Okay but if anyone's actually having troubles reconciling multiple conflicting ideas that they like for a fictional character, like the whole "Ryland Grace is somehow aroace and in a polycule with Rocky and Adrian and very gay for Simon Ironlung" thing to where it's not meshing together as like, well with the power of queerness anything is possible, but just like, but surely I must pick one?
You don't have to actually do that. The beautiful thing about fictional characters and the whole business about them being tools of a narrative, is that you do NOT need to concretely decide anything about them outside of the confines of whatever story you want to tell today. Multiple conflicting ideas about the same blorbo never actually need to settle into one definitive verdict. I mean it's fine if they do, but it's not required.
And in fact it's usually a good idea if you like to create things for you to practice switching between several mutually exclusive possibilities. Not only is it good creative practice, it also keeps you from getting so stuck in a single concept of an idea that you become hostile to conflicting opinions.
