This is based on my personal tarot interpretation. Please view it all with a dose of skepticism and for entertainment purposes.
Ranking from most open to least open.
Jake
Cards: The Star, The Lovers, Wheel of Fortune, King of Cups at the bottom of the deck.
Jake, as always, looks at things simply. He fully admits the possibility of dating a fan and is more open to it than anyone else. He doesnβt build rigid barriers and doesnβt divide people into βcastesβ. Jake isnβt inclined to judge a girl just because sheβs his fan. He believes real feelings can arise in the most unexpected places and wonβt suppress them because of social conventions. For him, sincere choice and reciprocity are what matter most. If a deep emotional bond forms, her status wonβt be an obstacle. Heβd rather ask himself, βDo I love her?β than βWho is she?β. He doesnβt plan a romance with a fan, but just like Sunghoon, if βthe stars alignβ, if their meeting happens organically by chance, he wonβt resist. Fate can bring him together with any girl. In a relationship with a fan, Jake would be tactful, gentle, and wouldnβt exploit his position. He wonβt play games, deceive, or leave for fun. Yet heβs also wise enough not to get tangled in dubious stories. He wonβt actively seek a relationship with a fan, but if he feels a mutual, deep connection and understands itβs not a fleeting whim, he could very well say yes.
Sunghoon
Cards: High Priestess, Wheel of Fortune, Page of Cups, Temperance at the bottom of the deck.
Sunghoon does not rule out the possibility, but treats it with great caution, secrecy, and only under the influence of circumstances. He tends not to share much about himself, keeping both his personal and even non-personal life in the shadows. He wouldnβt publicize a relationship with a fan β in fact, heβd prefer his colleagues didnβt know about his romances at all. He is able to recognise sincerity, so if a fan is not just an βadmirerβ but a person genuinely close to him in spirit, he might make contact. Sunghoon believes in fate and chance. He wonβt purposefully seek a romance with a fan, but if βthe stars alignβ, if the meeting happens organically β not in an idolβfan template, but as a natural coincidence of circumstances β he wonβt stand in its way. He accepts any turn of fate, including a relationship with a girl who was initially his fan. Heβs capable of sincere affection, even if sheβs a fan, but his feelings will be tender, dreamy, without cynicism. He will not allow situations that disturb his peace of mind or endanger his career. He will weigh risks and benefits: if a relationship with a fan could lead to scandal, disruption of his tranquillity, or imbalance in his life, he will refuse. But if everything develops moderately, gradually, without extremes β he might give it a try. If such a girl appears in his life naturally (not through stalking or pushiness) and meets his inner criteria (depth, sincerity, ability to keep a secret), he could very well give her a chance.
Sunoo
Cards: 9 of Cups, 3 of Wands, Page of Pentacles, The Empress at the bottom of the deck.
Sunoo quite admits the possibility of dating a fan. He sees nothing shameful in it and is capable of taking that step if the right circumstances come together. Heβs confident enough not to look back at othersβ opinions. He does what brings him joy and comfort. If being with a fan makes him happy, he wonβt deny himself because of status. Before starting a relationship, heβll assess the consequences and think about the future. This shows he wonβt jump into a casual fling, but if he sees serious potential, heβll calmly consider it. Heβs not fixated on the βidolβfanβ stereotype. For him, sincerity and the girlβs effort matter more β her real personality, not the label. He doesnβt see a fan as a βsecond-class personβ and isnβt afraid of judgment. However, heβll act carefully: most likely, heβll observe first, test his feelings, and only then decide. Heβs capable of a serious relationship with a fan if he feels genuine reciprocity and a future.
Jay
Cards: 9 of Pentacles, Justice, Page of Wands, Temperance at the bottom of the deck.
Jay admits the possibility of dating a fan, but only in a light, unburdensome format and with rules observed. He wonβt tolerate intrusiveness or threats to his peace. He might only be interested if the girl respects his boundaries and is self-sufficient herself. Heβs not looking for a saviour or a fan who dissolves into him. Itβs important to him that the relationship is honest, equal, and doesnβt create problems for his career or reputation. If the fan behaves appropriately, doesnβt demand special privileges, and is ready for fair play, he sees no obstacles. He wonβt deceive a girl and wonβt allow himself to be deceived. However, I also see an element of playfulness, curiosity, but not serious intentions. Jay might flirt, become interested in a fan as a person, try a light, no-strings-attached relationship. Such a romance is unlikely to be long or deep. This card says Jay allows that option, but as entertainment, not as something that will turn his life upside down. Ultimately, he wonβt let a relationship with a fan upset his inner balance. If he feels the situation is getting out of control, demanding too much emotional energy, or threatening his peace, he will retreat.
Heeseung
Cards: 5 of Cups, 5 of Pentacles, The Tower, Knight of Pentacles, 7 of Cups at the bottom of the deck.
Heeseung rather does not allow the possibility of dating a fan, and if he does entertain it, itβs with enormous fear and a sense of inevitable failure. The cards here are quite interesting β Iβd even say he may already have had such an experience, became disappointed, and saw only losses in it. He fears a fan wouldnβt be able to love him as an ordinary person, only seeing the image. His past experience (or imposed fear) tells him such happiness isnβt for him. Even if he wanted a relationship, he feels he wouldnβt receive true support from a fan, or that he himself isnβt worthy of that kind of love. He feels like an outcast in this matter. If he did decide, the consequences could destroy his personal life, career, reputation. The Tower leaves no stone standing, so he instinctively recoils. He might act very slowly, practically, testing a girl for years β but heβs unlikely to take such a risky step. Heβd rather choose more βtraditionalβ acquaintances. In his deepest fantasies, he might dream of a romance with a fan β a sweet dream where everything is perfect β but that dream stays at the bottom of the deck because itβs unrealistic.
Jungwon
Cards: Queen of Pentacles, 8 of Swords, Knight of Swords, King of Cups at the bottom of the deck.
Jungwon is unlikely to allow the possibility of dating a fan; for him, itβs a rather closed topic. In relationships, he values reliability and predictability. A fan, with her potential obsession and risk of leaks, doesnβt fit into his picture of a safe, measured life. He sees many obstacles: public condemnation, threat to his career, the inability to be himself. He corners himself and doesnβt see a way out. He doesnβt admit this possibility, considers it almost impossible. If he did decide, he would act bluntly, possibly aggressively β heβd rather cut off any hints of such a development. Heβs capable of being cold and direct to ward off a fan. He knows how to love and control his feelings; there might be a hidden longing for closeness, but it doesnβt break through his protective barriers. Overall, he considers it unrealistic, risky, and has convinced himself that βyou canβt do thatβ. Even if a girl were very good, heβd sooner suppress his feelings. He can be polite, but he keeps his distance. Most likely, the answer would be βnoβ.
Ni-ki
Cards: King of Cups, 2 of Swords, Page of Wands, 3 of Wands at the bottom of the deck.
Ni-ki does not allow the possibility of a serious relationship with a fan and will avoid this situation. He doesnβt give in to impulses. Heβs capable of deep attachment, but also knows how to keep distance when necessary. He might play with a fanβs feelings, yet wonβt allow himself to fall in love with her. Ni-ki literally βblindfolds himselfβ and doesnβt consider this scenario. He prefers not to think of fans as potential partners β he puts up a mental block. Itβs a conscious avoidance. On a surface level, he can flirt, joke, be sweet with fans, but itβs nothing more than a game. Heβs not serious; heβs just having fun. This doesnβt lead to real relationships. His genuine plans and goals are tied to his career, self-fulfilment, and travels, not to romances with fans. He looks ahead, and a relationship with an admirer doesnβt fit into his picture of the future. He will be polite, friendly, but keeps emotional distance. If a fan becomes persistent, he will probably refuse β gently but firmly.
This is based on my personal tarot interpretation. Please view it all with a dose of skepticism and for entertainment purposes.
Sunghoon
Queen of Pentacles, 5 of Wands, 4 of Cups
He likes slow kisses β unhurried, deep, with a subtle edge of rivalry. No rush. At first, he just looks at your lips as if deciding where to begin. Then he barely grazes them with the edge of his own and pauses. Heβs gauging your reaction. He doesnβt devour you in a kiss β he tastes you, like fine wine, savouring it, taking his time. His tongue comes into play softly, without pressure, but with confidence. He enjoys tracing your lips slowly, occasionally nibbling your lower lip, gently β never drawing blood. He might pull away unexpectedly, smirk, and then press in again β faster, hungrier. Sometimes itβs as if the two of you are competing: who will disrupt the rhythm first, who will be the first to break away. He likes it when you bite his lip too or pull back first β it turns him on, but not for long. Then he slows down again.
The 4 of Cups at the base signifies his weakness and his danger. He tires of monotony quickly. If the kiss goes on too long and becomes predictable, he loses interest. So despite his baseline inclination for calm, measured kisses, his rhythm is always shifting: now slow, now fast, now with a long pause when heβs simply breathing against your lips and looking into your eyes. Itβs important to him that you play along β change the pressure, tease him sometimes, speed up on your own. Without that, heβll simply stop and go get a glass of water.
What he especially likes:
β’ Long kisses with closed eyes, but with frequent pauses so he can look at you.
β’ Light lip bites, and bites in return from you.
β’ When you take the lead in the game β pulling away, teasing him.
β’ Kissing to music, or after a long, meaningful conversation.
What he doesnβt like:
β’ Monotonous, βmechanicalβ kisses without emotion.
β’ Being dominated for too long β he needs equality, or to hold the edge.
β’ When youβre passive and just wait β heβll get bored.
In conclusion: Sunghoonβs kisses are a balancing act. Theyβre slow and passionate, but with sudden surges of speed. Thereβs an element of play, a challenge, and the risk that heβll quickly grow bored if you donβt match his energy.
Jungwon
The World, 7 of Swords, Page of Wands
He kisses as if he wants to take in all of you, not just your lips. The kiss is long, deep, with an element of unhurried exploration. He loves it when a kiss flows into an embrace, into touches to the face, hair, neck.
In kissing, he is playfully evasive β he enjoys elements of surprise and gentle manipulation.
He might kiss you unexpectedly, for example when youβre not anticipating it (on the cheek, the neck, the shoulder), or suddenly stop, teasing. He likes a kiss that feels like a small theft: quick, cautious, with a hint that βIβm about to do something you donβt expect.β
He may not fully realise it himself, but he enjoys trying out different kinds of kisses: quick, slow, with tongue, without tongue, with light nibbles. His kiss can be a little awkward in its newness, yet sincere and eager.
