And then there was a tittie grab...
Last weekend a friend stayed over and I slept beyond terribly.
She had stayed over many times in the past without any problems, but this time the room was hot, she was clammy and way too close , and I kept waking up every couple of minutes.
Unable to hit REM, I kept waking up annoyed time after time.
How do I tell her to go home in early in the morning ? How do I tell her I wanted her to come over for a few minutes, not spend the night?
She is a great friend but when she wants to hang out, it’s too intense and too long.
I couldn't tell her... last time I did she kept bringing it up for weeks.
“ Are you going to send me home?” ”Are you sure you want me staying over? because last time” yadah yadah yadah..
I did not want to be rude. So I sucked it up...but this time something different happened.
As I was sleeping (or attempting to) she was petting my arm (as she usually does) and she grazed my boob... almost caressing it.
I woke up immediately bothered and confused. “ Not only did I slept like shit, but now you are touching my tits? “ I thought unable to utter the words.
I got up and started getting ready, she noted my uneasiness and ill temper.
She left the apartment, shortly after she sent me a message saying she was sorry and that it was a mistake, etc.
I told her we can continue to be friends, but that I don’t feel comfortable with her petting me, or staying over anymore. It was fair, it was clear.
I was annoyed, mad, and now confused of her “mistake”
She was clearly shocked and hurt by my conclusions... truth is, I don’t give a fuck if it was an accident, it made me feel hell of uncomfortable.
I care for her, but whether she is straight, bi, bicurious,, gay, etc... I don’t care...I care on how I feel. I should be comfortable in my friendships, and especially in my own home,
2 Months ago a similar advance happened, where she was close to kissing me and I told her I felt very uncomfortable. She claimed she doesn't remember, and it was not her intention, etc.
Again, I D G A F if you are gay or straight or curious but stop making shit weird.
She calls me asking me why it made me feel uncomfortable, and I tell her... perhaps in her culture women are way more touchy feeling. However, for the average female - its wayyyy too touchy feeling.
She asked me to please not change with her, that she wants our friendship to perdure. I agree, with new set rules (which she claims to understand)
After that, she stopped talking to me.
Doesn't text, answer texts, sees me and purposely avoids me.
Fuck you, you contradictory girl.
I valued (and still do) our friendship.
Clearly, if it happens time after time...it makes me re-think the whole violet story.
From my end, I hope you are well and I wish you the best although im annoyed and hurt from your petty behavior.