Miss Sassy Simmer

Hello and welcome to my crazy corner of this thing we call the internet. I use this space mainly to post sim-related things, but also the occasional ramble as well. Snoop around at your leisure & ask questions if you'd like! <3

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Everything happening in our world has been weighing heavily on me. I know what is right...and yet I’ve said nothing. It wasn’t until I heard someone else say, “Being silent IS saying something, it IS choosing a side,” that I realized I had to speak up and I had to learn.  I have been reading, I have been watching informative videos, I have been LISTENING. I have been looking inside myself into the deep dark corners that I didn’t even know existed. I have been confronting my misconceptions, prejudices, and pride-filled (ignorant) thoughts. And now, I think it’s time that I share what I’ve learned to hopefully help others who still have those deep, dark corners inside of them.  What I thought: White Privilege? What? I grew up in a shitty neighborhood, in an even shittier home, with a drug addict for a mother. I’m not privileged.  What I know now: Being white does not, nor has it ever, contributed to my disadvantages and hardships. I was not privileged, but I DO have white privilege. I have always had white privilege.  What I thought: I’m afraid of cops too.  What I know now: I am afraid of cops because I don’t want to get in trouble. People of color are afraid of cops because they could die over a minor infraction. They could be killed for simply moving, breathing, or existing in the wrong place at the wrong time. These two things are NOT the same or even remotely close to the same.  What I thought: Why can’t “all lives matter?” I don’t get it... What I know now: All lives CANNOT matter UNTIL black lives matter. Saying “all lives matter” is ignorant, insulting, and selfish. “All” includes everyone, but especially people of color right now! I hate that I ever thought those things, I hate that I stayed silent. But I’m done staying silent to make others comfortable. I will keep pushing myself to reflect and change. I will be an advocate and I will use my position in this world to push others to do the same.  I’m so, so, so sorry. I am working to be better and I will continue doing so.  You matter, I see you, and I hear you. <3

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This week hasn’t been great. As several of you know, I’m an elementary school teacher in real life. We’ve been doing at-home learning for five weeks now and this week it finally set in that I won’t ever get to be with my students in our classroom again. This reality has crushed my spirit. We also received a lot of horrible news from our administrators about family heath concerns and job stability for next school year, among other things.  I guess I just wanted to share this because I know I’m not the only one struggling with everything going on right now. I know many people probably have realities that are a lot more strenuous than mine also. Never hesitate to reach out. You aren’t alone. We’re all in this shit storm together.  On a side note, I haven’t really been playing sims. I’ve downloaded Stardew Valley and have gotten sucked in. Hopefully inspiration strikes soon, but it’s looking dreary at the moment unfortunately.  Stay well friends! <3 

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Life Update

Hi everyone!  I haven’t been very active and for that I’m sorry.  Life has been crazy lately. For example, just this morning I hit a deer on my way to work and wrecked my car (that I just bought in June...*insert massive eye roll and sigh*). Thankfully, I’m fine and for that I am very grateful, things could have been much worse. I hope to get back to posting and playing soon, but I fear it may not happen until summer (in the US).  Hopefully things are a little sunnier for you than for myself, and if not, I hope things improve for you too! <3

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💌This is the Amazing Person Award! Once you are given this award you are supposed to paste it in the ask of eight different people, who, in your opinion, deserve it. If you break the chain nothing will happen, but it is sweet to know someone thinks you’re amazing inside and out! 💌

Oh my...🥰 You are just the sweetest! But really, you are always building people up in this community, it is amazing! Thank you so much!

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List 5 facts about your most favorite Sim of yours and send this to 10 Simblrs whose Sims you adore ♥♥♥

Ah - thanks for the tag @simminglove! <3  I’m going to go with Lauren Pommer. 1. Lauren has an obsession with ranch dressing. She puts it on basically everything. In fact, she determines whether a restaurant is good or not by the quality of their ranch. Her friends and family think it’s weird.  2. On the flip side, Lauren will not touch ketchup. The smell of it makes her gag. However, she periodically tries it just to make sure she isn’t being dramatic and actually still hates it.  3. Lauren is not close with either of her parents. They have always felt at a distance to her. This has deeply influenced her ability to form secure relationships with people.  4. She never wanted to work for her father’s company. She wanted to become a writer for a women’s magazine, but her parents deemed that career questionable and unworthy. They actually made sure she didn’t get any interviews by using their connections, she doesn’t know this...yet. 5. Lauren has always wanted kids but has never been sure if she’d be an adequate mother. She fears she will be like her own mom. 

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Happy New Year, all! :)  I wish you all happiness, peace of mind, and creative inspiration in this new year! <3 

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Decorating the houses must be so fun 🤧💛

It is quite fun! :) I haven’t been able to tackle as much as I’d like to lately, because of some RL stuff, but I’m slowly getting back to it and I’m so excited to share some of the things I’ve been working on! 

