Milky and the Gentlemen Writers @milkyandthegentlemen - Tumblr Blog

Hello and Comment

Ms. Milky,

I love your posts and commentary. I find the commentary always has me thinking, particularly about your current preference for cuckoldry.

I consider myself a submissive. I love strong women that know what they want sexually, and take it/go after it. Not the harsh type Domme but the strong, confident, very sexual Domme. I always get most excited when my partner is excited, really enjoying herself. I would love to participate in a MFM scenario where 100% of the attention is on her. I myself never found myself attracted to being a cuckold or humiliated – at least until your recent post that “But it’s the acts of 💛 performed by a cuckold that make Me feel most powerful as a Goddess.” I must admit the submissive in me really wants to please my goddess. Now, I suppose that means being a cuckold is a soft limit for me, for the right Goddess that really/really wanted it.

doug

What a sweet thing to write. Thank you, doug!

I will tell you readers something that I have learned about Myself. Inspiring someone to do something gives Me tremendous pleasure. And if someone reconsiders their position about something - be it a political viewpoint or a sexual limit - I feel like the Queen of the Universe. For the record, it is good to be the Queen.

#D/s #cuckoldry #twuelove #submission

It’s hard to believe it’s been over four years since I took this picture after spending a lovely day with My Aussie pet. I met him here on Tumblr, y’know. As I have many - though certainly not all - of the men I’ve enjoyed these past 7 years. I’m sad that I will no longer have this platform, but I’m not hanging up My strapons, nor am I putting down My metaphorical pen as a writer of sexual observations. I’ll continue to chronicle My mad adventures and interactions with other passionate seekers of the erotic truth. The question is where...I never again want to fear that My scribbles are going to disappear. Typical writer’s conceit; every syllable is sacred even if it is often just rubbish.

I’ll let you know where I go. Maybe it’s time to begin My own website after I export the contents of this and My other five tumblrs to some refuge.

#My future

dominantlife

My Vision Of Our Tumblr Replacement

I started on Tumblr soon after it was created with a vanilla blog. Since then, hardly a day has gone by that Tumblr wasn’t a part of my life. I have made excellent friends on Tumblr over the years. In fact, MOST of my friends came from relationships I made via Tumblr. The precious, bubbly cupcake that is in my bed? Tumblr. So you can imagine how painful Tumblr’s announcement has been for me.

I love seeing the marginalized communities that are shunned elsewhere on Planet Earth have a safe place to exist and be themselves. It always made me smile when I see a Tumblr blogger ease out of their shells, steadfastly into the world.

Well, that shit is no more.

As some of you may have noticed I started a community effort to rescue these communities. I want everyone involved because it will be our garden, our club, our safe space to be ourselves.

And the new site (name to be withheld until we have something to show) is not just for kinksters, I want vanillas too; artists, witches, horror writers, brewmeisters, budtenders, book sluts, fandoms of all types, beat poets, wilderness photographers, Burners, vampire hunters, Dungeons and Dragons players, and rocket scientists. Hell, I want people who just want to blog about cats and cabins in the woods.

What we won’t tolerate are bullies, minors, Nazis (and their fucked up allies), abusers or trolls. They can fuck right off to a cesspool of their choice.

I am putting up the cash to get this started PLUS I am making this a community effort, that is why I am being so transparent about the process with our Discord planning group. Yes, it is chaos. We have taken on an INSANE project to get done in less than 2 weeks. Well, 9 days now.

This isn’t my first rodeo. I am actively trying to keep my anonymity as long as I can, but I know it will soon be spugged out in due order soon. You will then see what I have done in the past and learn about a very vanilla project that has been near and dear to my heart. You have probably heard of it and maybe even participated!

The beta site will not be perfect. It will be good but not perfect. Hell, we have been suffering with “far from perfect” with Tumblr now for years. It is my hope that our community can put up with our rough edges for a little while.

Where we are tonight is pretty good. We have selected a host, got our software loaded, installed the Linux packages required and are now getting those packages to play nice with one another. We had it working for a bit until a small issue with the registration page required some elbow work.

I am working on the branding and marketing with a bunch of really smart pervs in our Discord group. I am really proud of all of our volunteers and want to thank them all.

If you want to volunteer or simply eat popcorn and watch the porn riots, please use this invite link: https://discord.gg/jVempgb

Remember, Discord is just the site we are using for planning, not the actual site we are moving to.