Initiation β can be sudden, but not rough. Often he initiates in a moment of shared calm, as if βaccidentallyβ finding himself close.
Speed β changeable, from slow to fast. He prefers medium depth with an active tongue, but without dominance. He loves kissing different places: the lips, the corners of the mouth, the cheeks, the neck, the shoulders.
Rhythm β non-linear, with unexpected pauses.
He often holds you by the waist, the shoulders, the nape of your neck. He may run his fingers through your hair or stroke your back.
He likes to kiss quietly, almost soundlessly. Sometimes β a soft exhale or a contented sigh.
What he especially likes:
Β· Unexpected, βstolenβ kisses in everyday life (in the kitchen while youβre washing dishes, or when youβre looking at your phone).
Β· Long, multi-stage kisses that flow into embraces and touches.
Β· When you play along too: turning away at the last moment, or nibbling his lip, or surprising him with a kiss yourself.
Β· Kissing while watching a film together or listening to music.
What he doesnβt like:
Β· Predictability: if the kiss follows the same script, he gets bored.
Β· An overly serious, dramatic atmosphere.
Β· Complete passivity β he needs a response, playfulness, otherwise his interest fades.
Β· Harshness, aggression.
Ni-ki
3 of Cups, 3 of Wands, The Empress
In kissing, Ni-ki values playfulness, liveliness, and an absence of pretension. He kisses with a smile, sometimes even laughing into the kiss. His kisses are like a dance: short, quick shifts, light touches, pulling away to look at each other and then leaning in again. He doesnβt need drama or anguish β only pleasure and fun.
He loves a sense of anticipation and forward momentum.
He kisses not just for the present, but as if glancing into the future: his kiss can be a little βimpatient,β with a subtle hint of whatβs to come. He loves to experiment, changing the angle, depth, tempo β as if searching for new sensations. He likes it when a kiss evolves, rather than staying in one place.
He might suddenly slow down, kiss very softly, almost reverently, stroke your hair, pull you close so that you feel completely safe. There is a desire in him to dissolve into his partner.
Often he initiates, but lightly, without pressure. He might kiss your cheek, then the corner of your mouth, then your lips. He loves βaccidentalβ kisses β when youβre doing something neutral together and he suddenly leans in.
Speed β changeable, but his baseline is fast and light. He can give a series of short kisses, then pull back, smile, then go in again. Sometimes he slows down to something languid, but not for long.
Depth β he prefers shallow kisses, with the lips, a light nibble or a little suction. He rarely uses his tongue, but when he does, itβs deep yet soft, without dominance.
Rhythm β ragged, βconversational.β Now fast, now slow, then a pause with laughter, then fast again. Itβs like children playing tag.
His kisses can be slightly audible, βsmacking.β He might chuckle quietly or exhale with pleasure.
What he especially likes:
Β· Playful kisses: when you βcompeteβ to see who pulls away first, or nibble each otherβs lips.
Β· Short kisses βon the goβ β when he walks past and gives a peck.
Β· When you smile too and respond with the same lightness β he loves that synchronicity.
Β· Kisses after laughter β they embody all his 3 of Cups.
Β· Moments when you both slow down and start kissing deeply, slowly β thatβs when The Empress awakens.
What he doesnβt like:
Β· Long, heavy kisses without a change of rhythm β he gets bored.
Β· An overly serious atmosphere β he loses interest.
Β· If youβre passive and donβt respond to his play β heβll stop quickly.
Β· Aggression, harshness, dominance β his Empress is not about that.
Sunoo
4 of Swords, Page of Cups, Strength
He likes a slow, almost frozen pace in kissing. He loves long moments of stillness, when lips just rest on lips, without movement. He might close his eyes and remain motionless for a long time, as if restoring his strength. He doesnβt need active tongue work or frequent rhythm changes β he values silence and calm in a kiss. He likes kisses with a hint of hesitance and tenderness. He may start with a light, almost weightless touch, as if afraid to startle. His kisses are often βabsent-mindedβ β he might kiss the corner of your mouth, then your cheek, then back to your lips, as if shy of directness. He likes it when a kiss βhappensβ on its own, not on demand.
On the surface, his kisses seem almost platonic, but deep down a powerful fire smoulders. He consciously restrains himself, not letting passion take over. If you try to speed up or deepen the kiss, he may gently pull away β not because he doesnβt want to, but because heβs afraid of losing control. Yet in rare moments when he relaxes, his kiss becomes hot, with tongue, with light nibbling β and then you feel that Strength.
Most often, he is not the one who initiates. He can gaze at your lips for a long time, but not dare to make a move. The first kiss is usually initiated by you, and he responds with a slight delay, as if surprised.
Β· Speed β slow, with long pauses. He may freeze for several seconds with his lips on yours, simply feeling the warmth.
Β· Depth β shallow, lips closed. Tongue appears rarely, and only after a long warm-up, soft, without pressure.
Β· Rhythm β no active movements. It is more a βrestingβ of lips than βkissing.β
Β· Sounds β almost soundless. Only his breathing may be heard, deep and calm.
What he especially likes:
Β· Kisses before sleep or right after waking, when everything is slowed down.
Β· When you donβt insist, but simply let him choose the pace.
Β· Moments when you lie together and kiss in a half-doze β eyes closed, almost no movement.
Β· If you yourself pull away first β he loves that pause, then may reach for you again.
What he doesnβt like:
Β· Greedy, deep kisses with tongue without a warm-up β that frightens him.
Β· Too much initiative on your part β he feels pressured.
Β· A competitive element.
He is not tempestuous, not overtly passionate, but there is such a depth of calm in him that you forget everything else.
Heeseung
5 of Wands, 3 of Pentacles, The Magician
In kissing, he loves when thereβs resistance, light aggression, a challenge. He might pull back slightly, making you lean in; bite your lip; speed up, then suddenly slow down.
To Heeseung, technique and the ability to adapt to his partner are important. He notices what you like and does it perfectly: changing the angle, depth, pressure. He cares about the quality of a kiss β he learns and perfects it like a craftsman. I would even say he has a great deal of experience in this. He enjoys kissing.
He uses a kiss as a tool: to turn you on, to calm you down, to persuade, to get what he wants.
Initiation β often sudden, with light pressure. He might come close, teasing, without kissing. Or take you by the chin and confidently press his lips to yours, looking into your eyes.
Speed β changeable, often fast. He loves contrasts: a series of quick, βbitingβ kisses, then a slow, languid one, then fast again.
Depth β moderate, with an active tongue, but without excess. He likes light bites on the lips, nibbling the lower lip.
Rhythm β intermittent, with pauses for eye contact. He often stops to look at your reaction, smirk, and carry on.
Sounds β soft sighs, sometimes a short laugh or a satisfied βmmm.β
What he especially likes:
Kiss-duels: when you both βfightβ β he advances, then you do, with light bites, competing to pull away first.
When you respond with the same energy and even a little more aggressively β that turns him on.
Technically complex kisses: changing angles, depths, using the tongue in different ways.
Kisses after a playful quarrel or argument.
When you show that you like his technique β itβs important for him to feel that heβs good.
What he doesnβt like:
Passivity and unresponsiveness β heβs not interested in kissing a βwall.β
Overly sweet, monotonous tenderness without a challenge β he gets bored.
Complete dominance from your side β he needs an equal struggle or his own edge.
Clumsy, careless kisses.
Jake
10 of Swords, Queen of Wands, 3 of Swords
He kisses as if for the last time, knowing that everything is about to fall apart. His kisses can be abrupt, sudden, charged with anguish.
He may pull you in sharply by the nape of your neck, kiss greedily, with tongue, with light bites. He likes to control the process, but not harshly β rather, artfully, like a director who knows exactly where to pause and where to quicken the pace.
He lends his kisses a broken tenderness. He might suddenly stop, pull away, look at you with longing. Or kiss you so carefully β he himself may not realise why sometimes he kisses you as if saying goodbye.
What Jake likes:
Β· Kisses with contrast: first soft, then passionate, then quiet again.
Β· Long kisses with tongue, but with pauses to catch breath and look into each other's eyes.
Β· Light nibbles on the lips, especially the lower lip.
Β· When you respond with the same intensity β he loves to feel that youβre βburningβ in return.
Β· Kisses after an argument or at a moment of emotional peak β in them he feels catharsis.
What he doesn't like:
Β· Superficial, βdutyβ kisses without feeling.
Β· Complete passivity β he loses interest if youβre just βreceiving.β
Β· Overly sweet tenderness without a spark.
Jay
9 of Cups, The Star, Page of Wands
In kissing, he loves savouring, unhurriedness, and confidence in his own technique. He kisses as though he knows you enjoy it, and he takes immense pleasure in that himself. His kisses can be slow, lush, with pauses to relish the taste. He likes sensing your reaction β the sighs, the answering movements. His kisses aren't heavy or anguished β they seem to promise that everything will be alright. He may kiss your forehead, the corners of your mouth, your cheeks, as if offering protection and peace. He might kiss you suddenly, for no reason, simply because you're near.
Sometimes he feels the urge to step outside the lines β to try a quick, greedy kiss, to lightly bite your lip, to kiss with intensity. His impulses may be a little clumsy, but they're sincere and endearing.
He can initiate, confidently but without aggression. Often a kiss is preceded by a long gaze, a slight smile, the touch of his fingers to your chin. Sometimes β spontaneously.
Β· Speed β moderate, but with variations. His baseline tempo is slow, savouring.
Β· Depth β varies from a light brush of the lips to a deep kiss with tongue. The 9 of Cups loves "full contact," but The Star adds a touch of airiness, so he doesn't press. His tongue appears softly, unhurriedly, as if inviting rather than demanding.
Β· Rhythm β changes often: a few slow movements, a pause, one quick one, then slow again. It's like a conversation β he listens to your responses and adjusts.
Β· Sounds β quiet, almost soundless. There may be a soft exhale against your lips, a happy sigh, or a quiet chuckle if the kiss turns out a little awkward.
What he especially likes:
Β· Long, "lazy" kisses, when you're sitting wrapped up in each other with nowhere to be.
Β· When you answer him with the same lightness and pleasure β he reads your emotions.
Β· Unexpected short kisses in the middle of the day, for no reason.
Β· When you're the first to gently nibble his lip.
