The reality of being a Pro-Domme
WARNING - May completely ruin the fantasy.
I am writing this piece to expose the reality of my life - many Dommeās lives -after being asked multiple times by countless subs in the past few months to āownā them. I want those who have asked - especially those who have begged me recently to be collared - to read this piece. Then read it again. And again.
For those of you who enjoy sessioning with me regularly and for whom I am the forever poised, wicked, smoking hot, lingerie clad Wonder Woman, you do not need to read this. I will enjoy and continue to be that version of myself for you for a few hours a week until the end of my days.
But for the rest who wonder why I donāt accept you as personal slaves, message you back immediately or why Iām never available to session immediately in full latex, then this is for you. Here we go.
āWhat is it your daughterās doing with herself nowadays?ā
āSheās been working as a dominatrix for the past few years.ā
āA dominatrix!? Soā¦ what does she actually do then?ā
āShe whips men for money.ā
Technically, not untrue, Mother. Although, if I had been involved in the conversation, I would have answered that question a little bit differently.
āSo, what does she actually do then?ā
āTruthfully, Mrs. Smith I get shat on a lot. You may think I mean that in a metaphorical sense, but I assure you, I do not. I mean, physically. Men physically defecate and a lot of the time, it ends up on me, my floor or on my massive plastic cock. My being-shat-on-by-a-client record so far is 3 times in the one day, but Iām more than confident that it will be beaten very quickly. I also counsel people on a daily basis, about a massive range of issues they have with many different aspects of their lives. I clean up a lot of bodily fluids and wear really uncomfortable outfits and shoes. I do a hell of a lot of things and every bit of it is hard work. I whip people now and again, sure but in truth, out of all of the things Iāve said, thats the activity that least depicts what being a Dominatrix is aboutā¦.I bring peopleās fantasies to life. I keep a hell of a lot of secrets.ā
You see, truthfully - Iām not a āDominatrixā. Over the past 4 years, Iāve been a teacher, a confidante, a life coach, a safe haven, an unrequited love, a challenge, a lifelong unfulfilled dream, a counsellor, a miracle worker and magician. I have been - on very few occasions - simply, a Dominatrix. All of these roles can be exhausting and challenging.
What a large number of men seem to forget frequently, is that Dommes also have another role. The most important one of all.
For those of you who did not know this, I am so sorry I have to be the one to tell you. I must admit, myself and many other women I know in the same profession actually have lives as well as being human. Itās shocking, I know and its so hard to take in. Can you believe when it rains, I get wet? This is impossible, I hear you scream up and down the country, this cannot be! Not a Mistress! Why, she should be carried everywhere on a golden throne. She is constantly clad in expensive latex outfits, sitting motionless in her dungeon waiting for me to call and say I am ready to session, right this very minute!
But hereās the thing - when you call, Iām not wearing latex. When you call, I donāt have lipstick on or have the confident stance of a woman whoās had a thousand men helpless, over her knee. Iām stooped over an ironing board. Iām in the queue at the Post Office. Iām halfway through making my husbandās dinner. Iām drenched in sweat and have just finished a spinning classā¦.and I fucking hate spinning class.
Maybe, Iām wearing jeans and trainers. Maybe, Iāve just finished walking my dog in the torrential rain and look like a drowned rat. How about, my phoneās ran out of charge because Iāve spent the last two hours talking to another submissive on it, whoās trying to work out if he should get divorced or not? Whatever the reason, I am not available to you RIGHT NOW. I will never be available to you RIGHT NOW. I may be available really soon but if you demand Iām available this very minute, then the chances are Iām not going to be ready for a very fucking long time, you dick. I like to do my job well. I genuinely like to look after my submissives, plan sessions, create meaningful connections and overall, enjoy my job. I like to do your fantasies justice. I am good at my job, but Iāve gotta have time to give myself a good shake before Miss Marilyn rears her very preened, very pretty head.
If I sound cynical or bitter, I apologise. I love my job. I have always loved my job. I have a select few slaves I engage with on a daily basis. I am their Mistress full time but they accept that Iām also someone elses friend, family, other halfā¦
I am well aware that there are some fantastic women out there who live the lifestyle 24/7 and for their slaves, they are able to be the almighty fantasy. That is amazing and I have dreams of my own of one day, perhaps being able to live exactly the same way. But for now, Ā I will continue to live. I am not in a position where I need to pander to your every whim. I will never be able to session in 5 minutes time. Sometimes, I canāt answer the phone or watch your humiliation task video immediately.
But I promise, if you truly want to serve and submit, then you can and I will be more than delighted to see you.
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