How do you feel about that whole Amber Heard divorce thing? As a modern male the position I have should be pretty clear right? Amber is right. In every possible way. And even if the accusations she made are false, I can't help but admire her even more for being so driven and so determined to get what's hers. I find that kind of leadership and uncompromising will exciting in a Woman. All of this could have been prevented if Amber got what she wanted right away, That's a good lesson for males.
When you are trying to pick a side when there’s a conflict like this, between a man and a woman, always try to presume which side the average man would pick.
9.5 out of 10 times the average man would pick the man’s side. No matter the inputs, no matter the information, no matter what, the average man would still empathize with the male that is to be judged.
There’s a number of reasons behind that fact, the most prevalent of which, is the socially constructed idea that was being put to people’s brains -until recently - that of male solidarity. The force that has been uniting men for ages. Would you ever see a feminine counterpart to that perception? No. Why? Because patriarchal society of the past centuries would never allow women to unite. The reason behind that is obvious. We will not discuss it extensively right now.
What is important here is to keep the fact that the vast majority of men would stand up for the male. And since men would stand up for the male that means society would stand up for the male. It has been done in the past for centuries. Society would be biased against the female and in favor of the male.
Although it is also a fact that society today is heading towards the opposite direction.
The female’s side is gradually becoming the “average person’s” side. This happens as the “average person” is gradually taking the shape of a woman instead of a man. The woman’s view of things is gradually becoming the default view of things.
Now you, as a modern man, are not thinking like the average male. You are way more modern than that.
There is no such thing for you as male solidarity. You are not afraid to be mentally attached to the female instead of the male. You feel no internal need to stand up for another male. Instead, you have a subconscious need to stand up for the female. You feel a little bit closer to her. And all this because you are not a typical male anymore. Male solidarity is a concept from which you are moving away.
Take a good look at the two of them.
With whom you feel closer to?
I’m sure you understand that I’m not talking about you.
You have explained perfectly the whole situation.
Amber is a modern woman who makes a serious accusation of abuse from her famous husband. There should be no cell of any modern man’s body, not being 100% by her side. Not fighting for her right to win this.
People picking one side over the other in such situations, where we do not know who is right and who is wrong, eventually pick the one in favor of which are unconsciously biased. What follows is a certain amount of guilt: “was I right? was I wrong?” Just as in your case. Despite the fact that you made a perfect argument about whose side we should choose, later you asked: “Our position should be pretty clear, right?”
Well, in our case that guilt is exactly what HAS to be fought.
Of course you are right, sweety.
you should have no guilt whatsoever for being biased in favor of Amber.
As you explained perfectly, even if the accusations she made are false (which are not - see? biased), she still has to be admired for being driven and determined. There should be no guilt about being prejudiced. You are a modern man and you are biased in favor of Amber. It should happen naturally.
Between the two, you know who is the idol.
We have to say here that it is not forbidden for someone to feel sympathy for Johnny on the grounds that he may be right.
But as a modern man he should counter-argue how easier it would have been for everyone if he could just have accepted his place and obey her every command. Wouldn’t it be easier for everyone if they had made the agreement that SHE is now in control and that he can now live by HER rules?
And that way, Johnny would have been a happily-married, successful super-star living under the rules of his superior, instead of putting his name next to sad accusations of her cheating on him with Cara or her ex. He could and he should, have chosen to serve those women and keep his name intact.
It is truly a pity that it didn’t work out between those two but, as you said, it is a good lesson for males.
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