Β· Kisses after laughter or a heartfelt conversation β the warmth is especially palpable in them.
What he doesn't like:
Β· Overly harsh, aggressive kisses.
Β· Complete passivity from your side β it's important for him to feel that you want it too.
Β· Monotony, when a kiss doesn't change tempo or depth.
Β· Overly long pauses between kisses during one session β he loses the thread of pleasure.
Teach him how to let go, because he doesnβt know how. He remembers the way you looked back then, how your hair fell across his shoulder, how you laughed at his stupid jokesβand these memories are so vivid they cut at his eyes, yet he cannot erase them. He cannot stop rewinding the film, even knowing the movie ended long ago.
The warmth of a day that no longer exists. You donβt hear his voice; you hear the echo of phrases he spoke back when the two of you still believed this would never end.
He wants to be right for you. He wants to hold you the way you're supposed to be held, according to the manual he wrote for himself: not too tight, so he doesn't crush you; not too loose, so you don't think he's stopped loving you. He monitors his breathing, the placement of his hands, he demands that his heart beat evenly. He demands order, even here, in the most fragile thing on earth.
Unspoken things. The words he never said. All those nights he wanted to call but wouldn't permit himself to. Everything he failed to carry across to you because he didn't realize in time how much it mattered.
He smells like the past, not because he is trapped in it, but because he carries it with himβlike a locket with a photograph that can no longer be removed.
His embrace is a museum, where everything is kept under glass: beautiful, touching, but you cannot touch any of it, because it would shatter. And the two of you walk through the empty halls together, pretending not to see the signs that read: Do Not Enter. High Voltage.
You don't know yet that this is the last time. You think it's just an evening, just his hands on your body, just a weariness that keeps him silent.
But everything has already been decided.
He strokes your back evenly, without a tremor, as though he's performing a task. Is this right? Wrong. Wrong to hold someone when you're already hollow inside, when you've signed your own orders not to look back. And yet, there is so much pain in his embrace, and so much stillness, all at once.
He doesn't say I love you, even though it screams from every pore of his skin. He stays silent, because those words now would be a knife he'd be driving into both of you. And he doesn't want blood. He wants quiet. He wants to leave in such a way that you wake up and, for a long while, cannot understand why your side of the bed has grown so cold.
And so you remain in this loop: he is holding you.
He holds you the way someone memorizes every curve, every uneven catch of breath, because he knows there will be no next time.
Something is off. You feel this strange tenderness that smells like a farewell. You understand that something is wrong, but you push the thought away. You mustn't. He's here. He's holding me.
You lie in his arms and feel his heart beating steadilyβwithout panic, without regret. And a chill seizes you, because you realize: He isn't suffering. He is simply performing the final rite.
The future hasn't arrived; it lies far ahead, beyond the years, beyond the cities, beyond all the what ifsβyet you are already living in it completely.
A fantasy. A dream.
The two of you are together a year from now, two years from now, past all the ifs, and the image is so vivid it nearly burns. But he canβt touch it. He can only look at it and believe. His lips aren't on your skin yet, but you know exactly how he would kiss youβtenderly, hurriedly, as if afraid you might vanish should he hesitate even a second. And that kiss already exists somewhere in the future, and both of you are waiting for it.
He is holding you even before youβve metβin the sense that his arms have already folded around the silhouette of you he carries in his mind, the way one carries a treasure map, or a lighthouse beam visible from a great distance, though there is still so much sea to cross.
An impulse. A thirst.
He will press you to him so tightly that you lose your breath, but for now, there is only the screen between you, only words, only those late-night talks when the stars have long faded and he is still whispering goodnight, because he cannot bring himself to let go.
A heart full of hope. Wait just a little longer.
Will you sail across any sea to reach him, even when the waves crest too high? Will you trace your names together in the sand?
It canβt be a coincidence. All these months of correspondence, all these good mornings and how was your daysβthey cannot be for nothing. One day, you will wake up in the same bed.
But the voice inside whispers.
What if this only ever lives inside our heads? What if heβs different in real life? What if he doesnβt like you?
What if you finally meet... and the magic simply fades away?
5 of Wands, Page of Pentacles, Queen of Swords atb.
You realize at once that youβve found yourself not in a quiet haven, but in an arena where he alone has devised the rules, and you can only guess at them as you go. He closes his arms around you not to hold you still, but to see whether you will fight, whether you will search for a weak spot, whether you will break free. And so you jerk, you test, you brace your palms against his chestβyet he does not even sway. You hear his quiet laugh somewhere near your temple; it isnβt cruel, more satisfied, like a cat who knows the mouse isnβt going anywhere.
Come on, try harder.
He doesnβt say it aloud, but you feel it in every muscle, in every ragged breath, and you begin to laugh at yourself because you already know you wonβt get loose. Still, you keep trying, and he watches your attempts with a faint smirk. There is no cruelty in that smirk, only curiosity: how long will you keep trying when you already know the outcome?
And the strange thing isβyou donβt want to stop. Because you understand: he doesnβt need your victory; he needs your resistance. He wants to feel you struggling in his grip, not because he wishes to break you, but because that is what intrigues him. To him, you are a riddle he solves with a grin.
Sometimes he apologizes for making his embrace feel like an examination, for being unable to simply hold you without testing, without probing, without that quiet mockery. But you do not believe his apologies, because you see the truth: he cannot help it. His cold inner voice never sleeps, whispering to him, βShe wonβt make it. No one ever does.β And he longs to be proven wrong, so you give him that chance.
And when you finally run out of strength, when your power leaves you and you simply go still, spent and breathless, he loosens his gripβjust a little, just enough to make you believe: Maybe next time? But you both know there will be no next time.
Losing to him, for some reason, is every bit as sweet as winning once in a while.
He holds you as if heβs doing you a favor. You can feel itβheβs not here. Detached. Itβs all a formality. The embrace is empty. His hands are foreign, as if he's afraid to leave a mark, because a mark is a memory, and memory can hurt.
"Love is for those who don't know themselves."
He doesn't say it out loud. But you feel it in the way he doesn't squeeze you back. In the way his breathing stays even, even when you whisper something important.
You offer him yourself. The whole of you. And he looks away. Itβs his polite "no, thank you." In everythingβthe glance, the touch. This is all not for him. Why? Distrust? Fear? Uselessness?
To choose is to trust, and to trust is to risk.
Sometimes, when youβre not looking, he allows himself a second of pressing closer. His fingers dig into your ribs as if he wants to check if youβre real, if youβll disappear the moment he lets go. But as soon as you turn your head, he is distant again, his face a mask of politeness, and you could swear you saw his lips twitch. But he won't say it. He will never say it. Because to say it is to admit that he needs something, and he forbade himself from needing anything a long time ago.
You feel that something between you is thin and fragile. Like glass. Or as if a screen has been placed between you.
You look at him, and he looks somewhere past you. You hold out your heart to him, and he nods and places it beside him without taking it into his hands. Because to take it would mean reciprocating. And reciprocating... you are ready to swear just how much it hurts, but he has already decided everything.
A thirst to love. And he ignores it.
His embrace is a promise he cannot make. Or a room where everything is in its place, but there is no window, and you sit there with him. You could open the door, but he asks you:
Devil + Knight of Swords + King of Pentacles at the bottom
The devil doesnβt wear horns. He knows. Even before you walked in. He already knows everything about you that you hide behind your smile. What thoughts come to you at night. What dreams you watch in secret until the very end. He looks at you as if he has already counted every one of your dirty thoughts, every vice you hide even from yourself. And instead of turning away, he smiles.
You do want it.
Not a question. A statement.
You are Eve. He is the serpent. The tempter. But there is no apple here. Here, there are only his hands settling on your waist, and you suddenly realize: you stepped into this cage yourself. He didnβt force you. He simply showed you what you were afraid to want. And you fell for it. He seems to take you back to where you were meant to be from the very beginning.
You donβt notice his influence right away. You think itβs all a game, a fire that wonβt burn you to ashes.
He says things that would make othersβ ears burn. "Don't pretend. You like it. Say it." And you say it. Because lying to him is impossible. His voice cuts through all your falseness like a knife through an overripe fruit. And it doesn't hurt. It liberates.
"You wanted this. You got it. Don't complain."
He is not cruel. He is honestβin a way you cannot allow yourself to be honest with yourself. And when he holds you, you feel that he simply won't let you lie. Not to yourself, nor to him.
His fingers tighten. Not tenderly. Possessively. He doesn't speak pretty words. He just doesn't let go. Because to him, you have already become earth and air. There is no room for romance here, only possession.
Inside you, everything is mixed up. Shame and desire. Fear and peace. You know itβs wrongβbut somehow, right here, in this sweet trap, you feel truly accepted for the first time. With all your dark corners, which he didn't judge, but simply accepted as part of the foundation.
In this embrace, there is no innocence. No "cute" or "sweet." There is only an adult, dark truth: you are not alone in your desires. He is there too. And he is not ashamed.
9 of Wands, 2 of Pentacles + Strength + 9 of Swords at the bottom of the deck
You thought that hugs were supposed to be soft and warm.But his hugs feel like a home where every wall remembers the battle β yet the doors are open only for you.
Rough. Defensive. His arms still remember the weight of shields he no longer carries. And then you hear something click inside you β like a lock finally giving way, and the resistance falls apart.
You're used to the world being a battlefield where you never turn your back. Your shoulders remember the weight of every vulnerability. You learned to smile so no one would guess how tightly your jaw is clenched. And you almost believed that's how it should be β always on guard, always in control, always strong.
But when he holds you, his arms don't ask for permission. They just settle on your back, with no attempt to break you. You freeze. Because for the first second, your body is still waiting for a blow. It doesn't know how else to react.
He doesn't rush. He holds you as if you are two different lives you're trying to live at once β the one where you're impenetrable, and the one where you just want to lie down and not get back up. His arms don't make you choose. They juggle your different souls, your fears, your "I've got this" and your "I can't anymore" β and not one of them falls.
And then what you feared most happens: you stop clenching. Not all at once. First one muscle in your back, then another. You feel how he could squeeze you until something cracks, but instead he strokes your hair, as if you're a wild animal he mustn't startle. His strength isn't in overpowering you. His strength is in waiting until you lay down your weapons yourself.
You don't say a word. And in that silence is everything that matters. You are here. He stays, too. He doesn't run.
You can finally fall. And know that you'll be caught.
This is based on my personal tarot interpretation. Please view it all with a dose of skepticism and for entertainment purposes.
