None of Your Business

they/them, 23, nonbinary, lesbian. Occasionally nsfw so minors dni

[stillnaomi]

denying trans kids hrt when they're sure of which puberty they want to go through is also an act of oppression. even if puberty blockers are available, we're not protecting kids by denying them the opportunity to go through puberty at the same time as their peers

"what if they go through physical changes that they later regret?" we allow cis kids to take that risk. in fact, most of them are never even given a choice and told they might regret it. just educate trans kids about what hrt will and won't do for them, then let them decide

[lordandgodoftheobvious]

me: Privilege is multidimensional. That means it's entirely possible for someone to be privileged along one axis of oppression while being oppressed along another.

tumblr user: Okay.

me: For example, a Black man is oppressed for being Black, but still privileged for being a man.

tumblr user: Makes sense.

me: Such contradictions are not only perfectly natural, they are baked into the very definition of privilege. I cannot stress enough the fact that this is the case.

tumblr user: Yeah, I got that.

me: Americans have privilege.

tumblr user: That doesn't make sense what about American of color and LGBT Americans and homeless Americans and disabled Americans and--

[starofhisheart]

Happy pride to those 5 seconds where Charlie Swan thought Jacob was coming out to him in the most insane way possible

[drakensberg-blog]

The reading comprehension and overall common sense on this website is piss poor.

[poupon]

how dare you say we piss on the poor

[w0nderland42]

i get that americans love their cultural imperialism, but it really does piss me off that june is “international” pride month just because something happened in the united states.

in aotearoa, june isn’t our pride, it’s theirs. marsha p johnson and sylvia rivera are their historical figures, not ours. the phrase that “you owe your rights to Black trans women” is true there, but here we owe our rights to (mostly) Māori historical figures. i have the freedoms i do because of the legacy of an entirely different set of people operating in an entirely different context at entirely different times.

But because of american cultural imperialism, most queer people in Aotearoa don’t even know our own queer history. Carmen Rupe, Ngahuia Te Awekotuku, the Dorian Society, Gillian Laundon, Georgina Beyer, and the Wolfenden Association are some of our queer history. We should know their names! we should know what they did for us! but because of the power of the american imperial machine, we don’t.

our national pride month should be july, the month that the Homosexual Law Reform Act passed in 1989. our two largest cities hold their pride festivals in february and march, respectively. american queer history has very little (or nothing, depending on who you ask) to do with our queer history. anecdotally, from my own queries, queer youth in aotearoa know more about american queer history than our own.

anyway, happy pride, americans. i’m truly sorry that most of you don’t see the negative impact your nation’s culture has on the rest of the world. and to the rest of the world reading this, try searching for your own country and culture’s queer history, don’t accept the american narratives as your own. we deserve our own histories divorced from the cultural hegemony of the USA.

[w0nderland42]

this post is closing in on 10k and it’s really quite enlightening reading through the notes.

the most frequent reactions are from people from Not America agreeing that the cultural force of american pride has detracted in some tangible way from their knowledge or recognition of their own history. there’s so many links and references in the notes now, for so many different places. i had a scroll through some of them, that i could find versions of in english. the world has such a rich queer history, and i am inspired by all of the people saying they’re going to go and research more of their own histories. there have been resources shared from all six permanently inhabited continents (none from antartica, yet…), including a lot (relative to the usual zero) from the regions most frequently glossed over in our global queer histories; africa, the middle east, southeast asia, the pacific, and south america. every single person who’s shared a queer historical figure’s name, or a book or other source, or a historical event from their country or culture is doing an important thing by helping to dismantle the US pride hegemony.

the next most frequent reactions are from americans pissing on the poor, and claiming that either it’s not their fault individually because [nebulous reason missing the point] and/or that i’m racist (someone even said fascist lmao?) because the two people i mentioned were Black and latin american… it’s not the fault of those two women nor myself that americans have chosen their faces and names to put at the front of their imperialist pride. cultural imperialism doesn’t have to LOOK racist! you can be unintentionally culturally imperialist and look woke! a lot of the people who do this are queer and liberal or even leftist. the problem is forcing american queer history on the rest of us. shoutout to the Black and latine people in the notes who’ve rightfully pointed out that that’s a bullshit rebuttal. I’ve also noted the autocorrect typo on Marsha’s name, and fixed it, thanks for the heads up.

sort of the point of cultural imperialism is that the people doing it don’t notice it on an individual level. of course you don’t feel like you’re responsible! of course you struggle to see it when the rest of us point it out! that’s by design! if the rest of the world is saying something is a real experience that they’ve had, and you say “well i don’t see it / i’m not responsible for it,” that is blatant denial of a very real issue.

finally, for the love of god, stop using they/them for me, a trans woman who exclusively uses she/her. my pronouns are front and centre on my blog! funny how the people calling me racist and transmisogynistic for Using Examples are also frequently degendering me in the process, huh?

anyway, this vent was never intended to go viral, i posted it on a quiet afternoon after a conversation with a friend about our queer history here. i’m glad it has, though, because glossing over the americans swinging and missing, the breadth of history and knowledge being shared in the notes is a wonderful thing.