Many of you have asked about the Library For Kinksters, it will be archived and placed on the now site.

We plan to allow you to import your Tumblr blog over to our new site but Tumblr may have other ideas. Other services have been using Tumblr’s API for exporting and now Tumblr now seems to be shutting down that API functionality.

That is all for now. Keep your heads held high and remember you are ALL FUCKING AMAZING PEOPLE!

- Dominant Life

P.S. Please reblog the shit out of this. Santa may drop a slutty elf off at your house for Christmas!

P.P.S. Oh and pirates. I really want pirates on the site too!

I want to submit and be a fulltime subservient once again. It was the only time I was ever happy. I desperately need an Owner/Domina!

I keep getting new messages like this from people I’ve never chatted with before, despite the fact that we are in Endtimes here on good old Tumblr. I feel slightly guilty about this, but I can’t take the time to reply. If we’ve had contact previously, I will try to respond to you briefly with alternative contact information, but I cannot engage at length until after I’ve saved as much of My content as possible. I’ve poured heart and soul into many of the writings and I despair about them being lost. It’s like a set of treasured diaries are about to be consumed by fire. If anyone can advise Me how to do a transfer to save it all - or at the very least My writing, I would be tremendously grateful. I hate the thought of losing the chats I’ve had as well, and losing touch with the many wonderful gentlemen I’ve met here.

Was just about to respond to your caption on a post but got too depressed about the imminent demise of this whole platform. Are you going to move your content elsewhere? I'm still looking for a way to archive some of my favorite tumblrs that includes the actual captions. Most of the backup tools I've found only save the photos and other media but not the entire post.

I AM DESPERATE TO FIGURE OUT HOW TO MOVE ALL MY WRITING EASILY! I have several years worth of scribbles that document the sexual journey I’ve had - My evolution into a dominant woman - and I am despairing it will be lost without some easy to use importation method. If anyone can advise Me, I’d be eternally grateful.

Words of wisdom from the_robot_devil

https://fetlife.com/users/953909/posts/3624481

Note·on Mar 11, 2016 So you've realized that you're submissive. I see ads in the FL classifieds groups all the time from newbie male subs who just say "I'm submissive and looking for a dominant!" but their profile has no further information at all about what they're looking for. But there are a million different ways of doing D/s - so just being a sub and finding a dominant of your preferred gender is not going to guarantee kinky compatibility. As such, I've counselled a number of submissive guys who've hit on me to actually figure out what their ideal D/s relationship would look like before approaching me. But since they're new, I don't think they even know how to figure that stuff out. So here are a bunch of things I think a sub should figure out about themselves before they start actively looking for a dominant. This is coming from a cishet, F/m perspective so the advice may not apply as well to other arrangements (I think it would. But I can't guarantee). Probably most of what I'm about to say could be flipped around and used as advice for newbie dominants, too, but again, no guarantees. Basically I'm writing this out of my own self interest: I want there to be more submissive men out there who have their shit together and know what they want. If this note helps other people, too, then so much the better, but...yeah. Oh and also I am operating from the basic premise that submission means giving up control to someone else/doing what someone else wants. Which is a suuuuper general description, which is why it's important that you narrow it down how that would manifest for you in particular! It's probably a good start to ask yourself: how do I want to feel? When you picture being with your (hypothetical) dominant, do you feel treasured by them, like a loved pet? Scared of them? Inferior to them? Useful to them? Some combination of these things? Something else entirely? A D/s relationship will go a lot better if you're both on the same page with what you each want to be feeling. (Personally, I adore my subs but also like to see a little touch of fear on occasion. I've learned the hard way that I don't get along well with submissive men who want to feel scared all the time, or who want to feel like I'm an actual higher being than they are, or anything like that. Or anyone who wants the yelling bitchy thing, which just makes my head hurt.)

Sexual? Nonsexual? Romantic? Some subs are happy serving a dominant nonsexually - just doing domestic chores and whatnot - and might even prefer not to involve sex. Others really need there to be a sexual component or a kinky play component. Some people want something casual and others want to be in a long-term, loving relationship with someone who just happens to be the boss of them in some way. All of these options exist and more, so just saying "I want a dominant!" doesn't really cover it. Get specific.

