[canine-critter]

if you ever need a little luck, a little guidance

take an orange, peel it and hold it to your ear and seperate the slices slowly. thats my voice as an angel whispering secrets to you

[yourfavanxioussunshine-deactiva]

yes my posture is bad, i carry giant angel wings on my back everyday and it gets exhausting

[monstrousparalysis]

"Loveless marriage" except in a joyous, loveless aromantic way instead of a miserable amatonormative way.

[aroxbetchio]

a QPR is a QPR because the individuals in it decided it is. not because friends ‘don’t live together and kiss eachother,’ or ‘because friendships aren’t this committed.’ that’s not how this works. friends can do anything and as long as they have the intent for friendship, it’s a friendship. you can defend QPR’s without pushing amatonormativity.

[cryiling]

happy tuesday <33

[angryaromantics]

I get the hesitancy to claim a label when you're not completely sure of it yourself. This is especially prevalent in the aro and ace communities because how do you prove a negative? Maybe you will meet someone in twenty years and feel that proverbial spark. But here's the truth: it doesn't matter.

It doesn't matter if it's a phase!! You are living in this body, in this moment, in this label right now. Who you are now matters just as much as who you might be.

[moskvisha]

My brain gave me this image.

[imspaceingout]

Saw this on r/LGBT and figured my aspec followers would enjoy.

[aronear]

scrolling through the aro tag is like. post about arophobia that alloro people need to hear but aro people already know about. vent comic. reminder that some new aro character is getting their identity erased bc of course they are. "aro culture" post that applies to like maybe 2 people or is just. deeply depressing. pride post that is tagged with every queer identity the op could think of despite not including so much as a reference to aro people

[aronear]

and of course, the 16 Very Much Ace Specific Posts that you'd think the ops would know we don't like them putting in the aro tag by now but apparently not

[tesco-finest-aromantics]

anyway i love being aro if you think being aro means endless sadness then i feel sorry for you

[steveyockey]

no “carrd.” you learn things about me based on what you can piece together from the vague details of my life I disclose in rare moments of vulnerability

[ahivemindoftwelvecati]

I feel like we always see parents who are 100% super supportive allies, or parents who are horrible and cruel.  At least in media or in the most popular stories.  But I feel like that ignores just how many people have parents where you just have no idea?  And even if you think they’ll accept you on a surface level, you don’t know if they have a breaking point.  Especially if you need to go on hrt, or request they change the way they think about and refer to you.  Sure they’re liberal and all, or centrists, or “tolerant”, but how far does that stretch?

I think most closeted LGBT+ kids live like this, wading around in the grey area.  I’d like it of more of us knew that was normal, I’d like if we talked about it more.

[becausegoodheroesdeservekidneys]

We really, really don’t acknowledge the banal, disappointing reactions, and what those can do. When my husband came out to my MIL, her reaction was “Can I take some time to think about this?” and then she never, ever spoke about it again.

My MIL is not an awful person. She’s a loving mother who carries emotional scars from having been in an abusive relationship with her minister husband for a long time, which has left her with a disabling preoccupation with “What might the neighbours say” in her life, and that often means she makes poor choices without realising it. She loves my husband no less; she didn’t withdraw love and affection from him, didn’t cut him off.

But she chose to pretend it wasn’t happening, and that sent him into a hefty shame spiral we had to work through. A few months later, a stand up routine he did about being bisexual was doing the rounds on Facebook, and despite normally sharing every single routine of his, she rang him to tell him she wouldn’t be sharing that one because “Your brother’s wedding is coming up, and I don’t want it overshadowed by people talking about you and your news.”

And again, this is not because she rejects him. That’s an easy narrative, and certainly the one you’d assume from the outside. But that, in her own way, was her attempt to protect both her children from negative scrutiny - she truly thought that people would care, and would care enough to make a scene at the wedding, and that would hurt the two of them.

Everyone already knew. He’s a celebrity in his culture. No one cared. But, that was my MIL’s fear.

And the message it sent, intentionally or not, was “This is something shameful.”

She’s come to terms with it now. But she totally missed her “I love and support you no matter who you are” chance, and left him with a lingering issue. And that’s the sort of story we never see in queer media.

[mia-ugly]

WOW.

I could write a whole essay, a whole book about this experience in my family, but I won’t. It feels ungrateful to criticize the actions of people who still say they love you, and have never hurt you and will never hurt you in the big dramatic ways we see in the media. But in my case, and I think in many, it isn’t a clean, decisive cut. 

It’s a love that feels lesser. An acceptance with strings attached. And that hurts in a quieter way, but it still leaves marks.

[pondering-aro]

BTS is the Aromantic Music Lover’s Best Friend

I love pop music. It’s a quite flexible genre, ranging anywhere from fan-favorites on the radio, bass drop heavy songs in the club, or mellow tunes over the speakers of your favorite coffee shop. This flexibility lends itself to being able to touch on topics both serious and light-hearted alight.

However, the subject matter of pop (and other popular music that is not necesarily strictly in the genre of pop) so often revolves around romance or sex. Romance and sex are not inherently bad things to write about, but as an aromantic person, I find myself wishing for something else that I find readily available from BTS.

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[mydearluvr]

#i agree with this # i feel like hou've said it beautifully #as an aromantic myself #i feel the same way about their music

[pondering-aro]

BTS is the Aromantic Music Lover’s Best Friend

I love pop music. It’s a quite flexible genre, ranging anywhere from fan-favorites on the radio, bass drop heavy songs in the club, or mellow tunes over the speakers of your favorite coffee shop. This flexibility lends itself to being able to touch on topics both serious and light-hearted alight.

However, the subject matter of pop (and other popular music that is not necesarily strictly in the genre of pop) so often revolves around romance or sex. Romance and sex are not inherently bad things to write about, but as an aromantic person, I find myself wishing for something else that I find readily available from BTS.

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[iosonounapersonamiao]

Aroace culture is seeing people talk about how hot your favourite character is, and feeling deeply uncomfortable. And feeling even more uncomfortable when you see antis claim that you love the character only because they are sexy, while in reality it's because you see yourself a lot in them.

[unromancesyourromance]

.I’m tired of ‘implied’ or ‘left up to interpretation’ aromantic coded characters. .I’m tired of having to just hope that the characters I see myself in are actually like me, or hope that they’re not conveniently paired up or changed by the end of the media for the sake of whatever. .I’m tired of most aromantic representation we do have being nothing but a mentioned-once fact outside of the media, easily forgettable and able to be pushed to the side when wanted to. .I’m tired of us being left out of queer spaces - that even in media that includes all sorts of queer identities, characters like us are nowhere to be seen.

.I want aromantic characters. .I want explicitly stated to be-aromantic characters. .I want characters that say or mention they’re aromantic in the media they’re in itself. .I want characters that are unapologetically aromantic, aromantic characters of all kinds, throughout the spectrum. .I want aromantic characters like me: non-partnering, no romantic attraction at all, romance repulsed, and it’s not treated as a ‘flaw’ or something to be ‘fixed’. .I want aromantic characters, and I’m sick and tired of feeling left out when it comes to being represented in media. .We deserve better than that. .We shouldn’t have to settle for the little things, for lesser. .We deserve better.

[ashleyloob]

dying single