This reading is a bit difficult. Tarot is a language of archetypes, not a metric system. For example, the Empress card is not an excerpt from a birth certificate.
"The Empress" at 20: a girl who became a mother early or carries her family/business on her shoulders. She has tired but wise eyes. Physically young, energetically a "mother."
"The Empress" at 45: a woman who has preserved her beauty but wields power through gentleness.
It's hard to interpret energy as age. Even if the cards show mature energy, a younger person can still have a mature energy. Then should we consider purely physical age? What if the person doesn't care? Often, when talking about age, they mean appearance, physicality, and face.
Sunghoon
The Moon + Four of Wands (+ Seven of Pentacles at the bottom).
Energetically older. Physically β any age.
The Moon says: "I don't always understand why I'm drawn to such people, but it's stronger than me." In the context of partner choice, the Moon often projects the archetype of the Mother or the Wise Woman. This isn't necessarily a woman with wrinkles. His erotic or romantic imagination doesn't picture a brief, passionate fling, but rather immediate integration into a family circle, a cozy dinner, and shared domestic life. Younger people (immature, flighty) subconsciously don't fit into this fantasy.
I'd say he's also attracted to older girls, or peers with a very mature inner core. Immaturity scares or tires him.
He looks at a potential partner and thinks: "What will we build in five years? What common fruits will we have? Am I wasting my time?"
The Seven of Pentacles absolutely cannot stand superficiality. A girl who is "scatterbrained" and just wants to party simply won't pass this internal filter.
But here's an interesting point. Even if he consciously seeks an older, wiser woman, in reality, he gets hooked by immature, young girls who skillfully pretend to be adults.
How it looks: A girl might be 5β7 years younger, but she's an orphan, or became a mother early herself, or is a career woman. She's actually younger, but energetically older.
Life will keep offering him young girls with a wounded maturity complex, because it's precisely that difficult cocktail of "youth + burden of responsibility" that excites him.
He doesn't just need a girl who's older on paper. Age is secondary here; inner fatigue with games and readiness for stability are primary. If that depth appears in a 20-year-old girl, he'll choose her. If in a 30-year-old, he'll choose her. But statistically in Tarot, such wisdom is still more often found in those who are slightly older or the same age.
He doesn't like overly open, "plastic" faces. He's captivated by depth in the eyes, a certain paleness or detachment in the gaze. It's not a face that screams age, but there's no childish naivety in it. Even if a girl is 22, she must have the eyes of someone who has seen dreams scarier than reality.
He physically can't stand "glamour." He likes pale skin, etc. Young "cheerleaders" are visually empty space to him. He'll look at a girl who's 20 but looks 28 due to a gloomy charm β and he'll physically want her.
Β· If you put a girl with the "college cheerleader" look next to a girl with the "sleep-deprived artist drinking tea on a windowsill" look, Sunghoon will choose the second one, even if she's 10 years older.
Girls with the energy of these cards are rarely "yesterday's schoolgirls." He needs a personality with history and experience.
Heeseung
Emperor + Strength (+ 5 of Swords bottom)
Hard to say about Heeseung.
Energetically β definitely older.
From the cards for Heeseung, a very clear picture emerges: attraction to strength, but with an important subtext of avoiding pain. He's attracted to older girls (or younger ones with an unbending, "masculine" core). But with an important caveat: he's attracted to them only as long as they don't try to "break" him in a conflict.
He's aroused by those who cannot be bent.
A girl who has her own territory, her own truth, her own throne. Young girls rarely possess the aura of the Emperor, unless they grew up in such conditions.
Heeseung is drawn to a woman before whom he himself is ready to bow his head, even though he himself, judging by the Emperor card, is a leader. He's bored with those who immediately agree and look at him with adoring eyes (the behavior of younger/inexperienced ones). He needs someone who says, "No, it will be my way," but says it gently, with a smile. And such behavior is a privilege of age and experience.
On a subconscious level, Heeseung is afraid of a situation where a woman defeats him with glee. If a younger, capricious girl gets into a fight, she'll throw hysterics, screams, a desire to hurt as much as possible. Heeseung won't tolerate that. He retreats into stubborn defense or retaliatory cruelty.
He's aroused by the physicality of a mature woman. A young, soft, pliable body doesn't impress him. He needs the physical texture of a "woman," not a "girl."
That's why he's drawn to those who are wiser, because in conflict they don't kick someone when they're down, but allow them to save face.
Heeseung is attracted not so much by the age on the passport, but by the level of inner discipline.
He'll test a girl for a long time: "Won't you morally hit me when I open up?" Younger ones usually fail this test due to emotional immaturity. Older ones pass it.
Ni-ki
The Empress + Ten of Wands (+ Priestess at the bottom).
The face of a mature woman showing traces of responsibility. Ni-ki isn't attracted to a "doll-like" face.
Energy β mature.
Age filter: Yes. He's unlikely to look at a much younger girl β she won't pass the Empress test externally or internally.
He's attracted to older girls (by age or inner status). Interest in younger ones is either absent or seen as a waste of energy. The scale definitely tips toward older, or at least peers who are very "weighed down by life." This isn't a young nymph; it's a woman who is a mistress, a mother, a boss, or simply someone who "does everything herself." Ni-ki is attracted to girls who "hold everything together." They might be slightly older because they already carry that burden (children from a first marriage, a business, sick relatives, a mortgage). They don't flutter about (like younger ones); they work hard. And that's their magnetism.
Important: This rules out interest in frivolous, young girls. A "dandelion" girl simply won't trigger a reaction in him. His unconscious seeks solid ground, a foundation, not wind.
He likes girls who remain silent about the main things but see right through him. This is a trait that only comes with experience. Young girls are often either too open or don't know how to keep a pause or a secret.
He might also like peers who have gone through significant life experience that has made them older inside.
His eye seeks a feminine but defined body, mature facial features, traces of fatigue or experience. A young "nymphet" simply won't trigger a physical reaction β she'll seem like a "child" to him.
Jungwon
King of Cups + 3 of Wands (+ 4 of Swords bottom)
There's not even a hint of youthful maximalism or a hunt for youth here.
Energetically, he's attracted to older girls (or peers with experience in mature relationships and equal to him in energy). Interest in younger ones is extremely low, as they bring chaos, which Jungwon avoids with every fiber of his being. He chooses a partner not for a Friday party, but for sailing together into the future. Any girl who brings drama, mind games, jealousy, or hyperactivity into his life will be rejected by his subconscious on an immune-system level. Unfortunately, youth is often associated with that volcano of passions. An introvert or extrovert who knows when to be quiet.
Energetic requirement: Emotional intelligence and the ability to wait.
Age filter: Strict, but based on demeanor, not a passport. If a 20-year-old looks and acts like a life-worn sage, he won't distinguish her from a 40-year-old. But statistically, such faces belong to older women.
Conclusion on age: Older in terms of worldview. Appearance and physicality are secondary.
Sunoo
Six of Cups + Eight of Cups (+ Queen of Wands at the bottom).
The dynamic here is clear: on the surface β a pull toward youth and cuteness; but deep down β a thirst for mature, fiery passion.
Physical type (appearance): Dual. With his eyes, he admires young, delicate, doll-like faces.
Energetic requirement: Older than him.
He quickly gets bored with "cuteness" and leaves for passionate, experienced women.
Age filter: Complicated. He might start dating a younger girl (because she's pretty), but leave her for an older one (because she's more interesting).
Conclusion on age: Physically β he glances at younger ones. He stays with older ones.
So physically, 100% younger (visually).
With his eyes, he'll fall for youth. He likes fresh faces, "childish" pouty lips, a naive look. He's captivated by the physical type of the "dandelion student."
BUT! His body wants a younger girl, but his soul will run away to an older one after a month.
It seems to him that he likes younger or infantile "cuties." But in reality, his soul leaves them for older women (or those internally much more mature and temperamental).
Young girls give Sunoo a feeling of security and tenderness, as if returning him to a carefree past. But he quickly gets bored. There's not enough fire, depth, challenge.
He's attracted to younger girls aesthetically. He can admire their freshness. But when it comes to a real soul connection, he feels emptiness and leaves in search of a more powerful source of emotion.
So who will he ultimately choose?
An older or same-age girl with the wild temperament of a young girl.
She might be 30+, but more energetic than 20-year-olds. She has a business/creative work, can speak her mind sharply, then passionately make up. She won't baby him. She'll ignite him.
What captivates him: Her elusiveness. The Six of Cups captivates with availability. The Queen of Wands captivates because she's always busy with her own "flame," and Sunoo has to chase her.
Jake
7 of Swords + The Hermit (+ 8 of Wands bottom)
Jake is attracted to older girls (by inner world or experience) who behave like younger ones (lighthearted and spontaneous). Or the opposite: he looks for a younger girl who will look up to him as a teacher.
Let's break down the logic of this paradox.
7sword. This is the card of avoidance. In the context of partner choice, it means: "I don't want to be controlled, have plans made for me, or be asked to account for myself." This is classic behavior of a man who fears clingy, intrusive relationships. Often, it's young girls (or peers) who try to "tie down" a man. Jake runs from such girls.
Plus, he's attracted to depth, which is rarely found at age 20.
Jake looks for a woman who won't pressure him. He wants a relationship that feels like a solitary walk together in silence, but with the option to take French leave at any moment.
Who is that? An older girl who's busy with her own life, or a younger girl who's very self-sufficient and doesn't "burden" him with domesticity.
However, the Hermit tips the scales toward older women.
Jake fears fast, serious relationships, but actually craves them. He wants to be fallen in love with instantly, passionately, at first sight. That's his inner contradiction.
Given this internal conflict, he's attracted to a rare type:
He's also captivated by a girl's inaccessibility to society, but accessibility to him alone.
Jake wants to be found, ignited, and left alone all at the same time.
Physical type: An unremarkable, ordinary girl. Quiet in public, a volcano in private.
Age filter: Almost absent. He doesn't care. The main thing is not clingy. A younger but calm girl works. An older but hysterical girl doesn't.
Conclusion on age: Doesn't matter.
Jay
3 of Wands + 10 of Wands (+ 4 of Wands bottom)
There's not much to say about him. Here, it's 100% older by all parameters.
It's hard to say about age, but he is physically attracted to women with pronounced bone structure, a figure, nice bust and hips, or thin but wiry. He doesn't like petite or chubby girls.
