Military Sweethearts

Hey military girlfriends, wives, or fiancés!!!!! Here is a blog for anyone to vent, comment, leave stories, or advice for any problem you may be facing!! I'm 21 and in love with my man that's in the navy.

[thelifeofhayleymarie]

25/07/2018: Goodbyes are hard

Life after having him home for 8 days then having to say goodbye again, is dull and sad and I’m having major withdrawals. I just want him home with me always. This whole visiting then saying goodbye thing is depressing and I don’t want to do it anymore. I want to start our life together already!!

I had the most amazing week with him here. I never thought it was possible to fall even more inlove with him than I already was but I swear I did. He exceeds my expectations of love and commitment and effort every single time without fail. Having him home again, and for such an extended amount of time this time (well more than usual) gave me a taste of what our lives will be like when we finally get to end the distance and live together for good. I loved every minute of it. We were inseparable and we just had so much fun together it’s insane. Our relationship is better than its ever been before, and I know I say it all the time but god damn I am so inlove with him. He’s so romantic and lovely and sweet to me all the time. There were so many nights where we’d both be asleep together and I’d wake up to him softly kissing my cheek, or pulling me closer into him and whispering how much he loves me and how he can’t wait to make me his wife one day, and all that cute stuff. We spoke so much about our future and how he so badly wants to propose to me and live together and buy me cute puppies and start a life with me. He makes me feel so excited for life, I feel so loved and so secure and so hopeful. This is what I’ve waited for my whole life. This is why I wait for him and go through all the struggles there is due to distance, because in the end, its seriously going to be so fricken worth it.

Goodbyes are hard, they always are. I mean, I literally sobbed and cried the whole drive to the airport to drop him off and then all the way home by myself. It’s heartbreaking knowing after you say goodbye you won’t get to touch them or kiss them or be with them for months at a time. It’s the most gut wrenching feeling. But I know that one day we won’t have to say goodbye anymore, one day we won’t have to experience that feeling, one day we’ll get to finally live the life we’ve always dreamed of together. As much as it sucks for now, I know it’s not forever. We just need to be patient. In the end, I’m just lucky to have someone so special in my life, I’m lucky to have someone that makes saying goodbye so hard.

The upside is that I’ll finally get to go visit him for the first time over where he’s based, in just 23 days! We may only get to see each other once every couple months or so, but at least it gives us something to look forward to. He’s not currently on course at the moment because he finished his first set of IET’s last month, so now he has more availability and we can see each other more (well until his next course starts at least, which we’re pretty sure is in October). I just have to make the most of this time, take any opportunity there is to see each other, and just stay positive. Life is good. As upset I am to be apart from him, at least he’s in my life. He makes me smile and feel loved every single day without fail, and that’s something to be grateful for. 

Some photos from our last night together. I look like a mess from crying (I was drunk too lmao ignore me) but how dreamy is he 😍😊♥️

[milsosweethearts]

MY BOYFRIEND IS COMING HOME TO ME IN 3 DAYS AFTER MONTHS OF BEING A PART AND IM JUST SO HAPPY AND EXCITED AHHH. just had to tell someone, sorry 😂

Yesssss!!!!

[milsosweethearts]

This is going to be quite the ask so I'm sorry if I sound really ignorant. My boyfriend (who is wanting to go into the Navy once we graduate) recently proposed to me, he said it would let us be closer while he's doing his duty yet when he tried tk explain everything I was utterly confused and lost at every sentence. I'm only 18 and I'm clueless to what he's going into and not many sites help step by step, any advice from experience of what to expect? I'm so scared of our future as a young couple

Hey! So my boyfriend is in the military as well, but what I know is that there are different platforms of jobs. Right now my guy is in aviation so he is tied to a plane. They can deploy from a week to a couple of months. Depends if the plane is working. However, I have a couple of friends that are on ships. They can deploy from 6 months to a year. Also they may not be able to tell you where they are deploying so you have to make peace with that quick lol. It is vital that you have supporting friends to go out with because if you stay inside and wait, you will go crazy lol. You need to keep yourself busy. In our house, the priority is the military and whatever they say goes. It sounds terrible but once you understand that concept then it will be peace of mind for him and yourself. He won’t have many days off like “leave” which is their approved days by the command to be on vacation. However, if they are allowed three days off or more, then they can only travel within 250 miles of where they live. 

Everyone’s experience is different but I would study what the navy is and look up books of military spouses. There are many groups on Facebook are all military spouses that help each other out. 

I can help with the step-by-step process if you give me specific questions in order to help, so I can be more specific than broad!

[milsosweethearts]

Hi there! I'm an introvert who's been single literally forever, but I met this incredible guy two weeks ago, and after going out twice and near-constant texting we've decided to give us a chance. The problem is that today he returns to his out of state base, and I legit don't know when I'll see him again. Any advice for someone new to dating AND the military?

