MarriedToADHD

ADHD Support for Spouses

[marriedtoadhd-blog]

How would you define it? #marriedtoadhd #adultadhd #adultadd #adhd #add #adhdwomen #adhdawareness #adhdsupport

[tobeamockingjay]

adhd is either focusing way too much or way too little. there is no in between.

[dootle-bug]

Attention Deficit (oh there it is the noise) Hyperactivity (THE NOISE THE NOISE) Disorder (THE NOISE) [why aren’t you paying attention?]

It is not a lack of focus (Focus!!!) It is a Pin Point One Constantly pricking the wrong piece of stimulus.

It is hours killed, (Why can’t you finish Reading? It isn’t That Hard!) Time wasted On empty Spaces Days flying away The memory of them Is not even recorded The focus was misplaced.

IT is The worrisome chant “why did I do that [why did you] Why did I do that why did I do [do] that Why did I do that…” [that?]

It is a constant Sense of, Need of, act (Voices) Of (in) motion (The other room)

It is a WANDERING NOT random pattern of Thought. A train Speeding along Without tracks.

It is spacing out because The mind is exploring the cosmos

It is an integral part of my brain. [Frustrating, isn’t it?]

[sappfs]

PSA: YOU CAN NOT SEE IF A PERSON HAS ADHD!!!!!!!

[causewhynotlife]

My short definition of ADD: I am everywhere and nowhere at the same time”

(via causewhynotlife)

[spillywolf-deactivated20190920]

Don’t underestimate my ability to get quickly and very obsessed with something, no matter how obscure it might be.

[babylapin]

I’d like to give a shout out to people with ADHD that make it hard for them to control their actions.

Not everyone can just. Change. Decide they want to be a different kind of person and then do it.

So here’s a shout out to the ADHDers that can’t control their impulses to say things that are not soft and lovely and sweet. You’re still kind hearted people whether you manage to make your words match your actions and make your actions match your world view.

Life wasn’t fair to you, and it will take forever and a day for you to get to be the person you want to be. But don’t give up. You only fail when you give up.

I love you.

[acrosc]

adhd feel #15

when your disorder’s very real & very legitimate symptoms are blamed on everything from bad upbringing to conspiracy theories

[chronicallyvegan]

#ableism #adhd #autism #autismawareness #disability #socialjustice #health #healthcare #science #inclusivefeminism #intersectionalfeminism #feminism #civilright #humanrights #discrimination #neuroatypical

[myqueerlady]

One of the common stereotypes about ADHD that really bothers me is when people say that the medication “turns you into a zombie” and “kills your creativity”. As an art student who suffers from ADHD, I can say for a fact this is not true and I am actually far more creative when I do take my medication. It’s so much easier to come up with good concepts and actually follow through with them when you don’t have to worry about distraction or executive dysfunction.

[marriedtoadhd-blog]

me: alright i've got a lot of work to do today, i've planned this out, let's do this

adhd: sure okay but aren't you curious about what apartments cost in chile

[marriedtoadhd-blog]

literally any teacher or parent: if you let your work get crumpled up in your bag you obviously don't care about it.

me, internally: You and I are both aware of the fact that I have ADHD, ergo, I'm rarely be able to think ahead. Due to my brain's lack of perceptive logic, I did not even consider the fact that this paper would end up crumpled if shoved into my knapsack. It has nothing to do with my level of sincerity towards the assignment, but instead, the level of maturity in my frontal lobe.

me, externally: ok sorry

[neurodive]

This is a post for all those ADHDers out there who weren’t diagnosed as a kid, were diagnosed later in life (ie.: teen/adult), or who have yet to be diagnosed for whatever reason: 

You are valid.

You are valid.  

You are valid.

It isn’t up for debate and you don’t have to prove yourself to anyone.  You deserve support and representation, and I believe in you.

[wlkingcontraindication]

I would just like to point out that those who say ADHD isn’t real do not know what they are talking about. 

I have been medicated for the first time in months and I have already cleaned my whole house, budgeted for this next week, and written a new part of my fanfic and it is only 2:32pm. 

THIS is what it feels like to be functional

THIS is what it looks like when small tasks aren’t overwhelming 

THIS is what medication is able to assist me in doing

Not once have I looked at a task this morning and become overwhelmed, and that alone is enough to make me weep in gratitude for those who created this medication that gives me the ability to function and achieve all that I am capable of. 

I have always been able to achieve, think, learn, and function…. now I don’t have to bend over backward and have a 3 hour breakdown for my brain to understand that. 

[marriedtoadhd-blog]

Person: How could you forget after I told you fifty ti-

Me, wrapping an arm around their shoulders: Buddy, pal, friend-o, my man, my guy, my dude, bud...I have crippling ADHD

[brutereason]

For the first 22 years of my life, I listened to teachers and peers complain about my lack of focus, laziness, and inability to plan things out. I was known for my apathy and most people in my life thought that I was “winging it” constantly because I just didn’t care. It was incredibly frustrating because, on one hand, I started to believe people when they told me I was just apathetic and lazy, but, on the other, I knew that there was more going on than just laziness and apathy. When there’s no other word for your inability to do things the way others do, you begin to believe the other words that are thrown your way. There was no way for my friends, peers, and teachers to know that every day was a struggle against my brain. I also couldn’t convince myself, let alone others, that I simply couldn’t light the fire under my ass that seemed to be required for me to do things the way others demanded I do them. When I asked myself – or when others asked me – why I couldn’t just do what I needed to do when I needed to do it, the only response I could think of was “I just can’t.” And that just didn’t seem like a valid answer. But then I ran into a term that radically changed the way I viewed myself: executive dysfunction.

3 Symptoms of Executive Dysfunction – And How Not Recognizing Them Might Result in Ableism — Everyday Feminism (via brutereason)

[rooksandravens]

I’ve started referring to my ADHD as The Great Distracto like it is a comic book villain. This has two major benefits:

1. I’m not blaming/attacking/hating myself for things I can’t control.

2. Thinking about battling The Great Distracto makes me laugh instead of feeling frustrated and overwhelmed. The Great Distracto thinks they have the upper hand, but I came to this fight prepared!! I have caffeine! And supportive friends! And A LIST!!! *gasp*