WANDERLoST

This is the blog of a young man traveling from fandom to fandom seeking fun and friendship. (I tend to get interested in internet fights so those pop up too) submit fanart and info about shows. you're also free to ask me questions ,though I may know very little of what you send me.

[gahdamnpunk]

Men hitting rock bottom yet again

[blackwoolncrown]

ar3thusa replied to your post “I really get tired of people talking about the ‘inner child’ and I…”

Why?

Because it externalizes and compartmentalizes as ‘other’ the most natural, good, human, honest parts of who we are.

Every time someone summons the spectre of ‘inner child’ what they mean is ‘you before the conceptual world got you down’. The inner child doesn’t exist. A ‘child’ isn’t a separate thing from the adult that they grow into. One’s ‘inner child’ isn’t a place or a person or a thing. And by continuing to label it as a separate thing, one explicitly associated with the lack of responsibility and helplessness of childhood we make it harder for people to feel confident or sane about returning to a more open, creative, loving mindset bc it’s constantly being infantilized. Which also opens certain related thinking up to a lot of exploitative b.s. when it is accepted.

It really bugs me when people other things that are not other especially within oneself. It slows progress and creates friction that doesn’t need to be there.

[opus-pocus]

This is for the folks who mistakenly think that Maturity comes at the cost of being married to cynicism. 

[theambassadorposts]

This is a beautiful thing to spread.

[wombshaker]

Friendly reminder: Someone holding you accountable is not the same as someone “attacking” you

[creamynut]

*inserts hard pill to swallow meme*

[garbage-empress]

good takes on tumblr are the best because everyone’s URL on this site is terrible.

thank you for the life lessons, booty scientist and creamy nut

[psyche-os]

The fallout 76 mood

[theproblackgirl]

😢 ❤️ 👏🏽

[cherrylipsandcandyeyes]

I love how he let him cry, told him, “We cry as men” and didn’t hit him with the whole, “Big boys don’t cry” mess. That was lovely. 

[mrbowtiefly]

Phenomenal. Allowed him to emote, then worked with him to understand the what and the why.

[crybourg]

This gave me chills; this man is a true teacher. Children are definitely intelligent enough to understand the hard truths of life if you are intelligent and patient enough to know how to teach it to them. This is such an amazing example of respect to this kid’s emotions and maturation that you don’t always see adults extending to a young person. 

[deathclaw-musings]

Fucking finally.

[kraizynkonfuzed]

For anyone who wants more info, this is from a training academy based in Detroit, known as The Cave of Adullam. While they more overtly teach martial arts, the Cave If Adullam is also a comprehensive physical, mental, and emotional stability training program, initially developed for young boys.

[ughsocialjustice]

A snippet from the article:

Consequences can follow when people have such polarised positions.

The tendency of “birds of a feather to flock together” - a behaviour sociologists call homophily - often strengthens stereotypes about both our own group and those of others.

It can happen in many ways, for example children in school cafeterias grouping themselves by everything from ethnicity to less intuitively obvious characteristics like hairstyle and whether they wear glasses.

Soon, we can find our social world divided along lines of age, social class, political views, religion and race.

Additional psychological biases may then take over.  

For example, we may see our own group as “better” - for example, more interesting, entertaining, or informed - and other groups as less favourable.

In the worst cases, we can move from a slight preference for our own group to active dislike of others.

As groups move further apart, they can end up living in different neighbourhoods, attending different schools and believing different “facts”.

Ignorance of others’ habits, thoughts and feelings can shape our views of the world, as we tend to use stereotypes to make sense of people we rarely encounter.

Despite this, research suggests that having friends who belong to other groups can be good for us.

It can reduce anxiety about mixing with people who aren’t “just like us” and dispel negative expectations of interactions with them.

This, in turn, can lead to more positive attitudes towards other groups in general.

[opus-pocus]

I wish more people on tumblr had the same attitude towards improving their job skills and financial management as they were about improving in their art.

When comes to art they’re so positive and forward thinking. They’re tough on themselves but also care for themselves. YOu need that EXACT same energy on getting a better life on real challenges, like finding financial independence and advancing in a career. Defeatism aint the way. It’s no way at all.

[redbloodedamerica]

Black Fathers Matter

The Journal of Research on Adolescence confirms that even after controlling for varying levels of household income, kids in father-absent homes are more likely to end up in jail. And kids who never had a father in the house are the most likely to wind up behind bars.

In 1960, 5 percent of America’s children entered the world without a mother and father married to each other. By 1980 it was 18 percent, by 2000 it had risen to 33 percent, and fifteen years later, the number reached 41 percent.

For blacks, even during slavery when marriage for slaves was illegal, black children were more likely than today to be raised by both their mother and father. Economist Walter Williams has written that, according to census data, from 1890 to 1940, a black child was more likely to grow up with married parents than a white child.

For blacks, out-of-wedlock births have gone from 25 percent in 1965 to 73 percent in 2015. For whites, from less than 5 percent to over 25 percent. And for Hispanics, out-of-wedlock births have risen to 53 percent.

What happened to fathers?

The answer is found in a basic law of economics: If you subsidize undesirable behavior you will get more undesirable behavior.

[redbloodedamerica]

Racism as a Distraction

The Democratic Party gets 95% of the black vote and the reason they get it is because blacks are convinced that the number one issue facing the country right now is social justice, racist white cops, discrimination, systemic racism, microaggression, whatever new word they come up with and it’s a bunch of nonsense. The number one problem domestically facing this country is a breakdown of the family.  And President Obama said that, I didn’t.

