Maladaptive Daydreamer Problems

A blog dedicated to maladaptive daydreamers' very serious problems (or just mild annoyance/frustration) ∆ I try to post once everyday ∆ Feel free to send asks and submit problems! ∆ Check out the #do i have madd tag if you wondering if you have madd

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Maladaptive Daydreamer Problem

When you got tired of your parame . She's annoying but she's the main character.

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Does anyone ever get jealous of their own paras?

Oh dear god all the time :(

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Maladaptive Daydreamer Problems #131

Tfw you've fractured your foot but can't go any longer without pacing so you pace around and then have to deal with the pain that won't go away after :')

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To everyone that goes on a like/reblog spree on my blog: I just want y'all to know that I see you, I love you, and I would definitely die for you.

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So I've started trying to dress like the daydream versions of myself, but they all have different hair/genders/aesthetics and I'm /suffering/ /j

This may or may not be why I have such a fluid ass gender expression 👀

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(i'm not an english speaker) so, i'm daydreaming about this para, he's based on a person that i follow on social media and he's my boyfriend in my daydreams my problem is that i'm really lonely, and i want to be in a relationship to help me with that and to make me happier, but i feel like no one will ever love me like my para does, and i don't see myself being connected to other people the same way that i am with my para, and that's making me really depressed how can i deal with it?

Honestly... I have no idea how to help you because I’m sorta in the same boat myself :’) Does anyone else have any tips or suggestions?

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I used to do this. Unfortunately, it's a hard truth to hear, but it's an obsession. I'm currently in therapy for mine. I daydreamed about mine for 4 years straight, we were in a relationship in my daydreams and everything. It's incredibly unhealthy to do this. You focus and fixate so much on this other person and it becomes an addiction to do things like check their social media and daydream about what your life would be like together. It's a one sided relationship though, and it's not healthy to devote so much of yourself to someone without a healthy communication. I'd suggest therapy. Find yourself a good therapist to help you sort out the daydreams and work on your social skills. You've got to break that habit.

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i honestly hate having madd bc it gives me such high expectations for stuff. like i haven’t had a relationship last more than a few weeks because the chemistry and banter is never up to par with the kind i can imagine. (does that make sense?)

Oh god what a mood

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something really scary that i do is daydream when i drive. i’ve done it ever since i started driving and it kinda freaks me out. i was used to daydreaming in class or at home for hours but when i drive is kinda scary. i’ve never crashed or gotten in trouble on the road or anything but still i’m worried.

Please be careful, this can be very dangerous! Try to find ways you can “ground” yourself when driving. Maybe talking to a person could help? Minimise the amount of times you drive. I know it can be tough, depending on your lifestyle, but please try.

Does anyone else have any tips or things they do to help ground them while driving that they can share?

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Oh yeah I saw someone suggest to talk about what you’re doing to a para. As in, explaining your exact actions while driving, which makes you focus on the driving itself entirely but also allows you to have some connection with daydreaming non-dangerously. Pick a para who can’t drive for example, and explain what you’re doing to them. You’ll stay aware of the present that way.

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When you read articles about MADD and they’re like “avoid triggers that make you daydream” but literally everything is a trigger

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Remind me of that post

*Looks at a plant and daydreams about nothing related to plants*

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hey so I'm pretty certain I have madd. The problem is- I'm not sure it distresses me? I have problems with daydreaming in school and having to reteach myself stuff and other immersive daydream things. But due to past things, I prefer staying in daydreams to real life, and I have a hard time connecting with people, even family and friends. Often, if I'm in a social setting, I'll daydream anyway. It doesn't give me much distress bc of Trust Issues (tm) but I do miss out on a lot. aaaaa help???

If you’re “missing out on a lot” I would say that counts as distress. Your madd may not be as severe as a few cases, but if you’re having trouble focusing on what is being taught as school, and if you would rather daydream than spend time socialising with others, I’d say that sounds like you’re a maladaptive daydreamer.

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When you read articles about MADD and they're like "avoid triggers that make you daydream" but literally everything is a trigger

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Driving tip: Incorporate what you're doing into your daydream. My go-to is explaining everything I'm doing to a para who isn't familiar with cars, but you can have someone learning to drive or focusing on navigating in a new location. Just as long as it's about the specific details of your situation and your surroundings.

Ooo that's a good tip! I remember when I used to ride my bicycle, I would pretend I was a bus driver transporting people from one place to another. I know cars are faaaaaaaar more complicated than bicycles, but maybe something like that or what anon said could help??

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something really scary that i do is daydream when i drive. i’ve done it ever since i started driving and it kinda freaks me out. i was used to daydreaming in class or at home for hours but when i drive is kinda scary. i’ve never crashed or gotten in trouble on the road or anything but still i’m worried.

Please be careful, this can be very dangerous! Try to find ways you can “ground” yourself when driving. Maybe talking to a person could help? Minimise the amount of times you drive. I know it can be tough, depending on your lifestyle, but please try.

Does anyone else have any tips or things they do to help ground them while driving that they can share?

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does anyone else start laughing to themselves or say something out loud bc of something your para says/does and then people look at you weird and you have to bs some explanation to why you’re talking to yourself or walking around randomly?? bc me all the time, especially with my roommate

Always make sure there’s no one else in the room with you; that’s madd 101 😔👌🏼

The amount of times people have walked in on me laughing to myself or making strange expressions, though... really wish my family would learn how to knock...

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(i'm not an english speaker) so, i'm daydreaming about this para, he's based on a person that i follow on social media and he's my boyfriend in my daydreams my problem is that i'm really lonely, and i want to be in a relationship to help me with that and to make me happier, but i feel like no one will ever love me like my para does, and i don't see myself being connected to other people the same way that i am with my para, and that's making me really depressed how can i deal with it?

Honestly... I have no idea how to help you because I’m sorta in the same boat myself :’) Does anyone else have any tips or suggestions?

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I sprained my ankle around end of july and I want to scream :') I can't pace around and daydream anymore and it's actually torturous now

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Soooo I haven't used this blog since january wow... I'm so sorry...

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It's suuuuuuuuper fucking late where I live rn but I promise I'll answer your asks tomorrow :'))