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[thelesbiancitizen-deactivated20]

I know my thoughts on compulsory heterosexuality and lesbian existence (like Adrienne Rich’s original essay) are some very controversial takes for radblr lesbians. But I no longer buy the idea that sexuality is innate and fixed and that we are “born this way”. I think that is wrong and hurts us. It is convenient, for we can use it as an excuse to say no to men. “I can’t help it that I’m this way — I was just born like this.” And if you weren’t? If you found out tomorrow that it’s definitively not true — would that change anything? You’d still choose to be only with women because it’s what you desire, and we have a say in our own behavior, in the choices and decisions we make about our lives. You say no to relationships with men because you dislike the idea of being in one. Is that not a kind of choice? Is that not enough?

Perhaps we fear saying it is a choice because that would indicate an outright rejection of men, which is far more frightening than falling back on fatalistic biological explanations (which are not supported by research, either). To paraphrase Marilyn Frye in her essay on separatism — it is the act of women “saying no” that men find the most infuriating. And lesbians can hide behind the “born this way” theory to protect us from having to admit out loud that we are saying no to men. But it doesn’t serve us to do this. In the long run, it hurts women to claim this to be true and fact. It is holding us back in our quest for liberation.

Women are allowed to make choices for ourselves. We are allowed to say no and to say that we are saying no. There are many myths around female sexuality and same-sex love and desire and I think it’s time we start to unpack them again. I reject the sexological explanation that same-sex love is a pathology, that it is deviant. I believe rigid labels of “heterosexual”, “homosexual”, and “bisexual” are reductive and don’t come close to encompassing the complexity of female sexuality. I believe same-sex love is natural to all human beings in varying stages of life to varying degrees. You can burn me at the stake for saying it, and I’ll stand by it and burn!

I’d love to discuss this or answer questions if there are any. I don’t see too many women talking about this on here and I’d love to get the discussion going. I expect it may get heated but we must start somewhere.

[killyourlocalmisogynist]

… im speechless. the lesbophobia here is so rampant. lesbians are born homosexual and we will die homosexual. you wouldn’t understand this because i strongly and with ease definitely know you aren’t one especially considering this homophobic ass post right here. i love how you believe lesbians are somehow hiding behind our innate sexuality by simply saying we are born this way, it’s literally because we are born this way. it isn’t a defense we created to have to say in order to reject to a mans unwanted advances, it’s just a literal truth. we don’t choose to not enter relationships or sexual situations with men we just simply don’t desire them. we aren’t making a conscious decision to not desire men, it’s quite literally biologically impossible for to desire men. we aren’t hiding behind a born this way theory and we aren’t lying when we say we experience 0 sexual attraction to males. how are lesbians acknowledging that they are innately lesbians holding female liberation back? is this a joke? women like you that disrespect lesbian sexuality like this is holding female liberation back and it comes as no shock to me, lesbian are the easiest target for straight and bisexual radfems to shit on. our sexuality isn’t progressive enough for all of you, our sexuality is something you can’t fathom. lesbians don’t secretly want men, we naturally don’t want them. sexualities aren’t rigid made up labels you sound like an insane homophobic liberal. platonic love for someone of the same sex as you isn’t comparable to what homosexuality is. i can see political lesbianism is alive and well in radfem tumblr i can’t even say im shocked but i will always be disappointed.

[venusymbol-deactivated20211019]

"Homosexuality is actually choice we make"

Yeah, that's why it's been observed in tons of other species besides our own, you dumb fucking asshole.

Guess the penguins are choosing it, too!

Sexuality isn't rigid. Fuck you.

If you find homosexuality so rigid, maybe your bigoted ass isn't a fucking lesbian.

Holy shit, OP, you are garbage.

[thelilacdaisies]

I feel like people don’t talk about this enough. You'd know what I mean if you are, or used to be a straight A student. As you progress through school, the subjects get harder. And when you don’t give yourself enough time to fully understand what’s being taught, especially if your school is rushing through everything too fast, then you start falling behind. And I speak from experience when I say that, it hurts when people around you say “you’d be able to keep up if you studied harder “ or “you’re not trying hard enough”. Because it has less to do with how hard you’re trying, but more to do with how much time you have to grasp the concepts. So if you can relate, then don’t worry. Just try your best, that’ll be enough. And I’m proud of you because I know how it feels. 😊

[chiakisgf]

"I don't excuse the actions of this character--" well I do. I kiss them about it directly on the mouth. I think they should have done worse things. I think that would have been funny.

[vroomvroomwee-deactivated202508]

Omg omg omg. It all makes so much more sense when you realise it's not social anxiety but a fear of being perceived.