How much control do you want to give up? Do you only want to give up control in the bedroom? Or maybe you like the idea of being under someone else's authority all the time? Would you want to be super micromanaged every step of the way ("Make me a cup of tea. Put the bag in the mug first and pour the water over it, and let it steep for five minutes. Then pour in about two tablespoons of milk") or do you want to be given the end result and you can choose to get there however you want ("Hey, make me a cup of tea, would you? With milk in it.")? Or maybe you're not actually about being told what to do at all! Which brings me to... Obedience or service? Do you picture yourself waiting around for orders and then doing as you're told, or are you more interested in anticipatory service where you learn what your dominant wants and do it before they even need to ask? (I've found that my favourite is when someone anticipates what I want but asks me before doing it. I don't always want the same things at the same times, so if he just does stuff then I'm going to start feeling like I have to keep a schedule so his efforts don't go to waste - that'll feel like pressure and I won't like it. But I do love the part where he pays attention to my personality and habits and tries to predict what I need instead of just waiting for orders. I know some dominants who just want obedience, though, and some who just want anticipatory service...whichever thing you like, there will be someone who's into it!) Active or passive? To me, submission just means my sub doing what I want, within our negotiated limits - whatever my wants may be. Sometimes I want to sit back and have things done for me, and other times I want to be active and doing things to my sub. But I've encountered subs who feel like submission means being passive all the time, and if I asked them even to get on top in bed they saw it as some big breach of the D/s dynamic. And then there are other subs who feel like submission is all about serving the other person, so the dominant should relax and be tended to. Figure out what feels best to you or else you could have some weird clashes like I did. Punishment? Funishment? Or neither? Nobody's perfect; at some point you will fuck up with your dominant. Some subs even like to fuck up on purpose so their dominant can make a big show of giving them a spanking for being bad...but both of them are actually enjoying it. This is known in some circles as funishment. There are other D/s couples where the sub gets an actual punishment when he disappoints his dominant - maybe a spanking, maybe writing an essay all about what he did wrong, maybe scrubbing the floor with a toothbrush, whatever - but it's something he doesn't enjoy and it's genuinely meant to fix his behaviour or help him feel absolved for fucking up. And then you get other couples where, if the sub disappoints the dominant, they just talk it out without anything resembling punishment at all. Figure out which of these scenarios works best for you, because if you go around telling people you want to be punished when you fuck up but you actually want funishment, you're going to end up pissing off a dominant off in a big way. Similarly, if you find a dominant who likes to find excuses to "funish" you but you're not that type of sub and just sincerely want to do a good job and not make her mad, you're gonna end up feeling like a failure. (Just on a side note, I think it's fairly common for newbie masochists to assume that pain has to be a punishment for something, and that's why they get into the whole funishment thing. And hey, if you get off on the cycle of "screwing up" to get "punished," then find a compatible partner and go for it! But you don't have to deliberately fuck up in order to get the pain you crave. Being all "hey wanna hit my ass/slap my face/smack me in the dick a whole bunch because we both think it's fun?" is also an option. I'm just saying.) What activities are you into? Honestly, I think all the other stuff I've listed is more important to compatibility than the actual activities you wanna do. But the activities part is still important. You should probably go Google "BDSM checklist" to find a big-ass list of the types of things dominants and submissives might do together, and see which things catch your fancy. But WHY do you like the activities you like? I'm a sadist. I like provoking reactions, plus I get an amazing catharsis from doing impact play - if I can go full-out until I'm exhausted. I aim to bring the other person to a catharsis state, too. But some of the guys I've played with were in it to see how much they could take, not for any sense of release (their bodies just...didn't work that way) and their big thing was being stoic to prove to themselves how tough they were. Playing with them didn't quite give me what I needed. Others let me hurt them as a service to me, or to feel like I was in control of them, but didn't actually enjoy the pain itself that much. Or didn't have too huge a capacity for it, so that I never got to really wail on them and get to my happy place. Playing with them was usually fun, but just kinda...missing something. Only when I finally found a heavy player who got catharsis from it did I realize how important the why of it is. My goals were aligned with his. I beat the living shit out of him until the bones in my arms rang and both of us were high as kites on endorphins and adrenaline and we finally collapsed together in a big ball of happy exhaustion and it was THE ACTUAL BEST THING EVER. All beatings before that one were just a pale shadow of what S/M could be, for me. If you like the idea of being physically hurt - figure out why. If you like the idea of being humiliated - figure out why. If you like the idea of orgasm denial - figure out why. If you like the idea of crossdressing - figure out why. etc. (In case I wasn't clear, I'm not talking about origin stories here. A lot of the time there's no big psychological reason why we have a kink, anyway. I mean: figure out what you like about doing a particular thing. Figure out what the goal of the interaction is, for you.) And then find a dominant who's coming from a complementary headspace. What are your limits? Don't tell me you don't have any - that doesn't make you look like a good submissive, it just makes you look like you have no idea that there's a world outside your own specific fantasies of what BDSM is. By this point, if you've actually been acting on my suggestions, you've looked at a BDSM checklist and probably seen a shit-ton of things you definitely know you would never want to do. Those are your hard limits. You will also have seen some things that you might do under the right circumstances but they seem pretty scary. Those are your soft limits. Know them. List them. Defend them. Sooooo those are the major points that come to mind when I think about the various different ways of having a D/s relationship. If other stuff occurs to me I might add it in later. In an ideal world, I'd want a submissive dude's personal ad to go something like Hi there, I'm a submissive looking for [specific type and intensity of relationship and whether it includes sex, play, domestic chores, or what] with a dominant. I'm into [kink activities]. I like [main activity I'm interested in] because ____. Generally I guess I just want to feel ___ in a relationship. I [am obedient/like to learn your needs and anticipate them/both]. Here are some things I'm good at/would like to do for you/might make me appealing to you. Here are some of my limits. In my vanilla life, I enjoy [hobbies] and my friends would describe me as [whatever]. I hope to hear from you! That gives me something to work with. That tells me whether a guy and I might be compatible. But when a submissive dude just says "sub seeks domme!" with no other info, I honestly never bother replying anymore. Those guys never know what they want and I'm not up for being someone's experiment. Learn what you want so I can hit on you plz kthx.