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Dramatic, yes...but also accurate.

The school year has started, and I’m back in the classroom, this year with a younger grade (not my fave). It is kicking my butt. I have quite the crew in my room, keeping me very busy and exhausted.

Know that I’m still around, but not super active because teaching has taken over my life once again.

I will post more when I start feeling human again.

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Excuse the unedited, reshade-free screenshots. ...But, I need some ideas!  So, I’m starting to work on the next part of my new world (which I’ve decided to name Wisteria Waters!), and idk what to do with the area surrounding the big fountain shown in the first and second pictures. 

The building behind it is going to be used at the business/journalism rabbit hole (left building) as well as the bistro rabbit hole (right building with awnings).  The (only built) lot next door (third picture) will be the hospital/science rabbit hole.  The portion containing the fountain is NOT part of a lot, which limits my options a bit. It’s just filler space laid out in create a world to help the area look more naturally connected together.   My only idea is to scatter black picnic tables around the fountain and I’m just not sold on that.  So... what ideas do YOU have??? I’m stuck and need your help!  (No idea is a bad idea...pleaseeee help!)

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Simblr Love Challenge

For this challenge, you have to tag ten simblrs and say one nice thing about each of them. Whoever is tagged must tag 10 more simblrs and say one nice thing about each of them. I was tagged by @simminglove

I tag:

@simminglove - You are so easy to collab with and such an easy-going and encouraging person!

@hydrangeachainsaw - You are a create a world wizard, I am always left in awe at the things you post!

@simsdeogloria - You always make me smile with the kind things you say about the things I create/post. Also, your sims are adorable! 

@kirstenmaealtman - Your sims and simming style are the envy of my life. Looove everything you post! 

@kreativeplumbob - You keep everyone so relevant and in-the-know by always sharing all the cool things you find about tumblr and the simblr community, I appreciate it a lot!

@nornities - You have a wealth of sims 3 CAW knowledge and it’s so impressive! (Like...why do you even follow me, you’re far too fabulous). 

@kymmaisims - You are so dedicated to your sims 3 story telling, it’s very admirable! 

@simtuition - Your sims and sims-related builds/decor are out of this world. I genuinely don’t know how you create things consistently at the level that you do, but man is it all so fabulous! 

@tosimfinityandbeyond - Your sims and sims-content are beautiful. The things you post always blow me away!

@theseprettylittlepixels - Your sims are actually perfect, like, actually. I find them to be absolutely iconic, looove your simming style!

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Well, I’ve finally transferred over my create a world files for my unnamed project and I’m back to it! :) I built up the rest of the area I was working on. The pictures above are of those builds and a bird’s eye view snap of the whole area. My original intention was for these to all be homes/apartments/town-homes, but then I started building what I envision to be an ice cream parlor of sorts (the first picture), so we’ll see what happens!  Ooo - also, I think I finally may have a name for this world: Wisteria Waters (because the town has a river that flows through it and a lot of coastline. What do you think? 

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Derek forcefully stood then swiveled his mother’s chair around so she was facing him, “Saw who mom? Allison? I don’t…I don’t know what you’re saying. I never fucking know what you’re saying!” 

She didn’t reply, her gaze remained fixed on the foliage outside, her demeanor suggesting that she wasn’t even aware he was present in the room with her. 

Towering over her, he took a swing at the gritty fabric that covered the old chair she sat in, his misplaced anger and raised voice causing a nurse to pause in the doorway, dust loosely floating about from the strike to the chair as she stared in at them.

“Sir, I’m going to have to ask you not to speak to her that way. She isn’t aware of what you’re saying, but she can still feel frightened. If it happens again, I’m going to have to ask you to leave,” The nurse stated sternly, obviously judging Derek for his outburst.

“I…I…I’m sorry mom…I’m so sorry…I shouldn’t have come…” Derek mumbled through tears as he frantically pushed past the nurse and ran out of the room.

Derek climbed into his truck and began slamming his fists into the steering wheel until his knuckles swelled and shown bright red.

He pulled out his phone to call Allison again, but when he opened his recent calls to redial her number, he found that he had made a mistake earlier…he had called Lauren instead.

“For fuck’s sake! Can this day get any fucking worse?!” Derek screamed into the stale air that filled his truck, “Can’t I get a break? Fuck, I don’t even know why I even put her god damn number into my phone, it’s not like I would ever have the balls to call her anyway, I’ve had her number for weeks and instead of calling her I’ve been fucking up my life with Allison. When am I going to realize that the only thing Allison can ever do is make things worse for me? Fuckkkk!!!” The horn of his truck blasted into the empty air as his fists resumed slamming against the steering wheel. He rammed the keys into the ignition and sped away from the assisted living facility, leaving small black tire marks and the pungent smell of burnt rubber in the air.

