Necrophiliac And Proud Of It.

Just a regular necrophiliac in a world full of the rest of you.

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By the way, I am still alive. I just kind of forgot that I was supposed to be posting on here. I did about half of the work for organizing this mess, and then got distracted and forgot what I was doing. So yeah, I just found the sticky note I wrote to remind myself to finish doing that. Two years later.

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You said you tried to "cure" your necrophilia? What was that like?

I've been trying to figure out how exactly I want to answer this, and if I actually want to answer it at all. For the sake of being honest about things, I am going to answer it, but I want to make it clear that this isn't an invitation for people to attempt to psychoanalyze me based on a very limited amount of information.

After discovering that most people consider necrophilia a bad thing, I decided that it would be best if I rid myself of it. Unfortunately, at that time I was like, 13, and like every 13 year old, I was very stupid. Therefore, I assumed that the way to get rid of the necrophilia must be to replace it with 'normal' sexual attraction. So I did what seemed reasonable to me then, and I made as many attempts as I could to have sex with living people. I say 'made attempts' because it didn't go well at all, primarily due to the fact that I'm a class X necrophiliac and therefore can't function sexually with living people.

Once I realized that that wasn't going to work, I was at a loss for what to do, so I went to my best friend to ask for her opinion. Now, I love my best friend; she's wonderful and like a sister to me, and I knew she wouldn't hate me if I told her I'm a necrophiliac. However, she was also a stupid 13 year old at the time, and she told me I probably just needed to find a boyfriend instead of trying to fuck random people. That seemed like solid advice to me, but I didn't want to go out with any of the guys at my school, so it was very clear to me that I needed to find some other method to find a boyfriend. Unfortunately, I decided that the best option for me was to use the Craigslist personals section as a dating site. That wasn't a good experience at all, and it definitely didn't help me get rid of my attraction to corpses. Eventually I realized that what I had been doing was doing more harm than good, so I stopped looking for a 'cure' for necrophilia and decided to just try to accept it instead.

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Just a quick update, I'm going to be getting this blog cleaned up over the next little bit, because I've finally decided to kick my lazy ass into gear and get back on track with the intended purposes of this blog: to provide correct information about necrophilia, to advocate for necrophiliacs and the legalization of necrophilia, and to promote a better understanding of necrophilia. I won't be deleting any posts, but I will be fixing the formatting and tags on some old ones, as well as properly renouncing some of the oldest ones, as they include statements I no longer agree with and don't wish to have people see without that knowledge. I'll also be making new posts, as well as revising my tagging system, because I can't even find my own posts on my own blog without scrolling through the whole thing, currently. I'm going to try to get to all of the messages I haven't answered (there are a lot, for which I apologize), and I will be actually answering asks instead of letting them sit in my inbox for months on end (there's only one left in there that I haven't answered, currently). And finally, I will provide a link as soon as I can to a website outside of Tumblr to which I'm backing up all of my posts, and from which I will be able to be contacted in the event that Tumblr removes this blog.

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In Defense Of My Stances On Necrophilia

In light of some trends I'm seeing on current necrophilia blogs, I feel that it's necessary for me to go over my reasons for my stances regarding necrophilia. I've at least touched on a lot of this before, but I think it's about time I write out a proper defense of my position. This post is not intended to be overly confrontational, however, I won't be making any attempts to make my opinions more agreeable to people with differing opinions, either. I would also like to note that while the first three points are broader topics, points 5 and 6 are entirely an intra-community issue, and point 4 is mostly also directed to other necrophiliacs, although there are other people I would expect to have opinions on it as well.

