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Developing a Positive Mental Attitude

1. Remind yourself that you are NOT your feelings.

2. Don’t sweat the small stuff; choose to focus on what matters. Ignore or overlook the petty things, and grievances.

3. Feel the power as you learn to take control of your reactions. You’re not just a puppet, where someone pulls your strings.

4. Don’t agree with other peoples’ opinions of your value, or the way they rate your actions, your motives or achievements. Don’t let them be your judge, or the one who sets your worth.

5. Don’t compare yourself to others as we’re all different and unique. Set yourself some goals to go for, and celebrate when you succeed.

6. Accept that life’s a journey, and we grow and change with time. We don’t start off being perfect – so expect to get things wrong.

7. Love yourself completely and unconditionally. You’re a worthwhile individual – and you’ll get there in the end.

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Coping Statements for Anxiety

It is often possible to manage anxiety by actively replacing irrational thoughts with more balanced and reasonable thoughts like the following:

1. I’m going to be OK. Sometimes my feelings are irrational and false. I’m just going to relax and take things easy. Everything is going to be fine.

2. Anxiety may feel bad but it isn’t dangerous. There’s nothing wrong with me. Everything is going to be OK.

3. Feelings come and feelings go. Right now I feel bad but I know this is only temporary. I’ve done it before so I can do it again.

4. This image in my head isn’t reasonable or rational. I need to change my thinking and focus my attention on something that’s healthier, and generally helps me to feel good about myself. For example _____________.

5. I’ve managed to interrupt and change these thoughts before – so I know I can do it again. The more I practise this, the easier it will become. Anxiety is a habit – and it’s a habit that I can break!

6. So what if I am anxious. It’s not the end of the world. It’s not going to kill me. I just need to take a few deep breaths and keep going.

7. Just take the next step. Just do the next thing.

8. Even if I have to put up with a period of anxiety, I’ll be glad that I did. I am going to come through this.

9. I can feel anxious and still do a good job. The more I focus on the task at hand, the more my anxiety will ease, then disappear.

10. Anxiety doesn’t have a hold on me. It’s something I’m working on, and changing over time.

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Life Advice

Always be the best person you can be. Be kind even when you’re tired. Be understanding even when you’re angry. Do more than you’re asked, and don’t ask for anything in return. Don’t silently expect anything either. Listen when someone talks, and really listen too, stop just thinking of how you’ll reply. Tell people that you love them and that you appreciate them. Go out of your way to do things for people. Be the greatest person you can possibly be and when you mess up, make up for it in the next moment or minute or day. One thing you should never do? Never spend your time trying to prove to anybody that you’re great, your actions will speak for themselves and we only have limited time on this earth, don’t waste it. If someone doesn’t see your light, don’t worry. Like moths, good people are attracted to flame and to light, and they will come.

— Online Counselling College

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Life Advice

Always be the best person you can be. Be kind even when you’re tired. Be understanding even when you’re angry. Do more than you’re asked, and don’t ask for anything in return. Don’t silently expect anything either. Listen when someone talks, and really listen too, stop just thinking of how you’ll reply. Tell people that you love them and that you appreciate them. Go out of your way to do things for people. Be the greatest person you can possibly be and when you mess up, make up for it in the next moment or minute or day. One thing you should never do? Never spend your time trying to prove to anybody that you’re great, your actions will speak for themselves and we only have limited time on this earth, don’t waste it. If someone doesn’t see your light, don’t worry. Like moths, good people are attracted to flame and to light, and they will come.

— Online Counselling College

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The Dalai Lama’s Rules For Living

Take into account great love and great achievements involve great risks.

When you lose, don’t lose the lesson.

Follow the three R’s: Respect for self, Respect for others, Responsibility for all your actions. 

Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.

Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly.

Don’t let a little dispute injure a great friendship. 

When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it. 

Spend some time alone every day. 

Open your arms to change, but don’t let go of your values. 

Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.

Live a good honorable life. Then when you get older and think back, you’ll be able to enjoy it a second time. 

A loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life. 

In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current situation. Don’t bring up the past. 

Share your knowledge. It’s a way to achieve immortality. 

Be gentle with the earth. 

Once a year, go someplace you’ve never been before. 

Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other. 

Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it. 

— Dalai Lama, via OnlineCounsellingCollege

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How to be Mindful in your Daily Life

Allow and accept the different feelings you experience – knowing these will change throughout the day.

Don’t judge yourself for having negative feelings.

Don’t believe every thought that pops into your head. Some of these are true, but many will be false.

Slow down and take life at a manageable pace.

Stay in the present; do one thing at a time.

Let go of the need to control everything.

Practise being curious; notice little things.

Use your 5 senses to become more aware of what is happening all around you in the world.

Nourish and take care of your body and mind.

Practice contentment and gratitude.

— Online Counselling College

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7 Reasons It’s More Difficult for Intelligent People to Find Love

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Let’s put aside our ego, and realize that if you consider yourself an intelligent human being there is a constant battle between your heart and mind, especially if you are as equally intelligent as emotional and empathetic. Having a sharp mind and obtaining the realization that sometimes life is both beautiful and cruel, due to prejudices and ignorances becomes achingly painful. Once you realize that some short-sighted people hold the power in the world, you find it difficult to find a suitable partner who sees the world for its beauty and cruelty. But why is that intelligence makes things a little more difficult?

Why is it that those with a higher IQ are prone to mental disorders, social challenges and something as finding love or well-matched partner, even becomes a challenge? 

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If you have a few habits caused by anxiety — things you might only do while home alone, such as talking to yourself, pacing around, or avoiding looking at your phone — know that you’re not the only one who has these quirks. And you’re definitely not “weird,” either.

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what on earth makes you feel like you're incomplete? you are crafted from the finest stars, with a built-in imagination, constantly time travelling through daydreams. you are marvelous and magical and curious and capable, a natural disaster, completely human.

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the moon aspires to be you, for a day or two, because you are prettier than the Moon.

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7 Anger Management Tips

1. Think before you speak as you can’t take back your words.

2. Don’t say anything until you’re feeling calm. We often regret what we say when we are mad.

3. Be simple and clear when you express what bothered you. Don’t be disrespectful, rude or hyper-critical.

4. Choose to leave the room or to distract yourself when you feel your emotions are really being stirred.

5. Try, if you can, to get some exercise as that reduces stress, and changes physiology.

6. Think about the people you enjoy being with, as that will remind you that not everyone is bad.

7. Try to plan ahead so you have some strategies when you feel the anger rising, and you need to take control.

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“Note to me… I am the one who talks to me in my darkest moments. I’m the only one who really knows my deepest fears and pains, and the inner turmoil I have suffered. I’m the one with the power to put myself down or build myself up with my inner self talk. Other people can support, hold, love, encourage, guide and teach me but I am still the most important person who can make the choice to always love and be there for me - and I will. I’ll be there for me.”

— www.facebook.com/ProfessionalCounsellingandWellnessServices

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“Do what you have to do until you can do what you want to do.”

— Oprah Winfrey

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