Mr. Grinch

I am a man in my 20s with a medical condition called transsexualism. I am stealth in real life so I use this blog to talk about my experiences.

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Secret Deodorant Debuts Groundbreaking Transgender Ad

A new deodorant commercial released this week perfectly captures the anxiety that some transgender people face while having to navigate public restrooms.

The latest commercial in the Secret #Stress Test ad campaign features a young transgender person working up the courage to leave the bathroom stall and face other women in a public restroom. The tagline reads, “Dana finds courage to show there’s no wrong way to be a woman.”

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How to Escape a Hair Grab or a Neck Grab ? Look at them, carefully.

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There is nothing wrong with being stereotypically masculine

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Transition won’t cure you’re every problem:

If you have anxiety pre transition, you’ll have it after.  If you’re depressed pre transition, you’ll be depressed after. 

So often I see transition marketed as some kind of fix-all, it won’t fix-all, assuming you have sex dysphoria, it’ll make you a little less dysphoric, you’ll be bale to function a little better in life and the days where the dysphoria is too much and you just wanna cry about it become less. But they’ll still be there, I still get them occasionally!  Transition won’t make you magically beautiful, it takes years, and it’s painful, and it sucks. Transition really is one of the most difficult things you can put yourself and your close family through, but if it’s necessary, it’s necessary.  It has afforded me a life where I didn’t have one before, all that said, I survived pre transition, I managed to complete college and get into univesity (ish), did gig’s and made some friends. Transition makes some small things more bearable, and for me it provided me the energy to make the most out of my life, taking away the constant energy-sapping struggle of dealing with pressing dysphoria.  But I still feel EXACTLY THE SAME AS BEFORE. Things that were shit before will still be shit after. But it can give you a little more energy, and if you’re anything like I was pre transition, it’ll give you that little thing missing that helps you to become a functioning member of society. 

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These are lessons that have become all too clear to me recently.  Take note.

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Recognize that numerous studies do show that transition does not cure mental health conditions (and gives you need concerns in addition), but also recognize that you don’t and can’t recognize to what extent your current well-being is being influenced by your (pre transition) trans status. As I transitioned, my mental health got first much worse (feeling overwhelmed with the hugeness of it all) and then extremely better, as the time passed and more and more things stabilized, and I completed more and more parts of medical transition. For many of my friends and many people I’ve talked to, this is not uncommon. Transition does not cure your mental health conditions, but it can effect them, in both positive and negative ways. You should ensure you have good support (professional, peer, friends or family- people you can relate to and come to openly).

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3 1/2 years on T 2 years post top 1 year post hysto Learning to love my body and myself a little more everyday. It's hard being pre everything but being post transition doesn't eliminate dysphoria. It makes it more manageable. It takes time for your body to change and adapt and it's the same for your mind. It may take time for you to get used to your new body and to accept the changes you didn't want or the changes you hoped for but didn't get or accept the things you cannot change. Just remember that no matter what YOU ARE ENOUGH and to be kind to yourself. I never thought I'd make it this far but I'm so glad I did. I worked my ass off to get where I am today and nobody can take that away from me. This has been the most difficult personal journey I've been on and I'm not stopping yet. I'm going to continue my fitness journey to achieve my goals and have the body I've always dreamed of. I just quit Kohls after 7 years and accepted a higher title and higher pay at another retail store. I continue to go to therapy consistently to work on myself and I've made so much progress. I'm making a lot of positive changes in my life right now. Life doesn't get easier in fact I'd say it just gets harder and harder but you just become a stronger person depending on how you take it. I'm just happy that from now on I'm able to get through it as my authentic self.

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Probably the easiest name change process was registering to vote. You just have to re-register and fill out the section that asks if you've ever gone by another name and when the time comes you'll get your voter ballot and pamphlet with the right name. You don't have to show any legal documents or anything. I live in California though and I'm not sure if it's different in other states.

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According to Switzerland’s law, social animals like guinea pigs must have a buddy with them. Owning only one is considered animal abuse and is illegal.

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My dad finally called me his son yesterday...

I came home from work and sat at the dinner table to chat with them for a little bit and grab my mail. My mom noticed that we both were wearing our Fitbit blaze and my dad responded, "like father like son." My dad and I are not close but we both love watches. He always gives me his old ones and we both collect them. I can't really explain how it feels. I've been waiting for a long time for validation from him that he sees me as his son. He's been better at using the right pronouns but yesterday was the first time I heard him refer to me as son.