Being optimistic is key! But also understand that the military will take him away at a seconds notice! Keep in touch and visit as much as you’d like and can. It’s could be hard long distance but easier when both of you guys put in the time and effort! You can ask me more specific questions and I would love to help!

[theycantalk]

trial and error

[tastefullyoffensive]

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“Where is this stuff coming from?”

[foreverhisdaughter]

Had a sweet friend take some beautiful pictures for us a few months ago. Love looking at these precious memories, they help make the distance a little more bearable. Trying to spend time in the Word to distract myself and help bring peace when I get anxious over the distance. Wanted to share these sweet moments on here. 💕

[lifewithmentalwellness]

[lifewithmentalwellness]

I want all military girlfriends and boyfriends to know that you are under no obligation to marry your soldier during the time that they serve! From personal experience I have found that there is a lot of peer pressure among soldiers to get married. My boyfriend and I have been dating for just over three years, and he is continuously laughed at and pressured to get married. Other soldiers tell him “if she doesn’t want to marry you it isn’t worth it”. It isn’t that I don’t want to marry him! I am only 20 years old and I have not yet finished college. I am in no rush to get married any time soon! Both my boyfriend and I feel that way! I want every other partner of a soldier to know that you do not need to rush, you are under no obligation to marry your soldier. Unless you are ready for it then don’t rush into it! Don’t let the peer pressure get to you! Take your time!

[lifewithmentalwellness]

Let’s be honest here girls one of the best things about a long distance relationship is you don’t have to shave your legs all the time. I’m not the only one right???

[milsosweethearts]

Here is to two more semesters of college then wherever the navy takes us ❤️

[shadowwangel]

You don’t know but I’m the girl that drags herself out of bed every morning so that he will be proud of her when he comes home. I’m the girl who lies in bed longing for him to be lying next to me. I’m the girl who sits quietly in class because all I can think about is the next moment that he’ll be in my arms again. You don’t know, but I’m the girl with a million things to say, but none will come out without the thought of him. I’m the girl who checks my phone every five seconds just to make sure I haven’t missed his call. You tell me you know how I feel and that you understand what I’m going through; you have no idea. What you don’t realize is that I understand the true meaning of not only love, but of longing and anticipation. I am one of the girls who will make friends with complete strangers for only they can even begin to understand what I am going through. You don’t understand that I picture his face everywhere I go and that he is with me in everything I do. You tell me that you support the troops; I tell you, I’m in love with one.

Probably every military girlfriend/wife.  (via shadowwangel)

[i-love-you-from-a-distance]

I can’t wait for the days when I wake up every morning and it’s your face I see next to mine.

(via i-love-you-from-a-distance)

[savmosphere]

Update:

June was born August 7th at 8:38pm, a nice healthy birth and healthy baby. I was able to immediately get her to try nursing which surprised me. Hubby also did super well during the birth. He held my leg and watched the whole thing, which was also surprising.

Now we are finally home and getting adjusted to our new lives. June has been cluster feeding between the hours of 11pm-5 am and it’s really exhausting. I’m working on feeding her every 2 and a half hours so she just gets on that routine instead.

Being a mom is already hard but my cute little schnookums makes it 100% worth it.

[milsosweethearts]

Literally a week left til he gets back home. And I miss him more now than when he first left. I'm crying so much and having a hard time focusing and just feeling so much. Conversations are so far and in between. Why does it get harder the closer they are to being home with you?

For me it's because I remember all the great things that we have done together. It's a happy sad moment when you know he is coming home but you want it to then and now.

[xtotxallyx]

3/7

[i-am-a-marine-wife]

Handling the Distance

I’ve been with my Marine for almost a year. We’ve been talking and flirting for almost two. I’ve known him for six.

I see him in a week.

I have never been more depressed.

Logically, I should be over the moon, right? Wrong. I’ve noticed this pattern before, and I’ve come up with a conclusion:

It’s darkest just before the dawn.

Whenever I’m about to see a friend I haven’t seen in a while, I’m always the most depressed right before I see them. Because I can’t see them. But I can almost see them. They’re just outside my reach, time keeping us apart as we desperately grasp for each other’s familiar touch.

My advice for new MILSOs? Keep texting and Skyping. Keep the conversation going. One of you will always be hurting. As soon as one feels better they might want to neglect the lifeline that is their partner. Don’t.

Time is a fleeting thing. You will always beat it at its own game. They will come back to you, no matter how long it’s been. If they don’t, it’s not because of time. It’s because of innumerable different factors. Never time.

Chin up.

The military may own the asses. But we own the hearts.

[milsosweethearts]

"The military may own the asses. But we own he hearts"