Overcoming the twin flame separation - accept invisible
I’ve recently overcome the twin flame separation which in fact was only an illusion my mind had produced due to a fear of abandonment and based on past relationships. It kept me in pain for about 7 months, day by day with a few days of peace. It had been triggered however, by the physical separation due to LDR, but love has been there, always, yet we knew we had to come back to our countries for the time being. During 7 months, the Universe made all my fears come out for healing and made my trust pass a few spiritual tests. Now I radiate, I’m myself again, we talk again. There was no help, no coaching, no support, no medicine, no new relationships, just me, a lot of mental & physical activity, and my twin flame with constant, unchanged love, but in spirit. I ran, chased and stayed due to personal issues. He ran but into professional work to develop what his self needed to achieve. This year 2014 is not for love but for doing a research & healing selves while preparing for the next meeting, which will be a more mature extension of our first.
Below solutions are useful for the TRUE twin flames only. If you deal with a soul mate, if someone is abusive to you, if you two are not confident whether you are true TFs at all, if one of you is married and doesn’t want to divorce (free will), then these methods may not help. (Compare: article)
I was grieving, I was forcing a human communication, I was considering a break up, I wanted an explanation, I wanted to take action or him to take action, anything to get a proof we are still together. He was quiet. I was afraid to call, again due to a fear of hearing bad news. My ego & logical mind teamed up showing ‘fuck you’ to my soul, which was pretty disgusted, because it knew no games like these two were doing. All of these 3D ‘methods’ of trying to 'save’ the relationship led me nowhere.
The Universe wants you empty, tabula rasa after you meet your twin and especially, when you’re not ready to enjoy it as it is and your self, for the time being. Because none of so far patterns, and 3D, human related behaviors work in a twin flame relationship, the Universe leaves you blank. You lose your identity, you become addicted to your twin, you lose yourself, and all your worst, outdated patterns come out. The vibration & self-esteem drop to depressive levels and you feel like a walking, ugly zombie. Reason? The Universe wants you to rebuild yourself from scratch, using only those values which are necessary for being with your twin, and being awaken. Everything must be solid and lasting - your trust in both of you, belief, confidence, courage, faith that you will make it. Yet only you can do it on your side. Since old patterns and your past won’t have a use anymore, you need to cut off these from you. You’ve entered the new once you mutually recognized your Twin and landed up in this relationship, simply because it was meant & irresistible.
At the initial stage of the TF relationship you need to believe & accept that there’s a big difference between 3D and invisible, spiritual. It is the most important to establish a purposeful soul communication between you two. Humans, as you two met in the 3D world, are 'boxes’, 'containers’ where ego, mind & soul reside. The first 2 fight with you - the boss and the host, while the latter whispers the truth. There’s also the most mature 'you’ existing in the future, so called intuition or higher self which you must listen to all your life. It will be your best guide during the illusion of separation and also while living with your twin in the 3D world.
Separation example: fear = no trust. You were abandoned in the past. You were not supposed to be with those folks because your twin was the only for you, waiting for your paths to cross. You carry that fear of abandonment in you, regardless how much hopes you put in your TF once mutually recognized. It is completely reasonable for a human. But the TF suddenly disappears! And you’re in an LDR or even live in the same city or state. What has it triggered? Your ego, your fear. Repulsive energy. You must think of twin flames as two energies ruled by the nature/laws of resonance and magnetism (study these!) It is clear physics and some yet unexplained powers, not just a romance between you two. You think - 'They ditched me, like others. I did something wrong, I’m unworthy’. You seek help on forums and folks tell you exactly the same. Your soul knows if your twin flame is real and if he/she is, it, then they will never ditch you thanks to the bond. The problem of living in 3D and having a physical body is that your body-ego-mind want the physical and methods of communication as they know and were taught. When they don’t have it, they rebel. Ego comes up with 'pride’, logical brain analyzes but since it has no required data, then the ego feeds it with assumptions, negativity, expectations, suspicions etc. and the brain produces a shocking summary. The tumultuous noise in your head will be intensified because whatever negative thoughts you send to your TF, they become reflected at their mirror 'shield’. So it is not them thinking bad of you (unless you start fighting for real instead of only thinking angrily), but they are your own thoughts returning to you, yet stronger. See the picture at the bottom of this page.
What you gonna do? Have a serious conversation with your ego. Once you understand what triggers your ego to come out (see examples: here), you will know how to treat it once for all. For a lifetime. This is huge knowledge to learn and so very useful. Tell your ego it is loved, and that everything is OK, the ego can hide because you control the situation and the ego is not necessary to be there for you.
