cook. I hate cooking, so I barely ate properly. Well, now I was eating all the time! I gained over 20 lbs while I lived with them, and got to a weight that most doctors would consider 'unhealthy'.

I'm fat. I look fat, I weigh fat.

But I'm also not in nearly as much pain anymore! I can run! I can jump! I can go on long walks without a cane!

I still get flare-ups where I do have to use a cane, but they're not nearly as bad anymore.

Being fat is literally healthier for me than when I was a 'healthy weight'. No doctor ever told me that maybe having some extra fat deposits would help my joints, actually. Fatphobia is the worst.

[importantcatpics]

[rebeccathenaturalist]

Tired, scared, depressed people are easier to control and less likely to fight back. It is quicker to temporarily feed anxiety with trinkets than to create structures to dismantle and prevent anxiety.

It is not your fault if you are exploited in these ways. You are not weak, or bad, or "not trying hard enough" if you feel the weight of the world upon you, if it takes all you have just to survive. It's okay if you have ups and downs, if one day you're able to do many things and the next barely get out of bed. You did not create the system we are all trying to function within, one that punishes what it cannot exploit.

But your ongoing survival is a message that you are not defeated. Every single moment you are here offers the opportunity to try again, to be better, to grow and change and learn. Missed the last opportunity? That's okay, another one will come along any moment now, and the next, and the next. You just choose which one is the best for stepping aboard a new pathway, when you're ready. If it takes a while because you are, in fact, tired, scared, depressed, that's okay. There are many, many moments before you and who knows what could go right?

Self-care is rebellion. Joy is a radical act. Love--given to others, and above all to yourself--is a key part of the antidote to what ails us. Even if your embodiments of these are not big and momentous, they are no less important a part of your ongoing story, and the weaving of a better world.

[kosmogrl]

[hoziernatural]

who up betting on losing dogs

[theunfortunate-author]

my daily affirmation as an author

[mollyjames]

There are a lot of people who start creative projects with no business or financial plan, because "who cares, it isn't important, we'll figure that out later". And you can't let yourself become that person. Not because I'm a sneering finance bro who thinks your woke animated youtube series wont make money, but because if you don't you'll wind up financially exploiting your friends for years

[mollyjames]

Look, it's none of my business if you wanna work yourself to the bone for no money so you can make your dream project a reality. I think you shouldn't, but also let's be real that's basically a rite of passage for young creatives. But as soon as you start involving other people? You need a plan. You need to be able to compensate them for their time, and you need to have it in writing

[song-of-the-spheres]

head in my hands, as someone who does extensive freelance TTRPG work - an industry in which the vast majority of those involved are doing it as a passion project/side hustle, and in which many people are friends with those they work for and with:

if you are doing any creative project with someone else in which money will be involved, make a contract. Doesn't need to be super formal. Get something laid out in writing that very clearly indicates what the person you are asking to do something is responsible for, the timeline in which they're expected to complete it, and the compensation they'll get for doing so.

"oh but we've been best friends since eighth grade" make a fucking contract.

"oh but this probably won't make much money anyway" make a fucking contract.

"oh but I don't know all that legalese" there are tons of pretty accessible templates available online if you research, just make sure it's one that suits your needs and you understand what's in it (it can be written in normal language without legalese, as long as it's clear), and make a fucking contract.

I've heard horror stories about this shit destroying projects, friendships, livelihoods, and in most cases the fallout could have been avoided (or at least mitigated) by having a clear legally binding document about everyone's responsibilities and compensation from the get-go. Do not assign someone work without a contract or some form of written agreement; do not work without a contract or some form of written agreement. please for the love of god.

[daggerdoggy]

settings > wound > my wound > reopen

[daggerdoggy]

do not forget this

[smalltown-heroes]

⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻ 2016 // 2026 ⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