Visual turn-offs for him:
Β· A round, "childish" face.
Β· Overly smooth, "glassy" skin without pores.
Β· Coy, mincing gestures.
Passport age is secondary, but the body and face must be "adult," with traces of gravity and experience. Young, carefree flesh is simply visually uninteresting to him.
Energetic requirement: Also older.
Age filter: Shifted toward "older." Physically, he's unlikely to look twice at a schoolgirl.
This is based on my personal tarot interpretation. Please view it all with a dose of skepticism and for entertainment purposes.
The spread is very large and long. I spent a very long time preparing this tarot spread (almost a week).
The order of the members means nothing β itβs random.
Below are the combined results for two questions:
βHow jealous is he?β and βHow does he show jealousy?β
Sunghoon
How jealous is he?
Justice + Five of Swords + Six of Pentacles (at the bottom of the deck)
How does he show jealousy?
The Lovers + Seven of Pentacles + Seven of Wands (at the bottom of the deck)
Shows jealousy: hidden / secretly
What jealousy means to him: He is not so much afraid of losing his partner as he is of being deceived, humiliated, or looking foolish. His jealousy stems from the fear of losing face and losing control over the situation.
I want to say that Sunghoon is not naturally jealous. Rather, he has been broken by past experiences that distorted him and made him very jealous and suspicious β someone who can no longer cope with jealousy. He is very jealous, but secretly; inside, it eats away at him slowly and methodically. Jealousy has become an unbearable burden that he wants to get rid of but cannot. He may even despise himself for it. He has a tendency to see a rival in everyone, and you cannot allow him to even think that someone else might be better or more desirable than him. I also see a strong tendency to spiral and prepare for the worst scenarios even without real evidence β that is, he decides in advance that you are cheating and prepares himself for it.
Behavior when jealous:
He does not react instantly. He remembers details: how you look at others, who you smile at on your phone, how often you talk about someone. He may collect βevidenceβ for weeks without asking direct questions. He continues to act normally, joking and doing his own things, but inside he constantly switches between βeverything is fineβ and βwhat ifβ. You may not even notice his jealousy because his behaviour does not change abruptly. If it torments him too much, he may secretly check your phone, βaccidentallyβ ask your friends, or create a situation to test your reaction (for example, say he is going to meet a girl and watch how you react). He acts stealthily, avoiding direct confrontation. If jealousy is confirmed, he presents the facts coldly, without hysteria, but with clear evidence. He might say, βI noticed this and that, explain.β Sunghoon also has a strong tendency to prepare for betrayal β he can work himself up so much that he already imagines you cheating, and he wants to be morally ready for it. The Seven of Swords gives him a tendency toward dishonest actions: he may check your phone behind your back, ask acquaintances, spy, or deliberately flirt with other girls in front of you to hurt you.
How he lets go / consequences:
He lets go very hard. Even if you explain everything and apologise, the residue remains for a long time. He may pretend to forgive, but inside he will keep checking. He remembers grievances for years. If he once suspected you of infidelity, he will periodically return to that thought, especially during arguments. Restoring trust requires complete transparency. You will have to voluntarily give him access to your life, otherwise he will not calm down. If you cannot handle his hidden checks, he may conclude that you are unreliable and break off the relationship without explanation.
Jay
How jealous is he?
Justice + Five of Swords + Six of Pentacles (at the bottom of the deck)
How does he show jealousy?
The Lovers + Seven of Pentacles + Seven of Wands (at the bottom of the deck)
Shows jealousy: openly (he is the only one)
What jealousy means to him:
A violation of justice and the contract. He believes he has invested certain resources (time, attention, care, possibly money) into the relationship and expects an equal or greater return. If you give attention to someone else, he sees it as an unfair imbalance and a violation of his rights.
Behavior when jealous:
His jealousy is strong, rational, and coldly aggressive. Jay does not throw tantrums, but his jealousy can be toxic, sarcastic, and demanding. He does not get jealous without reason; he needs evidence. He will calmly and directly ask, βWhy did you act with him like that and not with me?β β without shouting, but demanding an answer. Specific examples: βYesterday you didnβt smile at me the way you smiled at him.β
Jay has aggressive competition aimed at destroying the rival. If he feels a threat, he begins to mock the other guy, point out his flaws, compare him unfavorably to himself. He may use sarcasm, biting remarks, even humiliate the rival in your eyes. It is important for him not just to get your attention back but to prove his superiority. He does not shout or cry. His tone becomes icy, his words sharp. He might say, βHeβs interesting, of course, but heβs unlikely to put up with your whims like I do.β He will demand not just an apology but recognition that he is right and that you are at fault. The Five of Swords also gives a tendency toward gloating β if he proves that the other guy is βworthlessβ, he feels satisfaction. His jealousy is a battle where he must emerge with a sword in hand. He must win at any cost, humiliate the rival, make him taste defeat. Combined with Justice and the Six of Pentacles at the bottom, this paints a picture of harsh, competitive jealousy where Jay wants not just to restore balance but to come out as the winner and receive compensation.
Afterwards, you must thank him for staying, for being better, for forgiving everything. This may be more caresses, a gift, special attention, even material tokens. He unconsciously sees himself as a βgiverβ, but in fact he wants to be the receiver. After a jealousy scene, he might say, βI understood everything, you were wrong. Now you owe me dinner at a restaurant.β Not as a joke, but quite seriously. Or he will wait for you to offer compensation yourself. If you donβt guess, he will remind you.
How he lets go / consequences:
If he receives compensation and recognition, he thaws quickly. It is important for him that you clearly show that he is more important to you than others. If not, he closes off in cold resentment. He will not make a scandal, but he will stop initiating intimacy and become politely distant. He may use the situation as a trump card in the future: βRemember how youβ¦β You must admit you were wrong and give him the desired compensation. After that, he usually forgets the incident, but may remind you of it occasionally.
Jungwon
How jealous is he?
Temperance + Four of Cups + Seven of Wands (at the bottom of the deck)
How does he show jealousy?
Five of Pentacles + Seven of Pentacles + King of Pentacles (at the bottom of the deck)
Shows jealousy: hidden
What jealousy means to him:
He is not afraid of losing you as a person; he is afraid of losing his position, of ending up in a weak position. Fear of losing control and being humiliated. Deep down, he perceives you as part of his property, his stability. Jealousy for him is not the fear of losing a loved one, but the fear of losing control over a resource. He has invested time, strength, emotions in you β and he does not intend to tolerate anyone else βusingβ that without his permission.
Behavior when jealous:
He does not show his feelings. He will smooth over rough edges, convince himself that βeverything is fineβ, try to transmute jealousy into something neutral. He will not ask direct questions or make scenes. Outwardly, he remains calm, even friendly. If he sees you flirting with someone else, he may pretend not to notice, change the subject, occupy himself with his own things. He will dilute his jealousy with rational arguments: βSheβs just being polite,β βThereβs nothing between them.β But this restraint takes a huge amount of energy. Over time, he accumulates fatigue from his own control. Jungwon begins to show you coldness and detachment. He does not say, βIβm jealous.β He says, βI donβt care.β He may stop initiating intimacy, turn away, not respond to your caresses. He βcloses the cupβ β he does not accept your attention.
If you try to hug him, he may freeze and not respond. When you ask βwhat happened?β he replies, βNothing, everything is fine.β But he may sit with a stone face, staring at his phone, or demonstratively do other things. This is punishment by ignoring. He does not break dishes, he simply stops noticing you. You feel rejected, but you do not understand why.
If you start to ask why he is cold, he may snap, βWhatβs it to you? You were having fun with him.β But then immediately falls silent again, because an open argument is a battlefield where he could lose. It is easier for him to dig in inside his shell and observe from there. He will hold his βIβm offendedβ position for a very long time, even if you apologise. Because to back down would mean admitting weakness.
For him, this is an acute experience of his own inferiority compared to the one you pay attention to. He does not get angry at you or the rival. Rather, he feels poor, deprived, and has an irrational feeling that βthey have something I donβtβ β your smile, your time, your warmth. He becomes quiet and sad. His face takes on a distant, even suffering expression. He might say, βItβs fine, Iβm just tiredβ β but thatβs a mask. Inside, he suffers that you do not value him, that he is worse than the other. He will look for confirmation that the other guy is richer, more handsome, more interesting, and torment himself over it.
He may go weeks without expressing dissatisfaction, but all the while he is mentally keeping track of your βviolationsβ. If a critical mass accumulates, he will present everything at once: βIn the last two weeks, you cancelled our plans three times to talk to him, and you said he was witty β you never said that about me.β
In short, this is a mixture of total indifference and alienation.
How he lets go / consequences:
The King of Pentacles at the bottom gives him stinginess in forgiveness: he does not like to let go of what he considers his. If he once decides that you βbetrayedβ him, he may remember it for a long time and demand satisfaction. His jealousy lasts a long time because he does not know how to let go of resentment β he conserves it inside. Reconciliation must be achieved through long conversations where you must prove that he is the most important to you.
Jake
How jealous is he?
Temperance + Six of Pentacles + The Hierophant (at the bottom of the deck)
How does he show jealousy?
The Empress + Queen of Cups + Page of Wands (at the bottom of the deck)
Shows jealousy: hidden
What jealousy means to him:
Jake perceives you as part of his territory that needs to be nurtured and protected. His jealousy is rooted in the idea of βhow things should beβ in a proper relationship. He believes in certain rules: fidelity, honesty, priority of the partner. If you break these unwritten laws, he feels betrayed not just emotionally but morally.
Behavior when jealous:
He will maintain outward calm for a long time, not ask direct questions, not make scenes. He will try to βtransmuteβ his jealousy into a rational explanation or a more productive direction. If he sees you flirting with someone else, he may pretend not to notice, walk away, or occupy himself. He will tell himself, βItβs just talking, nothing serious.β But the internal tension grows. He will try to restore harmony through his own patience. However, this patience is not infinite.
Jake evaluates how much attention and resources he has invested in the relationship and how much you give to others. He keeps an unspoken tally: βI do this and that for you, and you smile at him β thatβs unfair.β His jealousy kicks in when he feels an imbalance in his favour. He may suddenly ask, βHave you noticed how much time I spend with you? And you chatted with him for half an hour yesterday.β He does not shout, but he pressures you with a sense of obligation. It is important for him that you restore fairness β give him more attention than the one he is jealous of. He might say, βItβs nothing,β but then expect you to offer compensation on your own (caresses, a gift, a special evening). If you do not guess, he accumulates resentment.