The same with your logical mind but your approach must be different here. You need to accept the invisible, the soul connection between you two, the universal rules which apply to all true twin flames, a need to love yourself first but as much as your TF and you must look at the bigger picture, to fly out of your little scared and grieving 'self’. Stop engaging your mind/brain but start feeling and connecting through your soul only. Practice opening your heart chakra and balancing all your chakras into one vertical line. The heart chakra is where your bond is attached, so it will be crying but crying is necessary as it cleans layers of fear and all other negativity. Whenever you’ll think of breaking up with your TF and enter a new relationship, your soul and your heart chakra will be crying so dramatically to make you abandon such thoughts. The Universe will give you an alternative - either you grieve, get angry, expect then suffer extremely, or you activate your soul and leave all conditions (related to ego & mind) behind to experience a bliss of your initial connection - pure love.
Use your imagination, this is the only key left. Exercise communicating with your twin’s soul. Imagine you’re coming to your twin (as humans), you are both balanced and loving equally, they hug you and you remain in the hug for a long period of time. Or lay down in bed with your TF, hug tightly, watch a movie, discuss what you see. While hugging, imagine his/her soul inside of the chest where the heart chakra and your bond reside as red and hot knob of living streams, threads. Let it enter you through the same place in your chest. Feel as your inside melts, surrenders and connects with his/her soul so you become one. Don’t let your mind come in telling you it is 'impossible’ or the ego detach you two in fear of intimacy. There must be the feeling of surrender, no war between you two as you begin and continue this 'fantasy’. Now, know one, it is happening for real. You are contacting your TF’s soul, you’re calling it and it is coming to meet you and do what enjoys you both, what already had enjoyed you also during past incarnations, and most importantly, initially, when you were one, a stream of particles in the outer space knowing no distance nor ego. Don’t grieve, don’t fear while creating this connection. Recall the best moments spent with your TF in 3D and look at him/her as if through pink glasses = no judgment; she/he is an 'angel’ as much as you are. Open yourself, breath deeply, balance yourself and hold your twin in your thoughts and connected with your soul. TF’s soul will respond right away even if your TF’s body won’t. This process may end up quickly while your TF is busy in 3D but once they are free, this tempting feeling will make them react. Their soul, once called by the other part, will come to merge.This is the only thing your souls want - to merge into one. And physical bodies are to help to achieve this in 3D, only. Before that happens, the souls must be mature and developed enough to do the trick and merge in the world of invisible.
At this stage, avoid sending too many messages, emails, avoid calling. You can of course inform your TF that you love them and stay faithful to them while giving them space to develop as well. Their human body probably won’t respond. But keep connecting with their soul. You already know it is happening for real. You feel them and the warmth in your chest. You feel their consciousness slipping into you when you wake up, every morning, right? You carry them inside wherever you are, above or under the ground, in your or any other country, a store, school, home. You won’t lose them. It is the bond which keeps you together, it touches only you two and it is unbreakable. Together, you are one. Get rid of any doubts, disbelief, distrust, and logic. There’s nobody else involved, only you are the 2 matching puzzles which build one, your original, ancient soul. You don’t want to run or chase. You want your twin and only them, nobody else. They want you too. But since the timing is not right yet to live or interact together as humans in 3D, use your soul and imagination instead. It is your right and purpose to do so.
The other thing you need to create and practice in you is a complete trust sent to your twin, in spirit. I am referring only to true twin flames here - kick yourself 100% into this relationship entirely, surrender yourself. Enjoy what you have, enjoy who you are, what surrounds you, what you’ve already achieved and trust me, it is huge when you look at you two as souls being apart for who knows how long (after the initial separation, not in this lifetime). You must think of him/her as the purest, most wonderful, most beautiful (spiritually) person you’ve ever known. And that they see you the same way.
Another practice - imagine, you are them and you come to yourself to hug and kiss. See you as they may see you. Hair color, clothes, the look of your eyes when in love, your soul so pure and open to give and receive. Feel his soul as if it was yours. In fact, it does come into your body when you are peaceful that’s why you must be full of love, not anger to make them feel comfortable in you. When you send them your love, enjoy it as if you were giving a gift and expect nothing in return. Give and enjoy giving. Enjoy that your love makes their soul feel extremely happy and thankful. They do love you back with the same love, at the same time. You will feel it if you do not fear to express your love, in spirit at the time being.