onlymonica

Up to your eyeballs in a coverup, but your lips are sealed.

As the Trump team legal issues mount, more and more people need to make a choice: Either cooperate with the investigation and get some leniency, or keep your mouth shut and hope for a presidential pardon. In either event, you hope to get a cool tell-all book deal to defray your legal defense debts.

Of course the coup de grâce in the near term is how the Trumpster tweets his opinion of you. You’re a ‘total lyin’ scumbag traitor’ or a ‘brave and courageous patriot’. Nothing in between. Funny thing is, you’re all a part of the ‘undrained swamp’; you just sink or swim based on one idiot’s constantly-distracted brain.

herhappysissywife

Time to update. i think the Trump legal team is way in over their head. It’s a pretty deep swamp they’ve created.

wyatt1946

They used to tie suspected witches in chair attached to a beam and lower them in a pond. If they floated they were witches; if they sank they were mortal. A lot of mortals drowned. Their enemies very sad and remorseful ( do you think).

Our politicians seem to be floating in the swamp just fine. Not that this is a logical parallel, but humor me. The idea I can’t avoid having.

herhappysissywife

No need to worry about them drowning.

Shit floats.

milkyandthegentlemen

This is the kind of conversation thread that I most treasure because it keeps everything real and connected to the world we navigate. I’m seriously considering starting a separate Tumblr and pasting in this thread just in case it gets purged on December 17. There is actually a lot we can do within the parameters of the new platform dictated by the Puritanical regime. Who wants to join me in the rebellion? We won’t be able to show pictures of pussies or cocks or assholes or nipples, but we can still share some highly erotic Imagery and thought-provoking writing. Message Me ASAP if you want to be part of this, gentlemen and ladies and those who are fluid.💋

Headed to DC, gentlemen. Time to restore order and bring back the light....

namk1

letyouindeep-deactivated2019010

Baby you’re gonna spread your cheeks for me on the company plane. I’m gonna show all the girls your asshole

milkyandthegentlemen

I’ve been groped plenty on airplanes as I walk the aisle checking men and women’s crotches. I’m looking to make sure their seatbelts are fastened, for goodness sake. Just once I’d like to have carte blanche to touch them all. To molest every last one of them. Well, except the guy in 14D who’s wearing the MAGA cap. Yuck.

aninactivebloggfgfgf

An Open Letter to Tumblr about the Adult Content Ban and How it is Hurting Your Users:

Recently, Tumblr was removed from the Apple app store due to an incident involving child pornography. This incident is incredibly unfortunate, but it doesn’t stand alone. Tumblr was also removed from the app store due to the large influx of porn bots and pornographic spam, users claiming to be proud to be pedophiles, blatant Nazism, racists who are not deleted for sending hate and harassing users, and more. I myself reported someone for harassing me, but because I had blocked the person and couldn’t access the messages where they harassed me, they were still able to send me anonymous asks. Your support staff, with back doors to the website (presumably), claimed they could not access the messages, and I was left SOL. Many features on this website do nothing to actually protect your users from harassment, racism, homophobia, transphobia, Nazis, pedophiles, predators, porn bots, and more.

You claim in your statement to us that you “have been working on these problems for a long time”. This is blatantly untrue. Please do not lie to us and patronize us. We’ve been here. We’ve seen you do nothing over, and over, and over again.

We complained to you for months and months about the rampant porn bots, and you did nothing except add a report button on mobile which only reported sensitive content or spam at best. You could have addressed this problem with an effective algorithm, but you did not. We complained to you about being harassed and sent hate speech for being LGBT+, and you did nothing. We complained to you about blogs being randomly deleted, and sometimes you’ve restored them, other times you have not. We complained to you that there were people proudly claiming to be “Minor Attracted Persons”, or pedophiles, and you did nothing. We complained to you about people proudly claiming to be white supremacists, and you did nothing. All of these things are “against the community guidelines”, and yet over and over, you have not found effective ways to handle these problems or suppress the feeling of welcome that these users claim to get here. You have had a long time to work on these problems, but you haven’t addressed them. To say you have is untrue.

Multiple other social networking websites, such as Wordpress, Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest, and others have effectively dealt with rampant pornography, racism, pedophilia, and other problems without causing massive issues for their users who are not misusing the platform. They are continuing to find new, effective ways to deal with these issues without causing problems for their userbase as a whole. There is no reason that you are unable to do this effectively other than that you wanted to do it quickly. You have once again chosen your stock holders over your users. And we have had enough.

You have already started to ban “Adult” content with a new algorithm. Here are screenshots of just a fraction of the posts you have flagged as containing adult content:

Your new system of simply tackling everything at once is not working. At all. And each of these screenshots is proof of your utter incompetence. None of these posts contain pornographic acts, “female nipples”, or any community violation of any kind.

We, the users, have been asking you for months to deal with these problems - particularly, the porn bots and bots that spam. In order to block a bot from a side blog, I have to do it manually, even though they are in my side blog’s feed. This is a huge issue for mobile - only users. They keep cropping up in droves, taking over our posts and tricking google into making it look like a legitimate blog linked to a pornographic website. We have complained to you for months and months now, and your solution to simply “ban all adult content” is ineffective. I agree that children should not be able to access pornography - but this is not how you tackle a porn bot problem. Your system is utterly useless, allows for racists, pedophiles, porn bots, and Nazis to remain untouched. It also harms sex workers and real people who may use this website for some forms of adult content responsibly. Moreover, as seen above, it harms plenty of users who have in no way violated your terms of service.

If you keep this up, you threaten your website and company as a whole. Many of us are backing up our blogs and planning places to go to.

You already have a content filter for “sensitive” content (content inappropriate for younger viewers). You could have improved this, instead of attacking your entire user base. It seems to be a very lazy “solution”, if you could call it one at all, and one that harms your entire userbase.

If you are going to keep this filter in place and make Tumblr, a website that has never been known for being family friendly and has never claimed to be, you are going to lose millions of your users. We are already planning our exodus. It isn’t hard to follow. Censor us, and we will go somewhere else. That is not a threat. It is a promise.

Sincerely,

The users of your website.

@staff @support

aninactivebloggfgfgf

They flagged this post immediately and I’ve submitted it for review… this is… quite a week.

aninactivebloggfgfgf

If you believe these words, reblog it, please. I want this to be right in their face because I couldn’t email them directly.

prettyprettysharpteeth

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milkyandthegentlemen

I just looked back on my dashboard at my posts and discovered to my astonishment that dozens of fairly innocuous posts have been flagged.

As we prepare to evacuate Tumblr due to our NSFW content, let us establish a meeting place, My dear friends.