He may not say βIβm jealous,β but instead say, βThatβs not how you behave in a good relationship.β His jealousy appeals to shared values, not to his personal pain. It is important for him that you admit you were wrong and apologise in a certain form. If you ignore his βrulesβ, he may pull away not out of resentment but out of principle β βyou donβt respect my principles.β
Thus, Jake resorts to emotional manipulation, hidden playfulness, and demonstrative βvictimhoodβ
His jealousy also manifests as hyperβcare: he starts to look after you too intrusively, checking who you are going with, what you eat, how you dress. If he suspects something, he will not ask directly. Instead, he may start giving you gifts, making pleasant surprises, surrounding you with care β but with the subtext, βIβm trying so hard for you, and you?β The Empress also gives a tendency toward demonstrative suffering: he may sigh, look at you with moist eyes, say, βItβs fine, Iβm used to not being appreciated.β Pressure through guilt.
βHow nice that you have friends, and Iβm here all aloneβ¦β His jealousy is the art of making you feel guilty without making direct accusations.
He may notice you texting someone and a minute later start telling a sad story about how he was betrayed in the past. Or suddenly become distant and cold, and when you ask βwhat happened?β reply, βNothing, everythingβs fine, just thinking.β He expects you to start soothing him, hugging him, proving your loyalty. He can be jealous even of something you are not aware of and use that against you.
After a jealousy episode, he may suddenly suggest a spontaneous adventure: go to the sea at night, skydive, throw a party for two. This is his way to βoutdoβ the rival.
How he lets go / consequences:
He is not vindictive or cruel: if you admit your βguiltβ and give him the desired compensation, he quickly thaws and returns to his usual softness. If you react correctly (give him attention, go along with his adventure), he quickly forgets the offence and switches to positivity.
Ni-ki
How jealous is he?
Temperance + Death + Four of Pentacles (at the bottom of the deck)
How does he show jealousy?
Justice + Seven of Swords + Page of Wands (at the bottom of the deck)
Shows jealousy: hidden
What jealousy means to him:
At his core, Ni-ki is afraid of losing what he considers his. This is not mercantilism, but an existential greed: he does not know how to let go. His jealousy stems not from insecurity in himself, but from a sense of ownership. If he chose you, you are his. Anyone who encroaches on that is perceived as a thief.
Behavior when jealous:
He will not get jealous without proof. He needs facts, not speculation. But for him, a fact can also be your tone or a glance. Ni-ki will restrain himself, calm himself down, try to maintain balance. If he sees something that bothers him, he will not make a scene. He will rather take a deep breath and tell himself, βCalm down, maybe itβs nothing.β
He may look away, busy his hands (phone, cup), leave the room. He will not ask direct questions because he is afraid of looking weak or ridiculous. He can tolerate for a long time, bottling up jealousy for months without ever betraying it. But this restraint has its price.
Despite the fact that Ni-ki is not jealous and does not get jealous over every little thing, the consequences of jealousy, when it does happen, are catastrophic.
If the jealousy was justified or Ni-ki has been tolerating for too long β he is capable of destroying everything in one move. His jealousy does not lead to a gradual deterioration of the relationship. It either does not manifest at all, or at some point he βdiesβ to the relationship.
He may suddenly, without explanation, cut off contact, block you. Or suddenly become cold, stop answering messages. For him, jealousy is not a reason for a fight, but a signal that βsomething inside is brokenβ. He will not try to sort things out, prove anything, demand. He will simply cut off. He is able to instantly reevaluate his attitude toward his partner: if he suspects infidelity, she βdiesβ as a loved person, and he does not come back.
If he sees you flirting with someone else in his presence, it will strike at his βownership schemeβ. He will not show it on the outside, but inside the mechanism of Death will start: βYou are mine. If you are not mine β you are nothing.β
He expects an honest answer. If you lie or brush him off, that is an additional violation for him.
He may look at whom you like on social media, ask a mutual friend who you were with yesterday, or create a situation to see your reaction, or simply observe and analyse.
He might say, βBy the way, I saw you talking to that guy yesterday. What did he want?β β in a casual tone, as if he doesnβt care. But in reality, he has already checked everything (for example, found the guyβs social media). If you answer evasively, he will keep digging, but without your knowledge. He may flirt with someone himself to see if you get jealous, but then consider your jealousy unfair.
For Ni-ki, jealousy is also a kind of game, an adventure. He may find it interesting to watch your behaviour, figure out if you are lying or not.
He may approach the situation with a smile: βAh, youβre texting him? Come on, show me.β Not aggressively, but rather playfully, as if itβs part of flirting. If he realises there is no threat, he will quickly switch to something fun. His jealousy flares up and dies down if you give him the right answers. But if you lie to him, thatβs it.
Deep down, he is afraid of losing βhisβ and does not know how to let go, so his only defence is to destroy the attachment before it destroys him.
You may not even notice that he is jealous until one day he disappears. He will not torture himself or you with long confrontations. For him, jealousy is not an emotion, but a trigger to exit the game. If you give him a real reason, be prepared that he will simply cease to exist in your life, without drama or explanation.
How he lets go / consequences:
Unfortunately, he does not forgive β if he once decides that you betrayed him, he will not give a second chance. It is easier for him to erase you than to take the risk again.
Heeseung
How jealous is he?
Queen of Swords + The Empress + King of Swords (at the bottom of the deck)
How does he show jealousy?
Four of Cups + Five of Pentacles + Seven of Wands (at the bottom of the deck)
Shows jealousy: more openly.
What jealousy means to him:
For Heeseung, jealousy is first of all a blow to his selfβesteem, the feeling that he has been overlooked, that he is worse, poorer, more unnecessary. He will not build guesses and torment himself. He will clearly analyse the situation, draw conclusions, and talk to you.
Behavior when jealous:
Heeseung will not build guesses and torment himself. He will clearly analyse the situation, draw conclusions, and talk to you.
If he suspects something, he will not silently accumulate. He will ask directly, coldly. βWere you flirting with him? Why?β β and wait for an honest answer. His tone may be icy. He may present facts: βYesterday you said this, today you did that β itβs no coincidence.β He can be sarcastic and make biting remarks that hurt more than any shouting. For example: βHeβs interesting, of course, but heβs unlikely to put up with your whims like I do.β
His care becomes a tool of control. βYouβre not eating well, Iβll cook you dinnerβ β and thatβs not tenderness, but a way to show that he knows better. He will wrap you in a blanket, make you tea, ask how you are feeling. This is a demonstration of βI forgive you because I am above this.β He is saying: βYou are acting like a child, and I am an adult, so I will take care of you no matter what.β This can cause feelings of guilt and dependence. He may do something nice for you and then casually remind you: βSee how I treat you, and youβ¦β
He does not want to look like a βstupid jealous personβ, so he will prove to himself and to you that his jealousy is based on facts.
He may not even express jealousy directly, but start behaving as if you are already guilty, yet he magnanimously decides not to punish you. His internal dialogue: βI have weighed everything. You broke the rules. But I am above that, so I will just draw my conclusions.β If he decides that you have betrayed him, he may simply stop seeing you as a partner, but without a scandal. He will say: βIβm not angry, I just realised we are not right for each other.β
He is jealous in a cold, intelligent way, with a sense of moral superiority. You simply cannot outsmart or outplay him. If you give him a reason, he will not agonise in uncertainty. He will calmly, in an icy tone, list your βviolationsβ, possibly add a sarcastic comment, and then continue to behave as a caring partner β but now you will feel like a guilty schoolgirl who has been forgiven but not forgotten. His jealousy does not explode the relationship; it slowly poisons it with intellectual superiority. If you cannot bear this cold pressure and try to justify yourself or attack, he may calmly say: βI donβt want to fight, letβs just forget it.β And you are left with the feeling that you were wrong and he is the just king.
When Heeseung is jealous, he may stop enjoying your attention. He may sit with a stone face, not respond to your caresses, not engage in conversation. He is saying: βYou are no longer interesting to me.β
You come to hug him β he does not pull away, but he does not respond either. You suggest going somewhere β he shrugs: βAs you wish.β He punishes with coldness and silence.
When Heeseung is jealous, he acutely feels deprived and unhappy. He does not get angry at you or the rival. Rather, he feels sorry for himself and wants you to feel sorry for him. At times he may play the victim. This makes you feel guilty. He may refuse food, go to another room. The Five of Pentacles also gives a tendency to compare himself with others unfavourably β he will hint that the other guy is better, richer, more fun, while he is poor and unhappy.
If you try to find out what happened, he first waves you off: βEverything is fine.β But then immediately falls silent again. He does not want an open conflict because he is afraid of losing.
How he lets go / consequences:
Restoring trust after his jealousy is difficult because he does not ask for forgiveness; he simply draws conclusions and can at any moment present them as an indisputable fact.
Sunoo
How jealous is he?
King of Wands + The World + Nine of Pentacles (at the bottom of the deck)
How does he show jealousy?
Nine of Pentacles + Nine of Cups + Six of Pentacles (at the bottom of the deck)
Shows jealousy: hidden / closed
What jealousy means to him:
For Sunoo, his relationship is his world. Jealousy destroys that harmony, so he will resist it with all his strength. His jealousy is not the fear of losing you as a person, but the fear of losing the perfect picture of the relationship that he has built.
βI thought you were above this.β
Behavior when jealous:
He will not check your phone or ask a hundred questions. Instead, he may demonstratively distance himself: stop initiating conversations, cancel plans, focus on his own things. His message: βI am not going to run after you. If you need me, you know where to find me.β He compares himself to the rival in his favor β he is sure he is better, and your interest in another is simply your mistake.
If he is jealous, he may suddenly become very calm and polite β colder than usual. He will not slam doors, but his smile will become perfunctory. He will start spending more time on his own affairs, as if saying: βMy world is wonderful even without your attention.β The World also means that the final balance is important to him β if you did something that disturbed the harmony, he will expect you to restore it yourself (apologise, give him back his attention).
He is not afraid of being alone in practical terms β he is selfβsufficient, he has his own resources, hobbies, comfort. But he is afraid that you will disrupt his harmonious solitude with your betrayal.
He thinks: βEverything was wonderful for me, I created paradise for myself, and you bring weeds.β He will not run after you because he has his own world, and he will not perish without you. If you continue behaving in a way that intensifies his jealousy, he may simply stop considering you part of his world and erase you without suffering. Rather, he will start demonstrating how good he is on his own, while waiting for you to notice his βtrueβ value.