Necrophilia is a natural type of attraction, and it shouldn't be pathologized nor stigmatized. While the cause of necrophilia is not known, the majority of people seem to agree that it's either entirely innate or it's caused by some kind of experience someone has during their life (usually assumed to be something traumatic). In the first case (which seems to me to be more likely, as necrophilia has been observed to occur naturally in other creatures), there's no more argument needed as to why necrophilia is a natural type of attraction. In the second case, the necrophilia itself is still a naturally occurring response to trauma, and should be treated no differently than any other kind of sexual coping mechanism. Now, with the understanding that necrophilia is natural, there's no reason why it should be pathologized. Some people might argue that, in the case that it comes from trauma, it should be considered a mental illness and treated as such, however, given that it doesn't pose a danger to anyone, I would argue that only the trauma itself should be treated, not the necrophilia. And as for the stigmatization of necrophilia, it's both cruel and unacceptable to stigmatize something that's natural, and it's likely to cause necrophiliacs serious mental issues if they're stigmatized for something they have no control over.

Necrophilia should be legalized. There is absolutely no good reason why necrophilia should be illegal. It poses no significant danger to anyone involved, as a corpse can't be harmed, and the necrophiliac is actually at less risk for any potentially unpleasant effects from having sex with a corpse as opposed to a living person. It's not detrimental to society in any way, as it's very easy to just mind one's own business and not worry about what other people's sex lives are like. The only argument against the legalization of necrophilia that leaves is the issue of morality. The problem with making a moral argument against necrophilia is that morality is subjective, and without any concrete reason as to why necrophilia should be considered immoral, no one can construct a good argument against its legalization.

People who dislike necrophiliacs on the basis of them being necrophiliacs are inherently in the wrong. This is a form of discrimination no matter how you look at it. To dislike someone because of something they have no say in, and which doesn't have anything to do with you, is just plain wrong, full stop.

Necrophilia is not, and should not be considered, a part of LGBTQ+. As someone who is both a necrophiliac and a member of the LGBTQ+ community, I don't feel like being a necrophiliac is at all equivalent to being LGBTQ+. Both are equally important parts of my identity, but the communities around those things are very different. The LGBTQ+ community has a longstanding history of support for one another and fighting together towards common goals, and none of that has ever included anything related to necrophilia, and most of the people in the LGBTQ+ community would most likely be very hostile to the idea of something like necrophilia being included. For those reasons, as a necrophiliac I would say I have more in common with zoophiles and pedophiles when it comes to my experiences, so I would much rather form a new, paraphilia-centric community than try to force necrophilia to be included in a community where that wouldn't be welcome.

Necrophilia is the correct term for a sexual attraction to corpses. Necrophilia is a paraphilia, and for that reason the correct term is necrophilia, not 'necrosexual' or similar. A paraphilia is just a sexual attraction to something considered 'abnormal'; it's not the same as a paraphilic disorder, and it's certainly not a bad thing. There's absolutely no reason to make up a new term for necrophilia, as the current one is not offensive in any way.

Necrophilia can be a kink or a part of someone's sexual orientation. It really just depends on the role of necrophilia in someone's sex life, and it's up to each individual to determine for themselves what that is. Necrophilia just can't be placed entirely into one box or the other. It can't be considered just a kink, because there are some people for whom it's such an integral part of their sexual attraction that it would do it a disservice to call it a kink. It can't be considered just a part of one's sexual orientation, either, because for some people it's no more involved in their sexual attraction than any other kink.

Bonus: It's not okay to demonize people with a different paraphilia to make yourself feel better about yours. I shouldn't have to say this, but apparently I do, because I've seen way too many necrophiliacs recently who will post necrophilia positivity, and then follow that immediately with a post about how horrible pedophiles are. This kind of behavior is completely unacceptable, and if you're one of the people doing it you need to stop. You're not going to accomplish anything by alienating yourself from people who have extremely similar problems and experiences as yours. Other paraphiliacs are our allies, not our enemies.

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I just thought I'd give you a preview of an upcoming post.

I've been working on this one for a little while (I haven't been completely neglecting this blog, I swear), and it's almost done now. I'm hoping to have it finished within a month, and then maybe I can get back to posting some normal stuff.