[lurkinginthecorner]

honestly the funniest thing about the yankees getting upset about this post is the fact that they will bring up their history but get it wrong lmao

anyway for anyone wanting to learn more about queer history in aotearoa i recommend this: https://openaccess.wgtn.ac.nz/articles/thesis/Queer_Activism_in_Aotearoa_New_Zealand_1961_-_2013/28766321

https://openaccess.wgtn.ac.nz/articles/thesis/Queer_Activism_in_Aotearoa_New_Zealand_1961_-_2013/28766321

with one disclaimer that queer endurance in defiance (prominent queer org in wellington who are included in this thesis) is a racist group who exclude and kick out every māori person who tries to help them, myself included, it’s a very good read and a lot of work went into it, definitely worth your time

[isuggestlandback]

If you ever wondered why they call tattoos and piercings "unprofessional" and "unsophisticated"

Source: Lainey Molnar

[wizardpotions]

You all need to understand that autonomy and especially bodily autonomy NEEDS to include being allowed to do things that are bad for you. True bodily autonomy includes being allowed to do things that are risky, drugs, cosmetic procedures and the like. Bodily autonomy needs to include being allowed to get high or smoke or get a BBL. The important part is education about the risks

[EDIT please stop mentioning suicide in the reblogs, I agree with you but I don’t want to see it in my notes every 15 minutes ]

[i-am-a-lazy-mess]

hate when I type :) and this 🙂 fucker appears. Go away you evil soul

[jackkdaniels]

when i was a kid i decided that killing people was bad therefore war was bad therefore the military was evil. and adults would tell me it's more nuanced than that and i would understand when i grew up. well i'm a grown up now and idk i still think that killing people is bad and war is bad and the military is evil

[w0nderland42]

i think it is very telling that, in their attempts to pander directly to TERFs, using the phrase “adult human female” in their proposed Legislation (Definition of Man and Woman) Amendment Bill, NZ First has inadvertently shot themselves in the foot by violating the Bill of Rights Act on the grounds of age discrimination. Sure, it would help “protect women and girls” from accessing abortions because anyone under the age of 20 isn’t a woman and thus isn’t provided the rights to an abortion…

Like, clearly it was never about “protecting women and girls” it was always about accelerating the social extermination of trans people from New Zealand, but even steelmanning their argument still fails because they directly remove fundamental medical rights from a very vulnerable population in the process. it directly demonstrates the principle that NZF, and their allies like SUFW, are perfectly willing to sacrifice existing and future rights and protections for cis women as long as it makes the lives of trans people (esp. trans women, as is clear from literally every statement they release on the matter) harder.

[w0nderland42]

additionally, let it be abundantly clear that this bill is the work of three men whose voting records and policies have gone against the interests of women (cis and trans) at pretty much every turn of their very long careers. this bill may be in the name of Jenny Marcroft, but it is widely known that Winston Peters has complete control over NZ First MP’s members bills. There is clear dissent from within the National Party, even the minister for women directly criticised the bill on numerous grounds, yet there was a direction from the top (Christopher Luxon) to support the bill at first reading. I’m sure ditto for ACT, as it pretty blatantly violates their libertarian principles, not that David Seymour cares. It shouldn’t surprise anyone that the coalition led by three men that removed pay equity protections is attacking trans women and weakening abortion access (among other legislative protections and freedoms intended for cis women) in the process.

[gaytanic-panic]

[pixiecaps]

big fan of whatever the youth is doing to torment scientology buildings

[pixiecaps]

they couldnt take the heat

[doctordotdj]

[w0nderland42]

Happy Ed Balls Day

[parakeet]

if you go looking for doom and gloom all you will see is doom and gloom. if you go looking for reduced items at the grocery store you may find a littol treat

[uhnonymoos]

"transfems can have sex life and maybe even talk about it and maybe even a lot to someone or somewhere" and "transfems existing isn't inherently sexual" is something that must coexist by DEFAULT if you see transfems as human as you see everyone else

[w0nderland42]

every time a trans person posts in some online space about being a member of the US military and all their fellow americans flock in to absolve each other of their collective responsibility to not take part in the “murder as many brown people as possible” machine i get so angry because there’s invariably some of us lot in the bottom of the comments/notes/whatever going “hey did you know that “i was poor” is not a justifiable reason to join the “murder as many brown people as possible” machine under literally any circumstances” and getting completely dogpiled for holding the rational position that killing people in the sole name of imperialist capitalist interests is bad.

[w0nderland42]

to be specific, the thing that pisses me off about this hypothetical but very frequently real person being trans and doing this is that i would hope that being an internally oppressed minority in the US of A makes it transparent to them the absurdity of militarily upholding that oppressive empire’s power. does Representative Ub Lican give two fucks about you in civilian life? no? then why the fuck are you giving a fuck about the country that Mr. Lican represents? You couldn’t catch me dead joining NZ’s (much weaker and much less involved in combat but still very much imperialist very much brown people murder factory) military even when our government pretends to care about trans people, let alone when Winston “Anti Woke” Peters is actively trying to pass the Don’t Give Legal Protections To Trans People Bill. they don’t give a fuck about us trans people, or māori people, or māori trans people, or fucking anyone except cistopher fuckxon and the chrome dome white men that look like him. why the Fuck would i put my life on the line (and murder people who literally did nothing except exist in a place that imperialist powers want to control) to protect that? the country founded on speedrunning the violent seizure of indigenous land and suppression of indigenous language and identity? the country that props itself up on having the first trans member of parliament while trying to pass the Fuck You Trannies Bill in the same parliament chamber she sat in?

And then you look at america and the Fuck You Trannies Bill looks fucking tame and the systematic eradication of indigenous people and culture looks still bad but Fuck and the endless global south orphan grinder churns faster and faster and you cannot fucking understand why the minority groups who have never once been seen or heard or understood by the people in power line up to pilot the orphan grinding machines on their behalf!!!!! and the only answer you ever get is “they were told it would get them out of poverty/into university/a job/friends and connections” but then in order for that to be a cogent framework you need to assume that every minority person in america is a fucking imbecile incapable of seeing the forest fire for the logging operation or whatever and fhsgenehxhdbdjsjsbfbfjcishsbsggrrgdhsgehrhah??? what the fuck!!!

[neverwonderneverremember]

sleep is stolen time. don't let them take it from you anymore. tonight. we are staying up. til one billion o clock.