There’s a group called Refugees of Tumblr that’s formed on the FetLife site. FetLife is free, and it provides a real community for perverts like us.

I’ll see y’all over there soon. Right now, I’m busy trying to salvage the content on My tumblrs....

#tumblrpocalypse #refugees

dommeintraining

You know what’s really cute? Boys in skirts.

dommeintraining

And absolutely nothing else underneath, so I can just bend them over and have my way.

glutenfreesubmissive

Same for aprons?

milkyandthegentlemen

Oh, FUCK YES.

This reminds me of the Mike Rowe/Bunny Bunns segment when he was in the Bay area doing feature pieces for the local station, pre-Dirty Jobs. Great stuff.

wolfnanaki

Tumblr NSFW Ban: This Time It’s Legit and Not a Glitch or Joke

Okay, so. December 17th is the day the ban officially drops on all things porn here on Tumblr. So that’s…great.

This blog here is SFW, so I don’t expect to get banned. However, I will have to back up - and then delete - my NSFW side blog. If you know that blog, enjoy it until December 16th, when I’ll delete it.

TO BACK UP YOUR ENTIRE BLOG AT ONCE:

Click “Settings”.

Click the blog icon on the right side bar.

Scroll down to “Export”.

Click the “Export [blogname]” button.

It’ll take some time, but when it’s done, it’ll provide you a .ZIP file featuring all of the images and videos on your blog (in full resolution), as well as a .ZIP within that contains every post in HTML format, minus the Tumblr layout. You can only do this with your own blogs, and not blogs by other people.

When I first tried this feature out, I did have trouble exporting it with Windows Explorer, but WinRAR handled it no problem. Something to keep in mind.

WHERE ELSE TO FIND ME

I make myself pretty easy to find. You should be able to just Google my username Wolf Nanaki and find me on various platforms with ease. If you want to find me somewhere specifically, or want to add me as a friend on Steam or Discord, message me.

popsiclebunny

WELP

Time to really start posting to twitter more and maybe HF

iamcdomm

Here is the information I was looking for.

I'm sorry if I'm being impatient but tumblr will do away with adult content. And I feel like I'm losing my chance. :* What can I do?

I’ll be happy to give you My fetlife profile name or email address, but you need to private message Me. I tried to answer privately, and there is a glitch in processing, and your tumblr doesn’t accept messages from those you’re not following...but hopefully messaging Me directly will prove a charm. Otherwise, send me your email address via an ask and I won’t publish it, but instead reply to you directly.

honedperfection

December 17th - a rescue plan

Some good news, I’ve been talking to two developers now and got them working together, we just had a meeting with the guys behind an existing large (millions of users) site similar to Tumblr, with a vibrant and open-minded community, and more importantly, it has open-minded owners who believe in free speech. They think we can get something done here to rescue the whole community.

I’m not allowed to reveal the site name yet. I can tell you it’s mainstream, open to everyone, open-minded and welcoming. (It’s not WordPress or any site owned by Facebook or Twitter. It’s not Pillowfort, that’s in closed beta. It’s not Ello, that’s mainly for artists. It’s not kinkspace or fetlife, those are too specialist. It’s not jux, that seems to be closed. It’s not Soup, that seems still in development and too small.)

One of the reasons for delaying the announcement for next few days is they don’t want a “land grab” where people take the names of current popular Tumblr users over there (cyber squatting). So they are looking at ways for existing Tumblr users to keep the same names on the new site.

More info over the days to come.

The plan is, broadly:

1. By December 9th, announcement of the new site and how to secure your username there

2. By December 10th, an online tool for bloggers to copy their existing content to the new site automatically, with the same tags and captions.

3. Bloggers will need to copy their content across between December 10th and December 17th if they want to use the automatic tool.

4. My understanding is that after December 17th there will be no public access to any “flagged” posts on Tumblr, but the original poster will still be able to see the flagged post (for a short time at least). Therefore, the original poster may still be able to manually download a post to their own PC or phone, after December 17th, and manually upload it to the other site. But if you have lots of posts that will take a long time, it will be better to use the automatic tool before December 17th.

Please understand that these dates are approximate and may change for technical or other reasons.

There may be a few rough edges or not so perfect looking site design on the transfer tool. Everyone is doing their best. The main goal here is to help as many people as possible preserve access to their content, in the short space of time Tumblr has allowed us, and preserve as much as possible of the Tumblr community spirit somewhere new.