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Are there any statistics for how common necrophilia is? I assume actually doing it would be rare but for like Class I and IV who just fantasize about it I haven’t found any sources

There aren't any real statistics for how common necrophilia is as far as I'm aware, probably because there's no good way to get those statistics, as most people would never admit to having an interest in it. There is a paper published in the 1950s that theorizes that necrophilic fantasies may be more common than people think, but I wouldn't consider that a reliable source, considering the case study they drew that conclusion from involved drugging someone so that he'd admit to having the necrophilic fantasies they wanted to believe he had. I would normally recommend that you read the paper for yourself and draw your own conclusions, but this particular one is an extremely unpleasant read, not only for the offensive suggestions they make about necrophilia and for the probably unethical methods they used, but also for the racism, sexism, and homophobia they managed to fit in there as well. So yeah, there are no statistics, and no reliable sources regarding the prevalence of necrophilia.

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How has your day been

Today's been pretty good, and as far as I can recall so was the day I actually got this ask.

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Can you suggest some other necrophilia blogs?

Unfortunately, most of the ones I was familiar with were taken down by Tumblr at various times (Tumblr seems to have purged a lot of the old paraphilia blogs), and it's hard to find current ones without being able to search for the tags. I have come across just a few, but I'm hesitant to suggest any of them until I've had some time to look into them more, because I've seen some extremely concerning ideas being promoted on at least a couple of them, and they're not things I would want to be associated with even tangentially. However, I will reblog this post with the ones I can reccomend if there do turn out to be some.

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What is a name we can call you by?

I guess you can just call me by my actual name, which is Angelus.

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would you consider someone attracted to skeletons a necrophile? im not sure how i feel about corpses in general but skeletons/bones have always been a Big Thing for me

I would consider someone attracted to skeletons a necrophile, yes. I would say that's just a very specific preference in the type of corpse you're attracted to, but as a skeleton is undeniably a corpse (it seems weird to say it that way, but it's technically true), if you're attracted to them you would be considered a necrophile.

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Are you aro? Just wondering since you used your necrophilia as a reason why you aren't interested in anyone, but you also claim that you're not romantically interested in corpses.

I'm actually not. It's true that I'm not interested in corpses romantically (I find them very boring in that regard), but my thoughts on romantic relationships with the living aren't really so straightforward. Basically, I do like romantic relationships with the living, but I'm absolutely horrible at them and I tend to change romantic partners about as often as I change my underwear. I tend to only use my necrophilia as a reason why I'm not interested in that kind of thing when I'm not interested in a specific person.

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I’m sort of an auto necrophiliac too, I assume there would only be Class I auto necrophiliacs because it would be impossible to do anything beyond that

Yes, that makes sense. Although, that observation makes me question whether a different way of classifying things would be more useful for autonecrophilia? I don't know enough about how it works to know what would be helpful, though.

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I thought philosophers didn't like moral relativism

There are a lot who don't, but some do. Personally, I think it's a little more complicated than just 'morality is relative', but it's closer to that than it is to being objective.

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Have you seen the comic Sexy Losers? What do you think of the Shunji character?

Well, I hadn't seen it. I have now though, and I read the entire thing. As for the character, I like him as a character, in the context of this particular comic.

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For the ask a while back, the term for wanting to be the corpse in a necrophilia situation is autonecrophilia and someone into it would be an autonecrophile/autonecrophiliac (side note for the murder part wanting to be murdered is autoassassinophilia)

Thank you for providing the terminology! Hopefully people will find this helpful.

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Damn i'm also a necrophiliac and i've been considering philosophy as an option (i kinda wanna see a connection there), do you recommend it? If not why do you regret studying it?

I do recommend it, but only if you enjoy reading lots of material that can be difficult and writing a lot of papers. Also, being prepared to argue about literally everything doesn't hurt. I'd strongly recommend taking a couple of classes in it early on if you're not sure, so that you have some time to figure out if you like it.

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What's your college major

Philosophy.