Ojay

I draw sometimes, you can find my art at @ojayart

[ojay42]

art bog

[habken]

besties

[hecateisalesbian]

happy pride everybody

[giuliadrawsstuff]

You are loved.

Reference here

[shamebats]

[drpepperwhoree]

remember that pride is still a protest

[its-emimi]

Happy Pride month! 🌈

[pinimi]

something something about yoshiki finally accepting hikarus death and embracing his grief😭

[droodlebug]

fantasizing

[omo321]

a purity

[lucanidaze]

Hey so yeah this is hitting super hard after the latest cover art SGDHFHJGKG

[redpepperwv]

too excited

[zipsunz]

i'm not afraid of anything anymore

[wheatiewintry]

things that don't make you human:

empathy

love

intelligence

romance

friendship

art

things that do make you human:

belonging to the species Homo sapiens

defining humanity by the things we do or feel rather than what we are is always going to exclude someone. maybe someone you care about. not all humans love, not all humans have or want partners or friends, not all humans are nice, not all humans feel empathy or remorse, not all humans make art, not all humans will make sense to you. they're still human. they're still human. they're still human.

(and if they're not human? they're not! (this post is inclusive to alterhuman and otherwise non-human beings!!!!!!!))

[peach-pot]

conversations of amatonormativity and consent overlap a lot and should be discussed side by side more frequently. because when you live in a society that teaches you that you’re supposed to want sex and romance, that you may want to say no in the moment but you shouldn’t say no forever, any statements about consent get muddied. you cannot at once preach that consent is vital and “you can always say no” and also insist that people should give sex and romance a try, even when they express disinterest, telling them “eventually you’ll find the right person.”

[proxima-centauri-ii]

an angel gains its wings every time someone realizes sex without romance is not inherently abusive

[dovesndecay]

Microaggressions against polyamory in interpersonal interactions are important and should be discussed, but I do wish more of the conversation focused on the ways that systemic amatonormativity impact things like family units, taxes, healthcare, inheritances, housing, childcare, etc.

I'm not dating or married or related to anyone I live with, and our household of four adults can't get any kind of financial or food or housing aid because we count as three separate households despite our semi-blended finances and living together for a decade. There are laws that have been proposed (at least, I don't know if any passed) that limit housing to nuclear families.

Amatonormativity and polyphobia are not just theoretical "people are kinda mean about this sometimes" -- they are real and materially impactful systemic issues, and they affect all of us.

[frog-on-top-of-a-log]

“Being aromantic and asexual sounds nice. You can skip all of the drama.”

That would be true if society reacted normally to childless single people or anyone else that doesn’t fulfill their expectations of a stereotypical relationship. The way things are now, the drama just comes from a different angle. Amatonormativity is a prison.