The other lesson is to love yourself. This one is hard but possible and a must to maintain the TF connection in 3D. But this is where your re-connection (while separated) begins and it is to learn not only for the purpose of breaking down the wall of illusion but to heal your self and become a more spiritually mature person. Start from thinking that the Universe loves you and it doesn’t want your pain but wants you strengthen inside as if in a test of fire, for your own good. It will be testing you if you are ready or not to give you another chance to live with your twin flame. If you surrender, accept and learn quickly, you will understand an illusion behind the separation and radiate self-confidence & joy. Think that people love you, strangers and friends. They don’t know you but they sense your beautiful soul, your transformed self and they find you amazing for your courage and dedication, for being the authentic 'you’. It needs a constant practice but you will see results after 3-4 months since you begin. Your brain is a little silly animal. It will repeat what you train it to do. If you think of yourself negatively, it’ll give you no alternative. Look at your best pictures and enjoy your look. Think - 'my TF loves me, always has because nothing has changed’.
Another lesson - be an individual, do not cling to the twin (the human) in 3D. Your twin flame is not here to support you or be there for you all the time. Don’t expect these. Don’t expect a marriage, family, living together. Imagine this but don’t rush until you two are ready and you both know it. Twin flames must equalize to be able to co-exist but until then, they need to develop individually. It doesn’t need a separation but it needs an awareness. They have their own lessons to learn and they will find a way for how to embrace them. They do love you but there are things you need to do individually. You have to accept it. They are the other half of you who love you and is with you all this time. You are both working hard, developing spiritually, building your future and transforming, being tested and reconstructed while awakening. For what? For reaching maturity and being together also in 3D. But the paths are individual and they will be crossing again. That’s the goal. Lessons, exam, if passed - joy, if failed - more lessons, more exams. Until you unite completely in 5D, you both need to follow your own paths = do things which are of your interest, which make you feel good, individually. Keep healing your wounded inner child. It is responsible for your ego growth/shrinking. If you think, it’s all hard to do, it means you are addicted to love and co-dependent and these keep you apart from your TF. This is another thing to heal. Find your own space, concentrate on your self. Don’t spread your energy on other people. Only you can heal yourself because you know your weaknesses and strengths. You can’t hate yourself or feel unworthy because this repulses your TF as much as it repulsed whoever abandoned you in the past. Fear of abandonment that you’d probably brought from your past incarnations, and which you had to realize through relationships. This has led to teach you that you need to love your self first and foremost instead of looking for your value in the eyes of others. Others can walk their own paths but you are staying with your self, also after your death.
Finally, there’s this higher self/intuition thing which keeps telling you what to do but it is most often subdued by the ego which pretends to be an intuition with all its 'creative’ assumptions. When you extinguish a fire of the ego & mind, then the soul will be free to act and collaborate with your higher self as a team. Think of mirrors: the ego & logical mind vs the soul & higher self. Which set will you let win over your 3D body & your TF relationship?
The soul doesn’t know negativity. It only knows love, happiness, fulfillment and balance. The main part of overcoming an illusionary separation is to let your soul be and guide you. Let your higher self guide you too. If you have a question, ask yourself, don’t ask other people. Only you know the answer. There will be many answers your ego, mind and soul give you but only one will resonate with you, deeply inside.
Before you two met, he/she had been on their path, only this time your paths have crossed to initiate a sequence of events. They will cross again once you learn your lessons and are ready to completely accept your souls to merge. Merging means a very intimate process. If you have a fear of intimacy, learn how to heal it first. Again, an exercise with imaging your TF holding you and not letting go is a good one. Hold the TF, look into his eyes, do not escape but surrender, tell the you love them and feel it. Look into their soul while he/she is looking into yours, through the eyes.
Once I learnt & healed a lot of things I’ve noticed I no longer cling to my TF. I do mys shit. I complete plans I have had started for years.I radiate and people are attracted to me. I’m a stayer and a faithful one. I trust my TF that he is like I am for we are one in the core. I let him be as he is and I enjoy his actions since all is good, no reason to worry or rush. I accepted that this is not the time for things to happen but for us individually to heal. The time will come as the nature loves balance. Yet we’re meant to be, 2 very special people. Once we are ready, and it should not take long because we are both open to spirituality, we will meet again to test this new knowledge and our new selves. Love will be deeper, the nature of the TF relationship accepted, connection less puzzling, and what’s the most important, there will be maturity (which couldn’t come out due to a wounded inner child both or one of us, usually the one who’s grieving has inside. Heal the wounded inner child, give it what it was not getting when you were a kid or a teen). I received glimpses of both cell-deep pain, love and maturity available to us. These came in dreams and after waking up too. The feeling of mature love was so attractive that I’ve applied all necessary changes in me to be able to experience it (and have it lasting) with my TF next.