βI am fine even without you.β Instead, he will occupy himself with his own activities, look content and selfβsufficient, even if he is hurt inside.
He may suddenly start spending more time alone: reading, pursuing hobbies, meeting friends β and doing so with demonstrative pleasure. When you try to get his attention, he may reply: βItβs fine, Iβm just enjoying the moment.β He is saying: βSee how good I feel? And youβre missing out.β If you get distracted by others, then you are a fool.
He will pretend to be happy even if he is in pain. He will not show tears, will not complain. On the contrary, he may become hyperβcheerful, laugh loudly, tell you how wonderful everything is.
If you return from a walk with another guy, Sunoo will greet you with a wide smile: βOh, how was it? I just watched such a great movie, and everything is just great for me.β But you will sense the falseness β his smile does not reach his eyes. He may specially mention how someone praised him or how he received a nice offer. This is a mask of happiness hiding hurt and pain. He does not want to show his vulnerability, so he βoveractsβ joy. This makes you feel uncomfortable because you see he is unhappy, but you cannot help him β he rejects help.
In the relationship, he must be the one who receives more attention and resources. He thinks: βI give you so much, and you give to someone else.β
How he lets go / consequences:
After a jealousy episode, he may not ask for compensation directly, but he will expect you to figure out yourself that you need to βthankβ him for his magnanimity. For example, if you comfort him and tell him he is the best, he might say: βWell, then give me a massageβ β halfβjokingly, but with a serious undertone. He will not beg, but every instance of his jealousy should end with you giving him more than before.
Final conclusion: Jungwon is the most jealous and the most difficult in all aspects
Β· Jungwon ranks first in terms of jealousy severity: he is very jealous, but in a passiveβaggressive way.
Β· He lets go of resentment worse than anyone β he can be cold and detached for weeks or months without explaining why.
Β· He is the hardest to reason with β he goes into deep defence, does not make contact, and does not accept attempts at reconciliation right away.
What makes Jungwon the most difficult?
1. He does not show the reason. You can guess whatβs wrong, but he will answer with a stone face: βEverything is fine.β
2. He does not make the first move. Even if you apologise, he may continue to ignore you.
3. He gets stuck for a long time. This is an emotional stupor from which he only emerges after many attempts on your part.
4. Deep down he is afraid of losing, so he does not give in and does not thaw easily. He finds it easier to destroy the relationship than to admit his vulnerability.
This is based on my personal tarot interpretation. Please view it all with a dose of skepticism and for entertainment purposes.
Jay
Knight of Cups, Four of Swords, The Empress
Jay likes girls who look feminine. She is the embodiment of femininity β soft features, long hair (possibly blonde, light brown, or chestnut), and a gentle smile. Her height can vary, but likely not taller than him, so he can feel like a protector. Thinness isnβt important β grace and lightness in movement are what matter. No flashy makeup or provocative clothing. He may not even realize it, but heβs drawn to girls with rounded hips, a full bust, a soft belly β not skinny, but rather curvy. The kind of girl who radiates warmth and abundance.
Sunghoon
Queen of Cups, The High Priestess, Two of Wands at the bottom
Sunghoon loves very feminine girls who exude youth. Big, expressive eyes β often dark or deep. Dark hair (brunette, dark brown), long, maybe slightly wavy. Soft facial features, nothing sharp. Body type β rather delicate or medium, not athletic but tender. She dresses cozily, in a homely way: oversized sweaters, flowing fabrics, pastel or muted tones (blue, lavender, peach). She looks like a heroine from old paintings β dreamy, calm. She seems distant, with a slight half-smile. Her gaze is turned inward; sheβs quiet and doesnβt show emotions openly. She might have bangs covering her forehead. Her style is minimalist but meaningful: long skirts, black lace, silver jewelry, night colors (black, dark blue, purple). She doesnβt shout about herself, but thereβs magnetism about her. Sunghoon likes girls who look like theyβre into some form of creativity β maybe an artist, a poet, or studying esotericism. She has her own territory that she wonβt give up.
Sunoo
Queen of Cups, The Devil, Page of Pentacles at the bottom
Sunoo also loves true femininity. Big, expressive eyes (dark or deep), long hair β often dark or brown, with soft waves. Facial features are not sharp, cheekbones not too prominent. Body type β feminine with curves, but not plump; more of an hourglass or pear shape. She looks gentle, cozy, radiating calm and warmth.
Sunoo also likes girls with a feline magnetism and seductiveness β a hint of subtle sexuality. A girl with a special touch β maybe a mole near her lips, freckles, or dimples on her cheeks. She knows her power and isnβt afraid of it. Clothing: form-fitting dresses, leather, lace, high heels β but never vulgar. More of a βexpensive and dangerousβ style. Colors: black, dark burgundy, whiskey brown. She wears silver or gold jewelry (chains, rings). Her movements are smooth but with a predatory undertone. Still, sheβs not aggressive β she simply attracts like a flame drawing moths.
She might have a hands-on hobby (cooking, drawing, gardening). He may prefer girls slightly shorter than him, with a soft body (not athletic).
Ni-ki
Six of Pentacles, Judgment, The Hanged Man at the bottom
He may gravitate toward girls who look well-groomed and tasteful. They might wear high-quality, expensive clothes β not flashy, but classic or minimalist. Clean skin, neat hair, well-maintained hands. He values symmetry and order in appearance. Body type β proportional, could be athletic or slender. Height doesnβt matter much, but she shouldnβt disappear next to him. Gaze β open, confident. He might prefer girls who look βsuccessful,β as if they have their life together.
He likes something unusual: an unusual eye color, a bright smile, a non-standard haircut (e.g., short hair or asymmetry), maybe a mole in an unusual spot. She looks like someone who has been reborn β perhaps she changed her appearance (lost weight, changed her image). Her appearance sparks interest; sheβs not a βgray mouse.β He also has an unconscious attraction to something sacrificial, uncomfortable, different. On the surface, he may prefer one type, but deep down heβs drawn to girls with βimperfectβ beauty: asymmetrical features, unusual proportions, slight clumsiness β or conversely, very thin girls, or those with physical peculiarities (scars, birthmarks). But he wonβt admit it. The Hanged Man suggests he values a girlβs ability to be βdifferent,β not fitting into standards, yet staying herself. Maybe she does yoga or dance, or has a habit of tilting her head as if looking at the world from another angle.
Jungwon
Nine of Swords, Knight of Wands, Six of Swords at the bottom
He might like girls with sharp features: prominent cheekbones, expressive, languid eyes, thin lips. Hair color β unusual (platinum blonde, black with blue undertones, ash gray), or natural but with a clear graphic cut (bob, pixie). She isnβt afraid to look bold or dark: dark lipstick, black clothes, leather jackets, chunky silver rings.
He likely prefers tall or above-average height (around 168 cm / 5'6" or taller). If a girl is shorter but has a very elongated silhouette (long legs, narrow hips), that also works. Not extreme thinness, but rather slender with smooth lines β narrow shoulders, a thin waist, but no sharp angles. Bust and hips may be small, but the curves are rounded, not athletic. Heβs not looking for muscles or a βfit bodyβ; he wants fragility.
Lips β not full, but thin or medium with a clear contour. Nose β straight, maybe with a slight bridge. Eyebrows β dark, slightly furrowed, giving the face a look of light fatigue or pensiveness.
Hair can be short or long, asymmetrical, or dyed an unusual color (cool blonde, ash gray, blue-black with streaks).
Love for light negligence: slightly messy hair, unfashionable but comfortable shoes, a worn crossbody bag. Itβs not sloppiness, but a feeling that the person has traveled a lot and slept little. Jungwon might find this very attractive. She looks like an invitation to rest: warm pajamas, tousled hair, no makeup. He might be drawn to dark circles under the eyes, a distant gaze, slight carelessness in clothing (e.g., an oversized sweater washed a hundred times).
Heeseung
Five of Swords, Five of Cups, Eight of Pentacles at the bottom
Such a girl may have angular features: a pointed chin, high cheekbones, a gaze from under her brows. She looks ready for an argument or defense. Body type β rather lean, wiry, with visible muscles (especially on arms and shoulders). Height β average or tall, posture straight, almost defiant. Hair β short or pulled back in a ponytail, out of the way. Clothing β functional. She doesnβt seek approval or try to please.
Girls with downturned lips, a regretful gaze, dark circles under the eyes. She often looks down or away. Her movements are slow, as if she lacks energy for haste. Body type here may be more fragile, with thin wrists and ankles. Hair color β dull brown or ash gray. She wears soft, draped clothing in gray, blue-gray, pale blue tones β long cardigans, loose trousers, scarves. She radiates fatigue.
Girls who clearly work with their hands. Her fingers may be slightly rough, with short nails, maybe traces of paint or calluses. She isnβt afraid of physical labor, and it shows in her posture and how she holds objects. She doesnβt need a glamorous look β on the contrary, naturalness and skill command respect. She may be short, stocky, with strong legs. Clothing β comfortable, practical (jeans, T-shirt, work jacket).
Height β average or slightly below, with a dense but not heavy figure, wiry muscles. Not thin, but βwiry.β Bust and hips not prominent. Her appearance is not model-like, but memorable for its uniqueness.
Jake
Three of Pentacles, Ace of Cups, Temperance at the bottom
Jake has completely ordinary, feminine preferences. He likes proportion and βcorrectnessβ of form. He likes girls with symmetrical faces and balanced figures β not too thin, not too full, but well-proportioned. He sees the body as a work of art: shoulders no wider than hips, waist defined but not exaggerated. Height β average. Clothing β neat, high-quality, possibly with handmade elements (knitted sweater, leather bag). She looks like someone who knows comfort and beauty.
Big eyes with long lashes, light hair (blonde, honey, warm blond), long or medium-length, soft-looking. Skin β fair, with a slight blush, no major blemishes. Lips β full, naturally pink. She looks vulnerable but not weak. Her smile is open, a little shy. Body type β feminine with smooth lines, small bust, rounded hips.
Girls who combine different traits β for example, light hair and dark eyes, or vice versa. She shouldnβt be extremely thin or athletic β rather a βgolden meanβ: normal weight, clear skin, smooth movements. Maybe she has a small mole on her cheek.
