my blog is a phase

I'm 22 this blog is mostly my cats

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[looking at people younger than me] you have your whole life ahead of you [looking at people older than me] you have your whole life ahead of you [looking at myself] its over

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MY FINGERS BARELY EVEN TOUCHED YOUR STUPID FUCKING AD STOP REDIRECTING ME TO THE APP STORE

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The good feeling when a little cat rests their head against you like you’re a pillow is actually pretty significant

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i truly think that this recent trend of “if you relate to a post about a different identity than your own you are ~derailing~ and taking over the conversation” is incredibly harmful.

i recently experienced some pretty severe transphobic abuse in my workplace (children’s home) that included having food thrown at me, being called slurs, being told i was a pervert because i am trans. one of the managers talked with me afterwards and shared that he had had a similar experience as an Asian man. this wasn’t him derailing my experience, or talking over me, or making things about himself. he was communicating “hey, i know how it feels and how much it sucks. you’re not alone.”

THAT is what solidarity IS. i don’t know what it’s like to be Asian, he doesnt know what it’s like to be trans, but we both had a similar experience and we were able to turn a horrible experience into an opportunity for bonding and comfort.

stop looking at people’s attempts as solidarity as an attack. and hey, you never know - you could find an opportunity to grow closer to other people.

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Idk if the people who are good at technology will say this technique is less than smart, but when my phone is overheating I just put it in the freezer for a bit.

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My senior baby, who I love very much.

(Her name is Winky)

(I feel kinda bad because I post less pictures of her, it's because she isn't interested in going on walks, and that's mostly when I take pictures of Alfredo. She is definitely a house cat to her core, and she is scared of the wind. So taking her for walks is a no go. You will usually find her basking in the sunlight, or curled up somewhere she deems cozy)

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My son keeps following me into the bathroom and sticking his head between my legs between my legs while I use the toilet in hopes that he will get to watch the toilet flush.

(My son is a cat by the way)

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A very nice well spent day

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My boy was very scared of a foundation we passed at the local church on our walk

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I have boy mom tendencies with my sweet angel baby son, but he is a cat.

Is this permissible?

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Look at my pretty boy

I love him so much

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I am someone who has dreamt of marriage for as long as I can remember. I have longed for a happy ending with someone wonderful sense I was a child. Some of that is because of my socialization as a little christian girl, I'm sure, but it is also because I watched the agony that was leftover after my parents got divorced. I wanted something better in the home that I would one day cultivate. This was a fantasy that got me through many hard days living with my abusive mother throughout my adolescence.

This fantasy is squashed by lawmakers flirting with the idea of ending no fault divorce in my country. I must give up on the idea of happily ever after, because I am not disillusioned to the fact that if things turn out not to be so beautiful, I could become trapped in a hellish marriage if (for example) a judge has more sympathy for my partner, or if I can not definitively prove that my suffering is real.

I will not get legally married if it means signing my life away to another human. I am a person before I am anyone's potential wife.

I have sympathy for men (or really anyone) going through a divorce, I really do. Divorce is hard. I watched my dad struggle with his mental health during and after being divorced by my mother. I love my father, and do believe that in his case, he WAS treated unfairly by the courts. He wanted custody of me and I wanted to live with him, but the judge thought that women were more suited for raising children.

The solution is not to close the avenue to separation, but rather to remove patriarchal ideology from divorce court. Men can be amazing parents, and women can be breadwinners in a household.

The outdated archetypes of women being loyal wives and dutiful mothers, and men being serious breadwinners providing for their families haunts all of us, and the day that men realize that it is this idea, this way of organizing people, which is keeping them from their children and not their "mean ex wives", we will be able to fight together, so that we may all live more freely.

I know where my father stands on the subject of no fault divorce. He could have easily have taken his own negative past experiences and shifted the blame onto women, but he did not. He is far too intelligent, and empathetic to subject anyone to something like that, but also; his dreams for his daughter are far too great to allow such a future for her.

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I was going through things from my childhood, and found this gem from sometime in middleschool.

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Something I texted my friend while high as balls:

"I guess the sad thing about growing up is learning the context of what you used to innocently find the beauty in. The rainbows in oil puddles seap into the earth and bring death to anything that tries to grow there for millenia. It hurts to learn that, but we must."

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I do caregiving for people with high needs on the side, and one extra benefit of the job is getting to hang out with people's pets when there is downtime.

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The sky while we drive