Separation is a product of the logical mind and the ego. It is caused by a 3D 'human box’ (some call it a vehicle) which wants to act the way it is used to do. Your task is to let the soul act instead, and open yourself to give it enough of space & food to grow. Once I reached this state, I understood that we, twin flames: 1) are real, 2) are one, 3) have always loved and been with each other also in person (past incarnations), 4) respond via the soul first, 5) must work on self because reflect each other, 5) will meet again, to stay.
I’ve began radiating some confidence, contentment, and light which others detect. I felt balanced, I felt better, my self confidence has returned and built me as partly new. I knew that even my TF doesn’t reply as a human, his soul would reply, and this is real. His soul loves me and this is the first stage where we need to equalize before we continue. Most possibly your twin is a more advanced one if you start running and they don’t chase. Their lips are shut up to make you take your dirt out and clean, then come back together in 3D for another test. Once your souls are mature and ready to merge after getting only a taste of it during your bubbly stage of love, then your human bodies will be allowed to live together or at least meet again (which fact has been proved in true twin flame stories). This TF relationship is solely based on a soul connection which is as real as everything else you can see around. Your task is to believe in it and believe that your twin loves you the same as you do. Don’t make plans, don’t have expectations. Keep dreaming of things you want to happen, even if they sound unrealistic at first. And keep saving money because good news come unexpectedly :)
This relationship and your TF are not subjects to change or repair but you are. You will know when you completed your lessons, (which are not last lesson by any means.There will be more when the time comes, all lifetime). You will feel as there are no more things to learn, no more rush to browse the internet, read about physics, spirituality, vibration and anything else which is related to you both. Avoid locking you two in a term 'twin flame’ but live with them as with regular people, though always remember how special you two are, unlike 'ordinary’ people. Yet, since you can cope with a lot of things better, you are rewarded with the twin flame - the source of ultimate love and self-mastery. A warning here. Reading about other people’s stories is the most misleading thing and may extend the separation because you start comparing your situation to others. Don’t. You are you and your TF is them. Other grieving people most probably had mistaken a twin flame for a soul mate, especially when they had no experience with soul mates yet. And rules are different for the two beings. You must be sure in your heart and soul that your partner is indeed your real twin flame. Look into his/her eyes as well as feel the warmth in your chest where the bond & soul reside and tune in into your energy. (Read this article)
Here’s a picture I drew to let you understand the way why separation occurs and lasts so long. It is easy to overcome such an illusionary separation because it is all in you. The most time consuming thing however, is to figure our what has caused the repulsion. Always go back to the moment in time your souls recognized each other and have decided to be a couple in 3D. Feel that moment again then find a difference in your actions prior to your separation. It is not your fault, but the Universe kicked you on your path of transformation, for your own good and to let you co-exist with your twin next, while sharing max love in 3D too.
Picture - first, imagine a place of your bond (between heart & solar plexus chakras) and your telepathy (heads) as a box with shiny blinders, as if made of pieces of mirror. When you two are balanced, loving, accepting, understanding, when you love each other with no conditions but trust and surrendering, when you think of the two of you together as 'us’, when you take what it is now and in this moment, when you don’t judge or expect - then these blinders are wide open. Everything you send to your TF using your soul & telepathy as means of communication, it will pass through the blinders with no resistance and will be responded with equal balance and love. There’s true physics in this relationship. The laws of resonance and magnetism. Your spiritual love for the twin flame AND your love of self induct magnified love coming from your twin in response.
Now, when you or they are angry, blaming, expecting, making assumptions, rushing, impatient, letting your ego and logical mind be a priority - the blinders close and the TF is not accessible, as a human. Because it hurts them and will hurt you due to the mirroring effect. And because it is a psychic attack, sort of. Your TF has an invisible 'shield’, as much as you have and it is necessary to have. Your negative, blaming thoughts and suspicions return to you once they reach the TF’s shield since it’s a mirror. Yet because they are your twin, the energy, also negative gets another charge and returns to you intensified. You may think that your TF is responding in spirit with anger, but they are your own thoughts in feedback with your ego and mind which created them, now also creating negative, fake answers! The reality of the ego and logical mind are skewed. Don’t trust them when it comes to understanding and accepting invisible. Use them for business and 3D related things but your TF is mostly the soul and this is invisible. You’re gonna use your soul to end the separation, the illusion of separation. Twins never separate once connected and re-connected. Everything will be OK :)
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