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Trans Singer Burns Birth Certificate at North Carolina Concert

Against Me!'s Laura Jane Grace staged a fiery protest against anti-LGBT legislation.

“Goodbye gender!” the transgender singer shouted onstage Sunday in Durham as the legal document turned to fire and ash.

Grace was protesting House Bill 2, legislation that struck down LGBT-inclusive municipal anti-discrimination ordinances and prohibits cities from adopting any new ones. It also expressly requires transgender people to use public bathrooms and locker rooms that do not match their gender identity. When asked if she would cancel her concert in response to the legislation, a move made by Bruce Springsteen, Demi Lovato, and other outraged celebrities, Grace tweeted, “Hell no! I’m even more eager to play North Carolina ‘cause of the bill! Let me know if there’s any activist groups that can come table the show.”

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My visibility, this platform, allows me to be seen and heard. It allows me to to tell my story and to show that my life can be just as rich or just as dull as a cis person. It does NOT ensure my safety. It does NOT ensure my security.

Visibility comes with a price, even if I’m not the one paying. We’ve seen the headlines, we’ve watched the numbers climb, and we’ve scrolled past name after name. My visibility does not ensure the safety of other trans men, and it sure as shit does not ensure the safety of trans women and trans women of color.

What does it really mean to be visible? Is it just being seen, but not heard? Is it being noticed and stared at because other people just can’t understand? Or is it being seen as a valuable, multi-faceted, multi-dimensional human being with a beating heart and a purpose? #tdov #tdov16 #transdayofvisibility #ftm #trans #transgender #transman #transguy #transisbeautiful #latergram #unapologeticallyme

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It was a great mistake, my being born a man, I would have been much more successful as a sea gull or a fish. As it is, I will always be a stranger who never feels at home, who does not really want and is not really wanted, who can never belong, who must always be a little in love with death!

A Long Day’s Journey Into Night (via troscum)

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The heartbreaking letter of a Virginia teenager detailing the racial abuse he faces daily at school

Za’Khari Waddy turns 14 this December.

Even though he is only in the 8th grade at Tabb Middle School in Yorktown, Virginia, he has already experienced a lifetime’s worth of racism from white students at his school.

“Ever since we’ve moved to this area my son has been faced with racism,“ Za’Khari’s mother Zettrona Powell said in a letter to the school. “He’s been asked if he was going to rape or rob a young lady, he’s been pushed into lockers and called a nigger on numerous occasions.”

Absolutely disgusting. Children begging adults to make things right. Shame on the school admin for not only ignoring the bullying but for punishing this child for standing up for himself! #Hate it!

Phone calls are great, but emails are the best way to go. They can deny ever speaking with you, but that electronic trail is indisputable.

Tabb Middle School 300 Yorktown Rd. Yorktown, VA 23693

School District Division Superintendent: Victor D. Shandon Phone: [phone] Email: [email protected] School Ph. 757-898-0320 Fax. [phone]

Principal: Heather Young Email: [email protected]

Assistant Principal: Melissa Bunting Email: [email protected]

Assistant Principal: George Page Email: [email protected] 

Secretary: Sharon Owens Email: [email protected] 

Office Hours: 7:30am – 4:00pm Summer Hours: 8:00am – 5:00pm Main Office 757-898-0320 Attendance 757-898-0321 Clinic 757-867-7456 Guidance 757-898-0319

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Incestual Realization Of Han Solo 

literally crying with laughter.

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This was at least twice as funny as I thought it was going to be.

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apparently bernie is not on the ballot in these states: 

delaware

new jersey

pennsylvania

IF YOU LIVE IN ONE OF THESE STATES, and are interested in voting for bernie, please go here and sign your name to this petition (and maybe spread the word on other social media) so that we can get bernie into office!!!

please signal boost this if possible!!

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at first i didn’t believe this but its true! don’t overlook this!!

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Before I got surgery I used to sprain a rib or otherwise get injured because of binding every year around this time, even though I always bound safely. Thank god that’s done with. Y’all that still have to bind, be careful with it–I see a lot of stuff on Tumblr about how binding isn’t dangerous at all with the right methods, which is simply untrue and unsafe information to spread. 

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Wow! Your revision looks fantastic. So happy for you!

Thank you!!! :))))