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my recipe for drawing hands!

(small note that this is a shortcut that is more abt style and ease than anatomical accuracy. it helps to take time to really properly study hands, makes it easier to bend the rules a bit like this and have it still look good!!)

(learn rules b4 u break them or whatevah)

genderqueerdykes

I think a lot of people on this website would benefit from hearing that back in 2011 when I was a part of my college's pride group, I was friends with a gay cis male drag queen whose roommate was a lesbian. They had sex with each other often, but it didn't stop my friend from identifying as a gay guy, nor did it stop their roommate from being a lesbian. Neither of them identified as bisexual. This kind of stuff happens between queer people of "conflicting" identities all the time, it's nothing new. There aren't any rules

marzipanandminutiae

I feel it may be worthwhile to note down my First Thoughts and Second Thoughts- with apologies to Terry Pratchett -on this

First Thoughts: "but if you call yourself a lesbian and sleep with men, straight guys will think we can all be Persuaded!"

Second Thoughts: "the kind of guys who would keep going even after hearing 'no thanks, I'm a lesbian,' already think that way. and do you really want the onus of preventing men from being assholes placed on queer women's harmless behavior? no!"

remember that it can be normal to have a knee-jerk mental "WTF" reaction to apparently contradicting identity labels; you can't really control that if it pops into your mind. but you should often try examining it further

and at the end of the day, you don't have to Get It to keep your mouth shut and be respectful

artofthecatt

oh snap

moaccyrk

REBLOG.

FOREVER.

thepanthercave

This is an actual Therapist Recommended method for dealing with a runaway “inner critic” and this comic is perfect ❤️

chaumas-deactivated20240115

last night my partner held a somber little passover seder to show me what it’s about and when they got to the part where they were supposed to open the door for elijah they paused, frowned, and said “oh. huh. there is a clown.” and I looked out. and sure enough. there was a clown.

draconym

kosmogrl

lucidloving

Brianna Albers, "The Audre Lorde Questionnaire to Oneself" // Anne Carson, Glass and God // Haruki Murakami, Norwegian Wood // @iasoup-deactivated20190921 // @puppy__problems on Instagram // p.d., "Rest Achilles, the world will wait" // Lyra Wren // @pencap // Latin phrase translations // Emily Berry, Dear Boy