A kid raised without a dad is five times more likely to be poor and commit crimes, nine times more likely to drop out of school, and twenty times more likely to end up in jail.  So, you’re far more likely to end up in jail without having a dad than you are because a white racist cop.

965 people were shot in 2015 and killed. 4% of them were white cops shooting unarmed blacks.  In Chicago in 2011, 21 people were shot and killed by cops. In 2015, there were 7.  In Chicago, which is a third black a third white and a third hispanic, 70% of the homicides are black on black. About 40 per month, almost 500 per year, in Chicago and 75% of them are unsolved.  Where is the Black Lives Matter on that?  The idea that a racist white cop shooting unarmed black people is a peril to black people is BS.  It is complete and total BS.

The biggest burden that black people have, in my opinion again, is the percentage of blacks, 75% of them, that are raised without fathers.  And that has every other negative social consequences connected to it: crime, not being able to compete economically in the country, being more likely to be arrested. That’s the number problem facing the black community.

When I hear people tell me about systemic racism or unconscious racism, I always say, “give me an example,” and almost nobody can do it.

In 1890-1900, when you look at census reports a black kid, believe it or not, was slightly more likely to be born to a nuclear intact family than a white kid. Even during slavery, a black kid was more likely to be born under a roof with his biological mother and father than today.  What’s happened is that we’ve launched this so-called “War on Poverty” in the 60′s where literally Lyndon Johnson sent people knocking on doors apprising women of their availability to welfare provided there was no man in the house.  We then went from 25% of blacks being born outside of wedlock in ‘65 to 75% right now.  And if you look at how much money that we spent on welfare and it is parallel.

It was a neutron bomb dropped on this country, not just in the black community, but on people in general.  At one time, only about 5% of whites were born outside of wedlock; now, 25% of whites are born outside of wedlock.  It is the number one problem in this country and what we’ve done, in my opinion, is we economically incentivized women to marry the government.  We’ve allowed men to abandon their financial and more responsibility and now we have this.

[phroyd]

Thank Your Local Republican!

Phroyd

[ohgodshesloose]

Eat the rich

[phenoniix]

this is why old ppl never realize what they’re saying when they say “when i was your age i payed for my tuition all by myself” yeah well sorry susan my tuition is $35,000 a year and i make $7 an hour

[kristina-meister-deactivated202]

LMAO. This is so good.

[opus-pocus]

Hike in Tuition came from Colleges misappropriating funds and expanding school planning to non-essential/recreational facilities and pushing the expense onto the student body who they knew was subsidized by loans. healthcare cost skyrocketed after the creation of medicare/aid because the very design of the programs was geared toward assisting the industry rather than patients, allowing the bureaucracy of healthcare to be hijacked by price fixing. That and the government throttling the amount of doctors that can complete their training by capping funding to residency training for new MDs, only allowing around 100,000 of them to advance each year, on top of several layers of licensing of questionable necessity stacked on top their actual medical training. 

[opus-pocus]

[seriouslyamerica]

"Oh, you know girls just mature faster than boys."

Hmm did you ever consider

that might be because boys’ indiscretions are excused with a simple “Boys will be boys,”

while we simultaneously force girls to grow up too fast by sexualizing them at increasingly younger ages?

[blackfemmejeanvaljean]

[ikeaforpresident-blog]

Or maybe

Just fucking maybe

It’s because girls physically mature faster than boys?

By adolescence, a girl’s corpus callosum is 25 percent larger than a boy’s. The corpus callosum is the bundle of nerves that sends signals across the two parts of the brain. This enables more “cross talk” between hemispheres. Because of the greater cross talk, girls are able to multitask better. Also, stronger neural connectors create better listening skills, more detailed memory storage, and better discrimination among the tones of voice.

Girls’ prefrontal cortex develops earlier and is larger than boys’.

Girls have more serotonin and make fewer impulsive decisions than boys.

A girl’s brain also experiences approximately 15% more blood flow, which is located in more centers of the brain than a boy’s.

With more cortical areas devoted to verbal functioning, girls are better at: sensory memory, sitting still, listening, tonality, mental cross talk, and the complexities of reading and writing.

So no, it’s not because of the early sexualization of their fucking bodies.

[demonic-lionfish]

[neurosciencestuff]

Nurturing may protect kids from brain changes linked to poverty

Growing up in poverty can have long-lasting, negative consequences for a child. But for poor children raised by parents who lack nurturing skills, the effects may be particularly worrisome, according to a new study at Washington University School of Medicine in St. Louis.

Among children living in poverty, the researchers identified changes in the brain that can lead to lifelong problems like depression, learning difficulties and limitations in the ability to cope with stress. The study showed that the extent of those changes was influenced strongly by whether parents were nurturing.

The good news, according to the researchers, is that a nurturing home life may offset some of the negative changes in brain anatomy among poor children. And the findings suggest that teaching nurturing skills to parents — particularly those living in poverty — may provide a lifetime benefit for their children.

The study is published online Oct. 28 and will appear in the November issue of JAMA Pediatrics.

[sphalex]

[tufffgenius-deactivated20190503]

[jimhines]

Papal threat display. Popes can also spit holy venom up to twenty feet.