Height β around 160β168 cm (5'3"β5'6"), hourglass figure or close to rectangular but with soft contours. Legs proportional to torso, not overly long. Bust size BβC, waist not too narrow, hips rounded. Hands and fingers β well-kept, but not with stiletto nails β more natural length.
Clothing style: feminine but practical β maxi dresses, soft sweaters, high-waisted jeans, ballet flats or low boots. Colors β pastel (mint, peach, light blue) or earthy (olive, beige, terracotta).
This is based on my personal tarot interpretation. Please view it all with a dose of skepticism and for entertainment purposes.
Sunghoon.
Judgment + Two of Pentacles + King of Cups + Knight of Wands (at the bottom of the deck)
Β· She is capable of deep transformation. She has been through fire and water β difficulties, suffering, mistakes, falls β but she has risen, not become bitter. She has reβexamined her life, acknowledged her mistakes, and emerged renewed.
Β· She is not perfect at first glance. She has the depth of someone who knows the value of pain and forgiveness. She holds no grudges, knows how to let go of past resentments, and gives second chances.
Β· She is not afraid to hear criticism about herself, and she can tell the truth to your face β but gently.
Β· Life's twists motivate her, and she is not afraid of change.
Β· She judges without bias β she sees the outcome, not the intermediate emotions.
Β· She has a story. She has things to tell. Rich life experience β not a life spent on the couch scrolling through TikTok.
Β· She knows how to balance different areas of life without clinging to just one. She switches easily between work, home, emotions, hobbies.
Β· If her plans fall apart, she adapts β she doesn't throw a tantrum. She is not afraid of looking foolish by changing her mind. Flexible.
Β· She is not bored with herself because she creates her own interest.
Β· When he wants solitude, she doesn't take offense β she does her own things. This relieves his fear of being smothered.
Β· She is diplomatic. She doesn't walk into conflicts, knows how to find balance between two sides. It's hard to drag her into a quarrel; she keeps her cool.
Β· She doesn't act rashly. She knows how to wait and gather information.
Β· She knows her own boundaries and respects others'. She doesn't reveal everything at once, but she doesn't lie either β she simply stays silent. She doesn't rush, doesn't devalue.
Β· She doesn't make important decisions under pressure; she values time to think.
Β· She doesn't play roles. She is genuinely calm because she has accepted herself. She can cry, but not to manipulate. She can be passionate, but not explosive. Her "mask" is absent β she is transparent, and Sunghoon senses no trick.
Β· Emotional maturity. Deep empathy without losing herself β she listens, understands, but doesn't dissolve.
Β· Reliability and quiet strength β you can lean on her in a crisis.
Β· She has that "crazy note" that isn't visible at first glance β spontaneity, impulsiveness. "Let's go watch the stars at 3 a.m. on Saturday?" She is not chaotic, but measuredly crazy. She is open to adventure β ready for spontaneous trips, ideas, experiments.
Β· She is honest and straightforward β she doesn't scheme, says what she thinks, but without cruelty.
Β· She has charisma and inspiration β she knows how to draw others in; it's hard not to notice her.
Jake
Nine of Wands + The High Priestess + Four of Cups + Page of Wands (at the bottom of the deck)
Β· She is persistent and unyielding β she doesn't break under pressure. She has a strong character.
Β· She is faithful to her principles β she doesn't betray her beliefs for profit.
Β· She protects the weak β ready to stand up for others, even when she herself is tired.
Β· Reliable in a crisis β you can count on her when everything falls apart.
Β· She knows how to get back up after falls. Her strength is not in the absence of wounds, but in her willingness to keep going.
Β· She is someone who has been through a lot, exhausted herself, but never gave up. She has scars. She may be suspicious, even harsh on the edge.
Β· She won't trust immediately or melt from his (or anyone else's) compliments. She sets boundaries and tests durability. She can be prickly, tired of life β but that is real armor.
Β· Jake is tired of fake "wounded birds." This girl is a real fighter. She doesn't need pity β she deserves respect. He sees reliability in her: if she stayed standing after blows, she won't betray him or crumble under pressure.
Β· She will say directly: "I'm not in the mood, leave me alone." He won't be offended because he knows β that's not manipulation, it's honesty.
Β· She won't play the caring mommy, but in a hard moment she will genuinely offer a shoulder. Her love is not sugarβandβflowers β it's tested by fire.
Β· She knows more than she says.
Β· She is unavailable. She doesn't pour out her soul at the first meeting. She has an inner world with no entry for outsiders.
Β· She sees through people but doesn't use it for control.
Β· She won't write long letters or give symbolic gifts. She can be silent for hours, and in that silence Jake feels not coldness, but presence.
Β· She doesn't need to be entertained. She needs no performances. (Her mystery intrigues him β not as a puzzle to solve, but as respect for another's territory.)
Β· She doesn't get jealous without reason.
Β· You can entrust her with your deepest secrets without fear of judgment.
Β· Spiritual depth β she sees meanings beneath the surface, knows how to wait and observe.
Β· Without words, she understands what is happening to another person.
Β· She is not easy to interest, win over, or attract. She is not interested in things that lack depth. She values quality, not quantity. She won't clap for every trinket. She doesn't fake enthusiasm. But if something truly moves her β that response will be genuine. (He is tired of girls who agree to everything and cling with love.)
Β· She doesn't suffer from loneliness; she knows how to fill herself from within.
Β· She never loses her ability to be surprised and to enjoy small things.
Β· She brings fresh ideas, is easy to get going. Her energy is contagious; with her you want to try new things and experiment.
Heeseung.
Eight of Swords + Nine of Cups + Ten of Wands + Queen of Cups (at the bottom of the deck)
Β· Honest with herself β she doesn't pretend that everything is easy; she knows how to admit her vulnerability.
Β· Sensitive to others' pain β she has experienced helplessness herself, so she doesn't judge, she sympathizes.
Β· Cautious and tactful β she doesn't pry into your soul, respects personal boundaries.
Β· Capable of trust β when she decides to ask for help, it is valued as a sign of closeness.
Β· Constantly works on herself β even in difficult situations she looks for a way out, which shows strength of spirit.
Β· Confident and selfβsufficient β she knows what she wants and isn't afraid to enjoy life.
Β· Generous and knows how to bring joy β she loves making surprises, giving warmth and gifts.
Β· With her it's easy and fun; she radiates positivity.
Β· Respects her own and others' boundaries and desires β she doesn't manipulate, doesn't demand, she offers.
Β· Reliable as a rock β you can count on her in the hardest circumstances.
Β· Resilient and patient β she doesn't whine, doesn't run away.
Β· If she has taken responsibility, she won't abandon it.
Β· Knows how to overcome obstacles for what matters.
Β· Selfβsacrifice β in moderation, but she is willing to work on the relationship.
Β· Deep empathy β she feels another's mood without words.
Β· Soft and gentle β with her you feel calm and safe.
Β· Heeseung admires women who pulled themselves out of the swamp. They don't play the victim β on the contrary, they demonstrate strength of spirit. She can talk about a difficult period in her life without whining. She says: "I coped, and you will cope." Heeseung feels a kindred soul in her, but without drama. Her freedom from inner chains inspires him to break his own chains. She is not afraid to be vulnerable because she knows that vulnerability is not weakness.
Β· She doesn't envy, doesn't complain, doesn't look for someone to blame. She has an inner source of happiness independent of external circumstances.
Β· She can work herself to the bone, hold two jobs, care for loved ones, solve complex problems. Yet she doesn't become a martyr β she just does what needs to be done.
Β· Heeseung is tired of girls who only wait to be saved. This one is a saver herself. She won't dump her problems on him β on the contrary, she can take part of his load. This earns deep respect and makes him want to be equally reliable.
Β· If Heeseung is going through a tough time, she won't be scared or run away. She will say: "Let's figure it out together." She can take over organizational matters, finances, or daily chores without demanding thanks. Her strength is that she simply moves forward.
Β· She is feminine, gentle, knows how to flirt, tease, be seductive, even maternal. She senses others, knows how to comfort, but doesn't dissolve. She is capable of boundless love and acceptance, like a mother
Jay.
Page of Cups + Three of Cups + Eight of Pentacles + King of Cups
Β· The type of young, untouched virgin β not spoiled by the world. She is inexperienced; she doesn't have ten exβboyfriends behind her.
Β· She is sensual, open, a little naive, touching. She might cry at a moving movie or give an unexpected gift "just because."
Β· No masks, freshness of feeling, the ability to be vulnerable without playing a role.
Β· Jay is tired of girls who play the "perfect girl." He wants a living, real person. Her childlike spontaneity doesn't annoy him because it's not immaturity β it's honesty.
Β· She is not afraid to be funny or strange. Jay, who himself values sincerity deep down, relaxes next to her. He knows she's not pretending.
Β· No cynicism.
Β· Empathy.
Β· Extrovert.
Β· She knows how to enjoy life, not get stuck on problems, and easily let others into her world. She is socially flexible, knows how to be a friend, isn't jealous, doesn't create conflicts out of nothing.
Β· She doesn't envy.
Β· Generous with warm emotions and support.
Β· Friendly, able to reconcile people.
Β· She likes to hang out, go out β she is the life of the party.
Β· She doesn't demand all the attention for herself. On the contrary, she will befriend him with her friends, organize group outings, and be happy when he interacts with others.
Β· She is attentive to details (remembers important little things about you).
Β· She finishes what she starts.
Β· Patient and hardworking.
Β· Constantly strives for selfβimprovement and mastery. She is not lazy, doesn't expect anyone to do things for her. She builds her own career, hobbies, skills. She is patient and knows that results come with practice. Jay respects those who work on themselves. He won't have to drag her along. She is busy with interesting things herself, yet she finds time for him. Her diligence inspires him not to be lazy. She might learn a new language, play sports, master a profession β and talk about it with shining eyes. Jay isn't afraid that she will get stuck in daily routine or become boring. With her it's interesting because she is constantly growing. And she doesn't demand that he be her mentor.
Β· She doesn't suppress her emotions. She knows how to cry, rejoice, and get angry.
Β· She won't "drown" him in her emotions, but she won't be a cold statue either. She doesn't manipulate feelings β she consciously handles them. If she is hurt, she says so directly, without silent tantrums. If she loves, she shows it β but she doesn't smother.
Β· She is not afraid of his dark sides, nor does she try to "save" them.
Β· She knows how to comfort without panicking.
Β· Deep empathy while keeping her own boundaries intact.
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