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The sun shone in from the window, dust particles dancing in its light. Cool air covered Derek’s exposed skin as he sat down in the scratchy chair next to his mom, pulling his legs up into the chair with him. 

“Mom, I messed up…” Derek sighed, his eyes burning with a well of held back tears, “I think I got Allison pregnant and now she has run off, probably terrified and confused. I don’t know what to do, this whole thing is a mistake, but she has to know I wouldn’t make her do this alone…right?”

Mrs. Langley remained silent, staring out the window into the garden outside.

“I…I don’t want to be with her. I can’t…I can’t be with her again. The divorce was for a reason…many reasons…but, then why is this happening? Why are we in this situation if we’re not supposed to be together…?” Derek mumbled, warm tears slipping from his eyes, “Please…just, just tell me what to do. Tell me what I need to do…I need my mom right now…”

Mrs. Langley kept her eyes fixed on the foliage, never once acknowledging Derek or his desperate pleas.

“I saw them in the garden you know…together. He doesn’t know, but I saw them,” Mrs. Langley rambled, her eyes narrowing slightly at the sight of a small bird fluttering about.

“What…mom, what are you talking about? I don’t understand…” Derek sniveled as he attempted to wipe away his steady stream of tears. 

“They were out there…they thought I didn’t know, but I knew. I saw them…I saw them…”   

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Lauren planted herself on a bar stool, the stubbly man placing himself next to her. She ignored his attempts to converse for a while, but eventually couldn’t dodge his efforts any longer.

“Don’t cha want to know how I knew you were lookin’ for Langley?” the man mumbled as he poured the rest of his drink in his mouth and attempted to grab Lauren’s shoulder, “I saw you, ‘bout a month ago come stumbling out of this place carrying shoes in your hand. Langley and his god damn woman parade lately! I didn’t think he had it in him!”

“Woman parade…?” Lauren coughed, trying to dislodge the lemon water she had just inhaled into her lungs.

“Hell yeah, 3 this month. You, that other blonde, and the brown-haired one,” the man slurred, “all coming and going like it’s a damn brothel. Oh shit…is it a brothel? Fuck…”

“Brothel??? You think I’m a prostitute???” Lauren spat.

“Well, hell, I dunno…I’m just an ol’ drunk spewin’ thoughts. I guess it don’t make much sense ‘cause the girls are the only ones coming and going. No other men, just him. Him and his woman parade…”

“Please stop saying that,”

“Jealous, are ya? Huh…I’ve seen you the least though, so that ain’t make a whole lotta sense,”

Lauren’s cheeks flushed, “I’m not jealous. I’m just…surprised, that’s all. And honestly, a little insulted. You did just insinuate that I was a prostitute after all!”

“Alright, fine,” the man sighed, “but I’m just sayin’, the other two keep comin’ and goin’ and you are the only one that I ain’t been seein’. And now you’re showin’ up here lookin’ for him and are actin’ all flustered like I just stole somethin’ from ya,”

“Okay, that is enough,” Lauren grumbled as she gripped the edge of the stool and heaved her body upwards, “I’m going to move seats now, and you’re going to stay here. I’m done with this conversation,”

“Hey, I didn’t mean to offend ya,” the man said between taking another drink, “and I never said it was a bad thing. It just means you’re different than the other two, maybe that’s good. But hey, what do I know…like I said, I’m just an ol’ drunk,”

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Lauren stared at the building from inside her car, unsure why she was here. Did she want to let him know about the voicemail? Did she want to tell him the truth? Did she just want to see him?

She folded her arms on top of her steering wheel, letting her forehead press hard against the sleeve of her sweater. The top layer of her hair moving lightly with the rhythm of the air conditioning vents, her mind rapid firing a thousand more questions.

It wasn’t until someone knocked on her window that her mind stopped spinning.

“ ‘cuse me miss, I couldn’t help but notice that you’ve been starin’, and then you just kinda flopped over like a fish on its final leg. You lost ‘er somethin’?” a stubbly man slurred as he leaned against the car, steadying himself with his fingertips.

“Oh, uh…no…I’m, I’m quite alright,” Lauren stammered, lifting her head, unbuckling her belt and pushing open the door, “I’m just here to see someone…that’s all,”

“Well, I hope it ain’t Langley, cuz you just missed ‘em,”

“In that case, I guess I’ll just go inside and wait for him,” Lauren sighed, a small twinge of jealousy escaping. 

“And I’ll join ya…if you’re buyin’ that is!” the man laughed, only half-joking.

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@kreativeplumbob tagged me in this contraption and I just couldn’t resist trying it out for myself. :)  I tag @simminglove, @nornities, @simsdeogloria, and whoever else is interested!