Why do you feel more comfortable with a long coat and a mask as opposed to summer clothes?

Why do you DESPISE taking pictures? Especially if it's someone else and not you taking them.

Why do you feel like you have to stop doing whatever it was you were doing when someone passes by?

Why don't you want to tell anyone how leisurely you go about your day, taking a nap, going for a snack, sitting on your phone playing games etc. because you know they will comment on it and even though it's not negative or mockery it's still feels like you've been perceived?

Why can't you make eye contact? Why can you do it only if the other person is looking away but the second when they look at you you stop listening and when you're the one speaking you can't bear to look at them because you know their eyes are on you and they are perceiving you?

Why don't you want to dress excessively or wear nicer clothes? Because you will stand out

People mistake you for shy because you don't speak often, but it's really the fear of drawing attention to yourself more than it is the things you actually say, isn't it?

Why do you hate overpopulated areas even when no one is speaking? BUT you still feel more comfortable when more than one person is in the room (but not too many!) so that the burden of being perceived is directed on someone else and you can safely lay back just observing the scene.

It's all a defence mechanism

[aforlorngazeintoyesterday-deact]

doomed by the narrative but not to death. doomed to survive. doomed to stay alive inside the story. doomed to never escape the narrative, not even through death. you are allowed no exit. there is no way out for you and there never was. you couldn’t die if you wanted to. the narrative has a hold on you and it won’t let go. death is too sweet a doom for you. the story has something much worse in mind. there is no way out.

[cheeseproducts]

KawoShin Week Day 1!

Prompt: Eldritch Horror/Non-Human appearance

Kaworu takes more after his dear departed dad this time, but he's the same thoughtful, lonely person on the inside. Hopefully Shinji will be able to see that once he gets used to how he looks!

There's an accompanying fic on my aO3 :)

Looking forward to all the awesome pieces/fics coming in the next week 💜💙

[red-lipstick]

Steve Adams - Moongazer (A hare staring at the rising moon in Kimberley Nottinghamshire), 2012    Photography

[heylsgowt]

[kurumey]

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[midnight-versse]

#i love gothic architecture i wish i lived in a cathedral

[oscarwilds]

when you crave academic validation but also live and breathe procrastination.

[greynvi]

shooting stars

[willwriteforhugs]

i want to be the protagonist of a studio ghibli movie so that my only real obligations are to romanticize the mundane and fall in love. nothing else matters

[teslacarbombz]

im a stalker but in a very chill lowkey way like real casual with it

[autopsyfreak]

my anhedonia is eating me alive so i’m making these mental illness memes to cope

[fernsnailz]

big fan of the world's most normal robot ^^

[midnight-versse]

“Even though a hedgehog may wish to become close w another hedgehog, the closer they get, the more they injure each other w their spines. It's the same w some humans. The reason he seems so withdrawn is because he's afraid of being hurt.” yeah, ritsuko, indeed. In fact-

[wasserikosaeder]

Couldn't find a post talking about this so I guess I have to make it myself since both of these stories have me in a chokehold

DUNGEON MESHI AND EVANGELION PARALELLS

Spoilers (all of NGE + End of Evangelion + all of Dungeon Meshi including the manga) below!

1. Monster eating, eldritch shit etc you know the deal, that's just the most basic one

2. The Gays have an important and beloved bath scene in which they kinda hold hands

Also one of the gays is... just not there, for most of the story lol. And also one of them is/becomes not exactly human. Also Marcille holds dead Falin in her hands and brings her back to life, while Shinji holds Kaworu in his hand and does uh. the opposite

3. The most important of all, the story starts with a simple premise of "let's fight the monster of the week", and then slowly but surely turns into... something else lol

It becomes a story about the very nature of life. Evangelion focuses a bit more on the nature of the self, and Dungeon Meshi on the nature of consumption, but both of them are faced with the concept of a world with no pain, no unfulfilled needs. In the end, the separation from others causes pain, but without that, the self cannot even exist, and everything becomes meaningless. Similarly, endless satisfaction becomes dull. We need to need. The very feeling of discomfort, of hunger, of needing something, is the driving force of life. Therefore, escapism is futile. Trying to completely avoid feeling discomfort will end up with you feeling nothing, and feeling nothing is death. It will come at one point, and we must accept that too, but what both these stories tell us is that we desperately need to see the miracle of our beating hearts, of life itself, of the time that we have here. And accept the pain that comes with it. When we stop wasting time and energy feeling sorry for ourselves for being put into this situation without having a say in it, we are finally free to savour it, in all its delicious and fascinating complexity.