Confidence and Self-esteem
So the first thing I thought I’d like to talk about today is about confidence and self-esteem. These two things have a lot in common and I know that there are many people who are struggling with this. someone might seem incredibly high of themselves, and it may look like that person has a ton of confidence, but does he actually feel good about himself? Yes, some do .. But not everyone. I know there are loads out there who seem to have a good self-esteem but are really struggling with themselves.
Confidence and self-esteem are two different things. You can go around to show off and be the centerpiece of your group of friends, but how do you really feel?
I was one of those people who struggled with this, just a couple of months ago. I could do things where I seemed to have confidence. on the football field, for example, but did I really have it as good as people thought I had? Was my smile genuine? No.
Complements didn’t make me feel better or help me with my feelings.
After a while I began to understand that it's time to put away all social media, my phone, and anything else that could take up my time. Everything that could make me forget myself. I hid from myself and my own thoughts. I was afraid for myself. I would not allow myself to have one of those moments where I could think about how I really felt. How did I really feel? Alone.
Now that I understand this, so I decided to spend some more time on myself. I understood that no one can avoid it. If you run from yourself and your own thoughts, you will most likely, eventually, not feel so incredibly good with yourselves. I personally had absolutely no self-esteem. I basically didn’t feel good at all, even if it looked like it.
I advise everyone to put down all social media, phones etc occasionally to take the opportunity to actually do some thinking about themselves. It helps! You are allowed to be in pain, you are allowed to have bad days, and you are allowed to get help if that what it takes for you to feel good. There is no shame in not having a good self-esteem.
Challenge yourself to do things you normally do not dare, but be sure you can feel good about yourself afterwards. Are you afraid that other people laugh at you?
Before you do anything that might scare you a bit, give yourself a couple of seconds, minutes or even hours to think about it ... what's the worst that can happen? Can you live with it afterwards? Will you die if others laugh at you? Or will you be able to actually allow yourself to feel good about yourself afterwards? I think that we think too much about what others think about us.
Enjoy your time, do what you want and don’t let anyone get you down so they feel better about themselves. I promise you that if you take the time to think about how you feel, what can happen if you choose to challenge yourself, and if you think about how you will feel if you chose to have a good time. Friends, family and colleagues can help make you feel better BUT, ultimately, it is YOU who decide how you are going to feel. It is you who should feel good. You are not going to forget about yourself, only to take care of others and make them feel good. It may go well for a short period of time, but while helping others, you could destroy yourself.
Take some time to think about yourself. It will be OK.