“Bullying is a terrible, terrible thing.”- Robert Carlyle
In order to be considered bullying, the behavior must be aggressive and include:
An Imbalance of Power: People who bully use their power—such as physical strength, access to embarrassing information, or popularity—to control or harm others. Power imbalances can change over time and in different situations, even if they involve the same people.
Repetition: Bullying behaviors happen more than once or have the potential to happen more than once.
Bullying includes actions such as making threats, spreading rumors, attacking someone physically or verbally, and excluding someone from a group on purpose.
There are three types of bullying:
Verbal bullying is saying or writing mean things. Verbal bullying includes:
Inappropriate sexual comments
Threatening to cause harm
Social bullying, sometimes referred to as relational bullying, involves hurting someone’s reputation or relationships. Social bullying includes:
Leaving someone out on purpose
Telling other people not to be friends with someone
Spreading rumors about someone
Embarrassing someone in public
Physical bullying involves hurting a person’s body or possessions. Physical bullying includes:
Taking or breaking someone’s things
Making mean or rude hand gestures
Where and When Bullying Happens
Bullying can occur during or after school hours. While most reported bullying happens in the school building, a significant percentage also happens in places like on the playground or the bus. It can also happen travelling to or from school, in the youth’s neighborhood, or on the Internet.
The Roles WE Play in Bullying
There are many roles that we can play. we can bully others, we can be bullied, or we may witness bullying. When we are involved in bullying, we often play more than one role. Sometimes we may both be bullied and bully others or they may witness other we being bullied. It is important to understand the multiple roles we play in order to effectively prevent and respond to bullying.
Importance of Not Labeling Ourselves
When referring to a bullying situation, it is easy to call ourselves who bully others "bullies" and those who are targeted "victims," but this may have unintended consequences. When we are labeled as "bullies" or "victims" it may:
Send the message that our behavior cannot change
Fail to recognize the multiple roles we might play in different bullying situations
Disregard other factors contributing to the behavior such as peer influence or school/work climate
Instead of labeling ourselves involved, focus on the behavior.
When Involved in Bullying
The roles we play in bullying are not limited to those who bully others and those who are bullied. Some researchers talk about the "circle of bullying" to define both those directly involved in bullying and those who actively or passively assist the behavior or defend against it. Direct roles include:
Those who Bully: Those engage in bullying behavior towards their peers. There are many risk factors that may contribute to those involvement in the behavior. Often, these people require support to change their behavior and address any other challenges that may be influencing their behavior.
People who are Bullied: Those are the targets of bullying behavior. Some factors put them at more risk of being bullied, but not all people with these characteristics will be bullied. Sometimes, these people may need help learning how to respond to bullying.
Even if a person is not directly involved in bullying, they may be contributing to the behavior. Witnessing the behavior may also affect the person, so it is important for them to learn what they should do when they see bullying happen. Roles they play when they witness bullying include:
Person who Assist: These people may not start the bullying or lead in the bullying behavior, but serve as an "assistant" to person who is bullying. These people may encourage the bullying behavior and occasionally join in.
Person who Reinforce: These people are not directly involved in the bullying behavior but they give the bullying an audience. They will often laugh or provide support for the person who are engaging in bullying. This may encourage the bullying to continue.
Outsiders: These people remain separate from the bullying situation. They neither reinforce the bullying behavior nor defend the person being bullied. Some may watch what is going on but do not provide feedback about the situation to show they are on anyone’s side. Even so, providing an audience may encourage the bullying behavior.
These people often want to help, but don’t know how. Learn how to be "more than a bystander."
Person who Defend: These people actively comfort the person being bullied and may come to the person defense when bullying occurs.
Most people play more than one role in bullying over time. In some cases, they may be directly involved in bullying as the one bullying others or being bullied and in others they may witness bullying and play an assisting or defending role. Every situation is different. Some people are both bullied and bully others. It is important to note the multiple roles people play, because:
Those who are both bullied and bully others may be at more risk for negative outcomes, such as depression or suicidal ideation.
It highlights the need to engage everyone in prevention efforts, not just those who are known to be directly involved.
Feeling Powerless in Their Own Lives
Someone Else is Bullying Them
Bullies are often1 jealous of or frustrated with the person they are bullying
Lack of Understanding or Empathy
Bullies come from dysfunctional families
Bullies need to be in control
Bullying behavior gets rewarded
Bullies don’t care how others feel
Bullies can’t regulate their emotions
Bullying is unwanted, aggressive behavior among people that involves a real or perceived power imbalance. The behavior is repeated, or has the potential to be repeated, over time. Both those who are bullied and who bully others may have serious, lasting problems.
In order to be considered bullying, the behavior must be aggressive and include:
An Imbalance of Power: people who bully use their power—such as physical strength, access to embarrassing information, or popularity—to control or harm others. Power imbalances can change over time and in different situations, even if they involve the same people.
Repetition: Bullying behaviors happen more than once or have the potential to happen more than once.
Bullying includes actions such as making threats, spreading rumors, attacking someone physically or verbally, and excluding someone from a group on purpose.
Top 5 way to Stop bullying
1.Values: values like respect, courtesy and sportsmanship. We encourage them to carry these values with them in their interactions with others so that they may build healthy, lifelong relationships.
2. Conduct:Bullying can affect anyone at any time. However, studies by theAmerican Academy of Pediatrics reveal that young people with low self-esteem are at greater risk of bullying.
3. healthy lifestyle: physically, emotionally and socially goes a long way toward building confidence and lowering the risk of bullying
5. Community Service: are less likely to be bullied when they feel active, safe and included.
Bullying is a distinctive pattern of harming and humiliating others, specifically those who are in some way smaller, weaker, younger or in any way more vulnerable than the bully. Bullying is not garden-variety aggression; it is a deliberate and repeated attempt to cause harm to others of lesser power. It's a very durable behavioral style, largely because bullies get what they want—at least at first. Bullies are made, not born, and it happens at an early age, if the normal aggression of 2-year-olds isn't handled well.
Many studies show that bullies lack prosocial behavior, are untroubled by anxiety, and do not understand others' feelings. They typically see themselves quite positively. Those who chronically bully have strained relationships with parents and peers.
Electronic bullying has become a significant problem in the past decade. The ubiquity of hand-held and other devices affords bullies any-time access to their prey, and harassment can often be carried out anonymously.
Bullies couldn't exist without victims, and they don't pick on just anyone; those singled out lack assertiveness and radiate fear long before they ever encounter a bully. No one likes a bully, but no one likes a victim either. Grown-up bullies wreak havoc in their relationships and in the workplace.
Increasingly, children are growing up without the kinds of experiences that lead to the development of social skills, and free play has been in decline. Yet, it's in playing with peers, without adult monitoring, that children develop the skills that make them well-liked by age-mates and learn how to solve social problems.
Bullies Show All the Hallmarks of the Dark Triad: Narcissism, Psychopathy, and Machiavellianism
Narcissism: The tendency to overly focus on oneself
Psychopathy: The tendency to show no concern for the welfare of others
Machiavellianism: The tendency to manipulate others and step on others for one’s own gains
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