The Sun Rises Again

They/Them, Luka, Suggestions blog, asks are always welcome!

[moondust-suggestions]

I know I don't post on this blog much anymore, but I wanted to share my friend's gofundme link. They've been struggling financially for a while, and now their car has started having issues creating unexpected repair expenses. Absolutely anything helps, even just a dollar or a share would be amazing!

https://gofund.me/21e12d49

[moondust-suggestions]

The outside air is cool and damp.

I can feel it holding back.

"It is okay to cry" I murmur to the sky.

[moondust-suggestions]

Oh how I miss posting on here

[desultory-suggestions]

It's all about love!!! It's about holding hands and smiling at strangers and waving at babies!!!! it's about bringing tupperware full of food to someone who just had a baby!!! it's hugging someone when they cry and cheering for them when they succeed!!! it's unconditional, it's vital, it's everything!!!

[moondust-suggestions]

Hey, I have to make a questionnaire for my Graphic Design Class, and I’d love for some people to take a few minutes to fill it out! It’s only 8 questions, so it won’t take super long!

https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSd0f_VJ1ANOKPEoaHK2Qw9GPiiqBg6mX0VM0SuYmNRtPO6R2w/viewform?usp=sf_link

Thanks!

[moondust-suggestions]

Hey, I have to make a questionnaire for my Graphic Design Class, and I'd love for some people to take a few minutes to fill it out! It’s only 8 questions, so it won’t take super long!

https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSd0f_VJ1ANOKPEoaHK2Qw9GPiiqBg6mX0VM0SuYmNRtPO6R2w/viewform?usp=sf_link

Thanks!

[lxvx]

you are just so cute it’s absurd

[moondust-suggestions]

Microdosing on interactions with my friends who aren't online by calling them on discord and sitting alone in the call when they don't answer

[renewedsuggestion]

no more “I love you, but”

“I love you but you’re being crazy”

“I love you but I don’t wanna deal with you”

time for “I love you and”

“I love you and I wanna understand where you’re coming from”

“I love you and I think we should take a minute to cool down and come back fresh”

I love you. Full stop.

[wholeheartedsuggestions]

i wish you kinder, softer days that put your heart at ease

[recoverr-a-deactivated20210530]

i know the mortifying ordeal of being known is real for too many of us, but consider this: someone saw you once and loved your hairstyle. someone loves your laugh, how you scrunch your nose when you find something funny. your birthday could be an old friend’s password. that one song you recommended to your crush a couple summers back could still be their favorite. you are in other people’s birthday party photos. someone could’ve fallen in love with you on public transportation. our lives intertwine beautifully and you, dear human, are a little piece of other people’s fond, lovely memories. part of the ordeal of being known implies the ordeal of being loved. 

[constellatedlove]

i hope you find someone that feels like home. someone who not only knows your smallest habits and quirks but loves you more for them. someone who will trace shapes onto your hand absent mindedly and loves being around you. someone who respects all of your boundaries all the time. you deserve all of this.

[moondust-suggestions]

Happy valentine's day, everyone! I hope your day has gone well!!

[anxietyproblem]

[bisexualle]

I hope gnc bisexuals, trans bisexuals, bisexuals with a complex relationship to gender, bisexuals whose gender is bisexual, are having a happy day!!!

[study-revolution]

gentle reminder: you are very capable and I’m excited for your future

slightly less gentle reminder: you do have to work for it

[pastelparrotlet]

*annoyed but resigned moan of frustration*

[popsunner]

You know what the second I stopped saying “I wish I had a friend who-“ and started being “the friend who-“ my life has gotten 100% more fulfilling

[popsunner]

No legitimately. I have a tea table in my room for when friends can come over again. Most of my friends have a key to the back door in my room. I make my friends sweaters and buy things they mention they want. I send handwritten letters in the mail to my friend who lives a block away. I annotate poetry books and give them as gifts when it’s not even a holiday. I keep extra gloves in my purse and jackets in my car.

I’m not trying to be like “ohoho look at me I’m such a good friend”, I’m saying the second I stopped going “I wish I had friends who would invite me to tea parties” and just. hosted the tea parties myself? I still got to do the thing. I still got to see my friends. I still got to be happy with them.

I don’t think it’s about who does it, I think it’s just the genuine act of caring for people, and giving a little light to the environments you’re in.

[popsunner]

Okay. Apparently I’m not done talking about this.

It’s a lot of energy, I get that. Especially if you’re putting in all this effort, but not getting any back.

But I think that’s the reason no one does it. I mean we’re so worried we’ll start doing all these things and our friends won’t like it or won’t be into it, so we just don’t.

Only last week my friend messaged me, asking if I wanted to go stargazing with her. When I forget about our weekly virtual tea party, another friend called me to ask if I wanted them to host it this week.

I’ve been invited on hikes and picnics and pie making competitions over zoom, and it all sort of started with me going out of my way to be “that friend”.

I genuinely believe that the easiest answer to “how do I get friends like that?” Is to be one. In most cases, everyone else just follows by example, because they aren’t worried they’ll be wasting time and energy anymore.