The new site will cater for photo, GIF, text and html posts. It will not offer video and audio posts, due to cost reasons - maybe in future, but for now you will need to preserve video and audio content yourself in some other place.

If your Tumblr blog has a mixture of original content and reblogs, or all reblogs, all of that can be copied over to the new site. Reblogs will become “your” original content if nobody else posted them yet, otherwise they will be shown as reblogs. The devs are looking at ways to preserve attribution of reblogs back to the original Tumblr poster, if that person also moves to the new site.

Important: your Likes cannot be copied from Tumblr to the new site. You will have to go find the same posts again on the new site, and like them afresh.

(Similarly, existing reblog comments, asks, messages and other user interaction on Tumblr cannot be copied to the new site - that’s just too much to do, in the short time available.)

If you want to preserve any of your existing Liked posts on Tumblr, you will need to either: (1) download the post to your own PC, or: (2A) reblog it now to your own Tumblr blog, and then (2B) use the automatic tool, before December 17th, to move your whole Tumblr blog across to the new site.

If you have Liked a lot of posts here on Tumblr, the gridllr.com webapp should be able to help you do steps 1 and 2A quickly, I mean download or reblog.

(Someone complained to me today about the appearance of Gridllr on a phone. It’s best to use Gridllr on a PC, Mac or Tablet with a large screen.)

If you have liked a post here on Tumblr and the original poster decides to delete it, or even to delete their entire blog, some time before December 17th, then that post will be permanently lost. So if you want to be sure to preserve any of your Liked posts, you should best download or reblog as soon as possible. If it’s reblogged to your own blog it is safe from deletion, at least for next few days.

Obviously, you will lose access, after December 17th, to all past posts you have liked, if Tumblr has flagged them as NSFW. Again, the steps (1), or (2A) and (2B) covered above will be the only way to hold on to these posts.

fur-n-steel

🙏🙏🙏

professormonkeybusiness

Fantastic to know!

daddydanworld

If history is repeating itself, this move could be Tumblr’s final nail.

While I do hate the pending changes I am enjoying the “think pieces” being written about it. Very intellectually stimulating.

rae-being-naughty

NSFW Tumblr Change

In a very real way I got back in touch with the core of who I was by writing and exploring and building this community here on Tumblr. It was here I was introduced to varieties of domination, especially femdom I had never seen or considered before. Even in my thirties there was still so much sexual exploration to do and this was a safe (and after locking down messaging, even safer) place to grow. To shed old skin, to build up wings (even if they were black instead of white) and spread them wide.

I got to share a lot of my journey, and to my surprise there were people who even looked to me for wisdom. My dance with impostor syndrome still has me confused about that from time to time. I got feedback, I got friends, and I grew so much as a person and as a writer. I’m truly grateful for the time we were allowed here, and for the people who embraced me along the way.

When I started, and when people actually listened, I realized I had a unique way to do what I always wanted to do. Namely, to be a light in the darkness. To come into lives and leave them a little better for having existed in them. This blog, as insane as it sounds, has been an unforgettable and ultimately positive force in my life. I tried to return the favor as much as time, energy, and the platform itself would allow.

Throughout my life I’ve weathered many an uprooting. @sams-favourite-things is having a harder time with the fracturing and the change than I because this is in a very real sense his community. I think many are in the same place. Fearing that they will not find a spot to land that will make them feel safe and treasured and help them love themselves as precisely who they are. The truth is, any community is what you make of it. We all shape it. I think we know that the safe place for the future will not be some permutation of Tumblr. They’ve showed their hand and even if they walk stuff back by some miracle everyone will be waiting for the time when they do it all over again. And again. Until they get what they want.

We’ll find a new home, and build the community around those of us that we trust to help us grow and nurture us in the most positive of ways. It may take time, and you might not be able to collect all of them in one place… but we’ll be out there doing what we can to provide an environment like this one. An intersection of memes, politics that advocate people having the right to exist, sexy kinky goodness in a safe, sane, and consensual manner; holding discourse to examine things and not shame and call out.

Wherever you land, remember that ultimately your experience with a community is in your hands. You choose who to follow, who to block, you control in many ways personal access to you (if not your content), and with each interaction you set the tone of your space and your boundaries.

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