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Everybody has stress, right? I mean, I hope they do and it’s not just me. That’d be awkward.
There’s a lot of components of stress, but they all simmer down to three different crap stages.
1. Getting into crap
Knowing how I am as a person, I like to help people out. It’s a blessing and a curse, 2-for-1 special. I’ve become a crisis intervention specialist for IMALive, and I’m going to school for clinical psychology. So for an depressed, anxious, anti-socially individual, I enjoy actually talking to people to help them out with their crap. However, as a result of this 2-for-1 special, I don’t like saying no and I don't like offering my help. I say yes to things that I will later regret because I will have become, you guessed it, way too stressed.
Of course, there’s different scenarios that people get into but it all comes down to this. Either saying yes or saying no. Plan and simple, eh?
Solution: Learn to say no. The only person you’ll be hurting is yourself if you don’t learn this wonderful skill. It can only happen once (or in my case, about 500 times) before you realize “Yeah okay maybe I hate people just a little bit more today and I am not that horrible of a person so I’m going to treat myself, say no, and go get that McFlurry I’ve been craving for the past millennia.”
2. Struggling through crap
This stage seems to be, and often can be, the longest stage. And it’s the hardest. It can either slowly build to the bad and ugly, or go straight to it and all you can think is “Wow okay my life’s a mess right about now and everything sucks.” It’s to be expected, ya know?
Solution: If you didn’t say no before, it’s okay to say “Ok I need to take a step back before I take a step forward and stab someone in the gut.” If you don’t want to say this, please learn to love yourself enough to have some down time to relax and chill. Have a hot cup of tea and binge watch your favorite show on netflix until 3am, even when you have to be at work at 9am. Because why not? You’re an adult. You can do whatever you want. Look up stupid videos or hilarious, pun intended posts from tumblr.
If you want to learn about good and bad ways to cope when you’re in crisis and/or you want to talk to someone, please talk to me. I can help and am trained to do so.
3. Get out of crap
Ok, this stage allows you to have the most relief. Once the crap is done and over with, the stress will literally melt away, just like the polar ice caps due to global warming. It’s the greatest feeling of the world, right? Right. Something that caused the stress will eventually happen in a flash and for the most part, you’ll be glad you did it. You’ll say, yeah it was worth it.
What to do now: Only you can make the decision on whether or not the stress leading up to it is worth it or not. If it’s something work related, I mean, hey, you’re getting paid, so you can buy more nuggets for dinner and that’s pretty much the same thing as happiness (don’t even lie to yourself). But if it’s helping out with your dear friend, chances are it’s worth it. Because you helped someone out. You made someone’s life a little bit better and that’s a great thing. Most people are only thing for themselves and shove people to the curb. But you did a thing. You’re awesome for doing this thing. You’ve survived and you’ve come out stronger. You’ve either developed new coping strategies or you’ve perfected older ones. I’m proud of you for that.
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